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 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 133 (view)
 
Help :( Did I get scammed???
Posted: 11/19/2017 3:12:27 PM

Anyway, do the frigging math: on an outlay of $100, you can expect a return of 76 cents, AT BEST. Frig, better notify the Federal Reserve that they're facing a monetary crisis, if you're gonna walk away with a whole 76 CENTS! Not to mention the casino: how will they *EVER* be able to avoid bankruptcy if they have to pay out a WHOLE 76 CENTS?!?


Your math is wrong. If you're playing Full pay Deuces Wild at the quarter level ( available in Las Vegas locals casinos) at 500 hands/hour * $1.25 per hand = $625/hr * 0.75% advantage = $4.69 per hour. It's higher if you can play more hands and lower if you make any strategy errors. This doesn't include the cashback or comps from the player card.


Who gives a rat's @$$ about the complimentary watered-down drinks? Can you take those home and pay your bills with them?


Comps are not just drinks. You can also get food, gifts, rooms, show tickets, and other things.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 100 (view)
 
Help :( Did I get scammed???
Posted: 11/17/2017 11:13:38 AM

She says she is looking for a "life companion, in sickness and in health".

I reply, "Sorry, we are not a match"

Too bad, she was rather pretty. Asian women age VERY well. But they also tend to want to get married, today, not tomorrow.


Unless marriage is something you absolutely know with 100% certainty that you'd never consider at some point the future, why blow off an attractive woman by telling her you’re not a match? Also, you might be jumping to conclusions about what she actually wants, especially if English is not her first language.

You could say something like, “I’m not ruling out marriage at some point in the future if I meet the right woman and we fall in love---but for now I’m interested in meeting a nice lady and going out on fun dates together that include dancing and dining out, and just getting to know one another.”
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Help :( Did I get scammed???
Posted: 11/16/2017 11:42:43 AM


her
Good day to you. I am in Houston on a business trip. I would like to be clear about this matter first. I am not on this site for a hook up. If you agree, we can chat further.
_____ (name omitted by me)



me
Good afternoon, _____. What are you looking for?


Henry, you didn't respond to her inquiry, but instead, asked a question of your own.

If you're looking to beat inside the bush, rather than around it, you should have just been honest with her.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Help :( Did I get scammed???
Posted: 11/15/2017 12:57:43 PM

Everyone who goes into a casino, and gambles, is a sucker. Undeniably, 100% a sucker.


Henry, being that I live in Las Vegas, I feel the need to come back and rebut this statement. Some people do win in casinos in the long run, by playing a positive expectation game, such as Full-Pay Deuces Wild Video Poker with a 100.76% theoretical return---and knowing the correct strategy to play the game with 100% accuracy. That doesn’t even include the casino comps they're offered for their play.


And yes, I have been known to do that. I decide ahead of time how much I’m going to spend on the evening’s entertainment, and that’s my limit.


That’s wise in terms of casino gambling---but it’s a defeatist attitude to have when it comes to women and dating. It’s really too bad that you felt the need to pay this woman (whose appearance was a let-down) just to sit and share a simple face-to-face conversation with you.

As Coma_White stated, you’d be better off paying for a hooker. At least she’s a sure bet, and you won’t be rejected---or in your own words, not be chosen.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 52 (view)
 
she scammed herself
Posted: 11/14/2017 11:08:30 AM

But ... (you knew there was going to be a "but", right?) Those pictures are 11 years old, she is now 54 years old. The pictures had long beautiful flowing hair, gone. Gone. Add 11 years, add 25 pounds, you get the idea. Still attractive, I would date her, but not the woman whose pictures I fell at least partially in love with.

I was nice, did not say how disappointed I was, but we had a pretty frank discussion about her experiences. She has been doing this "sugar baby" thing for 2 years, and she enjoys it. She gets a lot of nice dinners, gets to try out restaurants, and every now and then gets $250 to sleep with a man that she likes anyway.

