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 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 109 (view)
 
pictureless profiles
Posted: 3/14/2015 6:31:47 PM
There are many people on here who are bombarded by messages. Sometimes attractive women have to hide or be railroaded. That's my story......
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
I broke up with girlfriend, we still live together, help!
Posted: 3/20/2014 9:19:24 AM
You forgot to break up when you were breaking up. When you break up, someone moves out. That is the real action of the break up. You are now in this awkward arrangement because you didn't quite follow through.

The fact that she didn't try to find another place yet is a red flag to me. Who hangs around after they break up? I hope she is not going to create a problem for you during her exit. Maybe you can do some apartment shopping for her.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
ladies help me out here!
Posted: 8/18/2013 6:55:36 PM
simply solved.

Text her again. Online dating is a different beast than real life. Don't quit because the communication method is flawed. If she doesn't get back this time, she isn't interested or she is a fake profile.

Just make a date to meet.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 89 (view)
 
Over 50...Are We Now Invisible?
Posted: 8/18/2013 6:47:22 PM
By 50 you pass through to a different genre, that's all. Quit looking to the young ones for traction.

I just returned from an awesome Bluegrass festival at Ness Creek Sask. It was loaded full of over 50s, and they were having a great time, even some hookups. You need to find the things where the 50 year old crowd hangs out. In my experience, plays and theatre attract many 50+ people.

Just get out there , put out the single vibe and see what comes.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 101 (view)
 
Sloppy Seconds: Acceptable or no? For older daters.
Posted: 8/18/2013 6:26:35 PM
It sounds like this girl is special. I wouldn't let her go without a bit of a fight. Let her know exactly how you feel. If she is still lukewarm, I guess you have to let her make a decision.

You said that you weren't interested in anyone for the last 8 years, so it is not like you have a lot of prospects, although Dr. in front of your name will flip a few switches with some. I would back off if needed, but wouldn't bow out. Don't be pathetic about it, just let her know how you feel and then go on with your life. It might be enough to swing her back.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Creeped out
Posted: 6/23/2013 7:53:57 AM
You failed the secret test that seems to underlie online dating. You don't know the questions or the assessment criteria until it is too late. The key here is to keep pushing through. You need to expect 10 failed attempts for every one successful meet up. Chalk this up as one of them. Now don't waste another ounce of mental space worrying about this, just move on.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Things men and women don’t know about each other?
Posted: 6/23/2013 7:39:27 AM

1 - We don't necessarily need a man cave, we just want to be consulted before you decorate our shared space.



6 - When our favorite team loses, we just need some space and a little time to grieve.

These two are related. To expand on this it also means give us time to watch our favourite team, even if it isn't in my man cave or our living room. And I may come home smelling like beer. Or there may be men shouting and going outside to smoke cigars and the kids may learn a new word if the team is losing. But this event makes us happy and satisfies our needs for freedom and belonging.




11 - We appreciate it when you give us fashion advice. Tell us what to wear, shop for us—we won't complain.


You can never go wrong when you make clothing every gift you give to me. I know some guys are fine doing their own shopping, but not most. Learn our size or do the leg work to find good pieces, then call and we will try it on.



10 - Sometimes we're in a bad mood just because: It's not "that time of the month," so don't ask. Our feelings are complicated and not completely subject to our hormones.

I am well aware of the don't ask part, because often they don't know why. They just know they are in a bad mood. But this doesn't give women carte blanche to act out in raging, unacceptable ways, only to apologize later and blame their mood or hormones. I know I am being a bit harsh, but have enough anecdotal evidence to know it is real.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Moving in?
Posted: 6/23/2013 6:53:12 AM
It comes down to this.

If this girl is the right one for you, it will work.

If you are the right one for her, it will work.

If either of you were wrong for each other, it was never going to work.

Is she the right one? Then do it.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
IRL do you always notice attractive men?
Posted: 6/15/2013 11:56:32 PM
At the grocery store, I do a second and even third pass-by to give her another chance to look. Or is that for me to look?
I think making eye contact is the only way I can tell if a girl is interested. Guys will make a point of looking into a girl's eyes if he finds her attractive. That is after he has checked her boobs and butt.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Single Parent Definition ?
Posted: 6/15/2013 11:32:26 PM
I am reluctant to call myself a single parent, even though I technically and semantically qualify. My daughter lives with me full time and my son goes to his mom for half the time. Plus, I am the schedule keeper for most things. But I am not parenting totally alone, which disqualifies the title of single parent in my mind.

