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 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
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Profile review please......not getting responses
Posted: 8/28/2016 4:15:49 AM
Sometimes good photos and a good description isn't enough. Sometimes it boils down to the person you're messaging and what you're actually sending them. Look at the last 5 people you have messaged. Chances are high that they're very attractive. The type of person that the majority wants to be with. It's important to be realistic. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself what you bring to the table. Then look at the people you're writing to and ask the same question. What do they bring to the table? Basically message people who offer similar things to you. I haven't read your description yet but I have looked at your photos. Replace all group photos and all photos of you wearing sunglasses. Show people what you enjoy doing for fun! Get someone to take photos of you doing those activities. I might post back later but I'm sure the more experienced reviewers will help you further.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Photo Verification Is Desperatly Needed
Posted: 2/5/2016 4:54:16 PM
I'm sorry but editing the text in photoshop would mean digitally edited text. And computer people would definitely tell the difference between computer text and somethingg hand written. You'd also need to find a photo of the "fake" person you're making a profile with holding up something. By the way, minor edited pics can still be Google searched to find the original.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 69 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 2/5/2016 4:46:20 PM
In response to the above poster;

A) The background calculations on this site are awful.
B) Again, the calculations are terrible, and somewhat down to user error (e.g wrong post code on sign up.)
C) Womem rarely send out the first message, especially attractive, popular women.
D) A common complaint. But I'd rather be ignored over getting a rejection note.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Photo Verification Is Desperatly Needed
Posted: 2/4/2016 9:56:27 PM
Actually duracellbunnyone, I might have your foolproof method. One could upload a photo of themselves to POF staff, holding a piece of paper that reads "(username) on POF.com". This must be handwritten and have no digitally edited text. Also this pic can be viewed by anyone at anytime by clicking on the tick I mentioned in an earlier post. And MarkItUp, a certain adult website (which happens to be free) has this exact verification process. Now y'all know what I get up to when mummy and daddy aren't home :P
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Age
Posted: 2/4/2016 9:48:12 PM
This has been asked before but POF doesn't allow anyone to message other users who are 14 years younger or older than you. In my case, I can't message 33 year old guys or older.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
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Do Guys Read the body type???
Posted: 2/4/2016 7:31:21 PM
Everyone looks at photographs to decide whether or not they are interested in talking to you. The only reason I'd look at the body type is if I'm not sure based on the pics provided. E.g. all close up face pics and no full body pics. I think men do the same thing.
 Kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 67 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 2/4/2016 6:07:51 PM
That's exactly how a "hey" conversation goes lol. Though most don't even read a profile. And clicking yes or maybe on meet me doesn't send an email to the user.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
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Photo Verification Is Desperatly Needed
Posted: 2/3/2016 5:43:40 PM
I wouldn't pay anything for this, but it's a great idea. Verified users would have a little tick next to their name, similar to Twitter or something. But let's be real, when was the last time any major changes were made to POF's service?
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Girls night out
Posted: 2/3/2016 5:12:49 PM
Not every gay man or straight woman craves a man after a few drinks...
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 64 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 2/3/2016 4:56:08 PM
Simple "Hey" messages annoy me as well Rock80Angel which is why I set up my mail settings. I still get the odd lazy message where a guy writes "Hey" followed by 50 "." to make their message 50 characters. Like seriously?! And I agree that sunglasses pics are really annoying.
 Kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
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The Force Awakens - yawn
Posted: 2/2/2016 11:28:59 PM
Kinky Boots?! It sounds like some weird pornographic movie, haha! Not saying that's a bad thing... I'm just saying. And how can LOTR or Star Wars be unimaginative?! I mean, yeah, there's a lot of movies out there like them now, but they were the first I believe. And before someone says "Kinky Boots is a musical." Yes I'm aware of that. Unless you mean movie released in 2005 but that's not the case.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
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Plastic bags - charity?
Posted: 1/27/2016 5:55:12 AM
They are delivered in crates but if I recall, they are carried to your door in bags. At least this was the case last time I got a home delivery.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
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Plastic bags - charity?
Posted: 1/27/2016 3:21:15 AM
I think it's ridiculous. You have to pay for your shopping and then you have to pay to carry it out of the supermarket unless you remember to bring your own bags. How does the 5p per bag thing work for home delivery?
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
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What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 1/27/2016 3:16:28 AM
But surely men and women alike want to message and date people they find physically attractive? In my opinion it's the most important thing. Dating someone just because they like the same things you do without any physical appeal leads to a bad relationship in my opinion. So why lower your sights? Message who you like the look of. If they have common interests then even better.
 Kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Non negotiables
Posted: 1/26/2016 2:06:28 AM
If they don't have a pulse, you can 'pump' them until they have one :O
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 4 (view)
 
