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 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 73 (view)
 
Things men and women don’t know about each other?
Posted: 8/16/2013 11:57:08 AM
That men and women really aren't all that different from each other, and we'd get a lot further with each other if we stopped obsessing over such an oudated belief that there is.

Yes, there are some differences relating to how we deal with our bodies and hormones, but most of it just facile stereotypes and preconceptions that rarely apply when you actually get to know somebody. There will always be exceptions to the rules.

Everyone is an individual. Treat them as such.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Dating a Suicide Survier
Posted: 7/13/2013 7:02:21 AM

And there I was thinking that for once somebody had actually taken notice of what were pretty supportive posts with some positive suggestions and reflections on his position.

What? Surely taking the decision to step out of the dating game until he feels more comfortable and ready for it *is* exactly "taking notice of what were pretty supportive posts with some positive suggestions and reflections on his position"?
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Dating a Suicide Survier
Posted: 7/12/2013 12:52:33 PM
If I met someone who had been through the same circumstances as yours, I would do my best to listen and understand.

Every human being has their share of hardships and traumas, and we all have our own unique baggage, whether we'd like to admit it or not. I see no reason someone should be adverse to dating someone whose been through what you've experienced, as long as their heart is good and they are kind - for what its worth, you seem to have that vibe.

If someone asks about it, don't elaborate too much about it unless they specifically want to know. It's okay to explain it, but going into too much detail too easily would probably freak most people out. If someone decides to judge you for it, don't waste a second more of your life on them.

Personally, I believe you should take time for yourself. Grieve more if you have to. It feels to me like you're still having trouble letting people in. Don't feel like you have to rush it. You will be ready when you are ready.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Disability and Dating
Posted: 7/4/2013 5:31:13 AM
@LadyC, Much appreciation for your post. It's encouraging to believe that there will be people who won't treat my disability as an automatic limitation. I know as a person that it is the sort of thing I would accept in others were there a connection there.

@dingbat, Thank you for your perspective as someone whose seems to have been through similar circumstances. It helps to know what kind of situations I may have to deal with in the future.


"I really disagree with putting it in your post. That puts it out there for the whole world to see."

I understand where you're coming from with this, but unfortunately, its very the kind or disability that is basically "out there for the whole world to see". I'm almost completely reliant ton a cane for balance and support at all time, sometimes to a chair on the worst on days, and I have fairly noticeable difficulty walking anything more than a few feet.

It's pretty the first thing anyone notices about me, just above my devishly good looks. (LOL)

I'm not admitting that for pity. I just figure its relevant to point out that its very much a visible disability, so keeping it to myself isn't really an option.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Things men and women don’t know about each other?
Posted: 6/24/2013 5:12:44 AM
1 - No two of us are the same.

This is the only sentence in that whole document that matters.

Everyone is an individual, and nobody is defined by their gender.

I laugh every time I see a post about how "all men are like that" or "all women are like that". It seems depressingly naive to me.

I'm honest. I'm stable. I'm faithful. I'm reliable and romantic. I'm smart and observant and empathetic. I'm flawed but genuine. I don't sleep around, I don't cheat on people. I don't make excuses when I do things wrong. Reading these forums, you'd think women believe that men like don't exist anymore, that we're all users and ***hole. But it would also be naive of me to assume that just because these women are bitter, all women think that way.

Treat everyone you meet as a new person. Learn who they are, and don't judge.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Disability and Dating
Posted: 6/24/2013 4:54:51 AM
Thank you to everyone who replies to this thread.

I would love to respond to everyone directly, but there's been so many replies that I wouldn't even know where to begin. I have read and considered the perspective of every last one of your comments, and I appreciate the compassion, respect and (above all) honesty of them all.

I agree that I should state it in my profile. I like to pride myself on being an honest and genuine person, so its the right thing to do. If someone isn't able to openly accept my limitations and imperfections, they wouldn't really be the sort of person I would want to know anyway.

