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 fainting goats
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 1
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I was resently talking to my sister and she told me she "does not let" her man masturbate, she also tells me how she is really never in the mood for sex. Even when I am a relationship and the sex is great I still feel the need to take care of things for myself from time to time, I even find it a turn on to watch a guy "take care" of his needs. I just want to know are there other people out there who think like my sister, do you agree that masturbation is cheating?
 fainting goats
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 3
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:09:13 PM
yeah he is a wicked wuss, she even made him get rid of all the porn, I use to buy my ex porn when I was going out of town, and tell him to take pictures to e-mail me while I was away. She is kinda twisted, and I am glad no one is jumping on her band wagon
Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 4
Posted: 5/18/2008 10:23:31 PM
shoot who can be better at doing me than me lol

my opinion ways far from the norm anyways i dont consider alot of thing cheating.

your sis is crazy and a doomed marriage in the making.
Joined: 4/23/2008
Msg: 6
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:23:07 PM
Is she a religious person?
Not to be rude, just saying because some use religion as an excuse to not masterbate or consider that as cheating.

I personally don't believe it's cheating though.
Joined: 10/23/2004
Msg: 7
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:45:39 PM
As long as you aren't masturbating to replace having sex (if and when you have someone or are in a relationship), it is perfectly normal.

PS - pictures with things going in mouths... hmmmm interesting.
Joined: 10/28/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:21:42 AM
Do they live together?? I find it kind of complimentary if my guy tells me he just had to masturbate because he was thinking of me when we cant be together,... annnnnnnnnd i know he feels the same if i get overcome with a desire to see him when its not possible!!
Joined: 12/31/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 5/19/2008 5:42:35 AM
Masturbation is how cheating is prevented, it's anti-cheating.
Joined: 2/6/2007
Msg: 13
Posted: 5/19/2008 6:27:24 AM
Your sister definetly has issues. Sounds like a control thing to me. Who does she think she is not "letting" him masturbate? If she's not willing to satisfy him, let him do it himself, otherwise she will be whining and complaining that he's cheated on her with someone else. Which would she prefer?

Yes, get her professional help.
Joined: 8/6/2007
Msg: 15
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Posted: 5/19/2008 7:15:55 AM
A good definition of cheating is doing or saying something with another person that you wouldn't do or say in front of your significant other.

Since when did masturbation become cheating? Wow, do we live in the 1600's?
Joined: 10/14/2005
Msg: 16
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Posted: 5/19/2008 7:27:08 AM
WOW! She won't LET her man masturbate!!! Too funny!! Is it cheating? Even funnier!! Some women have to get a life and allow thier men to have a life too! Tisk tisk!!
Joined: 5/14/2008
Msg: 17
Posted: 5/19/2008 7:30:35 AM
what is cheating

Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others.[1] Cheating implies the breaking of rules. The term "cheating" is less applicable to the breaking of laws, as illegal activities are referred to by specific legal terminology such as fraud or corruption. Cheating is a primordial economic act: getting more for less, often used when referring to marital infidelity.

so are we talking about what society thinks is cheating.
what your partner thinks is cheating

some think looking at the opposite sex is cheating
some think looking at the opposite sex naked
some think TALKING
some think kissing
well some think masterbating is (STUPID)

so you tell me what YOU think is cheating then we have something to talk about.

I talk/email/trade photos (of any kind)/meet or whatever.


sex should be fun. if you enjoy it and your partner dosnt. thats there problem. maybe its cheating if THEY dont have sex. why is it ok for our partner to NOT have sex but once we have sex its cheating. well WHY DO WE CHEAT. there ya go.

SOMEONE ANSWER ME THAT. i have yahoo messanger if you want to talk (archy919).
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:09:20 AM

Doesn't "Allow" him to masturbate? Gooooooood luck with that!!!
How does she enforce it? If he jerks off do the Masturbation Police show up?

Holy crow, some people are pretty Dim...
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:10:13 AM
Curious OP.. is your sister younger then you? I find those in their late teens/early 20s sometime have very strict rules about what's considered cheating.

Do I consider it cheating? No.