I told this story to a friend of mine at work this morning, and she (my friend) seemed to think that I should be angry that I “was taken advantage of”, but I don’t see it that way. The woman I had dinner with last night looked better than my average date, and she was intelligent, a good conversationalist, and had an interesting story. But I am surprised by one thing, when I inquired delicately, she said she had never really taken any flack about the pictures. That did surprise me. Maybe all of the women on that site have fake or misleading pictures, so the men come to expect it?

I was just talking to another friend (a man in his 30s), and he wanted to know why I was having dinner with a “prostitute”, but I don’t see it that way at all, there ARE differences. In some people's minds, those differences are going to be minor, to others, much more important. For one thing, she gets to pick and choose. A for real prostitute or escort is going to boff whomever shows up and has the money. This woman doesn't, she gets to choose.


Henry, your friend was right on the money. If you were disappointed in the woman's appearance, why did you buy her dinner? You could have just ended the date at drinks, and saved yourself a ton of money. I'm guessing that she didn't "choose" you. She may not be a real prostitute, but she's something worse---a dinner 'ho.

There's an old poker saying that goes something like this: “If you’ve been in the game 30 minutes and you don’t know who the sucker is, you’re the sucker.”
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 63 (view)
 
Would you meet someone whose profile says they are 10 years younger than they actually are?
Posted: 11/13/2017 1:44:20 PM

HS is just sore over my having taken her to task for her having slaughtered remedial Latin... it is obviously still bothering her, so I wouldn't bring it up...


Arlo, I'm not sore with you in the least. I was just giving you a taste of your own medicine, since you seem to take such utter delight in correcting other posters' grammar (as you did in message 47).

If you're going to act as the grammar police in here, wouldn't it make more sense if you first improved your own?
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Would you meet someone whose profile says they are 10 years younger than they actually are?
Posted: 11/13/2017 11:03:22 AM

I wonder why no one is grilling her on what the heck she was doing trying to score with a guy who is *THIRTEEN YEARS YOUNGER THAN HER*. If it had been a 64 year-old man trying to connect with a 51 year-old woman, people would have fixated on *THAT*, to the exclusion of all else... :eyeroll:


How would you know she was trying to score with him? He could have initiated contact with her.

By the way, it's thirteen years younger than SHE---not HER.

THIRTEEN YEARS YOUNGER THAN SHE [IS].
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Would you meet someone whose profile says they are 10 years younger than they actually are?
Posted: 11/13/2017 8:12:24 AM

What would you do? Would that be a deal-breaker or would you meet them anyway?


Did he contact you first, or did you contact him first? The reason I ask is because this would make a difference to me personally, in how I felt about the deception. If I contacted the man first, I'd see it as a "bait and switch tactic", and I would probably dismiss him.

If the man contacted me first, I might be more tolerant of the profile fib, since he disclosed his real age upfront.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 106 (view)
 
DATING OVER 60
Posted: 11/12/2017 5:26:59 PM
NewYorker58, you’ve run off a perfectly nice poster who did nothing to deserve your nasty insinuation that she was abusing her dogs. And that wasn’t enough for you---you had to go after her vet, too.

The weight of her dogs is none of your business. The only weight you need to be concerned about is your own.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 14 (view)
 
drama-free
Posted: 11/9/2017 4:17:29 PM
^^^^ My preference is to use nonsexist language when describing negative personality traits.

According to the Urban Dictionary, drama king is the male counterpart to drama queen.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=drama%20king
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 12 (view)
 
drama-free
Posted: 11/9/2017 3:05:56 PM
Women don't have the market cornered in terms of creating drama---in addition to the drama queens, there are also plenty of drama kings out there.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 80 (view)
 
She said she doesn't have time for a bf but told me she has one..
Posted: 11/7/2017 2:28:05 PM

I can see it being dull if every sentence started with an "I"


Which it did. You made my point.


I agree -- but I wouldn't compare an ad of "myself" to day-to-day conversation, which is why I don't think that 'rule' applies to profiles.


My preference is for profiles that flow more like day-to-day conversation. The closer it reads like regular conversation, the more appealing the profile is to me. Lists are the worst, IMO.


