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 fainting goats
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 1
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?Page 1 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
Yeah so we all may have messed around in highschool a little, ok well I did but then again I went to an all girls boarding school. But common already cant we just be straight or gay, and will you straight guys PLEASE stop getting your eyesbrows waxed, its getting really confusing. But I went on a few dates resently and they all tuned out to be bi-sexual, and I just really cant wrap my mind around that. Does that give you a cheat pass free, well sorry honey but your a girl and he's a boy so really its not cheating?

Can we all please just be gay or straight?
 LemmeSpoilYou
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 2
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/16/2008 2:42:01 PM
Actually almost everybody *IS* bisexual....sorry.

Statistically there is a bell-curve distribution that occurs over any population for genetic features (such as intelligence for instance). So for IQ, on the left side of the bell, 10% of the entire population is "developmentally disabled" with an IQ under 65, 80% in the middle have "average" IQs of about 66 to 134, and the right side, the other 10% have "genius" IQs of about 135 and up. 100 is considered the "norm"

Guess how sexuality fits the curve..... 10% homosexual, 80% BISEXUAL, 10% heterosexual. Bisexualtiy is considered the "norm" according to this science.

In the U.S. we are pretty conditioned to NOT be bisexual, this comes straight off of the Mayflower, and unbelievably it has trickled all the way down to 2008 from our ancestors' blanket application of strict Puritan beliefs.

Most people who discover this (bell-curve statistics) are extremely uncomfortable with it; which is unfortunate.

PS----> You can be Bisexual and still be moral, and/or monogamous should you so choose. Most men however, tend to become thrilled, and fell incredibly lucky upon finding out that their honeys are "bi." If you have an awesome relationship with your partner, it opens the door for you both to push the limits sexually, together. Hint....guys love to watch...

You shouldn't be vilified strictly because of your sexuality, any more than you should be because of your hair or eye color.

*stepping off soapbox*
 hootinholler
Joined: 6/10/2006
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what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/16/2008 3:04:00 PM
You can spoil me anytime, smart women are 'teh sexy'

But really, I think the elusive heterosexual exists, really I do, no, really :P

Personally, I think sexuality is about sex, and loving long term pairings are about love.
 DAVE632
Joined: 6/17/2006
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what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:15:25 PM
""Guess how sexuality fits the curve..... 10% homosexual, 80% BISEXUAL, 10% heterosexual. Bisexualtiy is considered the "norm" according to this science. ""


""LemmeSpoilYou"" WHERE did you get those numbers? WHAT "science" are you referring to? I think that's complete BUNK. I've read some poll results and actual science pegs the homosexual percentage at around 4%. Of course there are higher numbers in some urban areas but I'm talking overall population. 4% is considered likely. AND Bisexuality is NOT 80%. Give your head a shake.

Another one:

""Most men however, tend to become thrilled, and fell incredibly lucky upon finding out that their honeys are "bi."""

Huh? I think you're badly mistaken there too. A few young guys may be turned on by the typical porn flick of two gorgeous chicks going at it and imagining their g/f as being one of them BUT for US ... the NORMAL guys out here - you're going to make a blanket statement like that BASED on WHAT?

It would be like me posting a statement that "" MOST women however would be thrilled and think themselves "lucky" to find out their husband was BISEXUAL." Oh REALLY? So I'm to understand that you'd be thrilled if you came home and found some OTHER guy's di¢k down your husbands throat? It happens I know but I Betcha there's a bunch of divorcees in here who'd give you a damn good argument against that theory of being turned on by it. I think MOST guys would feel the same way. Unless you're in a declared and accepted "open" relationship finding your woman munching some strange rug would be about the same as finding her in the sack with the pool boy .... grounds for TWO graves in the backyard!!!

I just read your profile so I understand a little better where you're coming from but your blanket statement is ONLY wishful thinking, believe me. Besides if your fantasy was so efffing popular and such a common fantasy for ALL guys as you suggest why do you have 2 favorites instead of 400? You're not bad looking so just MAYBE it's something you wrote, yes?
 CuterThanU
Joined: 4/17/2008
Msg: 5
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/17/2008 1:10:03 AM
Both men and women find me attractive.
But i'm generally more attracted to women.
 Randominternetguy
Joined: 12/25/2006
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what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:50:37 AM
I'm sorry, I can't let the bell curve logic go by.

The bell curve is all about deviation from a mean value. A "standard" bell curve has about 68% of the total area within one standard deviation from the mean.

If you could, take a random sample of 1000 people, and have them do the following;
+1 point for every pure heterosexual encounter
0 for every bi-sexual encounter
-1 for every pure homosexual encounter.

Now, add up the numbers for everyone and divide by the number of encounters for everyone over a period of time, say the past 5 years.

