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 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
What does she want from me?
Posted: 9/25/2014 2:16:02 PM
I agree with irish. If she has always insisted on 50/50 then you have been in the friendszone the entire time.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
What does she want from me?
Posted: 9/25/2014 2:02:46 PM
You sound like a wonderfully nice man. I bet you listen to all of her woes and make her feel like someone is there for her when she really needs it. Unfortunately, I believe she is doing so out of the grieving process and not out of love desires or even out of physical desires. She has you in the friend zone and considers you a great person to talk to.

Option #3 is where you should probably head. You need to look for someone that actually knows what they want and need and knows that it is you.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 894 (view)
 
Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 9/25/2014 1:05:24 PM
This thread has lasted a good while. I would imagine that it has a lot to do with the economy whether we agree or not there has been a massive dose of inequality since at least the beginning part of the 1980s. Far from slowing down it has instead been dramatically increasing. While there may be differences in some circumstances, all in all, the advantages that my parents had are not at all the same today and so many find themselves living with parents/adult children far longer than they expected.

I do not believe that makes anyone any better or worse than anyone else. Situations vary greatly and should be respectfully looked at before we just write another person off.

Hope everyone is having a great day!
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Gallbladder Surgery
Posted: 3/22/2013 10:02:22 AM
Check out a book by Andreas Moritz in Amazon before you need your gallbladder removed. It might be helpful in removing the stones and keeping your gallbladder.

Lifestyle and eating changes are very important.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Hep C..
Posted: 3/22/2013 9:52:28 AM
Speaking of alternative therapy, I met a woman with MS the other day who has a daughter the age of my granddaughter, both 4, and she was telling me about a liver cleanse that she does. She recommended it due to my chronic health issues. The cleanse supposedly is so good that all sorts of health issues get better. This particular cleanse is from a book that is to help people get rid of gallstones in their gallbladder and liver. I wish I had known about it sooner then I might still have a gallbladder.

The book is written by Andreas Moritz and can be found online in places like Amazon and Ebay. There were a lot of good reviews in Amazon. Might be worth checking out if your friend is still in need of therapy or treatment.

It would probably be a good book for a lot of people with all the junk food people ingest today they are getting what is known as "fatty Liver".
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 162 (view)
 
chemtrails
Posted: 3/13/2013 12:05:28 PM
Al Gore admits there are chemtrails.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=SrrWXurroWw
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
ObamaCare 29 hour work week?
Posted: 3/8/2013 11:39:18 AM

One other thing I wonder about... Anyone ever negotiate health care costs with providers? I wonder if people starting doing that, rather than just pay whatever they charge/take what ever test or service they recommend without questioning, if health care costs would come down.

I, for one, choose a non-profit insurance provider and only attend non-profit clinics/hospitals out of principal. Luckily, there are several in my area (Mayo and Blue Cross Blue Shield of MN).


The non-profit hospital in my town tried to become a for profit hospital. They were not allowed to for many reasons. If they had there would be a lot of people who had no where to go for health care. When they could not become non-profit they began building minor emergency centers and other doctor's clinics all over town, Of course, these facilities are all for profit. They have quite the monopoly going on here. They thought these moves out very well and are really flourishing. Now people feel compelled to go to the minor emergency clinics, even if they cannot afford them. The supposable clinics that they opened, that are based on income, ultimately charge most people the same rates or near same rates as the minor emergency clinics do. If you do manage to go to the emergency room they charge outrageous rates to the uninsured and push them back out the door as quickly as possible, only treating them for stability then recommending specialist to go to. Specialists were charging $300. for a visit in 2004. I have no idea what they are charging today although I assume a lot more. Anyone of these for profit facilities that you attempt to use will refuse to see you if you have a bill with the non-profit hospital unless you pay it or get approval from the hospital and pay something towards the bill. This makes it extremely hard on poor, sick, and disabled people to get health care in my city.