I would rather be damned if I do than damned if I don't. Hahaha.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Disability and Dating
Posted: 6/16/2013 8:03:39 PM
@Hiker, I used to have in it my profile, but then someone suggested that it would only put people off by mentioning it straight off the bat. The opinions I get on it keep going back and forth. Some say I should tell people after a few conversations, others say I should mention it right up front. I would never not mention it before meeting them though - that would be unfair and selfish.

"However, it does mean that you need to adapt to your changing disability and plan for how things may be different in the future."

Yeah, I agree. It's been a lot of change in a very short span of time. I'm not going to lie, it's been a difficult adjustment. I feel its selfish of me to expect someone to adjust with me.

@Belle, Yeah, that is a good way of phrasing it. I don't go into relationships with any inherent expectations, but settling down in the near future is a nice thought.

It's the kind of disability that is pretty up front though. Depending on the severity on the day, I will either be using a stick or a chair, so it isn't really something that one can hold off on pointing out until a second or third date.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Disability and Dating
Posted: 6/16/2013 7:36:02 PM
I would like to stress something before I continue writing this, because I know how easily stuff like this can get misconstrued and misinterpreted on here... this is *not* a pity post. I am not asking for anyone to feel sorry for me, to come across as some sort of victim, or expect a perfect answer. I am genuinely looking for advice regarding my situation, even if the answers aren't necessarily what I'd like to hear.

So, long story short, I have been dealing with a progressive physical disability over the past two years that has been increasingly limiting my ability to walk and get around. Some days it is okay, and I can get about like any normal person, but 9 days out 10 I'm limited to my personal residence. It is a very pain inducing disability, and it screws with my focus on concentration a lot during the worst flare-ups.

It is very likely something that is not going to go away, so I have to accept it as part of who am I. I've talked to people despite this thing, gone on a few dates, and even made some long term friends, but I haven't developed anything too serious with anyone in a while. But I've always had a few people tell me straight up that my disability was too much baggage to deal with.

Is it wrong of me to put myself out there for dating / potential relationships? It *does* limit what I can give. I know I have a good heart and a lot of genuine qualities to give someone, and nobody wants to be lonely... but I just don't know if it is fair of me to expect someone to deal with it.

Again, I'm looking for honest answers, not pity. I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read this and reply.

Thank you.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Do you ever just get tired of dating?
Posted: 6/16/2013 7:02:57 PM
A physical disability that leaves me mostly bedridden ridden has pretty much put my dating life on hold. It's something that the few people I have gone on dates with over the last year or so tend to find too much baggage to deal with. Don't get me wrong, I don't blame them and I can understand why. It just... makes things a bit lonely and difficult sometimes.

So I've kinda given up on looking.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 349 (view)
 
Natural and hairy women?
Posted: 5/31/2013 12:29:13 PM
American women love to denature themselves, as if it made them more attractive.

The same is sadly true of men as well, at least as far as the media is concerned.

Hair on the male is often nowadays presented as criminally unattractive, and men are expected to have completely hairless chests 90% of the time, which I just find... weird. At most, they're presented with some light stubble. The male gender is as criminally under-sexualised in the medium as women are over-sexualised.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
How much of a difference do pictures make?
Posted: 5/31/2013 12:24:30 PM
That new picture is great. It's clear, natural, high quality, and shows you smiling.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
How much of a difference do pictures make?
Posted: 5/28/2013 12:37:53 AM
I like people having photos simply because I prefer to have an image in my head of what the person I'm talking to looks like. I've never discounted talking to a person because of a lack of one though.

It's part of one's identity in a rather intrinsic way, but its not everything. There is far more to learn about someone beyond their face.


Am I right in saying that my pictures are of very poor quality, then?

Your third photo is so dark you can barely see it, but the rest are perfectly fine. I think your second and firth photos are better then the one you're currently using though. Your smile really lights up your face. Don't hide it. <3


Is getting professional shots a waste of time?

