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 StevenCheese
Joined: 3/4/2008
Msg: 4
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Damn scoundrel beat me to it >.<
Yeah they have bad snaggled teeth and don't want to scare you off.
Or Perhaps to look more thugish. I noticed a lot of girls quoting NO WIMPY MEN Lol
So they have to act rugged. Either that or they believe that a camera steals your soul and show the grim bold face look, like back in the civil war era.
Or cuz men don't have feelings :(
 tralaza
Joined: 2/10/2008
Msg: 5
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/13/2008 5:59:54 PM
yeah the not smiling is a turn off. I love the profiles that say how fun and funny they are and then you look at the photo and there is a big scowl on their face.

If someone is hiding bad teeth, why not just go and get them fixed? I just don't get in the day and age why someone would go around with bad teeth??????
 es138
Joined: 4/9/2006
Msg: 11
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/13/2008 7:24:06 PM
We're stoic creatures who don't take pictures of ourselves.
 northeast25
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 12
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/13/2008 7:26:58 PM
I would rather not smile than have a forced smile on a picture. Sometimes a person can look bad with a forced smile.
 SAIUN
Joined: 5/23/2007
Msg: 21
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/14/2008 2:25:25 AM
I really don't look good with a fake smile. The best I can manage is trying to put on a goofy face that makes me look almost as cheerful as a smile would.
 TheLimey
Joined: 2/24/2008
Msg: 22
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Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/14/2008 7:16:01 AM
I get emails complimenting me on my smile. My kid took the pic :)
 textodd11
Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 23
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/14/2008 7:26:11 AM
I smile in a couple of my pics but not in others.

***OK, sarcasm follows***
I want to show everyone how incredibly deep and complex I am by showing an entire range of emotions. Also, I smile in a couple because in fact, I AM goofy and evil. I have a really nice 1986 powder-blue K car for sale. Any takers?
***End of Sarcasm***

I do notice that a lot of PEOPLE do this; ladies included. I definitely want to see at least one picture with a smile. Preferrably a big, goofy one.
 flyingiguana
Joined: 3/4/2008
Msg: 25
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Posted: 3/14/2008 9:50:36 AM
basically i think my fake smiles are weird looking
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 26
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/14/2008 9:55:24 AM

I feel reluctant to contact somebody who looks serious in all their pics, or who looks angry,


Booh!
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 27
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/14/2008 10:49:28 AM
Cuz all the boys are bad muthaf--SHUT YOUR MOUTH!

Thanks gott, I have the goofy grin all covered [whew]. I also have the horrible angles and lighting covered, the bad hair day covered, etc. Me in all my gory.

People are just projecting what they want others to see. I find that the omissions speak just as loudly as what's there.
 Chef_Charles
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 30
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/14/2008 6:12:13 PM
My friends were lucky to get me to appear in my pictures. The only lady I would appear in photos with, and Have was my cat, she is off to heaven and until I get another cat it will be these photos. I have not aged much from them till now, and the hair is growing as fast as it can to get to be as long as it once was. If you like long hair great and if you don't well that is great too. But my hair stays longer than it does short.

I am one of two things, a ham or camera shy. My photos are during a camera shy phase.

Charles.
 honestone 527
Joined: 10/20/2004
Msg: 31
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/27/2008 10:42:00 PM
hey, haven't gotten any in awhile. what's there to smile about?
 rdcnorm
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 35
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 3/29/2008 8:48:49 AM
Personally,, I think a smile is an extension of someones personality,, that is a natural smile,, those with fake a smile,, well not my cup of tea.. I have been told, I'm always smiling,, that is true,, unless I'm not happy,, and most times I am happy..
Looking at a woman's profile, if they have 8 pictures up, and one those pictures have a smile,, I still say now way,, not for me,, yet those same pictures 6 out of 8 show they are happy,, that is worth a look...
The question was why, men not smiling,,, I have no clue about them,,,I'll smile at you though,,
 Dumpling-Girl
Joined: 7/20/2005
Msg: 37
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Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 8/13/2008 10:39:05 PM
I agree completely. But there's no point in posting this in the forums to try and convince guys to smile, because I want to meet the guys that naturally have pictures of themselves smiling, and are bright enough to post the smiling ones. Also, I don't want to see anyone stick their tongue out in their photo. That is not appealing at all. Yuck.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 41
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 8/14/2008 6:36:41 AM
I don't smile on my main photo because my intent was to actually scare away the type of women that I absolutely did not want to go out with. It was meant to attract women that understood and wanted an intense type of guy. I did find that woman, and she even told me that when she was looking at the profiles, long before we met, after reading it, there was this one photo my photo that she said, wow, that is the type of man I want to meet. And low and behold, we met and she was the woman for me.
 dynomiteman4u
Joined: 4/12/2008
Msg: 45
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Posted: 8/14/2008 7:38:57 PM
Maye its rare, but there could be a physical reason why no smile.

