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 Crimson_Captain
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 2
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"HONEY I PERFORMED A NORMAL BIOLOGICAL FUNCTION GIVE ME A PRESENT"

Yeah right.
 ~blue eyes~
Joined: 11/16/2006
Msg: 4
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/11/2008 6:03:15 PM
Like a present for her just after labor? Or just in general?
 naeco
Joined: 12/16/2007
Msg: 9
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/11/2008 6:19:26 PM
FoxNews is out of legitimate things to talk about, so they write and push off this crap as "news". Don't pay any attention to this kind of sh!t.
 Lario
Joined: 5/2/2005
Msg: 11
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Posted: 1/11/2008 6:25:27 PM
I think a child is about the best reward anyone could hope for.
 hd321
Joined: 9/7/2007
Msg: 13
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Posted: 1/11/2008 6:39:10 PM
When my first daughter was born (12 years ago), my husband bought me a small necklace with her birthstone in the center. He gave it to me in the hospital. It was not expensive or elaborate but a very sweet gesture following the birth of our first child. I did not expect or ask for it, but it was very appreciated. The last 3, I got to choose the dinner that hubby went out and bought (neither one of us could stand hospital food!).
 Crimson_Captain
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 14
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/11/2008 6:48:30 PM

Some people are so money orientated that the thought of someone buying someone they love a present for going through what can be horrible pain is abhorrent to them..

I find that very strange indeed!!!


What I'm against is expecting the gift. I'd already be waiting on them hand and foot to make sure they were completely comfortable, giving them all the emotional and physical support I could possibly give. Expecting a bauble comes off as rather shallow and materialistic. This isn't to say I'm necessarily against getting a present, but precisely would -not- getting them another trinket be bad?
 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 20
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Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/11/2008 8:58:36 PM
iago... my back goes up on the EXPECTATION of a gift, even more so if there is an expectation of type and value.

But something to mark the occasion, I can understand. What an occasion... my life completely altered with her birth. We planted a tree on the family farm to mark the occasion of my daughter's birth.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 21
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Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/11/2008 9:45:55 PM

Push presents??? How effed up is this?

Brought to you by the same folks that came up with the two months salary for an engagement ring idea. Retailers just trying to sell more stuff. Madison avenue just keeps finding new ways to try to make us feel guilty and buy more of their merchandise.
 ~blue eyes~
Joined: 11/16/2006
Msg: 32
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/12/2008 8:38:52 AM
The baby should be present enough from what I understand. Mom's almost always say it the best day of thier lives.
 Change Of Pace
Joined: 5/5/2007
Msg: 46
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Posted: 1/16/2008 11:54:00 AM
The day I gave birth my ex gave me a bouquet of roses and a basket with goodies in...some hand lotion, soaps, a little certificate from our favorite restaurant and a note from my neice saying she'd babysit whichever night we wanted to go.

I didn't expect it, but it is something I'll never forget.

Our last Christmas together, 3 years later, he gave me an epilady...he sent a message with that one too...any gift that inflicts that much pain means it's over!!
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 47
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/16/2008 3:13:41 PM
Please, no! Your gift is to get that parasite out of your body!

Now men will be demanding a gift for taking the perfect dump in the morning...
Dump endowment?
Shi-t gift?
T-urd honorarium?
 junipermoon
Joined: 3/1/2006
Msg: 51
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Posted: 1/16/2008 3:49:04 PM
we tend to mark rites of passage with gifts as tokens of remembrance. childbirth certainly falls into this category, much the same way bar/bat mittzvahs, graduations and weddings do. in some cultures, girls receive presents at menarche. we send flowers to the infirm, so what harm does a bouquet or a piece of jewelry do when given to a woman who nine months of discomfort, followed by hours of torture?
 WesternRose
Joined: 1/14/2008
Msg: 61
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/17/2008 7:35:04 PM
WOW!!!!!!!!!! sign me up...damnit... I had 3 kids within 5 years.

I want plastic surgery... a boob lift from all that breast feeding and a tummy tuck.

unlike those celebs like Posh who had a c-section some 6 weeks prior to their due date to avoid the pouch and the stretching... I was a brave gal....full term... I want the works.... GIVE ME SURGERY!!!!!!!!

damnit... I should of asked for this in the Divorce!...damn...damn..
 wjh55
Joined: 1/31/2007
Msg: 62
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/17/2008 8:34:47 PM

I mean, I would be the one having to go through morning sickness, weight gain, all the pain and then the birth itself. While he gets to hold my hand and help me work on breathing techniques. Does not seem fair to me. So in all fairness new Choo's would be appreciated after all the work that I have done.


And after all the hard work you did, he gets to PAY for the little one for the next 18 years.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 1/17/2008 8:39:00 PM
I think it is a totally tacky way of putting it but since the guy does not actually go through any labor or pain to be presented with a child, it would be a nice gesture.

My mother gave me diamond earrings when I had my daughter specifically because with her three kids, my father never gave her anything.

One of my girlfriends growing up was then irritated because her mother, father and husband never got her any push gifts with either boy.

If I was having a child I certainly would not expect it but I would definitely appreciate it if the father of my baby was thoughtful enough to do something like that for me.
 Ignoble
Joined: 10/11/2007
Msg: 68
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Posted: 1/17/2008 10:39:23 PM
RE: First post.

Our these women somehow under the impression that being pregnant and being a pregnant womans husband are vastly different, in the sense of difficulty? HAHAHAHAHA. Right. If not then they must be under the impression that a man gets more out of his kids than a woman. Again... I dont think so. If not THAT then they must think that children are somekind of financial BOON and not the opposite.

Whomever came up with this is greedy with a superiority complex heaped on top of it. Marginally stupid too I would say. Might as well make women give men presents for putting up with them for nine months. And we have to do that repeatedly. ^_^
 MrTwistedPersonality
Joined: 12/27/2007
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Posted: 1/17/2008 11:22:19 PM
Question: wasn't the sex the present in the first place?

Personally, for someone to hold that expectation of an actual "push" present, I assume they extremely shallow and vapid. Unless of course, they want your crown jewels as stress relief during delivery, *then* I could possibly see that as a present.
 ZombieFood
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 72
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/18/2008 3:02:30 AM
Present, nah.. not in the sense of something wrapped and expensive.

Some flowers and chockies and me telling her she is the most wonderful woman in the world, most definitely

If she ain't happy with flowers, chocolates, a loving husband and a new family member.. then I seriously don't see how dropping a few grand on a hunk of rock is going to help the situation.. there are obviously much worse things that should be discussed.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 77
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/18/2008 5:08:09 PM
If it's demanded or expected, it negates the idea of a gift. And that spoils all the fun...uhh...here's your present...yeah that's FUN!
 Lynsteph74
Joined: 12/1/2005
Msg: 79
Push presents??? How effed up is this?
Posted: 1/18/2008 5:13:00 PM
I wouldnt want anything anyone felt obligated to give me...but, well....when I see someone make every effort they can, and work really hard to do some joyous, beautiful thing, I tend to want to do something nice for them....so I can see where it would be awfully nice.
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