Show ALL Forums
Posted In Forum:

Home   login   MyForums  
 Author Thread: American Pickers TV show
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
American Pickers TV show
Posted: 9/9/2010 11:09:27 AM
If someone sees a good deal on something, knowing it's worth more than the asking price, they have every right to buy it at the asking price. They also have every right to offer less than the asking price. It's called haggling. It's been done as long as there were buyers and sellers. It's done in every country in the world, in any type of transaction. Wierd that someone would come here and act like they morally superior because I mentioned someone who got an incredible deal on a chair.
I'm sure if that person bought a chair for $25 that turned out to be worth
$150,000, they wouldn't give the money to the person they bought the chair from.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
How do I move on?
Posted: 8/29/2010 12:41:42 AM
Your friends are right. He is stringing you along and uses you for when he has absolutely nothing better to do. How long you keep allowing him to do this is up to you but it sounds like hell to me. My advice: be strong and self protective and end any and all contact.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
Time to break it off?
Posted: 8/29/2010 12:36:44 AM
If she is busy every time you try to make a plan with her, then why are you worried about how to break it off? Just stop trying to make plans with her.
Stop calling, texting and IMing her completely. Problem solved. Sounds to me like she will be relieved.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 114 (view)
being so bitter towards an ex
Posted: 8/29/2010 12:34:08 AM
People can disappoint you terribly and hurt you and stab you in the back.
It can be hard to let go of the bad feelings. Lots of people have unwillingly put huge parts of their lives on hold due to anger that lingers for years.
It is a lot harder than just saying to yourself it's time to move on.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 96 (view)
How to make him less afraid of being hurt by me?
Posted: 8/29/2010 12:21:06 AM
You are not his shrink and do not want to be seen by him as that.
He has problems but that isnt your problem. You need to think about YOU not him and leave him, stop all communication with him, if he keeps hurting you.
Protect yourself. You can't change him. If he really loved you he would not be doing anything to hurt you. You wouldnt be having this problem at all.
Stop forgiving him. Find a guy who only wants to be with you cause this one doesn't.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 94 (view)
Menopause and The Aftermath of its Wake.
Posted: 8/15/2010 7:33:54 AM
Hi wishes. Yes, it has been a bit hellish for me, the symptoms much to my horror can go on for ten years or more past the last menstrual period.
I have had some wierd emotional episodes along with memory loss of famous names, general skin itching, and some severe and almost non stop sweating which thank God has stopped. And yes there have been some pretty over the top
rages. My brain is like "what the heck, where is the estrogen?"
On a positive note, the sex drive is alive and well.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
Is this guy a creeper? ( Long one)
Posted: 8/15/2010 7:28:08 AM
If she doesn't care that he is eight years older than her why should you?
It's up to her who she dates and sexes with not you.
You sound jealous. Not sure why else this would be such an issue for you.

I had a 50 year old bf when I was her age. I would have stopped talking to anyone who was going around talking about it to everyone like it was anyone's business but my own.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
Always having problems with MEN ( dont know why )
Posted: 8/15/2010 7:24:03 AM
You have no trouble communicating here that you want to wait to have sex until you know a person well. Why don't you tell them that instead of pushing them away as you put it? The ones who really like you will be ok with that and keep seeing you. Tell THEM all this.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
Is it o.k. to stay with someone without loving the person?
Posted: 8/15/2010 7:20:34 AM
You should say to her that you do not love her. She should not expect to hear you lie to her. Does she know you don't love her? Or does she think you just have trouble expressing love? When she asks if you don't love her you must be brutally honest and say no. That way she can deal with it knowing the truth.
Sounds to me like she is not understanding that you don't love her.
She needs this information.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
Hey Mom and Dad!! I am bringing home a real loser for you to meet tonight!
Posted: 8/15/2010 7:17:01 AM
My parents learned when I was less than twelve that I would be doing what I want with whom I want. They don't have a say in who I date and never did.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
Boyfriend won't initiate sex
Posted: 8/15/2010 7:14:45 AM
Try seducing him. Don't touch him or approach him at all.
Don't ask for it directly at all. For instance have just your underpants on and crawl around looking for something you dropped. It's possible you two have different sex drives or need different amounts of sex. If seduction doesn't work, then you may have to reevaluate your relationship. I can't imagine anything less sexy than demanding it, or having a discussion about how he isn't doing enough.
Nothing like making someone feel pressured into sex when they don't even want it to begin with.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
much needed closure
Posted: 5/21/2010 12:37:42 PM
He didn't want to get into telling you he was seeing someone and just
took the easy way out to answer you when you said you liked him.
If he didn't even reply when you brought it up again he is not interested.

