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 StrangerInTheHouse
Joined: 2/9/2008
Msg: 7
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First there would be a huge demand for a small supply. One of the things that drive the prices up for a guy like Guv Spitzer is the illegality of it... so there's a scarcity driven issue right there.
Imagine $5500 for four hours *LOL*
Now, any figure approaching that would, I'm sure, attract alot of women into the biz... But then, after more women got into the biz and grabbed the quick bux, probably the price would go down because the supply would satisfy the demand for awhile....
Actually, I don't think more men would be johns.
I have a feeling I'll never patronize a prostitute. I'm just not that attracted to the idea of paying someone to have sex with me. I'm such a tight wad, I wouldn't be able to handle it. It would be like trying to shoot pool with a rope.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 3/12/2008 4:20:45 PM
Legal prostitution would not change the dynamics of relationships. What you and the men you talk to perceive of women as withholding sex to get what they want may be women who do not want to have sex on demand because their SO believes it is his right no matter how he acts.

The main difference if prostitution were legalized is that there would be less spread of STDs, fewer prostitutes beat up by johns and pimps, fewer johns that are robbed, more people choosing it as a profession rather than seeking it as a last resort, and more tax dollars available for whatever the government would deem appropriate use of the funds.

The potential to go to jail I don't believe is a huge deterrent to the crime. In most jurisdictions it is a misdemeanor and it is usually the prostitutes rather than the johns that must deal with the system so its legality would do little to change the status quo. It revolves around who is willing to part with money to have REAL no strings sex, which is difficult to find from non-pros. Formalizing the system could even result in higher fees and fewer johns once medical care, licensing, taxes, etc. are factored in. Some people may also be motivated by the illicit nature of the encounter and legalizing it would deflate the whole experience.
 TheLimey
Joined: 2/24/2008
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Posted: 3/12/2008 4:59:21 PM

Very interesting! How has the availability of legal prostitution affected the dating and social environment there?


It hasn't. The Dutch don't have the same kind of insane religious intolerance & hang ups you find in the US.
 Movie_guy
Joined: 1/23/2006
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Posted: 3/12/2008 5:13:18 PM
In terms of relationships, legalized prostitution is not going to stop couples from withholding sex. Because significant others are not commodities. Your lover withholding sex is going to emotionally effect you more than just local prostitute. Because if you get rejected by a prostitute, you simply go on to the next one. No one wants to be rejected by their lover.

It might seem like Couples withholding sex have advantages and disadvantages, and depending on the people involved in the relationship, But any advantage is clouded by the delusion that sex is ultimate nullifier of the relationship. Its merely a perceived advantage, because any person that desperate for sex can find it, legally or not.
 Rythmn
Joined: 1/21/2006
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Posted: 3/12/2008 7:24:44 PM
from what i've seen lately, if it were legal, the new and "booming" market would be young men lined up for old women to chose from. legal or not, to me the whole thing is sad. but, that's another thread. good luck on "getting laid" OP. that has been the least of most of our problems.
 Masked_Hero
Joined: 12/14/2003
Msg: 27
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Posted: 3/13/2008 10:45:21 AM
I was stationed in Germany for 2 years.. Prostitution is leagal there and is ran by the government.. They get regualar check ups and have benefits just like any other "Normal " Job... Im not sure if that had any impact on how very very very open the women are open to Sex over there.. Germany was defenatly a Man's Paradise.. No Speed limit on the Highway Beer everywhere and women who don't FREAK OUT over the word sex and actually want it just as much as the men do... I honestly don't think that Prostutution would do very well here in the states though just because as a whole we still have a very CLOSED mind when it comes to sexuality..
 swingpup
Joined: 10/21/2006
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Posted: 3/13/2008 11:46:28 AM
If prostitution were to become legal in all areas of the US, I doubt you would see any remarkable social changes. What you may find would be signage indicating "We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone."
 grizzelda
Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 3/13/2008 11:51:57 AM

Personally, I think that if prostitution were legal we might see women rely a lot less on withholding the promise of sex for their men in order to get what they want, since an unmarried man could easily get laid no matter what his condition.

