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 mommasays
Joined: 6/24/2007
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When does chemistry happen??Page 1 of 2    (1, 2)
my friends and i discuss this a lot

some say u must have chemistry immediately otherwise don't date the guy again
others say a person can 'grow' on u and the chemistry comes later

i have had both happen, chemistry asap, chemistry later

the difference has been with the chemistry later guy---when we finally had sex it sucked!!
with the chemistry asap guy, the sex rocked

who do u have the best sex with??
chemistry later guy(girl)?
or chemistry asap guy(girl)?
 hd321
Joined: 9/7/2007
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When does chemistry happen??
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:13:54 PM
I think there are 2 types of chemistry.
Sexual Chemistry-That 'lust" you feel when you see someone and have to have them. You can have this with people you actually hate (a little bit! Ex-sex anyone?). You have to have some level of sexual chemistry to be attracted to someone.
Relationship Chemistry-That's the "feeling" that grows on you. When you really, really, like them and want it to really work out because you really, really, like them. Relationship chemistry does not always equal sexual chemistry. And there is no faking sexual chemistry.
 rpoole69
Joined: 5/6/2007
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When does chemistry happen??
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:11:35 PM
I just did a post on one similar to this:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8967519.aspx#8967974
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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When does chemistry happen??
Posted: 12/26/2007 3:14:45 AM
... when you just gravitate towards the person as if they were a magnet ... for sharing interests ~ passion or unspoken dreams
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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When does chemistry happen??
Posted: 12/26/2007 11:16:22 AM
You can have great sex with both but the OP did not indicate whether the sex never improved or if the horrible sex pretty much ended the relationship.

In many cases, sex is not the greatest thing on the planet the first time but becomes something amazing as the people discover each other, learn their rhythms, what turns them on. Sex, chemistry, all are unique and maybe what you are talking about is lust, which can produce good sex but it is usually not satisfying over time. Sex with someone else with whom one shares deep feelings may not be as physically fabulous but it blows you away because of the emotion attached to it.

In a perfect world, one has both, and it doesn't matter whether the chemistry was immediately recognizable or if it was something that grew over time.
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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When does chemistry happen??
Posted: 3/28/2008 12:37:32 PM
For me, IMMEDIATELY. I feel chemistry immediately with a man if it is there
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