Guys take the easiest way out when a girl shows interest when they are not
interested. It leaves the girls confused. Guys just are not comfortible
turning girls down. They are immature cowards that way.
Never will they flat out say they are not interested, in any way.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
The Act of Letting Go ...
Posted: 5/21/2010 10:27:32 AM
Letting go is easy and fairly painless if you have a full, rewarding life with
passion about something other than the relationship.
It is also easy if you have a new love interest to pick up immediately.

If your life is emtpy and lonely you will have a harder time letting go.

It depends on if the relationship was 90% of your total life or 20%.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
Am I in a relationship?
Posted: 5/21/2010 10:14:56 AM
No you are not in a relationship, nowhere near it.
He has no phone so does not call you.
He has no money so does not go outside the house with you.
He does not contact you at all.
He does not return your emails.
He WILL contact you when he wants to "hang out", meaning have sex.

He just wants the sex. He wants nothing else obviously.

I have seen too many questions like this from women on this forum and
almost am wondering if someone if peppering the forums with this
type of question for some reason.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
Am I dating a potential stalker?
Posted: 5/21/2010 7:15:47 AM
Yes stop speaking to him.
Why would you have to ask if you should keep talking to someone who
questions who you are talking to at ALL times and checks up on it later?
He has everything but a sign saying STALKER on his forehead.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
How to tell if she's interested or just friendly?
Posted: 5/21/2010 7:13:16 AM
She is being friendly mostly but also is seeing if she might have more
of an interest once she gets to know you. It is too early to say she is
interested. She is just being friendly.

If you like her and want to see more of her there is really only one way
to find out what is in her mind, isn't there? And that is to be a man and
ask her if she would like to go have a drink with you sometime.
She can either say yes, no or maybe.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
Im so stupid
Posted: 5/18/2010 8:52:49 PM
I have had close male friends for years with never any sex.
Occasionally they did express a wish for fwb but knew it wasnt going to happen
and stayed my friend, so yes it is possible for a man and woman to be
strictly friends.

I have also had the experience of chatting frequently with a couple of guys
from here thinking it was just as friends and at some point they
indicated they would like sex and I realized this was their real intent all
along but they were not honest about it. I felt letdown.

I have also had a couple of guys who were genuinely interested in only
friendship with me here. Usually these guys are extremely open about
everything, telling me about other women they are interested in, so that
is how I know they really are just being friendly, although a couple of
really sneaky ones used that play and still were after just fwbs.

There is a sad, hurt, tricked feeling when you chat with a man from here
and feel you have made a friend and it turns out he was manuvering to
try to get you to have sex with him. When you have close male friends
over many years you do know it is very possible to have male friends,
and I have had the experience of making genuine male friends here.

So it definitely is NOT stupid for a woman to think some men may be
interested in platonic friendship, especially if they have said that several
times. This guy lied to her. She shouldn't feel stupid, she should feel
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
How to transition to a friend w/ benefits situation.
Posted: 4/26/2010 6:28:59 AM
Yes you should just flat out tell her what you want.

What do you expect, to make a free, no strings attached, emotionless,
nothing in it for her except being used as your toilet, raw sex
when you are horny hook up sound like something wonderful?

It's not wonderful for her, it's awful, so flat out tell her you want her
to take over the job your hand is doing.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
The Man Cave...and how to respond
Posted: 4/26/2010 6:24:21 AM
I would not be sticking around wondering what happened, I would be off
doing something fun and important with my time.

I wouldn't even call, ask, feel abandoned, wait for him, text him,
or acknowledge his existence. I'd be gone, just like he is. For good.

Life's too short to waste on people who leave you hanging and wondering
what happened.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
When a woman punches walls...
Posted: 4/26/2010 5:58:39 AM
What world are you in that it's ok for a man to punch things?

I've never been around that kind of man, not would I be.

I've never even SEEN that kind of man, and cannot IMAGINE
staying around one longer than it takes me to run out the door.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 136 (view)
BBW With Broken Heart!
Posted: 4/26/2010 3:31:20 AM

lately all im startin to feel is though all he wants me for is the sex (yes the sex is amazin but still), i recently started getting very attatched to him, starting to have feelings, and when he asks whats wrong when im crying or whatever i tell him "oh its nothing" when inside im screaming "everything" or when were talking about possibly dating he says "not yet" and inside im yet again screaming to myself "why wont he go out with me".