Then there is the other hospital. A for profit facility that makes the uninsured sign a paper to give a collection agency the right to an 18% interest on your balance until it is paid off.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
ObamaCare 29 hour work week?
Posted: 3/6/2013 7:51:52 AM
The Affordable Health Care Act (ObamaCare) never addressed the real problem with our healthcare system and has no real cost containment implementation. This is why I'm not pleased with the action.



http://www.upworthy.com/why-the-u-s-healthcare-system-makes-even-less-sense-than-you-thought

Bitter Pill: Why Medical Bills Are Killing Us
By Steven BrillFeb. 20, 2013

Corrections Appended: February 26, 2013

1. Routine Care, Unforgettable Bills
When Sean Recchi, a 42-year-old from Lancaster, Ohio, was told last March that he had non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma, his wife Stephanie knew she had to get him to MD Anderson Cancer Center in Houston. Stephanie’s father had been treated there 10 years earlier, and she and her family credited the doctors and nurses at MD Anderson with extending his life by at least eight years.

Because Stephanie and her husband had recently started their own small technology business, they were unable to buy comprehensive health insurance. For $469 a month, or about 20% of their income, they had been able to get only a policy that covered just $2,000 per day of any hospital costs. “We don’t take that kind of discount insurance,” said the woman at MD Anderson when Stephanie called to make an appointment for Sean.

Stephanie was then told by a billing clerk that the estimated cost of Sean’s visit — just to be examined for six days so a treatment plan could be devised — would be $48,900, due in advance. Stephanie got her mother to write her a check. “You do anything you can in a situation like that,” she says. The Recchis flew to Houston, leaving Stephanie’s mother to care for their two teenage children.

About a week later, Stephanie had to ask her mother for $35,000 more so Sean could begin the treatment the doctors had decided was urgent. His condition had worsened rapidly since he had arrived in Houston. He was “sweating and shaking with chills and pains,” Stephanie recalls. “He had a large mass in his chest that was … growing. He was panicked.”

Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2013/02/20/bitter-pill-why-medical-bills-are-killing-us/#ixzz2Mm8IUuPX

Am I the only one who has wondered about this?
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 764 (view)
 
would you marry for money?
Posted: 2/25/2013 8:21:13 AM

I DID marry for money and it lasted 21 yrs. For me, respect for a man is more important than love. What I've experienced as "love" most of the time turns out to be lust anyway or something like that. I HAVE to respect someone to love them in a romantic way. My ex wasn't handsome at all, not in the least, but I loved him and we made beautiful babies. I greatly respected him and admired him.


You have stated an interesting analogy.

I agree that respect is important. I believe that respect should be something that both partners show for each other. You did not mention whether he showed you the same respect or not.

However, love is very important as loving another person will bring about that respect.

Love is something that grows so immediate love is often actually just lust and that is where we tend to over analyze what we will or will not tolerate.

Just like this thread shows most people state immediately that they will not marry for money without considering that perhaps there are people with money who are just as lovable as there are people without money who are lovable as well.

If we set our criteria in stone we may be overlooking a good prospect. I'm not saying that is why this thread was started or that the original thought was a set in stone fact; I'm simply saying that perhaps we limit ourselves with our thoughts.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Has the internet made people socially stagnant?
Posted: 2/19/2013 9:33:11 AM
One comment I've made to people of late: doesn't it seem like you can't leave the house anymore without spending a good chunk of change? Gas is up. Food is up. Everything is up. Leaving the house generally means spending money.
(Not to sound like a tightwad...) Plus I'd have to put on pants!!


My sentiments...exception is I do have my capri's on.

I was actually debating writing a book about how to live below your means this morning. If is, however, a real shame that I have to relegate my life to my home though.

In the last three weeks gasoline prices here have gone from $3.02 per gallon to $3.69 ($3.71 at some locations) per gallon. The prices are jumping up .20 a day lately. I'm driving a truck right now. Need I say more?

