Has anything like this ever happened to you before? How did you handle it? She was really floored that I didn't fly off the handle on her or this guy, and assume the worst. She's given me no reason to doubt her and in fact every reason TO trust her. I was upset with him because he clearly saw us go in together, which is why he called and ranted to her on the phone. But I was staying out of it, unless he got into the building somehow and came up to her apartment. Then it may have been fight night at the Apollo! I felt disrespected by him but at the same time we don't know each other and what respect does he owe me? But I think the damage was done in his disrespecting her. She was mortified, and rightfully so. But I brushed it off, and she couldn't believe that I was so understanding. So I wonder. How have others handled this type of situation where an ex or a friend steps in and confront her or them about their relationship? If you haven't had this happen before how do you think you would handle it in the future?
Two words for ya', Bub: BEAR MACE
Keep a can by the door of her place and yours.
If he shows up again, call the police and report him. That is the responsible, law-abiding citizen thing to do. I'd personally stomp a mudhole in him...but that's just me.
Been there, done that, proudly wear the t-shirt.