This is horrible.

Don't let yourselves be used for sex.
If a man won't take you out don't have sex with him.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 132 (view)
BBW With Broken Heart!
Posted: 4/25/2010 3:35:11 PM
They really don't see themselves with a large woman.
They think you are horny and will have sex out of desperation.

I get young guys thinking because of my age I will be
eager for quick sex with them, without need for any type of
relationship, just like you are experiencing.

These men are insensitive, ignorant, self centered creeps, so
be happy they don't want a relationship.

Yup, either slim down and exercise and eat less, or resign yourself
to being single, or maybe there is a guy out there somewhere who can
look beyond the surface and see that looks and weight aren't everything.

I think that when you do take great care of yourself physically,
you increase your chances of finding a long term relationship.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
Virginity Gone? Now What?
Posted: 4/25/2010 3:18:03 PM
You need to make good and sure you are with a guy who will keep
seeing you even after you sleep with him if you really like him.
You do this by waiting for him to ask you out, take you to nice
restaurants, and make it very clear that he is truely interested in a
real relationship. You do not make the first move, or do most of the
conacting of him. He should be calling you a lot all the time.

Live and learn. Next time do not have sex on the second date unless you
don't care if you never hear from him again.

Sorry this happened to you the first time you had sex! I learned this while
still a teenager so I'm having a hard time relating to what it must be like
to be thirty and just figuring out that a man who isn't really into you
may just disappear after sex.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
Just putting this up for a topic and curious, how does what happens here affect you?
Posted: 4/25/2010 3:11:47 PM
The rudeness here affects me negatively.
But the love of writing out my opinions overules that.

I have a low opinion of the majority of available males in my
area of the country, and I think that is realistic, considering
my age, and the type of guys who are left here in southeast Florida.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
Shirtless picture
Posted: 4/25/2010 3:05:24 PM
You went out together a few months ago.
If a guy really likes you he won't let a few months go by without
asking you out.

If a guy send you a picture of himself, shirtless or not, it means he
likes HIMSELF. And he thinks YOU like him too.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
Where is the line between being thin skinned to insulting behavior?
Posted: 4/25/2010 2:43:18 PM
I wouldn't have kept seeing a man who did this after the second time
it happened. It will ruin any chance you may have to feel
emotional attachment, and erodes your self esteem.

I would get away from this guy. It is rude, uncouth, and probably is a way
of subconciously letting you know you aren't good enough for him.
No way are you ever going to feel great being with someone who does this.
It can absolutely destroy your self esteem.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
going to resturants alone
Posted: 4/25/2010 2:35:50 PM
I've spent entire days alone at The Breakers, outdoors at the pools,
and inside in the restaurants.
This is one of only about three five star resorts in the U.S.
Now that took some chutzpah! (Which is something I've never been
short of.)
You will never see a woman dining alone in restaurants at a place like
this, a world class five star resort, but I did it, and I'm not ashamed..
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 50 (view)
Why the no contact rule?
Posted: 4/25/2010 11:11:41 AM
I had to do it when I broke up with someone recently because to keep talking
to him was upsetting. I had hoped to stay friends, but wanted all feelings of
love and concern for him to die since it was painful. Those feelings wouldn't
stop as long as I kept talking to him. I found myself getting very
resentful, hearing how his life was
going on without me, and just had to stop all contact.

It was not good or healthy at all to continue talking to him as if we were
simply old friends who had never been in love. I needed to put him and all
thoughts of him behind me, not be there as a reminder of what was gone.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
going to resturants alone
Posted: 4/25/2010 11:07:20 AM
I love it! I prefer it. I also go to movies and take car trips alone.
I go when I want and leave when I want, take side trips, everything
without worrying about the other person.

I sometimes see pity or curiosity on the faces of others but that's not my
problem, it's theirs. I do it because I love the freedom, solitude and peace.
It's adventurous.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
Info on my computer.
Posted: 4/24/2010 5:10:21 PM
Anyone's IP is being scanned by hackers all the time.
Hackers scan huge blocks of IPs constantly.
I'm sure you know this. If you could see how many hackers scan any given IP
in an hour it would be hundreds.