looking for some feeback
Posted: 1/26/2016 1:35:08 AM
I really like your photos but I'd replace the one with your friend. In your description, you don't really talk about who you are and what makes you unique. I suggest 2 paragraphs. Describe your personality in one and your hobbies in the other.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
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Non negotiables
Posted: 1/26/2016 1:26:46 AM
I only have 1. People who aren't physically active.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
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The Force Awakens - yawn
Posted: 1/26/2016 1:14:37 AM
Of course it feels 'samey'. What did you expect from a Star Wars film? In fact, I can't recall any movie which shares the same title that doesn't feel a little samey. E.g. The Scream films or Final Destination.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 39 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 1/26/2016 1:02:01 AM
I never understood why people have to insult others and try to start arguments over the internet. I'm guessing it's because they're so depressed with their own lives so they try to make others feel bad. A huge annoyance for me.

BlackOnyx48 ~ What do you mean? Haha!
 KitKat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 35 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 1/25/2016 4:51:15 AM

your profile was very well writtwn and entertaining


Thank you. I appreciate that. That's another thing that annoys me, us women having badly written profiles and expecting amazing messages from guys. I agree with the above, wtf are you supposed to write to them?
 Kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
hide profile wont unhide
Posted: 1/14/2016 1:10:14 PM
Are you certain that your profile is hidden? I can view it with no problems. Remember that most women on here don't browse profiles and send out first contact emails as they get enough emails from guys to keep them busy. Focus on sending messages to women you like and forget about profile views.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 23 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 1/11/2016 8:52:05 AM
Indeed it does. I believe it's 14 years younger or older than your current age.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 17 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 1/7/2016 12:36:44 AM
^^^ Damn girl, I thought I was picky aha! ^^^


Maybe it's to do with your bait?


Yeah you may be right! Though I send out my own first contact emails to guys I'm interested in so I have a rough idea on what they're like before messaging them after reading their profile. And I do meet most of these guys for coffee or drinks but as you said, it must be a bad fish. Though these guys were relatively normal, we just didn't click.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 13 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 1/5/2016 11:13:36 PM

Bathroom selfies, deck-faces, girls with lots of pics of them all at the exact same angle.


Thank you for noticing! Though my response rate is pretty damn high, so I don't think I'll be changing them any time soon. How's your response rate with pics up? :-) Good luck in your search (if you're still looking). Oh yeah, quack quack.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 1/5/2016 8:23:34 AM

The lack of activity in reply to well crafted messages!


I think this is on everyone's 'what annoys me' list. Though I have to say that a no reply is a reply on POF (haven't we heard that line before?). A well crafted message means nothing if the recipient doesn't find you attractive. "But Kelly, it's rude to ignore people! At least reply with no thank you!" Aha! Sorry, I couldn't resist.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 1 (view)
 
What annoys you most on POF?
Posted: 1/5/2016 1:44:30 AM
The title says it all. What annoys you the most on POF?