I have, however, milked the status of it once or twice when others were making a big deal about it. It seemed to be even more heroic because I was male. Plus more attractive to the ladies. So, if someone else suggested I was a single parent I didn't try to talk them out of it.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Sex with Moms friend okay? I think she is a cougar.
Posted: 6/15/2013 3:47:54 PM
I think this one you can hide from your Mom, but you have to be smart. I don't think your Mom's cougar pal will go rushing to your mom to share details. If it ever comes to fruition, you swear her to complete secrecy for your mutual respect for your mom. And you cannot share this with anyone. If your buddies get a hold of it, I guarantee that it will get around.

She sounds a little slutty, so I know she can keep a secret or tell a story to cover. I say let it play out and see where it goes. Sure there's risk here, but your mom will always forgive you. Maybe wait until you move out of Mom's house before you seal the deal.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
best man ever, but trouble accepting his kids
Posted: 6/15/2013 3:38:04 PM
To start, you can feel any way you want, but I am afraid you will find more detractors than supporters here. I have read many posts where women will not date men with children, and it sounds like you have valid reasons. It is always complicated, you have the ex to deal with, and the kids are not yours, let alone not his. These issues are called deal breakers if they bother you at all. It is doomed from the start like a tragic Shakespearean play.

If I was in your ex's shoes, I think I would continue to take the boy. He is probably paying child support for him, as the courts regularly award support in these types of situations. So he is obviously the Dad even if he isn't the father. A proper Dad cannot walk away from a child that he has raised. He especially can't be brow beat into it by someone who is showing selfish tendencies.

Being part of this boy's life makes him whole and good. He is compelled by his nature. If you force him to give it up, you are forcing him to deny his true self. And that is why this relationship is doomed. He must become less of a man to please your needs. He will resent his own actions and he will resent you.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
He's going back to his ex but wants to remain friends
Posted: 6/2/2013 11:45:45 AM
Staying friends means: I like you and think you have good qualities. Please don't hate me. Good Bye.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 160 (view)
 
what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 5/29/2013 11:33:03 AM
It doesn't matter what gender the potential partner is, having children complicates things. If you don't have children of your own, be prepared for times when you come second. If you cannot accept that, then it is obvious that you shouldn't date a person with kids.

As a single parent, I can't and won't drop my children (within reason) for my girlfriend. If push came to shove, she is the one who would have to go. I think that would apply to most sensible parents. Fact. Allowances can be made, but tolerance from the non-child partner has to be understood.

The solution is to only date other people who have children. Both sides then understand the commitment, can be supportive and keep a larger picture in mind. This doesn't make it any easier to have a successful relationship, but it does eliminate the bad feelings that have been shared in above posts (to which they are entitled to).

I am going to go a step further and make a judgment. To me the people who say they would NEVER date a man with kids might be closing off potentially awesome partners. Their loss. It also comes across as self-centred and selfish. It smacks of Me! Me!Me! And when I hear a rant about it, no matter how valid the reasons, I still come away thinking that the person is self involved, and take it as a character flaw. (Which doesn't matter, because I have kids which eliminates me as a potential partner.)
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 81 (view)
 
moving in after 3 days...can it really succeed?
Posted: 5/26/2013 6:35:03 AM
You need to email a her a link to this thread and let her read for herself.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Movie: The Life of Pi
Posted: 5/25/2013 3:49:02 PM
I saw the movie and read the book. I enjoyed them both. I thought Ang Lee did a fine job of capturing the story. I might be biased because the author lives in my hometown, but I loved the premise of the story. I always pick the ending that has him surviving with the animals, because it is much more entertaining an uplifting than the alternate.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Find -> Flirt -> Meet -> Friends -> Anything possible?
Posted: 4/22/2013 6:52:59 PM
The friend zone grows tiresome really quick. I like the post that suggested that you make her jealous. Or go one further, ask her to fix you up with one of her friends.

Do you really need another friend? You play rugby and footy, I know for a fact that there is a built in social group there. You don't need friends, you need a girl to date. Time wasted on her that could be spent finding someone who is interested in you.

