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 Author Thread: Women always wanting men quite taller than them
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Women always wanting men quite taller than them
Posted: 2/9/2019 4:44:08 PM
Being only 5'17" I am jealous when women want guys who are at least 6 feet tall.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Girlfriend has sexual aversion
Posted: 2/16/2018 10:57:30 PM
Dude, you basically got friend zoned while IN the relationship, got out of the relationship and now want back IN the relationship....



NO, as been said, she used sex to get you hooked and reeled, then FRIEND ZONED YOU.
It ain't gonna change. She may be asexual. Go to a mirror, look at yourself and repeat "IT AIN'T GONNA CHANGE" until you realize it.

Either you keep loving her and continue getting no loving or you cut the line and find another fish to jerk your pole.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Would you ever try to get a ex back who dumped you?
Posted: 8/6/2017 3:02:27 PM
Nope...

Had one not too long ago that had given me the line of "We have nothing in common to talk about" when she decided there was someone else who piqued her interest and wanted to dump me to go after him. (We'd been dating a while and we often talked at great lengths about a wide range of things)

It didn't pan out with him so back around she came, wanting to know if we could give it another shot or at least be friends.

Foot met A$$ with "No,we have nothing in common to talk about". Then "I" was the a$$h0le.

*shrug*
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 64 (view)
 
friends zone, next stage, then back to friends zone.
Posted: 5/11/2017 6:10:53 PM
Dude, she is playing you.

You wanna see just how much of a friend she is? Ask her to hook you up or introduce you to some good looking gal.

There is your litmus test.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Do Self-Help books help if you live by them?
Posted: 5/1/2016 7:46:56 PM
Self-help books are not really self-help if you are following what someone else is telling you to do, now are they?
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Whats up with prayer?
Posted: 8/24/2015 3:55:27 AM
Praying is asking a supposedly omniscient,all powerful , all knowing invisible friend to change their mind......Or saying thank you for letting bad things happen to other but not me.

Coping mechanism.

It also lets you feel like you helped without really having to do anything.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
high maintenance girl needs advice
Posted: 8/6/2015 4:08:50 AM
You are wanting another perspective on things. Try this, instead of going clubbing or on a shopping outing,go volunteer at a homeless shelter/kitchen,help those with disabilities,visit an old folks home an chat with the residents.

Your "problems" will pale in comparison with what some people deal with every day. I am sure there is someone who would love to talk for hours on end at an old folks home....because no one in their family comes to see them, a person in a homeless shelter would like to have a job to cry over and some one at a soup kitchen would rather not have to make hard choices about trying to afford medicine or eating that week....

What you are struggling with is growing up..none of us do it at the same rate..it just takes some longer to realize the sun does not revolve around them.

Good luck.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Have You Ever Had A Summer Fling Go Down In Flames?
Posted: 8/5/2015 4:24:54 AM
No but I stayed ata Holiday Inn Express once.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Guys opinion needed.
Posted: 8/5/2015 4:20:44 AM
It appears you have been friendzoned. He just isn't into you the same way you are into him.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
girl i'm seeing says she needs space
Posted: 5/30/2015 5:36:01 PM
She is exiting, stage left. You should exit stage right.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Friends first or move toward romance
Posted: 5/4/2015 3:33:04 PM
Either you are casually dating or exclusive. Casual dating leaves either party to date others, "friends first" implies there is no exclusiveness "friends" don't date, they may hang out together though ( I don't my female friends ) and leaves the door open to dating others. Simplifies alot of things.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Friends first or move toward romance
Posted: 5/2/2015 7:23:23 PM
While she is figuring out the whole "not rushing into a relationship" thing, continue dating other women. If she text's or calls you while on a date, tell her you are on a date and will contact her later. It will either make her bail or step up and get what she wants. YOU.

