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 thehowling
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 1
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I once went out with this caucasian woman (really we went out twice), she was pretty and i like her personality she was the type that spoke her mind and didn't sugar coat things, but at the same time she wasn't mean spirited, in the middle of our second date we stumbled upon the subject of sex and somehow we got on the topic of how "big" i was ,and i told her.".I 'm average", and a look of disappointment came over her face, so i addressed her about it,and that started a 2 or 3 minute debate about my size and could i "pleasure" her ,then at the end she finally sighed and said" what's the point of being with a black guy if his penis isn't big"?.....i was shocked and a little hurt so i looked for a sign of joking or sarcasm on her face, and all i saw was sincerity, so i said"Whoa.....are you serious"?....she just shrugged and had a look of "I guess so" on her face..."If that's how you feel,then......(was my response)...so then we changed the subject and finished our food just like we never got into the sex conversation, we ended the date on a hug and "we'll keep in touch"..(said by one of us )and that was the last time i heard or saw her, (and that was a month ago)...so my question is does that comment represent how most women think when considering going out or starting a relationship with a black/or minority guy?......I'm not trying to look down on anyone i'm just curious if that's a common mind-set with women.
 thehowling
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 2
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Posted: 3/21/2008 5:25:57 PM
Well actually during our 3 minute conversation i did tell her exactly what size i was, but it didn't faze her.
 ~blue eyes~
Joined: 11/16/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/21/2008 5:29:46 PM
Wow ok thats no good, I would hope that I can acurately say that most of us aren't like that.
I had thought that rumor had gone away a few years ago but apperantly not.

Good luck to you Op.
 thehowling
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/21/2008 6:18:16 PM
I guess because of the initial date and the few days we spent chatting kind of "soften the blow"so i knew she was the type that you couldn't be thin skinned around but it's just that what she said had the racial element to it and that was what disturbed me.
 This Journey
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/21/2008 6:45:52 PM
Men of all ethnic background come is all sizes from the tiny ones to the OH MY GOODNESS!! Well, one can speculate that she had set her mind on entertaining something that was more than just average.
 MyNameSpaghetti
Joined: 7/31/2007
Msg: 6
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Posted: 3/21/2008 9:31:11 PM
That sucks. From the fact that she asked on date two, she wasn't looking for long term - and throw in the race card, she was just looking to fufill her black man fantasy. Sucks that you bought dinner twice for a racist.
 Love_on_Fire
Joined: 11/18/2007
Msg: 7
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Posted: 3/21/2008 9:38:34 PM
I don't know what to say about this . First off, I can't imagine how you feel but I feel she gave a low blow to all guys by saying that rotten smelly ****ed up remark.

She sucks, she's a low life pervert, scumbag and is not worth ANYONES time.

To say that was disrespectful is an understatement, I sometimes wish that shallow people like this would just be arrested and put to jail, I mean seriously, it would be a BIG deteerant for extreme insults like this and it would save alot of heartbreaks and prevent possible hate and other things.



It's women like her that make guys like Richard Simmons lol. Ignore her, and find yourself a real true woman and not some **** like this idiot you dated. Frankly, she is such an ***hole, if you get to close to her you'll get sucked in LOL

 thehowling
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/22/2008 11:47:11 AM
Well i didn't know she was racist before we got into the sex conversation, and made the "black guy" comment, even after that i didn't think i should of run away because i knew what type of personality she had before then and i liked it ,i knew she had that jillian micheals/susan powder type of swagger going ,but when she made that comment, i knew that it was the beginning of the end so why not finish it out...how much worse could it have gotten?....lolol
 flyingiguana
Joined: 3/4/2008
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Posted: 3/22/2008 3:07:01 PM
on first dates i always tell the ladies...

i'm 90% white and 10 inches of black
 flyingiguana
Joined: 3/4/2008
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Posted: 3/22/2008 3:15:05 PM
ya its always good to have those 'lower expectations' when the clothes come off. and being part english.... haha
 Love_on_Fire
Joined: 11/18/2007
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Posted: 3/22/2008 6:22:53 PM
It's not so much the question of size that got me upset, I mean that was also disrespectful. But it was her reaction and especially her comment AFTER she got the answer that really pissed me off. For her to say "What is the use of dating a black guy if his****isn't big?" That is such a horrible and ridiculous comment to make it shows that she must have some mental issues, because it's not normal for a person to say that , let alone to someone they JUST MET!! Maybe she was drunk, or high on something or maybe bitter or something like that, but I just can't understand what would make ser say something so stupid like that.
 thehowling
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 12
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Posted: 3/22/2008 8:41:41 PM
lolol..myth,you seem to be really amused by this..but i'm curious about a comment you said before about this being "educational"....can you elaborate more on that?
 Love_on_Fire
Joined: 11/18/2007
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Posted: 3/22/2008 11:05:48 PM
^^^^

I agree that it's not good to generalize and put all women in the same rotten ugly worthless basket and paint them with the same smelly ugly paint brush as that "lady" was that this gentlman dated. But also, why is it that many people I have found also do the same with men, and generalize guys into a certain category as if we are all like that?? That is ALSO a problem and it's wrong.