Just remember, be charming to ALL women, whether you are interested or not. Sometimes it takes another girl making a comment about you to get the other interested.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Is her flirting with me? I'm lost.
Posted: 4/22/2013 6:44:56 PM
I hope you are flirting back.

I had the same question when I became single again, so I googled it. Found some great advice.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
She approaches me, answers me but asks no questions.
Posted: 4/22/2013 6:41:03 PM
The speculation is the same as always. Is this really who the profile says? Is it your ex-girlfriend? Is she texting with 5 guys at a time? Crap shoot, you never know.

Already it is a bit of a red flag, and you have to ask yourself if it is worth continuing with someone you are bored with after one chat.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
You know you're a parent when..........
Posted: 4/22/2013 6:15:01 PM
You know you are a parent of a teenager when.....

You finally get an ipod...... when your son tires of his.
You check the history on the computer but it has already been deleted.
You can tell when your son is interested in a girl, because he gets up to shower in the morning.
You are no longer able to buy them clothes at Walmart.
You buy them nice gear like skis and outdoor wear because right now you and him are the same size, and he will outgrow it in 3 months leaving it for you.
The internet going out is a family crisis.
Paying $5 for a chore around the house just doesn't cut it anymore.
You don't stock the liquor cabinet until the day before company arrives.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 230 (view)
 
bad pickuplines
Posted: 4/21/2013 2:05:57 AM
I admit my dyck is only 4 inches......... but that's wide enough for any girl.

The guys enjoyed that line anyway.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 67 (view)
 
spoiled by anal?
Posted: 4/21/2013 1:58:15 AM
i didn't read all the posts so I don't know if I am repeating advice.

Cialis works.

Quit smoking weed, It softens your boners.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Boyfriend moved in...
Posted: 4/21/2013 1:40:14 AM
If I were in your boyfriend's place, I would rather owe the bank than owe you. The fact that he has stuck it to you so quickly means he will never be good for the money. The early part of a relationship is to make the other think the best of you.

If he is leading with this then it isn't going to change. Kick him out if he doesn't pay up. Tell him to go to this bank this week and open a line of credit and give you your half. And tell him that as of now, he is a fake loser until the moment he pays up.

No guy on the up and up does this.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
(Long) Help Me Understand Her: Why?
Posted: 4/21/2013 1:31:29 AM
Brother, you are exposed as 21 year old rookie. Shut up and don't sabotage yourself next time.

You weren't kidding it was long.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Why won't he let me go?
Posted: 4/21/2013 1:26:45 AM
Thank God you live in New York and only have 1,000,000 other men in a 30 minute radius of you. In that, maybe 10,000 compatible with you. Best odds in North America.

Move on.

This one can't have what he wants and won't ask for it.

Move on.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 77 (view)
 
Monster Children
Posted: 4/20/2013 9:10:37 AM
I know this is an old thread, so advice for the OP is useless. I will give some anyway.

A child is born with a certain temperament and character. Their behaviour is learned. I have seen kids that are a handful, but with excellent parents, so their problems are mitigated to a large degree. I have also seen children who are monsters, and their parents have done nothing and are all out of ideas. This is the type of parent to avoid as a dating partner.

The kids are part of who they are. You can love her, and dislike the kids. This crumbles the relationship, unless it is kept as strictly casual. Our Op met the family early on, which was a blessing in the end. He was able to make an informed decision about a deal breaking issue. I think it is totally okay to break up with someone for their children's behaviour.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Learned my lesson dating a single parent
Posted: 4/20/2013 8:50:46 AM
I agree with the others that this has nothing to do with her being a single parent. I have dated lots of single moms and it has not been a problem at all. It helps that I am a single parent and am understanding of the issues around it. Maybe I wouldn't be without the experience.

Going to her birthday party? That is a terrible idea. At best you are firmly friend zoned. At worst you will get her husband's drunken fist in your mouth or an ice pick in your neck. I don't see any benefit to you going to her house for this party.

This situation is no good. Don't use it as an excuse to slag on single moms. They are awesome. You just have to understand their commitments to their family.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
aaaarrrrgggghhhh!
Posted: 4/13/2013 9:13:09 AM
There is a definite stigma for the separated.