Don't fall for the "friends first" line. Either they have a clear idea of what they want and are decisive about or or they can hit the road, IMO...
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 64 (view)
 
What is going on?
Posted: 5/2/2015 7:14:46 PM
I had a GF who had no problem with me wearing her panties , especially on my head, she just rather preferred I wait til she took them off....


Seriously what I said before still rings true. If you let him get away with jackassery like this, you will get more of it. The problem then becomes YOU, not him. You will get what you are willingly putting up with. You want to be treated like an after thought? Then tolerate it, if not, put a boot to his ass and let his ass meet the curb. pretty simple.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
What is going on?
Posted: 5/2/2015 1:47:42 PM
OMG.... Another case of "HE TREATS ME LIKE CRAP, BUT MY OH MY HE IS SOOOOOOO HAWT"... You get treated the way you let people treat you. All that shines is not gold.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 366 (view)
 
Does Friends first ever really work?
Posted: 3/27/2015 8:52:28 PM
Dude, here it is in a nutshell, stop making excuses for this and that. Get a fvcking spine, the beyotch is playing you like she is the bow and you are the fiddle, stop. just stop. You ain't hitting that until eternity comes,some other guy will, you are the fill in, if Mr. 12" and a Dozen roses isn't there, YOU fill in until he DOES show up, exit,stage left.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Men need to learn courting skills for their own benefit
Posted: 3/27/2015 8:45:00 PM
Courting skills, either gender = smoke and mirrors
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 302 (view)
 
Does Friends first ever really work?
Posted: 3/15/2015 1:38:09 PM
I see it as a silly attempt to leave wiggle room so that if things are not as they built them up in their heads it's an escape hatch. I am not playing that, if they can't communicate clearly what they want, I am not about to play the "Guess what I mean" game. They want "friends first" thats what they get, treated as I treat friends, I don't sleep with friends,I am not at their beck and call, nor am I a time filler for them when they want attention. My friends and I have things we like doing together on occasion.

So, if they want "friends first" I am going out and finding someone who actually wants to go on a date and may develop or have some chemistry with me and not lollygag about,trying to determine if things are up to their level of expectations. They don't have to like my views on it anymore than I have to tolerate their waffling about.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 299 (view)
 
Does Friends first ever really work?
Posted: 3/14/2015 7:14:00 PM
I hear "Friends First" and I see that as a pass to go date other women while this one is a "friend". You'd be surprised how fast things as I encountered when your "friend" calls you because she is bored and wants some attention and finds out that you are out with another gal enjoying yourself. After all, why should she get upset,we're "just friends"

You don't get your cake and eat it too, and am not wasting time while she is waiting to see if someone better comes along.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Why is my girlfriend's mom such a b-word?
Posted: 3/8/2015 7:01:09 AM
Dude, the girl is 16, you are 21... that is almost 30% of her age older. You wonder why Mom is giving you flak?


Walk away from it, if she were 18 and you were 23, not such a big deal. She is not legally an adult,you are.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Your relationship theme song(s)
Posted: 1/21/2015 6:16:13 PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Padl8ueruu8

(Volbeat )

"We"

It's good to be here, long time no see my dear
I took the run out to the road to find a way
But the loneliness broke into tears
I believe I was wrong but baby
now I know your love is not a thing
You throw out in the cold and walked away
I'm so sorry, please say you forgive

Close your eyes baby and lend me your finger
Together we walk out as one
No lonely nights, broken promises or fights will
return anymore

I remember a time I believe was fine
But inside my heart broke down in two
Something inside starts to burn like a fire
And I knew it was you

We're broken and damned
But together we'll find a way
And no longer shall hell awaits
We will seek all the light in the day
Cause forever our love will breathe

Close your eyes baby and lend me your finger
Together we walk out as one
No lonely nights, broken promises or fights will
return anymore

I remember a time I believe was fine
But inside my heart broke down in two
Something inside starts to burn like a fire
And I knew it was you

We're broken and damned
But together we'll find a way
And no longer shall hell awaits
We will seek all the light in the day
Cause forever our love will breathe

We're broken and damned
But together we'll find a way
And no longer shall hell awaits
We will seek all the light in the day
Cause forever our love will breathe
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 81 (view)
 
Platonic relationship just to have a child
Posted: 1/15/2015 4:06:56 AM
No.