Unless you want to attract people who only desire manufactured, carefully coordinated beauty, yes, it's absolutely a waste of them. I don't get the vibe that that's the kind of person you're looking to attract.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 59 (view)
 
My History on sex (getting laid)
Posted: 5/28/2013 12:30:33 AM
It's just a casual self help tip that doesn't really mean anything or have any real weight to it. They don't know what to say, so they just fall back the generic lines for advice.

Sex is whatever you want it to be. If you want to wait for something more meaningful, that's great.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Great sex without orgasm - sounds weird, but anyone experienc this?
Posted: 5/28/2013 12:27:47 AM
Yeah, I think science figured that out long ago.

It's called "self masturbation".
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Great sex without orgasm - sounds weird, but anyone experienc this?
Posted: 5/28/2013 12:18:43 AM
It's the intimacy that does it.

It's not always about the orgasm. Sometimes the feeling is enough.
The intensity, the desire, and the overwhelming sense of closeness.
That's the best part for me. I get more turned on by giving than getting.
Take time with sensuality, savour every moment of it. It's worth it.
Those thoughts and feelings will stay with you
Longer than the memory of an orgasm ever will.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 344 (view)
 
Natural and hairy women?
Posted: 5/28/2013 12:08:26 AM
I'm old enough at this point that I actually remember when a woman not being completely hairless from head to toe wasn't considered weird and unnatural.

If its okay for men, its okay for women. People only think that its unnatural because that's the image they've been presented with. I don't have a preference one way or the other though.

The whole "men like shaven women because look like little girls" thing is bullcrap. No, women don't, unless you happen to be dating nothing but lithe and petite women. If that's the first suggestion you're mind goes to, it says a lot more about you than them.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 120 (view)
 
How are you finding this site for dates?
Posted: 5/21/2013 4:50:29 AM
As a self-professed freak, I offer my apologies to you personally for "ruining" it for everyone else, peasgus. =P

I've longed since come to the realisation that "freaks" is basically a euphemism for "people with actual personality".
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Are larger balls an indication of higher testosterone levels?
Posted: 5/13/2013 8:04:39 AM
Foreskin is how the penis was designed. It isn't indicative of anything other than the fact that someone wasn't circumcised.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
tips on becoming a better sex partner
Posted: 5/9/2013 10:27:32 AM

You're just wrong... women don't like girly men and I can't stand guys who would wet themselves just trying to get a date. If you are referring to my resident x stalker red head. Good luck with that but I suggest becoming an expert in borderline personality disorders before going there.


Ell ooh ell.

Whatever helps you sleep at night, buddy.

Lesson #1: Every woman is different and likes different things.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
tips on becoming a better sex partner
Posted: 5/8/2013 8:53:51 PM
I have little or no respect for you guys here that think talking like girls will get you somewhere. It's pathetic.

Thankfully there are many of the opposite sex who seem to disagree with you.

<3
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
tips on becoming a better sex partner
Posted: 5/8/2013 3:47:53 PM

In other words, you aren't getting any....

You are a sad and bitter man.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
tips on becoming a better sex partner
Posted: 5/8/2013 8:24:53 AM
*still weeping over the loss of his mancard*
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
tips on becoming a better sex partner
Posted: 5/7/2013 7:38:21 AM
I understand... the world's oldest profession and a trillion dollar porn industry is build around the fact that guys think like you

Then they must be doing something wrong, because I've never given a single cent to either. My life isn't lacking in any means of sex, whatever your apparently challenged sense of masculinity would like to believe. I just choose not to indulge in it unless I'm actually close to someone first.

blah blah blah... keep thinking saying crap like that will get you laid.

I "get laid" when I feel comfortable with a person.

"Getting laid" is not some sort of big achievement to me or something I actively seek out.