To me, cheating is anything you can't tell your SO about.
 fainting goats
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 22
Posted: 5/19/2008 8:21:21 AM
My sister is older than me she is 29 her guy is 38, neither one of them is really involved with religion.

they actually plan when to have sex, and sometimes its only once a month. My sister called me up one day and told me what had happened on one of these night. Well she fell asleep, he woke her up and was like yeah "tonights the night for the sex". Well my sister turns around looks him in the face and is like "we already had the sex" rolls back over and goes to sleep. She was like bragging to me about it, yes I did think it was pretty funny, but if I was her man I think I would hate her, poor guy never gets any play. And to have to plan it out, where is the fun in that? Sometimes I wonder how it is we are sisters when we are soooooo very different.
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 23
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:39:56 AM
Does she specifically state she considers it cheating? It sounds like a control issue most of all. Her relationship is doomed and the ironic thing is that most times in cases like these, she'll likely be the one to leave over sexual frustration.
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 24
Posted: 5/19/2008 9:21:38 AM
How ridiculous. How can she stop him?
Joined: 10/23/2004
Msg: 25
Posted: 5/19/2008 9:31:42 AM
@fainting goats - It honestly sounds (especially after your last post) that your sister is a jerk.

I would recommend telling her to remove the tree branch from her butt-hole, before she dies of stick-up-the-ass-itus.
Joined: 5/13/2008
Msg: 26
Posted: 5/19/2008 9:38:06 AM
She doesn't let him and she is never in the mood for sex...That is brutal. She is just looking for trouble , does she provide him with a big bag of ice to control his "blue balls"...tell her to step in to this century. She needs to be more like you...
Joined: 2/24/2008
Msg: 27
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:01:23 AM
Your sister is seriously deranged & her bf is probably wanking himself into a stupor every time they're apart..
Joined: 3/19/2006
Msg: 28
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Posted: 5/19/2008 10:15:51 AM
seems the sister is weird, guess she never plays with herself either

not sure why they still together ?
 fainting goats
Joined: 4/5/2008
Msg: 29
Posted: 5/19/2008 10:32:20 AM
God no my sister wont masterbate herself, she things its gross, I would always show her new sex toys and stuff I had and she would tell me how gross I was. Heck if I dont know how to get me off how is anyone else going to. I have told her that like a million times but she is just a prude.

She never gives him oral either, she tells him get this "its makes my teeth hurt" and he lets her use that. She does sometimes give him, the option for some and he stock piles them, the whole thing is freaking weird, they are both warped is what I am starting to realize.
Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 30
Posted: 5/19/2008 10:52:53 AM
i would run away from her soo would only be cheating if he was having someone else other than hisgf/wife do the masturbating
 lonesome wonderer
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 31
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Posted: 5/19/2008 3:28:01 PM

I cheated on my Ex all the time! LOL....Not really, I mean I masturbated all the time......Urr......wait.......ummm.......I just said that out loud......umm, I.....well..I just...

lol, my stb ex did the same thing....he must have cheated on me all of the time then.

As long as you aren't masturbating to replace having sex

my stb ex did do that to replace sex with me. i don't know what i did that was so wrong to him. he had a problem and was hit with a double whammy.....he couldn't get it up and when he was able to get it up, bang! it was done. he went faster than the silver bullet that superman was racing against.

i'm like others.....i wouldn't say that masturbation is's just a way of having self satisfaction.
 lonesome wonderer
Joined: 12/26/2007
Msg: 33
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:00:44 PM

Open the door, its the masturbation police

omg you're way too funny! ummm did they bring the ho squad with them?
Joined: 1/19/2008
Msg: 34
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Posted: 5/19/2008 4:15:19 PM
My ex-wife was very much like this. Sad thing was, I wanted her so very much. After making love to her, I would feel so connected.....and the long periods she would make me wait (often, months) were physically and emotionally painful.

She believed, among other things, that ejaculation would take away the man's "life force" essence, decrease this aura that surrounds each person. There was a stage where she would make love to me as long as I promised to never ejaculate. Of course, first moment she left the room...........

One time she brought the bible out and showed me a passage about how man shall not "spill his seed." Or some such nonsense.

All I wanted to do was make love to my (then) wife!!!
A couple of years ago, we were talking and she said that she sex drive was now through the roof, she hit her late forties and attained this incredible sex drive. She actually apoligized for pushing me away for all those years, acknowledging the pain it must have caused me.

I have have a couple of wonderful multi-year relationships since our divorce that involved all the sex I could want, so I feel lucky for that.
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