You want a sperm donor and someone to foot part of the bill so you can have your warm fuzzy feelings.

Anyone who would think such an arrangement would work must be off their rocker.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 432 (view)
 
We talked about weight, well, what about height? :-)
Posted: 12/22/2014 4:10:18 AM
I am only 5'17". Dating hasn't been a problem.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Emotional fatigue, what to do?
Posted: 12/17/2014 4:14:23 AM
Don't make being in a relationship such a priority. Your worth is not defined by who you are with. Ressurect that hobby or passion you may have let slide. It will give you time to ort things in your head and get some calm back. Learn to think rationally again and not emotionally.
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Let me know when you're free = Nail in the coffin sort of speak
Posted: 12/17/2014 12:28:20 AM
You blew it.

Don't let grass grow under your feet. While she is trying to make up her mind if she wants to go out with you again,you could miss an opportunity for meeting someone who thinks you are the bee's knee's. Learn where you screwed up and don't do it again.

Many a guy has been left in broken heartsville as the wishwashy express pulled out of the station and barreled on down the tracks.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Is there such a thing as proper Etiquette on a 1st date, anymore?
Posted: 12/10/2014 3:47:34 AM
Keep seeing her...eventually she will let you see her MD 20-20 bottle collection.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
I don't know what happened
Posted: 11/24/2014 3:50:38 AM
She has told you what she wants.
Now give it to her.

Your absence.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Has anybody been stalked?
Posted: 10/27/2014 4:15:44 AM
I have been stalked by someone online who insisted we knew one another....we didn't. That was more annoying than anything, as she lived in southern Florida and I had moved from central Florida to north east Arkansas. Just a matter of blocking her contact.

The other was a GF that I ditched after she cheated on me, I had moved to Florida to get away from her in Michigan where she was constantly waiting for me after I got off from work at either of my two jobs ( small town, nowhere to hide) and she was crazy enough to injure herself and then blame me for it, so I would be arrested..... Was taken into custody once after she flipped out on a public street, injured herself and EMS was called...I was cut loose after two individualsthat I did not know who witnessed the whole thing came forward and told the cops I had did nothing to her.

Anyway I moved to Florida to get away from her and was there at my Dad's house a few weeks when at 10:30 pm one night she showed up at the door. The crazy b1atch hitch hiked down to Florida from Michigan. We sent her packing.... she hung around a few days and finally beat it for home...thats just a smidgen of what she had done.

Stop the situation as fast as you can and by any legal means you can. It will never get better until you do. I still worry now and then that the psycho will find me and it will start all over again.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
 
I don't kiss till the third date
Posted: 10/23/2014 4:15:30 AM
I considered the OP's post again and it inspired me to rethink my values,based on her arbitrary expectations and rules. Therefore I won't
be dating any one past the 2nd date unless she presents me with a box of .40 cal Smith & Wesson ammo , to show she is serious about me, and she better present me with a new .40 S&W Sigma SD40VE in order to get me to commit.

Thanks OP, you helped me figure out some guidlines and a sure fire way to weed out the time wasters.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
I don't kiss till the third date
Posted: 10/22/2014 3:34:14 AM
I hope you don't eat meat on Friday either, don't use any form of birth control and attend Mass every chance you get, otherwise the whole being Catholic thing is irrelevant. You would be picking and choosing things that work for you while claiming the title " good Catholic girl", much like your rule on kissing and having morals.

No problem with any of it, but why the need to toot your horn about it? Obviously nothing anyone here says matter one whit either way.