My advice, date among the other separated for a while. I'm sure you can search with those parameters.

Too many girls on here have had bad experiences with the separated and you will be automatically disregarded. Maybe change your profile to single and iron it out later.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Well I just said NO to a offer of friends with benefits
Posted: 4/11/2013 6:14:24 PM
I am a little confused by the reactions to your post. Many people are stating how strong you were to pass on a FWB relationship...... How is his offer to be FWB even tempting or an opportunity? How many girls on here would be offended to get even such an offer?

The standard response to the type of offer you received is to go fvck yourself you pig.

Maybe he was charming in his approach, but the bottom line is that he was looking for sex. This is as bad as the one line message that says "want to do it?"
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
so here is my problem
Posted: 4/11/2013 6:03:57 PM
If you have so many options that you can toss this one aside, then don't message her back. But, if you like this one, what harm is there. If she isn't interested, your message isn't going to change that.

You don't know her situation and why she didn't get back to you, so don't make assumptions. I think people are too quick to throw in the towel on this site, so don't be deterred by the vagaries of internet dating.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Relationships Today
Posted: 4/11/2013 5:56:13 PM
I wouldn't have gotten upset, but a text is easy to send. I think your question should be is it fair to be upset over this rather than should I be expected to check in.

Is there other things that he over reacts about? If so, it seems that you have a bit of a high strung partner and you better get used to it. If he was simply worried about you, you should be pleased that he cares and take it as a positive quality.

To me this isn't something to worth fighting over.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
To co-habitate or not?
Posted: 3/3/2013 9:14:46 AM
Lathamath

Good advice. I like the idea of seeking permission from the kids, as they have to buy into the arrangement for it to work. I know one sour person can ruin it for everyone.

I am not worried about step mom in my case, she is a sweet, loving person. I know..... things could change, but no red flags there.

I got to thinking about how mornings would work in a house with 6 people and 4 teens. Need lots of bathrooms. I know I need a place do do my business while reading the paper. Maybe an outhouse? TMI maybe?
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
The Canadian penny being eliminated,pros and cons.
Posted: 3/1/2013 6:48:39 PM
Good riddance to the penny.

It only applies to cash transactions and that is where I hated them most. I usually left them in the take a penny tray beside the till. I will lose about $1 over the next year on this. I would pay $10 to never have them in my pocket.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Girl taking my number question
Posted: 3/1/2013 6:33:29 PM
You tell her that you changed phone numbers then you do what the others have advised. Then you text her to make the contact stick.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
What is your custody agreement like?
Posted: 3/1/2013 6:22:39 PM
Offroader (msg24)
I am curious as to how your custody went down. I didn't go to court, but in Canada, men are not automatically stripped of custody. First choice is to give joint custody if both are willing and able. I know California is a progressive place, just not sure of the case law there.

I do know that some Lawyers can make life miserable in any jurisdiction and if that is what you were up against, my sympathy. I know too many men who got their asses handed to them because they didn't lawyer up to fight.

My advice is to not give up. Keep your eye on the prize, which is that you can again be the father that they want and need. If you are willing and prove that you can do a good job, your ex cannot deny you forever.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
To co-habitate or not?
Posted: 3/1/2013 6:02:39 PM
Thanks, Sweetblue. That is just the advice I am seeking.

Were there warning signs that his son would be a problem before you moved in together, or did the behaviours ramp up once you arrived?
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
To co-habitate or not?
Posted: 3/1/2013 4:49:52 PM
A rational reason, eh?

As the OP in this thread, I have had that discussion with myself many times.

I have been living as a single parent for 8 years, doing as good of a job as I could in that time. It has been awesome at times and a miserable failure at others. I guess that is parenthood for you. The one thing that has stuck with me is that my home seems a little empty and that my kids are not getting all that they could. We are without a woman's touch and love in our everyday world, and I truly think that all of our lives would be richer if there was a mom there to round out the environment. You know, someone who would give us reason to eat at the table and to clean the bathroom way before we get around to doing it.

I am in a loving and respectful relationship with someone who shares my values and outlook in life. Without this common ground I would not even entertain such an idea as moving in together. But that, in my way of thinking is maybe 50% of the decision.

