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 Author Thread: no pic: worth the risk?
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 378 (view)
 
no pic: worth the risk?
Posted: 10/18/2012 5:11:57 PM
I agree with that 100 percent, plus it's hilarious.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Proper ID
Posted: 8/21/2012 9:18:11 PM
Check my id on a date. Are you kidding me? Why don't you just sit in the corner of the parking lot with a pair of binoculars. No wonder I don't date anymore.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Do pets make a difference when considering a profile
Posted: 6/19/2012 9:47:22 PM
I have a cat that purrs when she sees me and kills mice from the field behind my house. I also have a 7 month old black lab that rips up the mail and steals my socks but he is so happy to see me when I get home from work and I wouldn't have it any other way. The man for me will love it too.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 72 (view)
 
what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/15/2011 10:24:50 PM
Someone to smile with.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
sex vs.oral
Posted: 10/11/2011 6:37:07 PM
You are so right "army mom". c'mon, let's be real, besides an older woman has more skills.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Women faking orgasm
Posted: 10/2/2011 5:03:09 PM
OMG mikkie_maus, so true but lets' face it, so can women, probably even more deviously.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 10/2/2011 4:59:12 PM
Watching it together can spice things up!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Being stood up
Posted: 9/10/2011 7:07:31 PM
It never feels good to be stood up and I am sorry that it happened to you. I have been stood up twice by men on pof. It did hurt my feelings at the time but only for an instant. They were obviously not the one.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 149 (view)
 
How long for cunnilingus?
Posted: 9/10/2011 6:09:26 PM
Some men are oral freaks and some aren't. There is no right or wrong amount of time. It all depends on the individual(s). I always say that I'll stay there as long as you do.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 117 (view)
 
Friends with Benefits... WHY!?
Posted: 8/28/2011 7:05:30 PM
Let me preface this by saying this is what works for me and I am in no way saying everyone should do it, but I have had fwb relationships and they have worked for me in the past. It is not a drunken, one night stand sex fest but someone I respect and respects me and we actually like each other.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Phone Sex
Posted: 8/18/2011 8:41:55 PM
Phone sex can be exciting, however, both persons have to be willing and equal participants.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 307 (view)
 
Short Men
Posted: 8/13/2011 7:23:29 PM
I agree with you metalgrrl37. As a woman who is 5'10, I feel more feminine with a man taller than I with the whole heel thing and such, but I have had great dates with shorter men as well.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Is it disrespectful to date multiple people at once?
Posted: 8/13/2011 7:01:28 PM
I agree. I am a free agent until I meet someone that makes me not want to be.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 247 (view)
 
Double standard on Oral?
Posted: 8/10/2011 9:07:29 PM
They don't call it a job for nothing. You can't just slide it around in your mouth and hope for the best. If you want to please your man, you have to take your time, different positions, different speeds, different amounts of pressure, depth and so on. Make it where, when he has an orgasm, his mind is blown too.

I expect the same amount of time and involvement to be given to my pleasure too. I usually am on the same wave length and feeling pretty confident that we are sexually compatible before I get to the sexual point, however I have been sadly disappointed in the past.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 122 (view)
 
the nice guy...are you willing to put in the time?
Posted: 8/1/2011 10:00:40 PM
OP, you are right, nice is not enough. You are obviously a very intelligent, attractive and well educated woman who has worked very hard to reach the point in life that you are at. I am not saying that only a man with a advanced degree will make you happy, but I venture to say that he will be intelligent, articulate and driven in whatever field he is in. Did I mention that I have a 29 year old son that just graduated from Georgetown Law School....really I do?
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 77 (view)
 
bald guys
Posted: 8/1/2011 9:37:45 PM
Shaved heads are very sexy to me, but so are Sean Connery and Ed Harris. It's all about the man under the hair.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 207 (view)
 
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 7/23/2011 7:00:25 PM
Gee whiz, I hope so. I want the red hot, can't live without you, unpredictable, inconvenient, take my breath away kind of love.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
He betrayed and lied
Posted: 7/21/2011 10:23:05 PM
OP, you are a lovely woman and the right man will be lucky to be with you. I believe he is out there for you and I. As far as being a police officer, no profession is exempt from indecision, dishonesty or betrayal. Let your heart heal and you will trust again. Keep the faith!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
55 and Holding
Posted: 7/20/2011 7:22:09 PM
They've lied to me about not only their age, but their height. Sure, I prefer men taller than me, but that is not the only factor of course. I have dated quite a few men shorter than me, but never twice if they lied about it.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
 