If you could show that ratio is close to zero, then you could argue those people are mostly bi-sexual. If however, that ratio comes out close to 0.8 (or whatever) you will build a bell curve around 0.8, and about 680 people would be within 1 standard deviation from 0.8. (I should note, that as the ratio approaches the endpoints, the curve would have skew that would need some corrections)

The bell curve is NOT, pick three cases, and the middle one is most prevelent.

I have little issue with the sexuality of others, I do take issue with the logic behind the statement, 80% of people are bisexual.

Bob
 Willsniffurundies
Joined: 4/7/2008
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what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:11:11 PM
Okay.
First of all, to whom you are attracted and WHAT you choose to DO with WHOM can be two different things, okay?
There is always the possibility that people SAY they are BI for the same reason they say other things. . .they want an OUT. . .a way to break it off with someone.
As far as the eyebrow thing goes. . .please. . .is that not a bit shallow?
(Oh wait. . .the poster who made an issue about that seems to be YOUNG. . .yes well, she will learn to get her priorities straight as she gets older. . .)
I would was anything for a lover but you need to be attracted to me in the BG PICTURE sense first.
I am more than just a long, thick**** . .an expert tongue. . . an experienced pair of hands. . .I am a whole person!
Love a person for their good points and love a person IN SPITE of their bad points. . .or something like that. . .
 Blonde_charm
Joined: 9/18/2007
Msg: 8
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:03:57 AM
Whats the harm in being sexually attracted to both sexes??? Does it confuse YOU? Live and let live, regardless of sexual orientation is what I think.
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:03:21 AM
There is a rise in bi-sexuality. I think there are a few reasons for this.

1. homo/bi-sexuality is now more accepted and thus more people are more honest and open about admitting it then in the past.

2. It also seems to be a "trend" type of thing for the younger adults (18-21)

3. Confused on weather or not their gay and are just saying bi-sexual.


Me and a buddy had this discussion and this seemed to be the most logical.
 Ebony2004
Joined: 10/23/2007
Msg: 10
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:21:33 AM
There is nothing wrong with being bi sexual I like men and I like women. Who are we to judge anyone based on their sexual prefferences.
 exotica cohiba
Joined: 11/18/2004
Msg: 11
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:28:31 AM
maybe there is something in the water lol....no but seriously who ever said that being bi is a fad or that the person is confused is wrong....i love both guys and girls....and im not confused...i know exactly what i want...when i want it...and it doesnt mean that i will cheat either or that it gives me a "cheat pass"....
 blonde chickie
Joined: 11/3/2005
Msg: 12
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:33:55 AM
Umm u have a problem with bi-sexual's OP ? Cuz I am, I'm attracted to both guys and girls.
 cayote136
Joined: 4/30/2008
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what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:32:32 AM
Well ,like Woody Allen say's >" It doubles your chances of getting a date on Saturday night !"
 cayote136
Joined: 4/30/2008
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what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:34:13 AM
Well ,like Woody Allen say's ." It doubles your chances of getting a date on Saturday night !"
 floridianfun
Joined: 8/6/2007
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what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:29:14 PM
why do we have to label people? Does it make us feel more comfortable because we can put people in a certain box put them on the shelf and there now we feel safe, and if someone doesn't fit into the box then, "oh no" we are uncomfortable?
Sexuality is fluid, we are attracted to something about a certain person, sometimes that person is always of the same sex, sometimes the person is of another sex. Doesn't make it wrong or right it just is.
 harleyridingman
Joined: 6/29/2007
Msg: 16
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:48:34 PM
im not bi i am strictly a lesbian trapped in a mans body
 fainting goats
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 17
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:27:48 PM
I really dont care what sexuality a person is, it just seems that the guys I am dating right now are all bi-sexual. For me personaly I dont want to be with someone who is bi, maybe its a security thing, I would always be thinking do they want something else, is there something a man could do for them I cant. Its fine with me if you are bi but its just like other things I like or dont like, its like my 10 year age rule.


As for the threading that is evil, I had that done once and it was the worst pain, it felt like they were cutting my face with razor blades, I had to stop with1 eyebrow half done. The people who do that are evil.
 Masked_Hero
Joined: 12/14/2003
Msg: 18
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/19/2008 12:27:48 AM
I guess kinda lost on this one... I've seen plenty of Gay men but Bi ??? I've seen my share of Bi women but not men.. I had a female friend who's boyfriend who I thought was kinda "Sweet" and another friend who's husband I would have been willing to bet my car (which I love so dearly) that he was gay... But hey whatever makes you happy ! If it makes ya happy and nobody is get'n hurt.. I'm have nuff'n against it.. If two ladies wanna pin me down and rock my world. .. Do me like Lebron James and DOUBLE TEAM ME !!
 Noobity
Joined: 11/5/2007
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what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/19/2008 1:11:23 AM
I'm turned off by bisexuality in women, don't really know why. Having sex with 2 women is a fantasy of mine, for sure, but I guess it's just the thought of them having more fun with each other than me that bothers me a bit. Insecurity, thy name is Noobity. Now, this isn't a deal breaker by any stretch of the imagination. I'm usually willing to give a bisexual woman a chance in a relationship (there's been a couple, not many), it's not a be all end all by any stretch of the imagination. I'm sure everyone's had relationships where they were turned off a bit by something their partner did either sexually or nonsexually. There's give and take everywhere.

