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 blahishness
Joined: 9/11/2007
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I find it irritating to have to try to translate what they type to something that makes sense. I've gotten a few emails that I read four times and still did not understand. No, if there is too much that does not make sense, I won't reply.
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:39:07 AM
It seems that you may be cutting some really great people off at the knees for something that isn't a marker of whether a person is quality or not.

In no way does it indicate how they will communicate in person.

Kind of like deciding a person is not worth while because they don't have the color of hair you like in a person.

That is being to critical, and superficial...

HOWEVER, your ID name kind of spells out your thinking....Which NO disrespect but there is no such thing as a perfect life, with a perfect guy... Life has its twist, turns, major pot holes, and even road blocks..

If deciding the value of a person by their grammar is one of your criteria you can be limiting yourself from someone really great.

There are deal breakers in seeking that perfect match...I would hope that just because they are not a member of a spelling ace club would be a deal breaker for you.
 dingolover
Joined: 9/26/2007
Msg: 13
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:08:00 PM
If its just a couple of words no problem. If its a majority of the message I WOULD DELETE IT.
If you do not proofread your own stuff you do NOT deserve a response. I dislike ignorance.
 countrypicker
Joined: 7/5/2005
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:11:15 PM
i is a college student.
 TitusBreast
Joined: 3/18/2007
Msg: 18
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:20:36 PM
Though I try to be as precise as possible in the written (and spoken) word, I don't get too tough on people who are not as skilled in English. Their skills lie elsewhere, like with logical matters, such as math. My brain is a sieve when it comes to math (and other things, actually; like couth, for instance!). There are plenty of misspelled and misused words in my correspondence. I have a tendency to make up words, at times, too! I have found that some people really have an extra hard time in the communications department, and sometimes it's just not funny, especially to them. But, for those who I do know much better, and who have a better sense of self-deprecation, it's very funny to point out the miscommunication. (For example, "So-and-so's son is a lesbian." And "These vitamins have anti-detoxants." -have been great sources of comedy, for me, anyway!) You may be missing out by dismissing these people on the merit of poor grammar and spelling alone. They might be like Mark Twain and his dialect thing, but so what? I just think there would be far better reasons to eliminate someone than that. They very likely can carry on a conversation and reason just fine. I personally admire people who are multi-lingual and who are good at math beyond the 5th grade level. I'm simply sunk in those two and, sadly, many more areas!
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 20
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:30:01 PM
LOL ~ if I've taken a certain med that day, I misspell and use words a sailor might be embarrassed to hear. My friends still respond to me. Am I critical of those things? No. I'm well aware the English language is difficult, especially for foreigners who weren't educated as this as a first language and quite honestly ~ those who suffered through the "site learning" years in US schools didn't learn phonics, so many have NO clue how to sound out words or apply rules and exceptions. Personally ~ who am I to judge anyone else?
 theforumfiend
Joined: 10/21/2007
Msg: 22
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:43:30 PM
I have a friend that is very intelligent and very creative - draws, paints, crafts and has made her home a beautiful, comfortable place for pennies on the dollar. She can't spell worth beans. We met online checking out men. Had I judged by her spelling I'd have missed out on meeting a wonderful person.
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 12:47:47 PM
This is how I look at it-
Someone here who is probably scared to death to even be here
and is scared to death of rejection joins this site because they are sick of
being lonely. They join this site- they take the chance and email you -
You fucking critique their ass off - spelling, grammar-
in the end you either delete their email - you block them, you dont
answer them.
Switch this around once in a while- If you want to meet a Rhoades Scholar
then I suggest you join a site which caters to the well educated. Most people
around here are just regular people. Some maybe did not even finish
high school maybe for reasons that are none of your business. But my God
to start thread after thread about grammar and spelling is just another way
of picking on innocent people who mean no harm and just would like
to meet a nice person.

