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 wanderbaby
Joined: 9/4/2006
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I'm so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you and your daughter. You didn't mention when she died, so I would think it takes a long while to move on. I dont' think you've griefed for your wife yet, you were probably working a lot, taking care of your daughter to really release your emotions. going back into the dating world is scary, but I think it's more when you put so much feelings/emotions investedin someone that mentally it makes you scared to try that with another person without getting hurt.

Have you thought of joining a group for widowers? that way you can relate and help you go forward? try meetup dot com and do a search for that in your area. or at least with single parents.

Are you really ready to date or are you trying to date so that you can get a good relationship with your daughter to bond with?
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 2/13/2008 12:33:32 PM
Sounds like you may not be done grieving and/or that you are scared that you will become involved, fall in love again, and wind up losing someone else.

I can only imagine what you have gone through but I think it affects us differently than a break-up. With the latter, you feel as if you could have done something and getting into a new relationship is risky but not filled with the same level of potential danger as it may appear in your shoes.

Do some reading and/or go to a counselor to make sure you have worked through your feelings and then I guess you just need to close your eyes and jump.

Making a connection versus being by ourselves is a challenge for all of us, but I would rather do the former than the latter.
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