Thoughts?


Well my thoughts are that you can go right ahead and sit around and talk to your hooker about the shitty day you had at work, you can have them bear your children, perhaps take them home to Mom and Dad at Christmas and have a nice turkey dinner with them, you can spend the long weekend with them at your buddies cottage but you better upgrade because you dont want to be embarrassed about what level of "hooker" you can afford. Maybe your hooker will help you pay the mortgage if you ask her nicely and perhaps co-sign on your new car loan.

Perhaps if prostitution does become legal a whole new spin off industry will be created, you know the "quality" hooker that you can take home to Mom and one that will allow you to pay for the fantasy of having a real relationship without all the bother of having to actually invest in a relationship so you can still remain unmarried and still demand all the sex you want, just remember that she goes away once the 20's run out....
 contrary110
Joined: 8/12/2007
Msg: 42
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Posted: 3/13/2008 10:40:51 PM
OK, I didn't read all the posts, so my apologies if someone already said this. How many times a week do you figure the average guy wants to have sex? How much do we figure this now legalized prostitute is charging? I don't know, so if someone does I'd be curious to know. Sure like someone said, maybe somewhat less now that it's legal,
but it's still not going to be cheap. Women aren't going to be having sex with fat, balding creeps for minimum wage or if they are, don't think it's Julia Roberts you're getting. So can the average guy afford this service more than once a week? And is this what he's looking for, regular sex with someone to whom he's just another business transaction. Somehow, I'm not that worried about holding onto a guy like this. If his answer is to go get a hooker, obviously we don't have much of a relationship and it's not much of a loss....Yeah, I think I ought to have sex with my man cause otherwise he might get it from a hooker? Nah....Maybe I just can't relate cause I love sex.

And one more thing, if you're not getting much sex, maybe you're just not any good. My guy and I have sex every night when we're together and then again in the morning too sometimes, but if he wasn't any good, sleep might be more appealing.....Maybe these guys could just pay their wives or gf's......

And my response as nothing to do with my opinion on prostitution, just that I think the OP's theory here is ridiculous.
 northeast25
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 49
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Posted: 3/14/2008 8:48:07 AM

no woman 'gives it up for free'... there is a price for sex no matter the situation
sex cost :
-Having to buy her drinks
-$5-$5000
-having to listen to her yakkity yack for a little while
-dinner, flowers, a movie, pop corn
-Pretend to 'like her' long enough to get in her pants
and of course,
-An STD that she provides



Whats the difference between buying a prostitute for the night or spending $50 on drinks for the easy chic at the bar?


I agree with above quotes. If a man is single, then he isn't hurting anyone by using a prostitute.
 StillJustSara
Joined: 5/26/2007
Msg: 61
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Posted: 3/15/2008 6:28:47 PM
If I understand correctly, it seems the more poignant question you are meaning to ask is this:

Would legal prostitution make me so fearful that my man will pay for sex if I reject his advances, that I will have sex with him when, otherwise, I would have rejected him?

This is a very convoluted question that smokescreens the underlying issue, which I see as being closer to this:

Do you pay women to have sex with you?

Whether by back alley pimp or by legal contract, whether you've been denied some sugar for free, whether mamma done you right and your daddy done you wrong, I think you'll find it's really about you. You either pay for sex or you don't: the varying levels of legality are incidental, really.

I can honestly say that the legal status of prostitution has never played a role in any personal sexual decision I have ever made. To me, the question doesn't follow logically, it's not a logical pairing, so to speak. We are not paired to your use of prostitutes. You are paired to your use of prostitutes.