Old fashioned? Sure. Do I care? Not really.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Did I Blow It?
Posted: 5/6/2013 8:06:40 AM
People here have a severely bad habit of turning molehills into mountains at the slightest sense of a decripency in a single word or sentence. Don't pay it too much heed.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
How to stay off Facebook...
Posted: 5/6/2013 6:37:08 AM
I don't have any real connection to Facebook. The problem is that most people do. It's like you can't even communicate with them half the time without *having* to use it.

I found out a while ago that simply by deactivating my Facebook for a few days, people were suddenly clamouring to find out where I was and contacting me. It was quite the eye opener.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Men with mustaches and/or beards, Why and what??
Posted: 5/6/2013 6:28:11 AM
Very rarely, one male, in a sea of millions, is gifted with the greatest of genetic perfections... great facial hair. I feel, when we are blessed with such divine genes, it is our duty... nay, our responsibility, to allow those genes to flourish and enrich the world with their heavenly handsomeness!

...that and I look like a kid without one.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Why do smokers feel they can just throw their cigarette butts anywhere they want to?
Posted: 5/6/2013 6:18:50 AM
I'm not going to criticise someone for having an addiction. But that still doesn't make it acceptable for someone to blow a dangerous substance in your face.

I don't smoke, and I have no desire to. Other people can smoke if they want to. Just have the basic respect to keep it out of my face.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
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Did I Blow It?
Posted: 5/6/2013 6:06:29 AM
Any woman who blows a man off for actually caring about his responsibilities isn't worth bothering with.

Sounds like she threw away a good catch too.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
How frequenty should a couple be having sex for my age 39?
Posted: 5/6/2013 5:52:44 AM
What a couple should be doing is entirely up to the couple.

If they want to do it twice a day? Okay. If they want to do it once a month, that's their choice too.

There's no universal answer for this sort of thing. Everyone is different.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
What if the girl always leaves after sex?
Posted: 5/6/2013 5:31:52 AM
This story is eight years old.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
tips on becoming a better sex partner
Posted: 5/5/2013 2:45:32 PM

Yet another man card revoked. What a load of crap.

It's works pretty fine for me so far. I'm not the sort of person who sleeps around or enjoys casual sex, but the sex I've had in my time has been pretty damn great, for the very I stated. If actually being attentive to a woman's desires and building a connection of trust and intimacy before having sex with someone revokes me of my "man card", then good riddance to it, because that's a petty insulting definition of what makes a man.


Please don't take this the wrong way... do you have any idea how many men claim this? Or claim to be sexual gods in bed? Honestly, any man that brags about his sexual prowess gets put on the ever growing list of guys I'm not interested in having anything to do with.

It was a joke. If you've read any of my posts on this forum, you'd know I'm not the sort of person who cares much for machismo and chest beating.

I don't really need to brag, anyway. Actions speak louder than words, as they say.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
tips on becoming a better sex partner
Posted: 5/4/2013 5:46:25 PM

All men have a magic tongue that can make a woman orgasm in 30 seconds or less.

Hey, I can't speak for the entire male species, but...
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Training needed? Seriously?
Posted: 5/3/2013 12:31:45 PM
Ladies, us reasonable men aren't expecting you to know exactly what we want. However, it really just takes a little incentive beyond just getting naked and flopping back and being submissive the whole time while having sex.

I have never dated a *single* woman who does this.

If that's all they're doing, you're either doing something majorly wrong or dating in some very odd circles.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
tips on becoming a better sex partner
Posted: 5/3/2013 11:27:23 AM
Porn is typically real people having actual sex.

Just because the plug is in the socket doesn't mean the appliance is going to work.

With most porn, the basic act of sex might be taking place, but that doesn't mean it's genuine. It's all done for show, not personal pleasure. What you see in the vast majority of porn rarely if ever makes for actual enjoyable sex.

Sure, you might learn or two oddities, but that really is an incredibly rare example.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
tips on becoming a better sex partner
Posted: 5/3/2013 8:09:48 AM
The best sex comes from building an emotional connection.