What should I do about this girl?
Posted: 7/19/2011 8:00:32 PM
I think you need to move on and let this one go. You don't want to be the fall back guy every time she breaks up with someone and until she finds someone new.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 143 (view)
 
over 45 men and marriage???
Posted: 7/19/2011 7:30:14 PM
Wow, this thread is making me sad. I would love and plan to get married again, however just not right now. I have sons in college that I still support financially and that is why I have 2 jobs. In 2-3 years when I can quit one job, then it will be feasible. I would never impart my financial burden on anyone.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Should I pay?
Posted: 7/17/2011 3:54:52 PM
Hell to the no! Do not give her the money. She can finance the surgery, or get hew new boyfriend, parents, siblings, or bank loan to finance it. Better yet, she can get a second job and save up for it if she wants it that bad.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 101 (view)
 
A question about Oral sex
Posted: 7/17/2011 3:32:38 PM
In a sexual situation, you should never do anything that you feel uncomfortable or disgusted by. If it's not your thing, it's not your thing. I have many girlfriends that hate giving oral sex to their man, just hate it. I on the other hand love it, receiving and especially giving. It is a huge turn on to know that I have made someone feel blown away, so to speak.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 74 (view)
 
How long should a woman remain married to a controlling verbally abusive alcoholic?
Posted: 7/16/2011 11:44:13 AM
Unless you have been through it, you don't know. I cannot speak on abusive relationships, but alcoholics I can. I grew up with 2 alcoholic parents, and neither would admit they were because (a) in the seventies, you didn't talk about those things and (b) neither drank during the day and were not in the gutter drunks as they described alcoholics to be. So as much as I despised people that drank a lot and swore never to be like that or love anyone like that, I had 2 long term relationships with alcoholic men. I took years and I do mean years of self realization, self esteem and research to learn why I chose men like that. Why did I think I could "fix"What about them was attractive and triggered my affection. I don't have it all figured out yet. It is a daily process. This will sound terribly simple, but I had to learn to love myself enough to want better.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 81 (view)
 
opinions please - is my friend bisexual?
Posted: 7/16/2011 11:00:08 AM
He's on the down low Joe.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Double standard on Oral?
Posted: 7/11/2011 8:33:00 PM
I can count one one hand how many men have done it to me AS MUCH as I have done it to them. I am by no means a big ole ho, but I have been divorced for 12 years. It's never good when you count on it, only when you don't expect it.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 198 (view)
 
Only 17% of American (USA) women like giving oral sex?
Posted: 7/11/2011 7:50:04 PM
I have to admit that a lot of my girlfriends hate doing it and do it in an obligatory way. You either love to do it or hate to do it. I personally love to do it because I'm good at it and it is a huge turn on when the man I am with is getting off on it, just the same when they get off making a lady go nuts when they do it.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 397 (view)
 
Erectile Dysfunction
Posted: 7/11/2011 7:34:54 PM
Often times it is not physical, it is psychological. If you care about the person, patience goes a long way.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 173 (view)
 
It's Not Over at 45
Posted: 7/9/2011 8:07:14 PM
The first half may be over, but the second half has only just begun for me!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What are the right signals?
Posted: 7/2/2011 8:17:49 PM
My thoughts are that you do not any emotion invested in this yet, let it go and chalk it up to sometimes this happens.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 239 (view)
 
Oral Sex Disgusts Me
Posted: 7/2/2011 6:10:20 PM
My oral region, my vagina, my kitty, my junk, oh what the hell, my ****, is immaculate. You could eat off of it!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 103 (view)
 
Going out by yourself.
Posted: 7/2/2011 5:56:50 PM
Amen Dawntreader, I agree wholeheartedly. As I don't go out that often, when I do, it is very often by myself. I prefer my own company verses going out on a bad date or because of any social stigma. I don't get shit faced and while some men think I cruisin for a hook up, most people are pleasant and fun to be around.