The idea that a hacker would find her IP, be lucky enough to find an open port,
not be blocked by her firewall or antivirus program,
then find her browsing history and from that make a fake profile on POF
just for her to find is unlikely to say the least.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
Info on my computer.
Posted: 4/24/2010 2:52:40 PM

they get your IP and then your whole network if they want...

I have people's IP and can't get their whole network, if they even have one.
In fact anyone with a website can have millions of IP's of their visitors.
You can't hack someone just because you know their IP for heaven's sake.

OP I would suspect the friend you went to that place with. That would be much
more logical, if you have a friend who knows you are interested in that town.

Someone wouldn't hack your computer, see what you googled, and then
set up a profile using that town. For what reason? Thats an awful lot of
trouble to go through just to create a fake profile that you may or may not
respond to.

Why don't you write to that person with the profile, see what they have to say,
try to get a phone number for him or chat with him? It should be simple enough
if you chat with him to see if it is someone you know. Either that or just ignore
the supposed fake profile.

Also if you have antispyware installed that should catch a keylogger.

If someone really is spying on you most likely it will be someone with access
to your computer who simply looks at your browsing history. You can set
your computer to delete this after every session.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
Sexist User?
Posted: 4/24/2010 2:39:50 PM
Stop being a sexist! They have ways of knowing these things!

You must have had an ex girlfriend who answered the questionaire she got about
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
How to stop popup saying close current tab?
Posted: 4/24/2010 2:35:27 PM
^^^AHHH thanks that's the answer!
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
How to get rid of dandelions and not the environment
Posted: 4/24/2010 2:13:41 PM
You can spot spray them and if you only get the chemical on the
dandelion nothing else will be harmed.
You can get a little digger that will slide down the long center root and
lift it out of the ground but that's back breaking.

I just squirt a bit of roundup on the dandelion. No harm done far as I can tell.
Never had a pet die or found a dead bird.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
Women and there numbers
Posted: 4/24/2010 2:06:20 PM
No I would do what most women do when approached by a strange man
and asked for my number and give him a fake one.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
What are some signs of a potential stalker?
Posted: 4/24/2010 2:03:44 PM
Internet predators gain access to women and children that they wouldn't normally.

People online chat a lot. It gives a predator the opportunity to get his victim
to trust him enough to manipulate her/him into a position where the
predator can use and abuse.

I've had a couple of phone conversations with guys from here that scared the
heck out of me. It became clear that these two were really insane and
possibly dangerous.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
Thumbnails in inbox
Posted: 4/24/2010 12:57:26 PM
I really like the thumbnails a lot. It's a huge help for me.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
How to stop popup saying close current tab?
Posted: 4/24/2010 12:55:20 PM
Thanks but I rarely close the browser, just the current page.
I had Windows XP on my old computer and never had this popup.
So annoying to have to click two things to close a page.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
How to stop popup saying "close current tab?"
Posted: 4/24/2010 12:45:21 PM
I have a newish little laptop with Windows XP and every time I want to
close a webpage I click the little red X in the top right corner of the screen,
but a little popup comes up that says "close current tab?" which I then
have to click to close the page. It gives me the choice to close just the top
page or all the pages I have open. I hate this thing.
I hate having to click both the red X AND this little popup.

Is there any setting that I can change to get rid of this annoyance?
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
What are some signs of a potential stalker?
Posted: 4/24/2010 12:25:58 PM

I very much doubt Ted Bundy would EVER be looking for women online

Book: Online Killers: Portraits of Murderers, Cannibals and Sex Predators Who
Stalked the Web for Their Victims.....Christorpher Berry-Dee (Author), and Steven Morris (Author)

The Internet has rapidly become an integral part of everyone's life — including the most violent criminals. Online Killers chronicles the stories of the sinister individuals who have used the Web to work unimaginable evil from the privacy of their own homes.

The authors take readers on a cyber journey to a place where the dim flicker of LCD screens illuminates unwitting women and children falling into disastrous circumstances. It might start in a chat room and lead to a harmless cyber-date, but all too quickly it devolves into capture, torture, and death.

This cautionary collection reveals many dark tales and [bold]destroys commonly held myths, including the belief that it's safe to meet someone after knowing them online for many months[/bold] — predators actually gain additional satisfaction from stalking their victims over long periods of time. Online Killers details tales too horrific to imagine, including the case of schoolteacher Janet Longhurst who was murdered by an obsessive necrophiliac, and story of young and beautiful Anastasia Solovyova, the would-be bride whose new life ended in her brutal death.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 64 (view)
What are some signs of a potential stalker?
Posted: 4/24/2010 8:51:07 AM

I very much doubt Ted Bundy would EVER be looking for women online

Look up the "Craig's List Killer", the guy who was a medical student and
killed young women who advertised their services on Craig's List.