One more detail. I'm trying to buy organic foods to keep my health in check and while they taste so much better the cost is eating me alive.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Are we wannabe councilors or just really bored
Posted: 2/12/2013 7:22:23 AM
This is just who I tend to be. My father was always the one who gave us all advice and I came to appreciate having someone who was always there when I needed advice. I miss that a lot. Today my children all tend to come to me for advice and I enjoy giving it when I have advice that I hope will be helpful.

My oldest daughter came over yesterday to share her day with me. She had been to a senior center (those 55 and up) to learn some tai chi (she had to pay for the class as she is not a senior, lol). She was all happy as seniors are all so wise and give her such great advice and insight.

Makes you smile knowing that there are younger people who appreciate the wisdom of the aged.

I have learned a lot too by sharing my advice on these boards and I find it enjoyable to hear or read others opinions and feelings on the various subjects in these forums.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Substitution for Tobacco
Posted: 2/9/2013 1:53:40 PM
Methadone for heroin addicts is somewhat analogous. The addiction and the harmful side effects are separated. The addiction is still "treated/fed" by methadone while avoiding the harm of the IV/opiates.


Methadone is a very addicting substitute for any addiction. I know someone with chronic pain who was given Methadone. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

The patch can cause heart attacks if the user does not get enough satisfaction from it and attempts to smoke with it on or within 24 hours of removing the patch.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 37 (view)
 
has the big bad economy hurt your cash flow?
Posted: 2/7/2013 3:20:37 PM
Normally I have negative words to say about Texas. Today I can say we are really booming. My small town ranked #4 in employment according to Forbes.

http://www.forbes.com/pictures/ef45gjfgm/no-4-san-angelo-texas/

I have been wondering why so much traffic for awhile. It's starting to seem more like a larger city traffic scene. Any direction I head out of town is inundated with heavy traffic (not normal or wasn't normal), restaurants are packed, and apparently so are the motels.

I believe it is all the oil, water, and natural gas drilling going on. Of course with all the additional people showing up it will mean more and more jobs and businesses opening up.

I cannot call this a bad economy at all.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 775 (view)
 
Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 2/1/2013 8:05:59 PM
Not true for everybody who chooses to have their own home. I take great pleasure in running my own home and managing my household the way I choose. People who live in someone else's home are crying about being judged, yet it seems they are doing the same; making harsh unfounded judgements on people who do choose to have their own home. I would find living with others detrimental to my mental health, it it just something I personally can not tolerate, unless it is a Husband or Significant Other sharing the home with me. I do have children so I am not alone alone, but I do like my home to be MINE, my space, my rules, my lifestyle, my environment to be in charge of, decorate as i see fit, entertain as i fit, hunker down for alone time as i see fit, truly make my own little place for me and mine, as i see fit. I am just way to dominant/alpha to relinquish that to others, or live under others thumbs. If someone else chooses to live at home dont really care, but to judge those who like their own space as ill in some manner is ridiculous.
What happens if nobody ever moves away from home, just how crowded would it get? You can only cram so many people in one building. obviously, whomever owns/leases the home that their adult children are living in had to take the intitiave to get their own home at some point in time, what happens if everyone just stops taking that step to independance? Sooner or later nobody will have a home.


We tend to be judgmental creatures, however, I feel that people are simply stating their reasons for choosing to live with parents and/or why they believe it to be okay and perhaps healthier. Your desire to run and manage your own home is a normal desire. Many times it even seems critical to an individual, in order to maintain a control that they feel might be lost if they try life by anyone else standards, so it is best that they do it their way.

There have been many studies showing that people who are TRULY alone tend to be more depressed, anxious and die earlier in life then those who have companionship of some sort that they feel a bond with. You still have your children at home so you have not reached a state of true lonesomeness yet It is hard to know how we will feel when that actually happens, if we do not find a mate before the kids leave. I can tell you that I have felt great grief every time one of my adult children first moved out and that total silence in the house often gets to me a bit. I like managing my home, however, as I've gotten older I have also become more aware of why younger adults do the things they do and are so adamant about their desires being acknowledged. My adult children come and go as they please. If I intermediate it is because something is totally not good, otherwise I take a step back and let them do what they believe is best for them.