curlygrl~
 Internetdatingpariah
Joined: 10/17/2004
Msg: 29
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 1:19:19 PM
Sure,
Some people are in a hurry, some people (like me) still hunt and peck with the two finger typing method. I understand that. It doesn't mean they can't spell or don't use good grammar. It may just mean they type poorly and fail to spell check.
 catjean
Joined: 11/10/2007
Msg: 30
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 1:31:40 PM
Not everyone is a like. Misspellings are not indicative of intelligence. Creative thinkers are not likely to be great spellers.Creative thinkers like Steven Spielberg who can’t spell, might be writing you. Would you seriously turn down someone so gifted just because of misspellings or bad grammar? I always give someone a chance when I see misspelled or bad grammar. I will not give people a chance when they correct my grammar or misspellings. I don’t want to date someone who always finds the negative but over looks the positive.

I know as someone who is a creative and has a hard time spelling, that I am not going to spell check on every personal letter. Just like someone is Not going to dot their i’s or cross their t’s when talking with a friend. If your friend or a person on the street asked you a question that you could not understand you would say ‘huh?’ which by the way is improper English.
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 33
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 1:52:36 PM
how d'ya know they have a bad gramma'? she might just be misunderstood..



yeah, it's a lil on the off-puttage side.. but then i type as i speak/think, which isn't always grammatically perfect and often contains made-up words to convey a point.. (..usually that i'm feeling "flip" at the time.. hehe.. ;))

i love the english language, it's such fun to play with
 Banter-er
Joined: 4/18/2006
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:00:00 PM
It really depends on many factors - what was said, how many misspellings and/or poor grammar. I'd also take a look at the profile to get a further idea of how that person expresses themself.

I don't think that people with poor spelling/grammar are "idiots" at all, contrary to some views expressed here. There are many reason why a person might not be strong in these areas, many of which have been mentioned already.

On the other hand - I know myself. Words and language are very dear to me, and I really appreciate a person with a good grasp of the language. Not necessarily a perfect speller, but somebody who can can express themself well and has an interesting (to me) writing style. And the truth is... good spelling and grammar go a long way toward good communication.

So yes - to me spelling and grammar make a difference, but are not the ONLY, or necessarily the most important, factors when deciding whether I want to correspond with somebody further. Regardless, I do usually respond, if only to say I don't see much compatibility.
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 2:17:26 PM
Not usually, a person's intelligence level is important to me and I have no desire to be with an illiterate. If they do not care about how they appear the first time to you in print then chances of them caring about you at all are slim. The same goes for people that email me or post on the forums in cryptic text message form. HW R U?
Use the English language please.
I'd suggest they download a Google toolbar with spell check.
 vivienne3
Joined: 4/25/2005
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Posted: 11/19/2007 2:33:50 PM
Misspelled words and bad grammar I can live with. My misspelling is often the result of the hunt and peck typing style I employ. When I find myself doing cross-overs with my hands, a technique that works on the piano, my words come out in a jumble. If I am chatting with some one I may hit the "enter" key instead of the "shift" key. That has more to do with familiarity with the keyboard ( where in the heck is the "z") than anything else.