If it works for you, great. *shrug*
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
not sure what i should do
Posted: 10/17/2014 4:22:07 AM
If she wanted you like you want her to, she would not be saying thing like that.

Go find one who is into you.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
POF is a waste of time and effort.
Posted: 10/16/2014 3:48:45 AM
Yep POF is a waste of time.

Just like only pencils make mistakes while writing, that is why they have erasers and you should use pens because they normally do not have erasers, therefore make no mistakes and your spelling improves?
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Who walked away for the final time, me or her?
Posted: 10/10/2014 3:55:31 AM
Here is your certificate stating you were the winner.

Now go grow up, don't date until you do.

Enjoy your "victory"
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
How I Got Here - A long story, but would appreciate advice
Posted: 9/30/2014 4:16:54 AM
Sorry this happened. Sometimes you can do everything right and it still goes to hell.
The best adice I can give you is seek counseling. It's going to get better over time. One thing you cannot control is another's choices, only your own.

Now it's up to you to choose whether you want to allow this to drag you down or if you will rise above it and hopefully find one who will truly appreciate you and your kindness.

Best of luck.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
The truth is always stranger than fiction. A cheaters motivation.
Posted: 9/30/2014 3:54:54 AM
It has happened to me multiple times. Every one of them got their butt dumped.

One in particular there was no fighting, no name calling, no nothing other than me putting the apartment key on the counter after I confronted her about it,and she admitted it. Then I packed my bags. As I was doing that she was whining " What am I supposed to do noooooooooowwwww?????"

Her justification? It mattered not what the reason why was, it was the fact she did.
I was working 2 jobs and paid everything for the household, her and her child.

I asked her if the words " Go ask X to support you or get a job" sounded like anything she'd be interested in cuz I personally didn't give a rat's @$$ what happened.

It was tougher leaving the child than walking out on the ex GF.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Very confused
Posted: 9/26/2014 3:57:16 AM
Ahhhh yeah... You initiated the "I'm gonna let you chase me 'til I catch you" game.
Now you are upset that it backfired?

Stop playing childish, grade school games.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
What does she want from me?
Posted: 9/26/2014 3:40:52 AM
You got bait'n'switched.
Keep her as a friend if you wish but ask other women out. Either she will step up her game or disappear or possibly she will be ok with it.
She is using you asa security blankie. You are a pseudo boyfriend. A time and loneliness filler til someone who makes her putter flutter then you will have the fade away happen.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Girl ignored me. Need some advice.
Posted: 9/24/2014 3:59:13 AM
The sack up and ask her out comment I was hoping would get you to thinking.

Where you are now is standing there admiring her from afar. You have nothing and won't, until you take a risk and ask her out.
Should she turn you down, you have your answer, move on and stop obsessing.
Should she say yes, then you also have an answer, and proceed to keep her interest.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. The way it is now , you have nothing to lose.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Girl ignored me. Need some advice.
Posted: 9/23/2014 4:16:12 AM
Sack up and ask her out.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 59 (view)
 
What's The Most George Constanza-esque Reason You've Broken Up With Someone?
Posted: 9/17/2014 3:58:22 AM
Second date with a gal ( wasn't too sure after the first date, but figured maybe another shot at it might work ) She wanted to play the "OR" game.

It's where you say things like "Chocolate OR Vanilla Ice cream" and the other person answers the question with their choice.

By her answers it was apparent that we were not going to be a match. The one that clinched it was when I asked her......

Category: Famous People.

Edison OR Tesla? She said " Who the hell is Tesla?

I realized that as a high voltage industrial/commercial electrician I'd never have anything relating to my job she'd even be remotely interested in.

Ditched.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Not walking your date to her door
Posted: 9/13/2014 3:47:01 AM
From most of the horror stories I have read here, a guy would have to be a world class sprinter in order to escort a woman to her door as she ran for it....then add in the creepy factor....lol.