Diana
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 337 (view)
 
What words would you LEAST like to hear after sex?
Posted: 6/25/2011 7:38:51 AM
Wow, I never got it that good in prison!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 105 (view)
 
Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 6/24/2011 10:45:39 AM
I will admit to being leery of men that have never been married and are say, over 40. But being that I have been divorced twice, I sure don't have the answer either.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Ladies do u perfer 4play or striaght to the point.
Posted: 6/23/2011 6:49:43 PM
Foreplay, always.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 515 (view)
 
Is sex as important to you as it once was?
Posted: 2/23/2010 12:44:43 PM
It is in the sense that I enjoy it more now than ever because I understand it more now that ever. I know what I like and am comfortable about expressing it. As hot as a good throw down is, isn't love better? Love and great sex, does it exist?
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Dating people with problem kids
Posted: 11/23/2009 6:00:02 PM
You need to break it off for your own sake, before the feeling like a jerk turns into resentment and hatred. Deep down she knows what she needs to do too, she just has to find the strength to do it for her own sake and sanity.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 132 (view)
 
Okay, is turning 45 the worst or what?
Posted: 9/23/2009 9:46:07 PM
Birthdays have never bothered me and turning 45 was no exception. They never bothered me until now. I will be turning 50 in a little over a year and this one has really brought me to distraction. I don't know if it is because I am not with someone right now, or the reality that I have not accomplished a great number of things that I had hoped too by this age. I don't feel this way all of the time, just sometimes when it's late, and I can't sleep, I find myself obsessing about it.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Ever been asked,Why aren't you married?
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:52:36 AM
I am asked that as well as, "Why don't you a have a man, or, Why are you single?", as if there must be something wrong with me if I am not with someone. Sure, I could have a man, that's not hard, but I don't want "a" man, I want "the" man, that's hard. I hung up my serial dating shoes long ago.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Mind Boggling
Posted: 7/15/2009 7:15:50 PM
It's as simple as, who the hell knows.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Good Girl?
Posted: 7/11/2009 2:03:40 PM
Just because you have been married more than once and have children out of wedlock does not make you a bad girl. The opinion that matterrs that most here is yours. There are always going to be people that condemn you for your lifestyle. Good or bad, only you know the truth. Besides, a little bad can be good.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
What ever happened to Dating Around?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:43:14 PM
I sometimes date more than one person at a time and no, I don't tell them right away. That is not information they need to know on the first or second date. Now if the dating continues beyond a second date or so, or becomes intimate, I will share that information. And them sometimes, like now, I go for months without dating anyone. That is the ebb and flow of lfe, because when dating around doesn't equate to sleeping around, often there is no second date.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
punctuality and doing what you say
Posted: 7/2/2009 9:47:00 PM
It is tremendously rude and inconsiderate to not call when you say you are or to stand someone up and not call to give a reason. It is never okay to just leave someone sitting there waiting for you. I think most of us have been there, I know I have.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
relationships and being widowed
Posted: 6/24/2009 4:27:39 PM
I dated a widower for over a year. It was doomed from the start for a variety of reasons. We met only 6 months after she passed away and he had not dealt with it on an emotional level. Physically she was gone, but she was ever present emotionally. He was still in the "we" stage, him and her. I did not begrudge him that because I knew that she was a very important part of his life. It was just too hard for me to compete with that.
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Why Is It That Guys Want Sex On The First Night?
Posted: 6/20/2009 9:40:05 PM
I think that your pictures are very tasteful, sexy yes, but what's wrong with that? It doesn't mean you're ready to get it on, right? You go girl, keep being fabulous!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 126 (view)
 
Is red hot romance possible after 50?
Posted: 6/13/2009 8:46:03 PM
Most certainly!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Father wants to see child after 11 years of no contact........
Posted: 6/10/2009 9:22:49 PM
Having both her mother and her father in her life can only benefit your daughter. That being said, he must be responsible and not invloved with illegal activities. Try not to hold his past against him if he is trying in earnest to change and forge a relationship with your daughter. Don't force her to meet him in person though yet. Start with written correspondence and let her gradually get to know him at her pace. In time and with luck, she will forgive him. Best of luck to all of you.

Diana
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Should men act their age?
Posted: 6/9/2009 7:38:31 PM
I may not be able to do all of the things that I did when I was in my twenties, but the things I can do, I do a lot better now!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
I'm really just having a great time...anyone else?
Posted: 6/6/2009 7:33:24 PM
You have to make the best of you what you're dealt and a positive attitude helps. This might sound simplistic, but I feel that good things happen to good people. A far as "the one" being out there......... absolutely!
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 207 (view)
 
Women that wear too much makeup at our age....
Posted: 6/2/2009 9:22:50 PM
I wear minimal makeup at work, and slighty more when I go out. Only difference, I wear lipstick when I go out. Every woman wants to feel pretty.
 
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