But like a profile, if she's going about with You's at rapid fire -- then a red flag would be considered.


We all have our own individual red flags. Honestly, I haven't encountered any profiles with an excessive amount of the word, "you" in them. I can't even imagine how a profile like that would look.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 135 (view)
 
Are Looks so important???
Posted: 11/7/2017 12:34:22 PM
^^^^ With me, it depends on how the long hair is styled. I've never been a fan of long layered shag styles or mullets.

Getting back to the subject of general attractiveness, I sometimes see men's profiles where they describe themselves as being "reasonably attractive". That always cracks me up.

What is "reasonably attractive", as opposed to "unreasonably attractive"? And if I don't find the man attractive, does that mean I'm being unreasonable?
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 133 (view)
 
Are Looks so important???
Posted: 11/7/2017 10:45:54 AM

of course, there are the ladies who "look really nice" simply by wearing something to show off their b00bs. We men don't really have a body part that just needs to be put on display to get the gals a-running our way :)


Not true. I've known of women who are very attracted to men with a good head of hair. :)
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 78 (view)
 
She said she doesn't have time for a bf but told me she has one..
Posted: 11/7/2017 7:59:47 AM


If the pronoun, "I" or contraction, "I'm" appears in a person's profile too many times, that can be seen as a red flag, as well. Oops!


I wouldn't think so. It's about "me", not "you". Now, if their profile had tons of "YOU" -- then I would see that as a red flag, if one's going to go by the 1-word-often-used alert. :)


Notice I said “too many times”. If just about every sentence in the profile begins with “I” or “I’m”, it makes the person sound dull and self-absorbed.

I wouldn’t go so far as to call the person a narcissist, but the profile shouldn’t just be all about them if they’re trying to pique someone else’s interest. One wouldn’t begin every sentence with “I” if one were having a conversation with someone face-to-face.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 69 (view)
 
She said she doesn't have time for a bf but told me she has one..
Posted: 11/6/2017 2:09:56 PM

I’m not attracted to narcissism. I consider that a red flag.


If the pronoun, "I" or contraction, "I'm" appears in a person's profile too many times, that can be seen as a red flag, as well. Oops!
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
drama-free
Posted: 11/6/2017 11:23:50 AM
Try this thread for some insight:

https://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts16658268.aspx
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Why no posts here?
Posted: 11/6/2017 10:37:29 AM
Because it's easier to just go to one of the many video poker bars here in Las Vegas, and strike up a conversation with the woman or man playing next to you.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Eyes or Chest - Where to Look?
Posted: 11/6/2017 10:23:24 AM
The eyes are an important way to read a person's body language. Eyes should come first---before tramp stamps, gramps stamps, or no stamps.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 7 (view)
 
She anwers msg, but never asks in return
Posted: 11/6/2017 9:53:09 AM
It could be a signal of lukewarm interest---but it could also mean that the women are shy, or they're not very good conversationalists.

You have nothing to lose by suggesting a specific time and place to meet them for a drink. If they hem and haw, you'll have your answer.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Talking for 7 weeks. Now she is on here.
Posted: 11/6/2017 7:35:58 AM
You're her plan B. Whenever things aren't going well with the guy(s) she really wants, she comes running back to you. You're there as an ego boost only. She's wasting your time, and has no intention of meeting you. Cut her off.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 126 (view)
 
Men Over 70
Posted: 11/4/2017 7:08:46 PM

2)"hourglass shaped nose?"

>>>HS, check out the lady in Pig's profile, behind him at Halloween, and draw lines from the bridge of her nose, ie, her eyebrows, to where her nostrils flare out. See how the bridge of her nose tapers in, like a classic hourglass waist?


I don't see it. Her Halloween makeup is perhaps giving you that impression?
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 122 (view)
 
Men Over 70
Posted: 11/4/2017 1:25:14 PM

Its the hourglass-shaped nose.


Hourglass-shaped nose? WTH?? ⌛
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Transgendered Woman Appearing in Search Results
Posted: 11/4/2017 1:16:17 PM
All straight men on here receive profile matches from transgendered women. You are not being singled out. POF considers them to be women, rather than men.