My irk lies with the people who write in one long continuous sentence they have at least six distictive thoughts therein these long sentences make it difficult to read and understand I am sure that Mark Twain's work would be less enjoyable if there was no punctuation.
 flyhigher4
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 45
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 3:04:06 PM
Sorry but it sounds like you may be one of the "bad spellers". I most certainly would not respond to someone with bad spelling and grammar. This only shows that the person is uneducated, lazy and doesn't want to give the effort of spellcheck to make themself seem like a smart adult. Sorry and goodbye!!
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 3:52:07 PM
I over look MANY spelling and grammatical errors and almost all punctuation errors. However, when a letter is so poorly written that I end up guessing what the person is trying to say, NO, I do not respond. It's easy enough to tell when a person is just not familiar with a keyboard (as many men are not) but if they fail miserably at written communication then you can pretty much expect that they won't do a lot better verbally.
 Boricua Papi
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 51
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Posted: 11/19/2007 4:19:12 PM
Poor grammar is not indication of personality, just lack of education or maybe lazyness. Don't let this prevent you from meting cool people.
 m409998m1
Joined: 2/18/2007
Msg: 53
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 11/19/2007 4:34:06 PM
Correct their spelling and grammar and send it back.
 London Lass 59
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 54
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Posted: 11/19/2007 4:42:06 PM
Op, should that not be mis -spelt and not misspelled????? if you are being that picky!!
As much as I like to receive a well constructed email, having the odd mis-spelt word does not bother me. However, if the spelling is so bad that I cannot understand the message, that to me is a big turn off. That means that the person has not put much thought into writing to you. I am more inclined to hit the delete button in that instance.......
 curlygrl
Joined: 11/8/2006
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Posted: 11/19/2007 5:11:40 PM
Wow! curlygirl~ You are for the underdog I like to mention we have a lot of overseas people here Hello ! Europeans , people from many countries give them a break.

Yeah well- I have seen people judge others over superficial things in life.
Really good people who dont deserve it - so yes, I will defend the little guy
if I beleive he is worth defending.
My family were immigrants and did not always have a real good hook
on the language- so yes, I take it personal.

curlygrl~
 MetalVixxn
Joined: 4/4/2007
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Posted: 11/19/2007 5:24:26 PM
It's a complete turn off.

I received an email the other day and the man didn't use any vowels I responded in a joking manner that sure, we could go out and I'd introduce him to my friends "the vowels". It went over his head.

I had another man email me - I had to read it three times before I could even guess at what he was trying to say. It was a MESS. I checked his profile and it says he is a teacher.
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 11/19/2007 6:02:13 PM

Op, should that not be mis -spelt and not misspelled????? if you are being that picky!!

"Misspelt" did not seem correct to me in any vernacular, so I've looked for it in an unabridged dictionary and indeed, it does not appear as an acceptable word. "Misspelled" (adv) however is defined as "a word spelled incorrectly". Derived from "mis" meaning: " prefix: (in combination with verbs) meaning badly, or incorrectly. In combination with nouns, meaning bad, incorrect or wrong.
And I would guess that this is an object lesson in first removing the plank from one's own eye before pointing out the speck in another's!
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
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Posted: 11/19/2007 6:31:33 PM
Good land did you open a can of proverbial worms...

Thanks for clarifying the meaning of your ID, they are usually personal to the person, and misunderstood by others.

I actually know a high school drop out that is a better spell than myself. He is very articulate, and I didn't find out about him being a HS drop out until he and I broke up. Heck I am working on a 3rd degree, and he still could spell better than myself.

His good qualities faltered to the point of no return with his lies of omission. Which mind you, if I could have weeded him out just by poor grammar, it would have saved me a from a very bruised ego.

As I have read through the pages of responses, I can appreciate that major grammar and spelling errors does lead a person to not wanting to further communication... However, I still do not believe it should be a major deal breaker, because just because a person is a poor writer. I can promise from first hand experience that just as many that aren't poor writers, can be a worse bet.
 London Lass 59
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 67
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Posted: 11/19/2007 6:51:42 PM
Don't know what dictionary you were looking in grannie boo, maybe you should look again....... we beg to differ on the spelling of the word, but the meaning is still the same. People who spell incorrectly on a regular basis are lazy and sloppy, and they wonder why their mail gets deleted........!!
 GrandmaBooBoo
Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 11/19/2007 7:09:43 PM

Don't know what dictionary you were looking in grannie boo, maybe you should look again.......
Searches in Websters Unabridged, Random House Unabridged, Britannica, and World Book, ALL turned up - 0 - results for "misspelt" and ALL asked if I meant "misspelled". What dictionary have you found this word in? LOL! might come in handy in a Scrabble game sometime!
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