Oh Ted Bundy would have LOVED the internet if they had had it in his day!
It is custom made for serial killers or any other kind of predator for that matter.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
50 - 60 year-old men might be better off ... not to be better off?
Posted: 4/24/2010 8:35:19 AM
These men thought they were going to get laid.
The ones were just driving and the woman asked for directions and
they brought her to their house?
Come on, they thought the woman was a hooker.

The papers didn' t publish the fact that the woman presented herself as
a hooker to save the men embarrassment and a possible lawsuit from them.
There is a video on the
Palm Beach Post website of the woman standing on a dock, near the
boat of one of the men who got robbed. She got his watch and $16,000
cash. She is not exactly a knockout.
She's 5'8" and around 160 pounds.

Most likely she is a hooker who found out it is a lot more profitable to just
rob the guys with roofies.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
STD's in America
Posted: 4/24/2010 8:26:07 AM
One in six Americans has genital herpes. That's 40 million people.
The fastest growing segment to get STD's are older people who are less
likely to use condoms.
I won't have sex without mutual tests for STD's.
My health is at stake and I don't mess around with that.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 53 (view)
Should married people still hang out with their single friends?
Posted: 4/24/2010 8:13:18 AM
Your idea of marriage sounds like being single.
It's not a matter of mistrust, it's a matter of wanting to do things together.
I know a married man who goes alone to the Florida Keys every weekend
and his wife goes out with guys while he's gone and they are ok with that.
I wonder why they are married.
I have no problem being single and living single.
Marriage is to be together and do things together.
IN MY OPINION> I realize yours is different, ok?
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 39 (view)
Promiscuous women cause Earth quakes
Posted: 4/24/2010 8:07:50 AM
^^^oh yuck, it keeps getting worse.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 68 (view)
Am I trying to keep our families separate?
Posted: 4/24/2010 8:05:57 AM
If she says she wants it a certain way then don't argue just say OK.
It takes two to argue. Refuse to do it.
Honestly what you are describing is so incredibly petty.
You two had a big argument over this? I hate to think what will happen
if anything happens that really matters.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 82 (view)
Hates his mother...... will hate you?
Posted: 4/24/2010 7:24:30 AM
He has serious issues and is using his hatred for women to cover up his
own sense of failure. It's a convenient excuse for him.

There are a lot of women haters out there and it's the same as it is for
people such as those in the KuKluxKlan. It's more ok to hate women than
it is to hate another race. People don't talk about women haters. And
they should. Awareness of this type of scapegoating should be increased.

He doesn't sound to me like he will ever find a woman he finds acceptible.

How could a woman never talk about herself around him?
What's she supposed to talk about, him all the time and never herself?
And how can you think that a man like this is a good guy? To who?
Only other men? He's full of hate!
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
Promiscuous women cause Earth quakes
Posted: 4/24/2010 7:15:03 AM
Creepy thread here.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 283 (view)
Embarrassing question-whipping it out inappropriately
Posted: 4/24/2010 7:11:01 AM
The men who whip it out inappropriately are exhibitionists.

They get off on exposing themselves unexpectedly. It's a perversion, and
exhibisionistic males usually have lots of others perversions besides just
esposing themselves. Seeing women's panties, seeing women on the
toilet, underage people, they are excited and stimulated easily by lots
of things.

It's a form of being mentally unstable. These guys are so consumed by
their secret world of perversions they have trouble with boundaries and
rights of others.
Joined: 11/13/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
Should married people still hang out with their single friends?
Posted: 4/24/2010 6:49:57 AM
My reaction would be that I would go with him. I like bowling and darts too.
If he wanted to go out of town I would go too. I like to travel too.

If you want an open marriage
that's ok with me. You each go your separate ways with your separate single
friends and just sleep together occasionally. No problem.
Each marriage is what the two people want.

If my husband wanted to travel with a bunch of single guys, I would
wonder why he didn't invite me to go along with him instead of
wanting to just be with his single guy friends out of town.
Of course I wouldn't marry a preacher either. I've seen too many
shady ones.

You have your idea of marriage and I have mine, and mine doesn't resemble
being single.
Show ALL Forums