I tend to use extremes to demonstrate a point, so picture it this way:

You're standing there, pointing at, perhaps yelling at your lady, 'what can she expect from you," right," how could she possibly expect you to go without sex, how could she straight out deny you and expect you to stay true, monogamous, loyal," blah blah yada yada, and you demand she recognize that YOU ARE A MAN, DAMN IT and by God she better give you your dignity.....to which she replies, "Your dignity is down around your ankles, where YOU put it." And you look down ....and there you stand, in all your manly glory, with your pants down.

So, no, the legal status of prostition will have no bearing on my personal sexual decisions. And neither will the price of rice in Vietnam.

I do have opinion about prostitution as a policy matter (rather than a relationship matter), however. To better protect women, I am all for legalizing it. But think of it: we're such a litigious society, imagine how clogged up our courts will be with tortious claims, claims of fraud, she was really a he, let alone the matter of quality assurance, you know, and what the hell happened to the tickling of the ass with a feather, your Honor? ... U.S. Code 69 says.....and Bang Bang goes the gavel.....and on and on.

Sighhhh.
 You_Cannot_Handle_Me
Joined: 4/16/2008
Msg: 107
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Posted: 6/6/2008 12:48:37 AM
Well I lost my virginity to a prostitue for $100 in Moscow who was the nicest and most attractive girl I ever seen, found her on this website too xxxxxxxxxxxxx and most look allot better and treated me allot better then any girl I dated to I was 27 years old when I first had sex but am not bad looking but had trouble with girls, I spent $1000s on girls and got nothing but a kiss.

Honesty protituion even if I have to go to Europe to get it is far cheaper than dating, for married couples obviously shouldn't cheat, don't commit adultery that is as were your morality conflicts with legal prostitution but still can cheat with sluts who arn't prostitues.

The MAJOR reason why prostitution should be legal is because if a man can't have sex legally when he wants he will find a way to take it meaning RAPE or Play a Girl to just sleep with him than go after another.

This will allow better relationships because a guy will not be interested in having a girl friend mainly for sex, Girls can earn extra money for anything they want not because they are desperate for money and there are plenty of girls if you look on adult friend finder or fling.com who are just interested in having sex and a good time and not a serious relationship who will have sex for nothing but presents, drinks and parties which is what 70% or more of girls 18-25 are looking for so why not skip the bullsh-- and say I like you and I like to sleep with you is there something you want in return?
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 112
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Posted: 6/6/2008 9:49:00 AM

seeing has to how 95% of prostitues are women.

If there was a greater demand for male prostitutes by horny women, I'm sure there would be a greater number of gigolos.
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 117
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Posted: 6/6/2008 12:32:01 PM
I think you are totally wrong; I would NEVER pay for sex. To think that this is a trump card where if women will not give me sex then I'll go for a hooker is going to happen; not a chance. Nevada still has bad divorce rates and they have legal prostitution. Again, no.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 121
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Posted: 6/7/2008 10:00:59 AM

On a serious note if prostitution was legal, i'd have a date every weekend.

Man! That'll be kinda expensive no? Unless there's a Walmart of Prostitutes. Stack it High Sell it Cheap.
 celts123
Joined: 5/15/2008
Msg: 122
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Posted: 6/7/2008 10:09:27 AM
IMO it should be legal. If a single man is paying a woman for sex, then no one is getting hurt by this. BTW it's not just "ugly" and "socially inept" men who pay for sex. Many prostitutes have clients that are fairly attractive, have good jobs, married in some cases etc. Some men rather just pay for sex rather than investing a lot of time and energy in dating.
 that sam i am
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 132
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Posted: 6/9/2008 1:53:44 PM
When dealing with prostitutes, men are not paying for the hookers to have sex, they're paying for them to leave after having sex.
 jessikaowl
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 135
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Posted: 6/15/2008 9:22:18 AM

When dealing with prostitutes, men are not paying for the hookers to have sex, they're paying for them to leave after having sex.

you got it, Chef

Prostitution is technically legal in Canada, although most don't know it since we just assume it's the same as in the states where it's illegal, and it hasn't made Canada fall into chaos.

