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 ruckus123
Joined: 6/7/2005
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I'm gonna assume your friend is a grown -up and he made his choice to stay with her even after knowing that she is lieing to him.
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
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Posted: 1/7/2008 8:19:09 PM
Shug, just like the majority of us that get our a$$ whooped over someone we should have left by the curb when we first seen them, this guy too has to do and learn for himself.

When he stops complaining about how horrible she is treating him, and starts walking for the door, you will know your friend has reached around and felt the bumpy line going up his backside called a spine...

What kind of favor are you doing for him, if you are trying to run intervention here?

Is he unable to think for himself, or impaired in such a way that he can't take care of his own relationship he's chosen?

It is SWEET, that you care so much for your friend, BUT the person who will get booted to the curb, before the girl often times is the friend who tries to intervene.

Then of course when she finally walks out, he will drag you back in the house to weep on your shoulder about how horrible she used him, and he loved her so much...

Maybe you should ground him, and forbid him to see her....

Look the guy is an adult, and no amount of common sense talking will save him from himself, especially since he doesn't want to be saved....

Good luck
 3ClubMonkey
Joined: 12/10/2007
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Posted: 1/7/2008 8:24:50 PM
Get him his own profile.

He's wasting his head and heels over this "lady".

Post her NickName, that should be fun. Keep finding her and keep posting it. lol. I've actually read a post where it sounded as though someone had been run off the site.
 FescheLola
Joined: 10/15/2007
Msg: 7
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Posted: 1/7/2008 9:02:55 PM
I find it odd that your "friend" would have YOU set up an account to catch HIS girlfriend. Espcially when it would be simple for him to set up a fake account himself. Also a friend doesnt use his friend as a go between.


Odd, very odd.
 parry10
Joined: 1/14/2006
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Posted: 1/8/2008 10:46:10 AM
I agree with everyone.....he knows about it so there's nothing left to do....let him know her username and leave it at that.... he can do his own detective work and snooping from that point on.....if you get too involved, she will make it point to mess your life up at some point when you least expect it.....don't make too many enemies out there...(especially in matters of the heart)
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 9
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Posted: 1/8/2008 11:47:04 AM
If he really is a friend of yours, and you care about him, you tell him she's stil on the site looking. Then let HIM decide what to do, no counsel necessary. If he makes a "bad choice", OH, WELL, YOU TRIED. It's his life, let him live it.
 davidsauvignon
Joined: 2/6/2008
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:11:07 AM
^^^"Now you Mister……………………….Get over it and find a life and/or typing classes of your own...................... hehehe"

Just an FYI, smplchk...you've got a couple of mis-spelled words in your profile, as well.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 12
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:14:47 AM
Obviously this girl wants to keep all her options open. She is not ready to commit to your buddy. So he needs to either get over it and realize it, or move on. If he keeps insisting things that this girl is not ready to commit, is going to be his lost, since he's going to come across as a needy woossbag, and it will be her the one who says see'ya later alligater.

As per your participation in this? You helped your bud, now get out of the middle. The only one will get burned is you.
 TallAndDark68123
Joined: 12/16/2007
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Posted: 3/6/2008 10:38:44 AM
Your buddy may be head over heels about this woman but she is missing something in the relationship. Trying to stop her from doing something she wants to do is controling her whether or not anyone likes the activity. He should be talking about their relationship and whats missing.

If he is a controling person then he gets whats coming (her walking out the door!). Control has no place in a good relationship.
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