The other 50% is the family dynamic that will be waiting for us when we all move in together. The least of my concerns is my girlfriend. I am most worried about our kids getting along with their new step-siblings and parent. Not to mention how the friction between the blood relatives will affect the new relationships with the soon to be steps. Many question marks lay before me, and I was hoping that a few seasoned veterans would weigh in with their stories and advice.

As to the young lady who posted that she wouldn't move in with someone without a marriage commitment, I was of that opinion once too. Didn't work out. Had I lived with her for 6 months, I would never have married my ex. If my kids wanted to get married, I would suggest living together first to see what the other is REALLY like. Call me old fashioned.

There has been some good advice on this thread so far. Like making sure all the financial work is thought through and completed before hand is valuable.

But my favourite advice has been to make sure that my own children know that they are my primary concern and that they don't have to compete for my attention. And that all situations will require love at its core to solve, and if we lead with that, it will carry much of the load. Simple, I know, but powerful none-the-less.

I am prepared to help raise 4 kids through teenage-hood. I know that my needs are at the bottom of the list most times, and I am willing to give that of myself to make this work. I am hoping that the rewards will outweigh the cost. It is a crap shoot at best, and could blow up in my face, but I think I am aware of the situation enough to know that there is a good likely-hood of success.

I came on here to be convinced otherwise. If there is a reader who thought like me, but was sadly awakened, please share your story. I need all the information I can get before I embark on this path.

Much thanks to the posters,
Gold
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Equal Education for ALL in the US?
Posted: 2/28/2013 4:11:25 AM
USA is the richest country in the world. Can't afford to educate citizens because of all the illegals? Poor excuse. It is misappropriated priorities. Dedicate 10% of the military budget and there would be enough money for any educational needs.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
question
Posted: 2/24/2013 12:59:03 PM
Always go in with the understanding that any guy wants sex.

Online dating is hard because it begins blind. All of the first few meetings are staged and not natural . It is easy for a person to be on their best behaviour. It takes different situations, such as the one you were in, to bring out a person`s true colours. There really is no way of knowing until you know. Chalk this one up to experience and be glad you never married him.

When we meet a person through work or other social circles, you can get a feel for their real character. You can watch from afar and develop an idea about the person more completely. This is still no guarantee that it will end better, but it takes away surprises more often.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Awkward Group Date
Posted: 2/24/2013 12:46:12 PM
This was a tough situation to win, but not impossible. And I think your girl failed this one too. I have seen lots of people enter a new group and be a comfortable part right away. Sometimes, in life, we are put in positions that make us learn and grow, and I think this was one for you. You have two choices. Vow to never do this again, or figure out how to be more successful. By reaching out to the forums, you are looking for help. Good for you.

First of all, during introductions, smile charmingly and make eye contact. Look like you are happy to be there, even if you aren`t. Awkwardness is also about body language, so don`t be tight and stiff.

Something that has helped me in those types of situations is to listen first and try to find out what makes the crowd tick. Once you clue into one of their interests, ask some probing questions to keep them talking. If they just returned from a trip, ask for more details. Make their stories connect to something you have heard or experienced before, then ask them some more. In a group of 6 people, there is always one person who loves to dominate a conversation. Just feed them now and again and they will do the heavy lifting.

Even though it may seem like they aren`t speaking to you, they are. So pay attention instead of drifting off.

Also, google for advice, there is tons out there.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Equal Education for ALL in the US?
Posted: 2/23/2013 9:25:21 PM
I just heard an educator from Finland speak. His name is Pasi Stahlberg and he travels the world as an educational consultant. Finland has one of the highest ranked school systems in the world, and it isn't by accident. He boiled it down to a few things:

1) In Finalnd, teachers are expected to be professionals and they are paid that way. They all have masters degrees and only 10% of applicants into the educational colleges are accepted. Right there you have raised the bar. Also, university and vocational schools are paid for by the government (common across Europe)

2) First create equity in all schools, then create excellence. This means you must make allowances for poorer families. 3 course school meals for everyone, early childhood education available from age 3 or 4, doctor and dentist and counselling access through the schools

3) Special education support to anyone who needs it. If you are below grade level, you need it. If it means 90% of the school receive resource room help, so be it. This wasn't uncommon in the poorer areas of Helsinki, and wouldn't be in USA either.