It's been proven that making it legal doesn't really do anything, except make that whole process/job safer..... for EVERYONE who choses to be involved. But instead of saving lives, they pick to save so called "morals". I'm sure that really helps a poor beaten up hooker to sleep at night, having people think she's a sinner..... instead of regulating something that she was doing anyway.
 jenni_ipswich
Joined: 2/27/2008
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Posted: 6/17/2008 2:24:40 PM
i dnt agree with the reason why u think it should be legelised but i do think it should be legalised

i live in ipswich in the uk and bk in 2006 5 prostitutes got murded in the space of 2 weeks (one of which was less than a mile from my home!)

if this was legalised u wouldnt have problems like this if its legalised it clean and safe they would get regular checks pay tax n national insurance and would be kept an eye on from nasty punters who beat and prey on them !

im also half german and it is legal in germany if u go to germany and u see a love heart on the side of a caravan u know its a prostitute and you also have big houses(brothels)
which they do there buisness from and get well looked after!


xxx jenni xxx
 borntoski683
Joined: 4/28/2008
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Posted: 6/23/2008 6:19:45 PM
I think if prostitution were legalized, not a lot would change overnight because there is still a moral stigma about it. There is no question that a lot of men would use the legal service, but many would continue not to. Perhaps legalized prostitution could reduce some sex offender stats, perhaps not.

In the long run, there might be some influence over the dating world as women would ultimately not be able to hold men hostage for the availability of sex, quite as much as they do now. But men are interested in more than just sex, so many of the same dating games would continue for quite some time, if not forever.
 scorpiocatch22
Joined: 7/16/2007
Msg: 158
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Posted: 6/24/2008 3:50:49 PM
Well Zipp look at it this way, if you take them out for food and drinks, a movie or whatever than back to the house and than you get some, you've paid for it anyway!!!
 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 163
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Posted: 6/24/2008 5:47:27 PM
I don't think it would change anything at all. Do you really think that horny guys would just go to a prostitute? And the reason that someone that might not go to one now is because it is illegal? Thats ridiculous. Men who are inclined to use a prostitute do it now and men that aren't won't be swayed just because of the legal issue.

I'm sure other guys must think like I do - that there's no way I would ever go to one. My partners excitement and pleasure have to be real - thats what excites me. They have to want me just as much as I want them. Being paid to be there makes everything an act - just like the porn queens who scream in ecstacy after the guys pulled out and she's not even being touched anymore. If I don't have an SO, I'd much rather take care of myself - that way at least I know those involved want to be there!
 CuterThanU
Joined: 4/17/2008
Msg: 166
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Posted: 6/25/2008 8:30:33 PM
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It wouldn't change a thing.
Most men want acceptance from a woman. Not sex. Sex is just the icing on the cake.
They consider "paying for sex" as a hit on their masculinity. However they fail to realise that taking a woman to an expensive restaurant, buying her expensive gifts, and taking her out with money from their own wallet is just as or even moreso pathetic than paying to get laid.
And THIS my friends is what's truly sad.
:modhammer:
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 169
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Posted: 6/27/2008 1:10:56 PM

How would relationships be different if prostitution was legal? This is not meant to be a debate about whether or not it should be legal (please don't talk about that here). I just want to get everyone's opinion on how the male/female dynamic would change.

Personally, I think that if prostitution were legal we might see women rely a lot less on withholding the promise of sex for their men in order to get what they want, since an unmarried man could easily get laid no matter what his condition.


I personally would NEVER go to a prostitute. Just not my thing. I dont have a problem personally with it being legal. Not a big issue I dont think.
 Barry1919
Joined: 11/21/2007
Msg: 170
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Posted: 6/27/2008 3:47:27 PM
If a woman's not going to give her man sex then why not be able to go to a prostitute? Women hold off sex and give it as some sort of reward. What's the difference between a prostitute and an affair?? To me nothing. If a woman kept her man happy at home he wouldn't look elsewehre. Men straying is the womans fault.
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