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 tam879
Joined: 1/19/2008
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What if you could go back in time to when you never met you ex. Would you be happen now? Are you glad you had the experience with your ex therefore you wouldn`t go back in time? I sometimes wish that I could go back in time, but I also have had an experience in my life that tells me that I can have a relationship and maybe love someone better. But mostly I know that I have to make changes for myself and hopefully my next relationship.
 scorpiomover
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Posted: 4/16/2008 7:43:57 PM
I've spent a lot of time thinking about questions like that. Now, if I'd spent that time contacting women instead of thinking about the past, I'd have a girlfriend right now. See, that is the problem with regrets, and no regrets. Both are stationed in the past. We live in the present, and each second is too precious to waste thinking about the past.
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
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Posted: 4/16/2008 8:24:45 PM
If you went back in time, and you changed that one thing, then there would be millions of things that COULD be forever changed as well.

We can't undo yesterday, we are living today, and looking towards tomorrow... However if you get stuck thinking TO MUCH about what you should have done, you will continue to be looking backwards at more and more missed opportunites...

Turn around, look forward, look around you at this PRESENT moment, it is a gift in time as A.S. says...

Perhaps you are exactly where you are supposed to be...If you want things different for your future, work on them now...

Along time ago I was a diamond in the rough... I been being polished for 40 some odd years now... I'm ok with a flaw here and there, gives me character...
 BrownEyedLeo
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Posted: 4/16/2008 9:21:54 PM
I suppose you meant happy instead of "happen" in your second sentence. How could anyone know if they would be happy if they had never met their ex? I do know I have no regrests about meeting him. I would not be the person I am today if I had not met him. He taught me a lot about love, pain, and forgiveness. Although he caused me a lot of pain in my life, there were also many times we were very happy and had some great times together that I will always cherish. People do not always intentionally cause pain to someome they love. I am sure I caused him some pain also. I don't think about it much anymore because we both have gone our own ways in life and I have long ago forgiven him and myself for the pain we caused each other.
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