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 SCUDRUNN3R
Joined: 11/30/2006
Msg: 3
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get a refund, and go enjoy urself!!
He obviously didn't care about you or he would have made the effort.
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 4
A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 2:22:17 PM
That sucks. Actually, I had a friend in a quite similar situation--also out hundreds of dollars because the weeney was too scared of confrontation.

Is the ticket to someplace fun? You can still transfer it to somewhere else. Go anyway, have fun, but don't contact him.
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 5/13/2008 2:29:33 PM
There is nothing anyone can really say to make you feel better but in the long run $330 to find out that your boyfriend is not who you thought he was, doesn't even have the stones to be honest with you BEFORE you buy an expensive ticket, etc., he has done you a huge favor.

Is there any way to change the ticket to a different destination? Long distance relationships are hard because they require more maintenance than other relationships and yet you are never around each other enough to figure out if you can really make a go of it 24/7.

Think of this as a blessing and try to enjoy your summer break with a local boy! As per your repost he still is a sweet boy. If I read correctly you were both able to date? So where he erred was in not telling you what was going on, not in meeting someone and finding out he really liked her.
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 8
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Posted: 5/13/2008 2:42:22 PM

I wish it was. It's a ticket to Omaha, Nebraska.

Ouch, I feel your pain. No fun. For the record, several years ago, I had a similar thing happen. No more long distance relationships here....
 tam879
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 11
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Posted: 5/13/2008 3:00:39 PM
How about a guy , a plane ticket and a I`m not sure but maybe a coward. My ex-g/f of 14 months got me a plane ticket (which I paid for)to London, Ont. to visit her family at Xmas. She got the ticket in Oct. and 4 weeks later brokeup with me. I was stuck with a 854 dollar ticket. That hurt I didn`t go and have been hurting since then. So, I`m taking a trip to Europe because it was changed to a cash credit with the airline.
Maybe you can use your ticket as a cash credit with your airline like I did? Otherwise take a trip if you can`t cash it in. As for your b/f yes his a coward for stringing you along. Sorry that you had to find out that way at least for me my ex-g/f did come to the house and tell me.
 StarliteKisses
Joined: 11/25/2007
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Posted: 5/13/2008 3:19:18 PM
I would tell the ball-less wonder that he owed you $330!!!

~Sexy Vixen 4u~
 OneBrazenGirl
Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 5/13/2008 3:49:49 PM
Make him pay for half the ticket.
 treetopdaddy
Joined: 5/5/2008
Msg: 27
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Posted: 5/13/2008 4:09:52 PM
I did that to a girl once and felt terrible about it, although I let her down well in advance of her plans to come a long way to visit me so she wasn't out any money. I owned up to the fact that I acted like a cad...had to face my own stupid selfishness, and I remember the whole event like it was yesterday (it's been over 20 years). We do things not because we're smart or because we care deeply for each other...we do things because they're expedient or out of pure unadulterated self-absorption. You need to let this guy go because there are better people out there for you. You should advertise the plane ticket on Ebay. Lots of folks go to Omaha, although I can't think of a good reason, and I be you'd have no trouble selling the ticket. Best of luck to you from a reformed cad.
 chickalina
Joined: 12/5/2007
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Posted: 5/13/2008 4:17:35 PM
You are only 19 so it would be hard for you to see that it would happen. Once you start an open relationship you might as well say goodbye right then. It couldhave been the other way around and you could of met someone else. Next time you go to buy a ticket be sure to investigate every little thing. He obviously was not the one for you - just be glad you found this out as soon as you did.
 spitfire6844
Joined: 6/30/2007
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Posted: 5/13/2008 4:22:52 PM

I'm out 330 dollars, I'm heartbroken, and I have a coward of an ex boyfriend. I just need someone's thoughts that aren't my own, I guess.


You ought to ask the guy to reimburse you for half the ticket. Obviously, you have no way to collect it if he refuses to pay up, but you ought to ask. He wasn't upfront with you while you were making the decision to buy the ticket. You can probably have your ticket put on hold and use it on another flight somewhere else, too. It's not a complete loss.

That's the risk you take with long-distance relationships. Don't beat yourself up too bad. Just be aware that it's always going to be a risk.
 Soorare
Joined: 5/3/2008
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the fact that he was from Omaha
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:46:03 PM
should have been a huge warning signal. Cornhuskers always marry the girl from the next quarter section over...