4) Standardized testing decreases student achievement. How? Too much stress for students to write those exams, teachers feel they need to teach to the test, taking time away from pursuits that really grow intelligence; problem solving, critical thinking skill development and the creative arts. (Yes- the arts)

USA has some excellent schools, teachers and students. But it is not across the board. You must give a hand up to the poorer schools and students. This costs money. But not doing it will cost even more in the long run, and you may be witnessing the results of underfunding education already.

By the way, the top 5 nations for education? Finland, Singapore, Japan, South Korea, and Canada. I know the asian kids are working their asses off, but not so much in Canada. We have equity in our schools and ensure all students are grounded in the creative arts. Plus teachers are paid a decent wage.

USA must choose to improve and then pay for it. It's worth the investment
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
To co-habitate or not?
Posted: 2/23/2013 11:09:27 AM
I have been with my girlfriend for a few years and we are debating the idea of moving in together. We have two children each, all of them in their teens who get along well. We travel as combined families often and things are usually smooth.

I would like to hear about people's experiences, both good and bad, with combining two families into one household. What has made it work? Why did it fail? What are things to watch for and plan for? Have you moved into the other's home? Did you purchase a different home?

Both of our ex's are in the children's lives and get partial custody (except my oldest daughter who lives with me full time). I know my ex would love it if my son chose her place full time and would probably campaign for it. Girlfriend's kids are with her mostly and happy that way.

Any advice or experiences are welcome.

In my mind there are lots of good reasons to move in together. But what worries me most is that the kids may not get along in close quarters, and it only takes one bad relationship among the permutations of 6 people to ruin it all.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 82 (view)
 
What do you wish for your ex?
Posted: 2/14/2013 6:00:32 PM
I know it is wrong to ever have negative wishes for my children's mother, but I kind of wish that she keeps being self-centred, so that my kids will love me more...... God that sounds sad.

I Changed my mind. I wish for her to be a great mother so that my kids can grow up well adjusted. Maybe that Genie will pop out and make it true.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Cheating...forgive?
Posted: 2/14/2013 5:43:00 PM
It is not like you have years and years invested into this man and relationship. Let him go and hope he heals. If you cross paths again in a couple of years and he has remained sober ALL that time, then give him another chance.

If he can still count his recovery by days and not years, then you shouldn't waste your time.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Can anyone give me some advice?
Posted: 12/22/2012 9:59:11 AM
There are tons of girls on this site that fit your body category who are awesome people lamenting the same things you are. The hot girls on this site get so many contacts that you wouldn't even register. Dig deeper and find the ones who don't get as many messages.

Or take the advice of the above posters.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Disapearing act?
Posted: 12/22/2012 9:52:26 AM
Had he said all the right things in ending your association, you would have felt that you were losing a respectful, eloquent person. This way, you know he is not the type of person you would have wanted a relationship with. ie; coward.

So, in essence, he has helped you to get over him much quicker.

Also, this is so common on dating sites that it is best to develop a thick skin towards it and not take it personally.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
BF womanizer and friend to all
Posted: 4/22/2012 7:51:24 AM
I think you should have a conversation with some of these female friends of his. Let them know you are a couple and ask if he has been hitting them on the side. If it is platonic, you can put your worries to rest. If he is dogging them, then you get to crack his whole little scheme wide open. You just may enjoy the drama that comes with it.
 hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
I'm not single..Is complementing women online considered cheating??
Posted: 4/20/2012 9:21:10 PM
Dude, the internet is for kicks, and this is one of the options. I do the same thing. I have never met a girl from this site and I don't plan to. Do you talk to a person in the fresh food section of the grocery store? Consider this the same. Have fun and continue to have conversations with willing people ( not the naysayers on this post). Life is to live.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
I'm in need of some Advice !
Posted: 4/2/2012 5:17:21 PM
Hey, one chance in a million is still a chance. You better come up with something good, like some comic book connection. Start as a chat and not a come on. Maybe you can be friend zoned for a while until you break her down.
 Hands of gold
Joined: 11/12/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
I can't figure you out...
Posted: 4/2/2012 5:13:01 PM
You mistake our silence for deep and complex feelings. It is really a matter of us not wanting to make things worse, so we say nothing at all.

Here's a tip. Feed us, flatter us, have sex. Then let us go out with our buddies at least once a week. Forget the emotional stuff; we do.
 
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