I would always ask my dates if they would like me to walk them to their door, or on occasion they would ask me to. Communication, it's not that hard.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
To ask for First kiss on first date?
Posted: 9/12/2014 3:59:44 AM
No matter what we guys do, we're gonna piss off 50% of the female population. :-)"

Another 48% are already pissed off at us.

The remaining 2% are the ones we understand.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
how to deal with negative thought?
Posted: 9/12/2014 3:45:07 AM
Cut the guy loose. Let him find someone without so many insecurities.

You are a train wreck waiting to happen and you are barreling down the tracks full throttle. Your issues are going to kill the relationship. Your lack of dating experience in your younger years and your continuing insecurities would lead one to believe that you are wholly consumed with finding "evidence" to use against him. First it was the friend running a background check on him, next it will probably be snooping in his phone, wallet, computer, etc... to find ANYTHING to justify your suspicion, as shown with the receipt. No matter how innocent it actually is, it will be damning evidence.

Get yourself fixed or cut him loose.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
He walked out on me mid date... said he had issues. Help!
Posted: 9/11/2014 4:06:11 AM
Sorry about your experience. It is what it is and no telling why he flaked. Would knowing, or rather hearing another reason really help?

Some people freeze when they realize that they may have to allow themselves to trust another and it scares them. They bolt unexpectedly. Have had it happen. I was at a loss just as you are. Chances are you did nothing wrong, and he did have issues he needs to work thru and does not know how to come to terms with it.

You win some, you lose some. If it is any consolation, atleast you didn't have a lot more of your time and self invested in something that by all accounts was going to fail at some point because of his issues.

it's tough, but you will recover. Best of luck.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
what should i do if a girl says she like guys who are proactive
Posted: 9/10/2014 4:26:30 AM

what should i do if a girl says she like guys who are proactive

Show up on every date with her wearing a condom
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Do opposites really attract? Fact or fiction?
Posted: 9/10/2014 4:20:08 AM
The last gal I dated claimed that opposites attract, but what she meant was she wanted a clone of her likes, dislikes, etc. She said we had nothing in common as a "reason" for wanting to break up. Said one thing wanted the other and then was upset over it. *shrug*
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Ex-girlfriend wants me to visit. Anyone done this before?
Posted: 9/10/2014 4:07:48 AM
Go for it. What could go wrong? EVERYTHING!

She is an ex for a reason. The last ex I had that asked if I thought we migh get back together was told "I ain't that lonely yet"
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Something a bit odd about the last gf
Posted: 9/10/2014 3:46:41 AM
Dated a gal like this. Always smiling, always positive, hapy, upbeat, etc....until...you guessed it, things were not going HER way... then it was like someone unleashed the Kracken, Medusa and Harpies.... (usually only lasted a very short time)then when she stopped flipping out the smile was plastered back on in an instant and she was oh so empathetic and caring....you get the picture.. not sure if she was bipolar or a sociopath... I'm not a shrink, but I saw crazy and bailed.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Does this girl I've been seeing still want to go out with me?
Posted: 9/6/2014 3:57:52 AM
Get a concrete time and place agreed on over the phone (have one in mind rather than the ambiguous "hey lets hang out) Should she agree , hold her to it. If she switches up on you with a lame exscuse, drop her like a hot potato and don't even consider having anthing to do with her. Why? Cuz it just ain't there.....comprende?
 LinuxD
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
would you date a 28 year old guy who never had a gf
Posted: 9/4/2014 3:47:20 PM
"would you date a 28 year old guy who never had a gf"

No, I don't date guys.

Possibly some ladies may want to date a 28 year old guy who never had a gf. you never know. Stranger things have happened.
 linuxd
Joined: 12/6/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
What is the oddest thing someone has said to you on a first meet/first date?
Posted: 9/4/2014 4:26:45 AM
"What kind of dog are you? I'm a little dog"

I wasted no time bailing as soon as I could.
 
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