If you want to get better in the sack, find someone who you can connect with on an emotional and physical level, who you not only respect but feel a *desire* to want to know better. You're physically unsatisfied because you're emotionally unsatisfied.

For me personally, the sexiest people are those I can learn new ways of thinking from, who want to share their thoughts with me and teach me to view the world in their own unique light. It's mental sex for the brain, and its the hottest thing every.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Lowered Standards is really a lame excuse for being Human
Posted: 5/3/2013 7:49:44 AM

I don't know about women but most of us guys end up sending msgs to women at least slightly below our standards because the ones at or above never respond.

Speak for yourself kid. I'm no looker, but I've netted some very beautiful women in my time (that would be considered well above my "league") through basic respect and a willingness to understand people as they are.

You'd be amazed how far not being a constantly judgemental negative nancy can get you.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 138 (view)
 
Lowered Expectations
Posted: 5/3/2013 7:37:26 AM
You may have to kiss a few frogs....

And let's not forget that some frogs may in fact be princes in disguise.

You've already admitted you prefer TALL guys and you're boyfriend is far from tall, therefore you SETTLED.

Or maybe she simply realised that such preferences are secondary to a genuine emotional connection.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Lowered Standards is really a lame excuse for being Human
Posted: 5/3/2013 7:30:43 AM
As I stated in the other thread, I don't really care too much for the "standards" thing.

Now, don't get me wrong, I have no desire to get with any random person that breaths, but I find that many of the criteria we often apply to potential partners are things that in fact get in the way of us getting close to people who may in fact turn out to be truly amazing.

For instance, while I do obviously want to be attracted to someone physically, I have a very flexible definition of beauty. I've dated women of many different ages, heights, weights, and ethnicities, but I've always seen them as equally beautiful people. It's so easy to get hung up on some incredibly trivial physical qualities, and its probably the easiest way to shut out a great person. If you can't look past even basic physical flaws, you're only denying yourself.

There are fairly specific traits that make me attracted to people - intelligence, creativity, open-mindedness, honesty - but I don't really see why people need to be put on a scale and "measure up". That kind of attitude seems very... selfish. Love should be anything but selfish.

I'm far more interested in who a person is than what they can do for me anyway. All you need is a connection.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 134 (view)
 
Lowered Expectations
Posted: 5/3/2013 6:00:53 AM
Completely disagree. I've found far more interesting local women through this site than I ever did going to the pubs or events when I was younger.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Training needed? Seriously?
Posted: 5/2/2013 3:21:21 PM
I'm primarily talking about sex in it's aerobic physical form here. (the different positions, moves and so on). Not so much the emotional part.

Sex *is* emotional, whether you want it to be or not. The most powerful orgasms, the strongest goosebumps, the deepest shivers, that all comes from an emotional connection between two people, and their desire to share themselves intimately.

Stop treating sex like a science exam. 99% of that "aerobic physical" activity is completely unnecessary for achieving an orgasm. Real, powerful, intense, mind blowing sex is nothing like porn... at all. It's simply two bodies being close, and overwhelming DESIRE.

Since this is apparently an ongoing and consistent issue, the problem clearly isn't with the women, and if you're always analysing and criticising their "technique", I can't say I particular blame most of them for not people all the effort in.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Is this a flaw in Darwins theory or my thinking?
Posted: 4/27/2013 10:17:47 PM
We didn't evolve from apes. We simply share a common ancestor.

Imagine 2 people travelling on a path together.
It started out as a straightforward journey.
But then they reached two forks in the road.
One of the people decided to go one way.
While the other person took the other route.
They both ended up in completely different places.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 59 (view)
 
What is your idea of heaven?
Posted: 4/27/2013 10:00:22 PM
I don't believe there is one.

I think it's selfish to think that we will be rewarded for life. *If* there is anything after death, I believe we will simply return to this earth, to repeat the same flawed existences we experiences before... again and again and again. Because as heavy and burdensome and difficult and tragic as life can be for us, it can also be profoundly beautiful, inspiring, breathtaking and wonderful.