My teeth are fine, but I have a torn tendon on the inside of my upper lip which prevents me from doing a nice symetyrical smile.

Just because someone has the best smile, dosen't necessarly mean they are the most wonderful of people.
 pugslave
Joined: 6/4/2008
Msg: 47
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 8/14/2008 8:23:09 PM
I can't speak for anyone else, but I keep getting nailed by the camera when I'm stuck doing something and I don't see it coming. Except that one with my sister. That would fall under your other issue - guys with women in their pics.
 The Artful Codger
Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 48
Not smiling?
Posted: 8/14/2008 8:40:22 PM
I just rated 50 man-photos to check out the competition and see what the OP referring to, and wow.

Viewing the photos, three imagined captions kept recurring:
"One comment about my being on a dating website I'll punch you in the nose", "Is this thing on?" and "I'm too sexy for my shirt."

You're right OP, there is a whole lot of brooding going on, with only 19 confirmed smilers in the whole bunch...

Some other numbers, interesting or not . . . your mileage may vary.
Out of 50 man-photos:
31 were wearing sunglasses - (19 of them indoors and/or at night).
30 were wearing ball caps - (18 of them backwards).
27 featured a motor vehicle (10 motorbikes, 7 trucks, 5 cars, 3 HMVs and 2 quads).
21 included some kind of hand gesture/sign language (not including the finger or peace sign).
18 were carrying at least one drink.
18 featured tattoos, mohawks or tongue rings.
16 appeared with animals. (8 dogs, 3 cats, 2 dead deer, 1 snake, 1 parrot, 1 goat).
14 were bathroom mirror self portraits.
14 appeared to be on vacation in Hawaii, Dollywood or a parking lot.
13 had somebody cut out of or removed from the photo.
11 were wearing wife beaters.
11 were wearing camouflaged something.
10 were doing some kind of body building pose, or admiring their admirable abs.
10 had other guys in the photo with them.
10 had one or more women in the photo with them.
10 were giving the finger or offering the peace sign.
9 were self portraits of them driving their car.
8 featured automatic weapons.
8 featured guitars - (6 acoustic, 2 electric)
7 were wearing ties - (6 appeared to be at weddings).
4 were torsos only - (3 front, 1 back)
3 were black and white pics with more than half their face in shadow.
3 were holding up a fish.
3 included children.
3 were smoking cigars but had non smoking profiles.
2 featured martial artsy poses.
1 appeared to have porn on the computer screen over his shoulder.
1 was just a really hairy scrotum.
1 was actually of Brad Pitt - (not smiling).
1 had his nipples pierced and someone was tugging on chains attached thereto - (smiling).
1 was just a really scary looking bong.
1 guy was dressed in bra, panties and stockings.
1 was swimming with dolphins.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 51
Why do so many men insist on not smiling in their pics?
Posted: 8/16/2008 12:14:14 AM
Maybe they are worried that smiling will make them appear nice and then no woman will have sex with them.
 inretrospect
Joined: 8/8/2007
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Posted: 8/16/2008 12:23:54 AM
I didn't bother reading every post here, but I got the gist of it. Clambroth has a good point.

Personally, I look like a jackass when smiling for a picture if there's nothing particularly amusing happening at the time. I look like a jackass in most photos either way lol, but I try to cut down on that as much as I can.

I like the 10 topless photos of guys with 2 lines of profile, with interests as 'bar, friends, working out, cars, cool stuff'.
Those are golden.
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