Just this week, I've heard all of them fretting about money problems, career problems, car problems, etc. My first inclination is to fix it all. That's normal for a parent yet I know that even if I can bail them out, pay something like car repairs, late payments, etc. it will not fix their problems and it probably will end up in me having problems later on. So I listened without offering anything more knowing that keeping myself stable will provide them a home again if they need it instead of us all being without a home.

Just food for thought. And this:

Single Adults Have Greater Heart Attack Risk
By Tanya Lewis, LiveScience Staff Writer | LiveScience.com – Thu, Jan 31, 2013

Unmarried men and women have a higher risk of having and dying from a heart attack regardless of age, a new study finds.

The study looked at a large population of people over the age of 35 in Finland from 1993 to 2002. The data came from the FINAMI myocardial infarction register, and included all fatal and nonfatal cardiac events, or acute cardiac syndromes (ACS).

A total of 15,330 cardiac events were recorded during the 10-year study, of which slightly more than half resulted in death within 28 days. The number of cardiac events was about equal for men and women.
http://news.yahoo.com/single-adults-greater-heart-attack-risk-220003924.html
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Has anyone tried the Dr. Poon diet?
Posted: 2/1/2013 7:23:45 AM
I do not know anything about this diet, however, I have never been a fan of diets. Diets seem to restrict people and anything that restricts you will make you crave what you cannot have. Therefore, diets seem to be something that people cannot maintain through life.

The rules of proper nutrition seem to be a much healthier and more satisfying approach to me. If people will just add more fresh (hopefully organic) fruits and vegetables to their daily routine, limit their meats and dairy and stay away from processed foods and sodas (of any type regular or diet), watch calories, exercise some, and relax more they should be able to lose weight. A good nutritionist might help too.

I have gained some weight that I do not need so I looked at what I was doing to cause this and have stopped the soda. My appetite is so much better since I started buying organics again and I'm already feeling much better.

And lots of water. I"m making my own vitamin water. Lemons, oranges, whatever fruits I have on hand.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 762 (view)
 
Adults living at home with Mom and Dad
Posted: 1/29/2013 7:03:29 AM
It has been awhile since I have posted to this thread. My adult sons are still contributing to the household finances, although the oldest is now staying at his ailing father's house as he has better transportation for his two jobs. He is saving for his own truck or car and has plans of going to the community college as soon as he can. My youngest son works out of town two weeks out of each month and has found a woman to take up his time the other two weeks. He is kindly letting me use his truck to get his sister to work and giving us rides when he is here in town. My car is on the blitz and I have repeatedly paid so much to fix it that fixing it again seems futile.

My younger daughter and her daughter are still living with me. She is still contributing to the finances and doing her share of the housework. Her daughter's father and her are working on getting their finances in order and getting a car so that they can eventually move in together as a family. She is doing such a wonderful job where she works that hopefully she can apply for a supervisory position soon. Right now she is training new hires continuously.

My outcome is looking better as my health has been slowly getting better and some commercial land, that I own a little of, is finally starting to sell. So hopefully when everyone gets situated in new lives I will be okay as well.

I made the decision to allow my children to live with me for all of our sakes. Hoping for the kinds of outcomes that I'm now starting to see materialize. This economy has been unforgiving to young and old alike, so in times like these family is more of an asset than a fleeting moment with a date or two is. If the date becomes more there are always solutions, if you really have a mind to make the best of your life, so I still see nothing wrong with families continuing to live together.

I was just reading an article earlier about how we have become a nation that is allowing children to become homeless and how before the 1980's homelessness was very rare. Not so today. Today one out of every 45 kids are homeless.

People need to be more aware of the world we are living in today and think rationally of ways that provide solutions to problems.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Substitution for Tobacco
Posted: 1/28/2013 8:17:49 AM
Look into ear stapling. I had it done once and had absolutely no desire to smoke unfortunately a very stressful situation made me pick up cigarettes again.