Try not to take it personally, and just move on to the next profile.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 114 (view)
 
Men Over 70
Posted: 11/3/2017 11:28:56 AM
Not everyone who doesn't want to be married (or remarried) comes from a family with a history of unhappy marriages. Not all people who don't want to be married are male.

There are a myriad of reasons why some people are put off by marriage---e.g. they don't want to marry for financial reasons, they don't want children, their jobs or lifestyles require extensive travel, etc., etc.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 110 (view)
 
Men Over 70
Posted: 11/2/2017 8:20:56 PM
I didn't see any resemblance to Victoria Principal. If I were to compare her with a celebrity, I'd say she looks more like a young Linda Ronstadt.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 106 (view)
 
Men Over 70
Posted: 11/2/2017 11:21:59 AM
If your prospective partner is unwilling to sign a prenup, don't marry that person.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Help - My (ex) boyfriend blocked me from all his social media after a fight
Posted: 10/30/2017 9:19:06 AM
Leave him alone, and don't attempt to contact him again. You accused him of lying to you. I think he needs to look for a more secure woman who trusts him, and doesn't flip out on him if he's not at her constant beck and call.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 169 (view)
 
Does anyone follow DATING ETIQUETTE anymore?
Posted: 10/25/2017 7:41:52 PM
I fail to see why you'd quote a post I made a year and a half ago.

Obsessive much?
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 167 (view)
 
Does anyone follow DATING ETIQUETTE anymore?
Posted: 10/25/2017 5:21:15 PM
Purely conjecture on your part.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 165 (view)
 
Does anyone follow DATING ETIQUETTE anymore?
Posted: 10/24/2017 5:44:06 PM
Analytical is fine, as long as her analysis matches his analysis. If she disagrees with him, suddenly, she is "over-analytical" and "high-strung".
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 148 (view)
 
Women making the first move...
Posted: 10/23/2017 8:56:35 AM

I had indicated that I did *NOT* pursue the possibility to a successful conclusion. So, what is the point of your missive, other than sarcastic condescension? Is it jealousy?


C'mon, Arlo. You were already baiting us older women by calling us "shrews" before we even had a chance to respond to your post. Now you want to act all wounded and indignant? Give me a break.

You:

The point is, there *ARE* hot girls out there who are geeky, and who will pay attention to guys like me. Now, let the judgement from the older shrews begin...
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 76 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/22/2017 2:46:11 PM

Mostly, because those things were of an intimate nature, and are really none of your business.


So we're supposed to take your word for it that she was f---ing with you, when you won't tell us what signals she was sending you? You said you didn't have sexual relations with her. I think it's more of a case of your misinterpreting her signals, rather than her sending out mixed ones.

I'd lay odds you came on to her, and at some point, she rejected your advances. That's not f---ing with you. You were warned repeatedly that she didn't want anything serious.


Why are you apparently so irked that I finally smelled the coffee, that I didn't stick around to have my self-esteem driven into the ground, and are apparently unable to believe that maybe, just *MAYBE*, *SHE* was making me pay for the sins of her (soon-to-be) ex?


She wasn't *making* you do anything. You willingly pursued a still married/emotionally entangled woman. That's YOUR fault. I'm not irked with you at all---I just think you should admit your culpability in this FAIL, and stop dumping all the blame on the woman.

There's an old saying: "If you don't want to get burned, then stay out of the kitchen."
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 72 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/22/2017 12:24:30 PM

And then, ya know, sent signals that she *DID* want more.


What signals? You still didn't answer my question.


Regardless, she needs to finalize her divorce.


If her divorce isn't finalized, it means she's STILL MARRIED. That should have been your first cue not to pursue her. Her warning that she didn't want anything serious was a secondary cue.


She related a little story, that she had met another guy a while back, and after two months, he had changed his FB status to "In a relationship", so she broke it off with him. That should have been my cue to exit stage left.