Tried the Long distance relationship myself three years ago. its the long flight into nowhere...
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
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Posted: 5/13/2008 5:50:40 PM
^^^^^Not a bad idea, if he feels so poorly maybe he will at least ante up some money.
 WeAre1
Joined: 3/18/2008
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Posted: 5/13/2008 6:06:18 PM
Op, my thoughts turn to how you could have been calling him your boyfriend after only meeting him in September and visiting him in December only. That's two meets and now a third one that was planned soon I guess......so say if it's May when you would have seen him a third time, so three meets in total in 8 months.....hmmm, you do see that is hardly any time together to get to know each other, don't you?
On top of that, you said you were in an open relationship so you each could meet others, but you justified it only if it was casual connections with others....which I don't understand what that means at all.....what, sex but no emotional connection? Or you could make friendships with no sex? And who can ever guarantee either of these conditions won't lead to a deeper connection?
I also wonder in the 8 months, it sounds like you were the only one making the effort to go and see him with no talk or action of him coming to see you?
These are just the obvious issues I see from your post that makes me almost wonder - how could you not see this coming?
I'm sorry for your loss financially and also emotionally. It is a relatively small price to pay I guess to see that he had no plans of exclusivity with you and I honestly wonder if he really thought of you two as boyfriend and girlfriend.
Again, it seems way too few meets and too little time together to really have forged such commitment as you imagined you both had. I'm sorry you had to learn the truth just after paying for the ticket - isn't that always the way??!! Well, at least you didn't buy a house together or anything like that!
One last question - at any point during this 'relationship' did your guts tell you something might not be completely 'kosher' with him? I would suggest maybe you should start listening within more and maybe consider and communicate what's really going on and perhaps not so much wishful thinking in the future. And if he led you to believe all was totally as you thought it was, again I'm sorry he didn't have the courage to tell you the truth.
 readyornot57
Joined: 1/19/2008
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Posted: 5/13/2008 7:06:04 PM
He should pay you back the money. Seriously, if he had any integrity, he should.
 Palifornia562
Joined: 4/8/2008
Msg: 43
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Posted: 5/13/2008 7:27:09 PM
i will never understand why people get into long distance relationships
 Moongirl616
Joined: 12/30/2007
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Posted: 5/13/2008 7:57:32 PM
This should say it all, you just got rid of a loser for only 330 dollars, sounds like you got off cheap to me. I know it may not sound great now, but one day you'll be glad you got off that easy. :)
 simpleman20188
Joined: 8/11/2007
Msg: 45
A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:29:47 PM
Fly there, live in his house, eat his food, make him take you out places and fvck him like a passion driven demon.

Then go on with your life leaving him to wonder how he could have been so stupid as to have passed you by.

Or you could wimp out and be a victem like so many others here giving you advice.

Your choice.
 Okangan Sun
Joined: 8/13/2007
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Posted: 5/17/2008 9:57:01 PM
Hey, go to the agency or airline and get them to change you ticket for somewhere else, and then GO...alone and have a blast, the more interesting the place, the better. I did that once and ended up instead of the mid-west USA in Guadalajara Mexico. !!!! Andale!!
 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 47
A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:04:09 AM
Maybe you can get him to pay for your ticket directly AFTER he buys himself a set of balls on the organ 'black market.'
 blondago56
Joined: 8/21/2004
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Posted: 5/18/2008 5:45:04 PM
i'd speak with The Airline Personnel to get the flight changed to another destination speak with a Supervisor if you must.... it will be a lesson hard-learned but worth a Lifetime (or it should )
*SO*, what did you do, Op? good luck to you..
 Break and Enter
Joined: 3/17/2008
Msg: 51
A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:57:34 PM
Tell him not to feel guilty, because you met a really nice guy and that you traded in your ticket and you're both going away for a few days.
Make up some romantic getaway you know that he knows you always wanted to visit.
 tvlbug
Joined: 1/19/2008
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Posted: 6/3/2008 8:46:59 PM
You may be able to trade that ticket in towards a new ticket anywhere that airline flys! Go visit a real friend or go somewhere fun!
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