I'm reading about an herb called Lobelia or "Indian Tobacco" that might be a substitution for smoking and might be a way to stop smoking.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 352 (view)
 
Can Republicans permit us to suffer the cliff...
Posted: 1/23/2013 1:56:33 PM
Igor

<div class='quote'>Republicans have no objection to anyone getting health insurance. They object to people being required to pay for it, including employers.

The problem with the GOP attitude, is that they have made no effort at all to deal with the problems of the
less-than-rich people, who need health care. They want to drive wages down as part of reducing business expenses, in the belief that this will make the US more competitive with overseas nations, and will ultimately result in an over all more robust economy(they are probably correct in this); but they are uninterested in helping anyone who isn't already well off, to adjust to the real costs of making the painful transition required. That includes that the ONLY way they have been willing to contribute anything at all to trying to reduce medical costs, has been to try to help Insurance companies improve their bottom line, by Federally limiting how much a doctor can be sued for (Tort Reform).

But they don't object to anyone who wants insurance, paying for all of it from their own reduced wages.
Okay you are right, Republicans do not object to anyone getting health insurance. I do feel that they want employees to pay for it instead of employers or it being on the government dime though.

The Republicans are definitely doing what they can to reduce wages to help curb business expenses as more and more Republican governors are attempting to make their states “right to work” states. In other words right to work for little and be taken advantage of with no real protections states. There is a good amount of changes in workplaces in Texas being made such as reducing employees hours even further to make them parttime and overworking employees that are already being worked too long so these employers do not have to hire new employees. Plenty more tricks being used to alleviate costs and continue denying people any real benefits.

The sad part is that those employees, who can least afford it, are having to pay for health insurance, out of their own paychecks, that have deductibles of $5000. individual and $10,000 per family. So that means they are forced to pay for insurance that they cannot use unless there is a real emergency,

I just love how you cannot sue a pharmaceutical company if you are injured due to a vaccine and they actually get people to take these vaccines and sign the paper giving the company immunity from prosecution. Incredibly crazy.

BBI


<div class='quote'>So who are the biggest users, those most likely to misuse, and even abusers of emergency rooms? According to NCH,S it is a group that already has government health care...individuals in the Medicaid system. Here are some other findings:


Approximately 32 percent of these Medicaid enrollees used the emergency room at least once during a 12 month period in 2007. Meanwhile, those with private health insurance were only about half as likely (17 percent) to go to an ER, and a similar number (around 20 percent) of the uninsured did the same in that time frame.


Medicaid enrollees were three times more likely than those with private insurance and twice as likely as those who are uninsured to go to the ER twice in that past year.


There are approximately 120 million ER visits made in the United States each year. These make up approximately 11 percent of all ambulatory visits

As far as the uninsured and/or medicaid patients using emergency rooms there are more reasons that are not told such as calling a doctor after hours and he tells those medicaid patients and insured patients to go to the emergency room.

Medicaid, in Texas, is almost non existant if you are over 18 years of age and under 65 years of age. You or anyone you live with who makes more than $231. per month disqualifies you from obtaining Medicaid. So, if you are a child or you are pregnant then you might qualify. The people who are on Medicaid have a hard time finding enough doctors who will accept them due to low reimbursement rates.

More and more minor emergency care clinics are popping up trying to alleviate the emergency room problems in Texas and it seems to be doing something. Emergency rooms seem lighter lately.

Low wage earners, who do not get any paid sick time, are forced to bring a doctor's note or lose their job in Texas so their options are sadly reduced to going to an emergency room, if they cannot afford the minor emergency clinic. Most of these low wage earners have no extra money for medical care and often have to find outside help to get the prescriptions prescribed.

Many uninsured wait until they are absolutely in emergent need before going to an emergency room which costs the taxpayers much more. I doubt that will change with this horrible excuse for insurance that is being offered. Who wants bill collectors hanging over their heads?