That was somewhere along your third or fourth or fifth cue not to pursue her. The signs were all there. Were you a glutton for punishment, or what?
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 69 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/21/2017 2:09:55 PM

*sigh* Once again, for the slow students, class...

She was giving me mixed signals.


Arlo, what exactly are these "mixed signals" that she supposedly gave you? That was never adequately explained by you. Signals can be very subjective. Two different people can interpret the same signals differently.

For example, a guy with high self-esteem who thinks he's good-looking might interpret a certain signal from a woman as a challenge, and up his game. Another man with low self-esteem who thinks he's fugly might interpret the same signal from a woman as a personal rejection, and stop pursuing her.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 103 (view)
 
Las Vegas Carnage Questions
Posted: 10/20/2017 1:32:37 PM

since every Saturday is "Greasy food beer watch a crappy sci-fi movie night" ...of course when needed I would have to go to the "yule liquor store"


Isn't "yule liquor" a play on the words, "you'll lick her"?

Speaking of licking her, a prostitute has come forward, and has sold her story to a tabloid, claiming that she was Stephen Paddock's sex slave:

http://radaronline.com/photos/vegas-shooter-stephen-paddock-sex-slave-tells-all/
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Are there no good single women left?
Posted: 10/20/2017 12:43:17 PM


I don't pursue women in a relationship, period.


Therein lies your problem for real.

The kind of woman you want has the men lined up and breaking down her door. She is careful to choose a man who cares enough to go after her. And she'll have plenty to choose from.


In all fairness to the OP, I think what he meant by his statement is that he doesn't pursue women who are already in a relationship with someone else. As I said before, I don't think English is his first language.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 60 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/20/2017 8:20:25 AM

when either a man or a woman repeatedly tells you something that would normally kill off any other relationship chances...don't have high hopes. They're telling you, and you specifically, this for a reason. and its not to play hard to get :)


I happen to agree here. This is why I don't think she was f---ing with him. F---ing with him would imply that she was intentionally trying to hurt him. He may have felt hurt by her actions, but I don't think that was her intent. If anything, she tried to warn him several times that she didn't want anything serious as a way to spare his feelings.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 424 (view)
 
Sitting, kneeling or hiding out in the lockeroom during our anthem
Posted: 10/19/2017 11:10:51 AM


Lord have mercy, a blond, white woman living in Florida thinks she can talk about what a black man should and should not do to protest the injustice of black men being murdered by the police


ForumsLady,, you are too kind.

What about white cross dressers talking about injustices???

;0P


See now this is a perfect example of that passive/aggressive crap that Forumslady has accused ME of. You and she are both guilty of it. You two can both dish it out, but you can't take it---you're constantly disparaging the physical appearance or gender of other women---(coincidentally, it's always THIN women)---yet when they decide to defend themselves, they are 'itches.

You reap what you sow. If you expect others to be nicer to you, try being nicer to them.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 98 (view)
 
Las Vegas Carnage Questions
Posted: 10/18/2017 10:01:10 PM
https://www.reviewjournal.com/opinion/opinion-columns/wayne-allyn-root/commentary-more-questions-surrounding-the-las-vegas-strip-shooting/
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 550 (view)
 
Men height vs women weight
Posted: 10/18/2017 1:28:43 PM
^^^^^ Forumslady, not only are you passive/aggressive, your posting history shows that you are also a liar.

https://forums.plentyoffish.com/usermessages.aspx?user_Id=134796198
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 545 (view)
 
Men height vs women weight
Posted: 10/18/2017 9:18:41 AM
Of course some men will lie and say it's all about endurance and keeping up with them, when the real reason is that they aren't physically attracted to overweight women. They just don't want to hurt her feelings.

The good news is that there are some males out there who don't mind a few extra pounds. Kermit the Frog is one.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 49 (view)
 
On varifocals and what my mother told me...
Posted: 10/16/2017 10:45:53 AM

Although I don't currently have a "no drama" paragraph on my profile, I do prefer to avoid drama and I would define drama as starting stupid arguments due to being insecure


Don't date insecure people.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 45 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/15/2017 6:24:17 PM

I quite clearly said "sense of wonder", not "naivety". Maybe you need to purchase a thesaurus, and learn that "sense of wonder" is not synonymous with "naivety".