For me, it's the BS rules. So a handsome, intelligent 35 year old man adds me to his favourites, we seem to have lots in common so I figure, why not reach out? "NOPE!" says POF. He's too old for you. So annoying! Another thing that really gets on my nerves is when a bikini photo is deleted for "nudity". Like really?! Surely POF can determine the difference? What makes it even more annoying is the fact that it was uploaded as a private photo to be shared when I wanted it to be shared, so it's not like every user can see it and maybe take offense to such a photo. The last thing that annoys me is the language filter. I understand why it's there but still annoying when your 100 character email is blocked because of a "naughty" word. I'm no saint and drop the F bomb quite a lot aha!
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Has anyone actually had success here?
Posted: 1/5/2016 12:02:17 AM
I have been on a few dates since joining the site, but obviously they didn't go any further. I agree that getting a 'hey' message doesn't really persuade me to have a conversation. Generally they go something like this:


Them - Hey
Me - Hey :)
Them - How are you?
Me - I'm good thanks :) You?
Them - Me too :)


This bores me to sleep. Do I not have enough info to say something better?
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Fake profiles/catfish or is it me
Posted: 1/4/2016 3:30:11 AM
So you're saying that all women who don't respond to your message are automatically a fake profile?! You must be full of yourself to think that. Sure, some of the women you message may be fake but not all of them. They just aren't interested in what you're offering.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
PR please
Posted: 1/2/2016 3:16:08 AM
Change your headline!


I wouldn't bother with the guy below...


After I read that, I scroll down and see you. See what I mean? I can see what you were trying to do but it doesn't really work. Also add some more interests. Try to aim for about 10. Great movie choices though :-)
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
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Why make plans with someone then block them?
Posted: 1/2/2016 3:02:55 AM

if a guy messaged her and he didn't have a picture onsite, she would block him.


I can understand why she would do that. I've had quite a few bad experiences with guys who haven't uploaded a photo. My initial thought is - what is he hiding?
 Kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 16 (view)
 
So am I undateable?
Posted: 12/31/2015 7:46:20 PM

hobby that is geeky


I happen to like geeky.


doesn't have tattoos and isn't a hunk


Every girl likes different things. I hate tattoos.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Confused Guy
Posted: 12/29/2015 6:33:58 PM
You have her number. Phone her! Do you know when she has free time? After 4 dates I'd assume so.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 14 (view)
 
So am I undateable?
Posted: 12/29/2015 3:19:48 PM
As someone said earlier; photos are the most important thing, and yours need work. Your last photo is fine as it's a clear headshot and it shows you smiling. I'd suggest replacing the other 4. A full body shot (still smiling) and various photos of you doing activities you enjoy. Another thing you could try is to mix up your writing style. You start all your sentences with "I" or "I'm" and that's quite boring. You said that you like comedy yet I see no sense of humour based on your profile, so add a few light-hearted, witty jokes. Good luck and stay strong.
 Kitkat_K
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Matches outside my area
Posted: 12/28/2015 10:42:17 AM
Have you tried using the advanced search feature on the site? Perhaps you will find more matches in your area that way? And 100 miles doesn't seem that far to me. It might be worth your time to increase the distance you're willing to travel.

Good luck OP.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
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Men and their nude torsos? An enigma!
Posted: 12/15/2015 6:16:49 PM
A bikini in an 'umsuitable' situation (eg. at home) then I agree with the above. But on the beach or at poolside, not so much. A 'suitable' situation. Same applies to guys, but most are just taken at home. A BROS GOTTA BRO!
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
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Stood up - suspect hoax profile
Posted: 12/15/2015 6:08:31 PM
This has happened to me as well. I agree that you should treat it as a lucky escape and move on. Not someone worth your time or energy. If I were a few years older...
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
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message sending blocked
Posted: 12/13/2015 9:52:27 PM
Are you certain your emails are being blocked or just not being replied to? Check your Sent Messages section and see if they show there. Also check the other users mail settings and ensure you meet the criteria. You never mentioned if you tried these things.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Partner, just for Christmas?
Posted: 12/13/2015 9:18:08 PM
Christmas and New Year celebrations are a lot more enjoyable single if you ask me aha! Think of the possibilities! So no, I wouldn't consider a 'Christmas partner.'
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Men and their nude torsos? An enigma!
Posted: 12/13/2015 9:03:53 PM