As far as the physical cliff goes, they should be reducing their own wages and benefits, cutting back on defense spending (exception providing soldiers with good health care and wages), stop funding banker bailouts, etc.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 349 (view)
 
Can Republicans permit us to suffer the cliff...
Posted: 1/23/2013 10:01:18 AM
Regardless...SSI and Medicare are benefits bought and paid for by Americans directly thru taxes specifically for the programs...yet, defense has no such targeted taxes...when the defense budget is 20% of total revenues collected....the revenues for SSI and Medicare are included...they should not be...since they are targeted benefit taxes...and should be kept seperate from the totla revenues...but they aren't...because if they were kept seperate from the calculation, as they should be...then defense would take up something like 40% of the general revenues.


With so many dying before they are 50 or at least before they even qualify for social security there does not seem to be a problem funding the program or shouldn't be a problem. Perhaps this is what the real "death panels" are. Isn't it Republicans that are trying to keep people from having health insurance and now they want the money people put in for their own retirement as well?


Americans have lowest probability of surviving till 50

Also, new evidence revealed that younger generation of US citizens (those under 50) die earlier and have poorer health than their counterparts in other developed nations, according to a new study of health and longevity in US.

US men ranked last in life expectancy among the 17 countries in the study, and American women as second to last.

The 378-page report by a panel of experts convened by the Institute of Medicine and the National Research Council was based on a broad review of mortality and health studies and statistics and included other countries such as, Canada, Japan, Australia, France, Germany and Spain.

More specifically, US male deaths before the age of 50 account for two-thirds of the difference in life expectancy when compared to their counterparts in other countries and about one-third of the difference for females.

Americans have also a higher rate of death from guns, car accidents and drug addiction.

“Something fundamental is going wrong,” chairman of the Department of Family Medicine at Virginia Commonwealth University Steven Woolf told the New York Times. “Something at the core is causing the US to slip behind these other high-income countries. And it’s getting worse.”

The rate of firearm homicides was 20 times higher in the US than in the other countries, according to the report.

The US also had the second-highest death rate from the most common form of heart disease and the second-highest death rate from lung disease.

Americans even had the lowest probability of surviving till the age of 50.

The study attempts to explain such low results by highlighting American disjointed healthcare system with a large number of uninsured citizens and high levels of poverty in the country as possible reasons for the outcome.

These realities have taken their toll on the US annual rankings of World’s Happiest Countries as US has slipped from 10th to 12th place for the first time in the six-year history of the Legatum Institute‘s Prosperity Index.

The US is now behind Canada, Australia, New Zealand and the Scandinavian countries, including Norway, Denmark and Sweden, which ranked top three in the index.
http://rt.com/usa/news/us-poverty-kids-health-687/
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 331 (view)
 
Can Republicans permit us to suffer the cliff...
Posted: 1/18/2013 10:07:04 AM
Rest in peace Bob.

A little Beethoven for you Bob.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Tr0otuiQuU
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
dr banning a patient
Posted: 1/17/2013 3:48:38 PM
Relaxing dog lover.

I do not go to doctors. Solves that huh.

People have the right to complain. No one has to be a sheep and follow a herd mentality.

Here are some of the sites:

www.healthgrades.com/

www.ratemds.com/

www.vitals.com/doctor/rate'

www.aarp.org/health/doctors-hospitals/info-02-2011/rate-your-doctor.html

There are more. They help people looking for a reliable doctor.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
dr banning a patient
Posted: 1/17/2013 3:20:45 PM

report him to the state medical board/licensure for starters


I agree with this statement and also give your review of this doctor in any online medical review site that you find.

Doctors are not God and they do overbook their patients. They choose their medical debts such as their student loans and the fancy equipment that they take out loans for to make a killing charging patients for procedures and tests that are not needed.

He does have the right to refuse to see you. Why would you want to see an a** like him anyways?

Find a better doctor and read up on the side effects of those injections.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
falling too hard too fast
Posted: 1/5/2013 10:39:27 PM
waitingforyoutoo, I can understand where you are coming from and in most cases the term unconditional is acceptable. For him though, it was one of many terms he used that were stipulations that only applied to him and as he saw fit.