This lady acted very stupid, and I frankly disagree with the OP about the nice things he said about her. She must have deceieved him into thinking that, but OP this lady you were with is NOT in the right frame of mind, she may be some sicko or pervert for all I care. She is a sucker of a person and it sounds like she tries to sucker in other victums into her smelly endeavours.

I'm saying this as nicely as I can, but we need to understand that in this case, nothing was nice, and saying anything nice about such a low life is quit tricky.
 pupdaddy12003
Joined: 8/9/2007
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Posted: 3/23/2008 6:37:59 AM
...I've been wondering about the "racist" brush that some of the posters have been painting this woman with. In my mind..you have to "hate" to be racist...she obviously didn't "hate" this man...she "stereotyped" him...and because she was only looking for men with large penis's...she was "prejudiced" against men with smaller penis's. There are some things that can be said that differentiate the average person of African American descent from the average person of Caucasian descent. We've all seen the line-up of men in the 100 meter dash in the Olympics..the majority are black. They have found that for some reason they happen to have more fast twitch muscle fibers than the average caucasian. And a radiologist once told me..that the average African American with a large percentage of their DNA being attributable to people that evolved in Africa have thicker bone mass in their skull....evidently to protect their brain from the heat of the equatorial sun. So, if the woman was stupid enough to believe that all African American men will have a large penis....there is some basis for her thought process. That said...I'm sure glad I've never met the woman..I can only say she has to be completely self absorbed to only be interested in the size of a man's genitals over what kind of person he is. Hopefully she'll come to realize how her statement about the "only reason to date a black man" was completely offensive. Thank God the OP only wasted two evenings on that inbecilic moron. What a waste of several threads of DNA...It's too bad but I think the answer to the OP's original question might be true..a lot of women do date black guys with this thought process in their minds.
 paulisdareason
Joined: 3/13/2008
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Posted: 3/23/2008 9:34:59 AM
As someone whos dated outside my race off and on, a few times ive come across that reaction also,being a blackmale and having a "average" penis is annoy simply because of the amount of hype given the the black myth. at seven inches i still went through a long period of time in my younger more insecure days worried about size issues.no amount of personal experience, such as praise from sexual partners or seeing some guy on a porn smaller than myself helped. the turning point was an encounter with a "size queen" who didnt inform me of her size fetish until much later after our get togteher but she did tell me i changed her view on the whole issue , so what you have isnt as important as what you use and if the woman doesnt know that then move on
 Love_on_Fire
Joined: 11/18/2007
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Posted: 3/23/2008 10:35:46 AM
I know a lady very well that had an issue with not being able to climax with sex. She began to believe that larger meant she could possibly reach an orgasm. As much as everyone else might have thought of her as "shallow" it was really about her own frustrations with her body.


Thats what I figure goes on most of the time. After all the guy needs something to work with and motivation to give a good performance in bed right?? lol... so it takes TWO to tango. One guy said "A ladies sex appeal can either make it or break it for a man when in bed, it can either have his****grow if he's sexually stimulated, or it will make his dick grow IN (or shrink) if he is turned off by her" I didn't say that, again I was just quoting/paraphrasing.

As for this lady not being a racist, well, she was in a way and also she was racist against white guys also. When I said that he comment was an insult to ALL people potentially by it's nature, I mean all men of all races. Because to date someone of a certain race over silly things like this just can stain the persons character.
 thehowling
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 17
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Posted: 3/23/2008 1:15:53 PM
We were talking about sex..what's wrong with two adults discussing sex?...and the whole 3 mintues wasn't JUST about my size it was about what she likes , what i like, what she wouldn't do, what i wouldn't do....etc;....but it's not like this woman was a "good girl".....i knew she was kind of eccentric.... i could see and she told me she had like 10 peircings throughout her body...but she was very narrow-minded when it came to sex and and people in general.
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