pull a duck face

Another dig at me eh? Not the first time either. A 36 year old bloke taking shots at a 19 year old girl on a forum. Bravo aha! I was simply expressing my opinion on the topic. On that note - quack quack!
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Men and their nude torsos? An enigma!
Posted: 12/12/2015 3:58:42 PM
Even if they don't admit it outright, these blokes are likely after one thing - sex.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 8 (view)
 
birthdays and age limits?
Posted: 10/11/2015 1:49:09 PM
Get her Facebook or contact number. Then you can say "Screw you!" to the stupid age restriction.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
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A little 'no thank you' experiment...
Posted: 10/3/2015 5:20:37 AM
@sunnydaysss ~ Oh that's why my clock stopped working. It all makes sense now! I think I'll stick to deleting emails from people I'm not interested in.

@Plugface ~ How would your rude email go then? "Thanks for the job dickheads!"
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Best/Worst pick-up lines you've seen or used.
Posted: 10/2/2015 4:12:56 AM
Looks like you gotta crush on Mr. Vlad... get in there saan!
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
another, meet me question
Posted: 10/2/2015 1:26:27 AM
Once you have said yes or no to someone, you shouldn't see them again, unless there's multiple accounts open with the same photos.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Women's profiles
Posted: 10/2/2015 1:09:51 AM
I'll admit, I laughed. One of my friend's profile looked very similar to this. The funny thing is that women's profiles can look like this, yet guys have to write a stellar profile. And they (no idea who they is) say OLD is a level playing field.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
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A little 'no thank you' experiment...
Posted: 10/2/2015 12:57:23 AM
@Strider886 ~ Isn't the whole point of photos to seek attention? Quack! Quack! And how do you know who I'm attracting? You're just making assumptions based on what you've read or seen before.

@kj521 ~ Well hello to you too Florida lady. Man I've always wanted to go there.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
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A little 'no thank you' experiment...
Posted: 10/1/2015 12:25:47 PM
@FinanceWizz ~ Yeah I prefer not sending a 'no thank you' message, but was suggested to try it on the forums, rather than being 'ignorant' by not replying.

@duracell_bunny_one ~ Indeed it can. Maybe to hard to swallow for some.

@Julian2807 ~ That seems a little odd to me. Recieving a rejection note from someone you didn't even contact. Though it's nice they complimented your profile.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Premium members
Posted: 10/1/2015 8:04:47 AM
Female members might get a few extra messages for being upgraded, but I doubt an upgrade would increase mens' chances of getting any.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Stress Buster!!!
Posted: 10/1/2015 7:17:19 AM
Never heard of these stress sausages, but how bout a stress doughnut? Mm, doughnuts do wonders on my mood! And to be honest, I can be stressy cow (the mad cow... moo, moo, mother f*cker) over stupid stuff.
 kitkat_k
Joined: 7/17/2015
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A little 'no thank you' experiment...
Posted: 10/1/2015 7:04:39 AM
I would usually delete messages from guys I'm not interested in, but people on the forums (you guys obviously) have suggested I try sending a polite no thank you note, so I decided to give it a go. My results were interesting to say the least.


Thank you for the interest, hope you're doing well, but I'm not interested in progressing things. Good luck in your search!


I have the above message saved so I could copy and paste it to the guys I wasn't interested in. A few guys thanked me for at least getting back to them and wished me luck in return. Great! Thank you. But the majority were just rude and insulting.

Here are a few examples of what I've got:


But why? I'm an awesome guy!


How am I supposed to answer that without sounding rude? I could be brutally honest and say "I find you ugly and we have nothing in common." but I decided to just not reply, which resulted in being called a shallow, stuck-up ****.


Oh **** you then! You shallow stuck up slag! Didn't even give me a chance.


Umm, yes I did... I read your profile, looked at your pics, and decided that I wasn't interested. And some guys actually wonder why we don't reply with a no thank you. Now I'm not saying all guys are like this, but from my experiment, these are my results.

These guys were obviously blocked for their troubles. Hope this explains why most girls on here don't reply to the guys we're not interested in. Saves time from potential arguements etc. Now my question to you is: why react like this when you're the ones coming onto the forums complaining that women can't even say no thanks?

Let's have an adult discussion about this please.
 
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