Admittedly, "naive" wasn't the most accurate choice of words, but you still shouldn't have a child's sense of wonder at your age. A child views life through the lens of innocence, purity and curiosity. You're neither innocent nor pure.

You might be curious, but having only one out of three traits doesn't give you a child's sense of wonder. There is one other childlike trait you do have, however. Stubbornness.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 42 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/15/2017 4:57:08 PM

There is a significant difference between approaching life with a child's sense of wonder, and being an immature little twit who's scheming to see a guy in defiance of mommy. I'm embarrassed for you that I have to explain this.


A 51 year old man shouldn’t approach life with a child’s sense of wonder, though---at least not as far as the dating realm is concerned. Children are naïve, but they have an excuse for it, since they’re still young and haven’t yet experienced much in life.

You don’t have that excuse. You should have known better than to try to force a relationship with a woman fresh out of a divorce, who clearly stated several times that she wasn’t ready for anything serious.

If anyone was being a twit in this situation, it was you. I’m embarrassed for you that you couldn’t see that. Hopefully you’ve learned something from all this, and won’t repeat the same mistake again---but somehow, I doubt that will be the case.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 40 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/15/2017 9:01:18 AM

Yes, I *AM* in touch with my Inner Child, and approach things with a sense of wonder. Thank you for recognizing and appreciating my joie de vivre...


So it’s okay for you to be in touch with your inner child and act immaturely---yet when she was in touch with her inner child and she told you that her mother would kill her if she saw the picture, she was f---ing with you? Got it.


Yes, try being in emotional limbo for a month, where she says one thing and her actions indicate another - *THAT'S* always a lot of fun!


Her actions didn’t indicate anything other than what she originally told you, which was that she wasn’t looking for anything serious.


If you'll recall, my OP stated that there was no point to this little story, and I was happy to leave it there - until you meddlers barged in, and offered, unsolicited, your half-baked theories as to why I crashed-and-burned, when I did not, in fact crash-and-burn: I simply ended an untenable situation.


You should know how these forums work by now. If you didn't want meddlers or unsolicited advice, why did you post this story? Were you just seeking validation that this woman was leading you on, and you were totally in the right?

I’m sticking to my original premise that you two were merely looking for different things---but if the way in which you ended your friendship with her salvages your ego and helps you to sleep at night, okie dokie.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 34 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/14/2017 5:31:30 PM

Get your hearing checked, then. My friend is married and female.


You never stated the sex of your friend, but the more you reveal, the more I'm convinced that you were the one acting childish, and that woman did nothing wrong.


BTW, that should've been "i.e.", not "e.g.".


I.e. and e.g. are both Latin abbreviations. E.g. stands for exempli gratia and means “for example.” I.e. is the abbreviation for id est and means “in other words.”

Since I was giving an example, my use of "e.g." was correct.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 30 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/14/2017 4:25:30 PM

I done told ya: to tease said friend. It was, I thought, a rather innocuous request, until she informed me otherwise.


How would showing a picture of yourself with a woman you've been dating be teasing your friend? It sounds more to me like a case of bragging---e.g. "I got me a hot lady, and you don't have one!"

If that's what you had in mind by "teasing", you would have been using her.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Are there no good single women left?
Posted: 10/14/2017 10:58:25 AM

HTML fail there guys but I hope you see my point.


To quote, you don't capitalize the word, "quote".

I don't think I was being unfair in my assessment. The OP's profile needs a lot of work. Many women will simply click past it, because he has no photo. The few that open it will be unimpressed.

The OP hasn't bothered to follow the suggestions given to him. It's doubtful he's even been back to the forums to view the comments.
 halcyon_skies
Joined: 7/27/2015
Msg: 27 (view)
 
An amusing anecdote...
Posted: 10/14/2017 1:13:51 AM
What was the purpose of taking the photo, other than to show her off to your friend?

Does she have kids who might have been bothered by the photo if they saw it on Facebook?
 
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