That makes all the horrors, all the hurdles,
all the challenges, entirely worthwhile.

Our reward for life is right in front of us.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 132 (view)
 
Lowered Expectations
Posted: 4/27/2013 9:37:48 PM
Take people entirely as they are, and you open yourself up to a world of opportunity.

I don't really have expectations, high or low. If they're a spark, great. If there isn't, there isn't. Doesn't really matter to me who or what a person is on the outside... or even on the inside to be honest, as long as you're not a malicious or cruel person.

If someone viewed me as "low" on the Potential Partner List... well... they probably weren't the sort of person I would have wanted to end up with anyway.

At the end of the day, we all have only one thing in common. We're all human.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Karma / Reap What We Sow
Posted: 4/27/2013 2:34:01 AM

Interesting but seems a bit simplistic.


Things are often only as complicated as you make them.

There isn't a "purpose" to suffering in Buddhism. It's just part of the natural order of things. You can of course learn things from your experiences, and those are great personal lessons to take away, but Buddhism only attempts to teach ways in which to detach yourself from it in the first place, to stop it for ever occurring.

Monocryl's answers are much better than I can put it.

You're overthinking it, and in the process of doing so somewhat missing the point.

We are only a part of the world as much as we choose to be.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 114 (view)
 
How are you finding this site for dates?
Posted: 4/26/2013 7:57:33 AM
Ask them at least once. Communication goes a long way. If they don't respond then, leave it be.

I think a lot of people underappreciate how much common interest helps with dating. Otherwise you're left with nothing but charm and good looks. I always try to find people that I know I can sit down and have a good conversation with before I even consider the possibility of a date.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Shy men are a waste of time?
Posted: 4/25/2013 4:17:34 PM
There's shy, and then there's socially repressed. The guy sounds much closer to the latter.

He's never going to find someone with an approach like that. If the first thing you tell a girl is that you would never approach... well... good luck I guess.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Sex so good it makes you cry ...
Posted: 4/25/2013 4:08:26 PM
I can't speak for most men, but I sob like a baby watching the right movie or being told the right things.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
He acted like he was doing me a favour by dating me.
Posted: 4/25/2013 5:04:59 AM
Sounds to me like the guy is probably suffering from severe insecurity and saying such things to elevate his own sense of self worth. He wants to believe he's doing something truly kind and altruistic, but he's definitely going the wrong way about it, and taking it to extremes.

I'm going to make a crazy suggestion here...

...talk to him about it.
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 181 (view)
 
Man withdrawling to ejaculate on you.
Posted: 4/25/2013 4:49:32 AM
Everyone is different.

I had one girlfriend who couldn't get pregnant, and being able to go all the way without needing plastic protection or stopping was an intense and powerful experience for both of us. It feels absolutely amazing.

Another partner, she wasn't happy unless she was practically lathered in the stuff...

Different strokes for different folks, rights?
 luthion
Joined: 12/1/2008
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Are larger balls an indication of higher testosterone levels?
Posted: 4/25/2013 4:46:25 AM
That's completely bogus, and a severe over-simplification of how testosterone is produced.

"An interesting and counterintuitive effect of testosterone upon the testes is that it limits testosterone production. This is because a man's body, to function optimally, must maintain nearly constant levels of testosterone throughout reproductive life. As such, testosterone acts as part of a feedback inhibition loop that helps turn off testosterone production if it gets too high."

Testicles aren't like a fridge where you fill something up until the space is full. A more accurate metaphor would be a water hose. The body produces testosterone as its required. Having bigger testicles is never going to make you more physically or sexually active, and there is absolutely no correlative proof that it does.

TMI here, but my sex drive and testosterone levels are through the damn roof and flying off into the stratosphere, and I'm most definitely not carrying around giant baseballs.
 
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