Now, as far as bisexuality being "80%" of the population, I've gotta ask what you're talking about precisely. Are bisexuals people who've ever fantasized about members of both sexes? People who can tell the difference between attractive members of both sexes? I mean, depending on how you look at sure, 80% of the population is bisexual. If by bisexual you're counting men who've had dreams (nightmares) about sex with another man and woken up with a boner. Or women who've found themselves lightheaded and horny dancing with other women at the club. But this isn't bisexuality. The human body reacts the way it reacts without rational thought, and sexual labeling relies upon rational thought to be anything of value. I'll be the first to admit that I've had sex dreams about attractive men, I've been turned on by the sexuality of gay sex scenes on television and in movies. I don't, however, have any desire to kiss another man, to stick my penis in his mouth or booty, or to have my mouth or booty penetrated by a man. Bisexuality relies on a desire, not willingness, to be sexually intimate with members of both sexes.

Now everyone's going to have different views on definitions of bisexuality, but this is the predominant reason you have people confused as to what many of these percentages mean. I'm all down for you loving who you want to love, and as many people as you'd like to love at once, so keep on keepin' on as far as I'm concerned.

I'd also like to point out that since I've started checking out dating sites, I've found an interestingly high amount of bisexual females. This is just an observation, but a very high minority of people who've matched me or I've been interested in have been bisexual. It's interesting to say the least.
 dool
Joined: 11/12/2006
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what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/30/2008 4:55:36 PM
hi honey....
your post is rubbish and needs to be scrapped. everybodys bisexual. the messages about eyebrows waxing etc. whats that all about???
honey ....
eyebrows waxing ????
im gay, whoopee doo. eyebrows waxing????? bisexual??? [can someone ... oh i cant be bothered any more] MOVING ON >>>>
 Patarey
Joined: 5/24/2008
Msg: 21
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:07:04 PM
UUUUUUUUUh, I´m not gay or straight.........I´m BI

That means I´ve experianced and can appreciate the best of both worlds................ and nooooo that does not give me a cheating pass.........
 fake-me-beautiful
Joined: 2/8/2007
Msg: 22
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:40:02 PM
Okay so.. I don't agree with you much at all. me, being bi-sexual myself, cannot condone what you're saying. I'm not attracted to women and men, I'm attracted to some people and not attracted to others. Just like a straight woman isn't attracted to every man they see, I'm not attracted to every person I see. When i'm in a relationship, I'm commited to that person regardless. It's not about gender, It's about the feelings I have for the person I'm with and the connection we have. I can't choose who I'm attracted to.. but I can choose to ignore it but then I'm not being myself.
 Krystall Love
Joined: 5/22/2008
Msg: 23
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/31/2008 4:57:53 PM
ok,i've got to throw my two cents worth into this.first off i'm a bi-sexual transvestite and i have play/dated with both sexes.i find myself leaning towards being with guys more and more as times progresses,even though as a "normal"-what who is normal???-guy i have been married and even have some offspring.i've been a crossdresser/transvestite since my early teens and am far from new to this.but it seems when being in normal guy mode i only look and think about women,when in t-girl mode my thoughts can be with either sex,that depending on where i am or who is around me.my profile here is not designed to fool any unsuspecting people and when i'm in t-girl mode i am not trying to deceive anyone,although i have been hit on by both men and women that thought i am the "real thing" and these people are straight.makes one wonder.mind you at this point in time in my life i seem to only have sex in t-girl mode.and saying that,when i'm out on a date with a guy,i feel as straight as anyone out there and feel we are a male/female couple.
all i'll say is life is short so live life to the fullest you can and live it on yours and your partners terms.

Krystall
 mthomjmark
Joined: 2/27/2008
Msg: 24
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:17:16 PM
I'm sure the hell not. And who are you hanging out with; eyebrows waxed? not one guy friend I know has ever done it.

Stop the mantra about trying to post things to shock people. Very boring.
 Ravenstar66
Joined: 8/27/2007
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statistically, men tend to be on either end of the spectrum whereas
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:43:45 PM

I have really... really, yet to see a "bisexual" girl past college age.


Long past college... but my bisexuality is more just sex than say, relationships. I prefer men, but have met some women who I am attracted to. I decided not to over-analyse it.. it is what it is. I also have never cheated.

I have no problem with bi men... as long as they have had enough respect for themselves to practice safe sex. Actually I admire them... in an homophobic society it shows a lot of cajones to admit being bisexual, as a man.

Peace
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