I agree with your post and blondes.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
falling too hard too fast
Posted: 1/5/2013 10:27:20 PM
There are no fast facts to gather that will give you a true picture about the person that you are interested in. Discovery takes time. You have to be able to keep a level head and not get so emotionally thrilled with someone too quickly or you will not see nor hear the facts that are important to know.

Alcoholics or anyone with an addiction strive to cover their tracks. Just like anyone else they want to make a great impression on you and they know that their addiction does not lead to a good impression. Just like anyone else they want to be accepted and loved. My ex used to say he wanted an unconditional love. That should of been a hint that he did not want to change and needed someone who would accept him and his alcohol problem as is.

Pay close attention to what they say and don't try to change what they say to fit what you want to hear. They mean what they say. You want to know how they felt about others such as their mom, dad, siblings, exes, bosses, etc. This gives you a good clue as to how they are going to eventually feel about you. Not always but if it seems to be a pattern then it is a pattern and you are going to be no different.

If you want a relationship with him then you need to go to Alanon and learn all about how to have a relationship with someone with an alcohol problem. It is much easier to have a relationship with someone who attends AA then an active alcoholic though. You say he gets angry. This is not something you need.

Make a list of the qualities you are looking for in a possible mate and what qualities are definitely a "No Way". Do not show anyone that list. Just use it to keep aware of the guys you are dating to see how they measure up to it. No one is perfect though so do not make the criteria so strict that everyone fails your qualifications. It's simply a guide.

Keep your eyes and ears open. Do not try to change what you hear or see to fit your dream.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 289 (view)
 
Can Republicans permit us to suffer the cliff...
Posted: 1/5/2013 10:46:27 AM

Like, which cancer treatments are too experimental to be paid for so we will just stick with standard care because ITS TOO EXPENSIVE that the left will be masking with contraception and other noisy distractions.


It has been standard procedure for insurance companies to deny "experimental procedures" for any and all diseases for a very long time.

I have a niece with Multiple Myeloma who went through chemo and a DNA procedure. When she was through with most of the treatments the insurance company denied her some type of oral chemo deeming it "experimental". She had to get outside sources to fund the oral chemo. She is in remission right now and back to work teaching elementary students so we are hopeful.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 282 (view)
 
Can Republicans permit us to suffer the cliff...
Posted: 1/4/2013 9:49:12 AM

[quote"You know who. The ones that didn't know there was a holiday. The ones that don't listen and just vote"



Some people are registered in drives, some do it on their own. The one thing for sure is probably 80% of ALL people couldn't name who their representative is in the House! BUT...they can tell you about who won American Idol or who jenny picked on the Bachelor! lol How many people accepted the extra money during that holiday, without having any idea of where it came from? Just another day watching American Idol, which is vastly more important than knowing where that extra $25 came from...or if it was a mistake, or temporary, or a tax break or reduction...


The poor. Just call the 80%, Democrats and Republicans, that cannot list their representatives names by what they really are. The working class poor. You know the ones who work their little azzes off for very little money and hope and pray a lot that they will have enough to pay their rent and feed their families.

Of course, they need that extra 2% in their paychecks especially now that they are being expected to pay for lousy insurance that will do nothing more than enrich insurance companies at their expense. $2000. less in income to pay for premiums is a large bite in their already inadequate pay and then they will only find the insurance useful after they put out $5000. (single) - $10,000. (family) more in deductibles. This is where the independent comes in.

No party is thinking beyond the middle class or wealthy.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
I just need to vent, has anyone else encountered this?
Posted: 1/3/2013 11:22:45 AM
I would not worry too much about someone that you have not even met. Apparently she had second thoughts about the opportunity to meet such a wonderful man as you. Her loss.

Perhaps you should attempt to meet sooner the next time that you find someone that attracts your attention.

As far as the why goes, it had something to do with her son not really your pictures. Either he had reservations about you meeting his mom or she feels guilty about seeking out someone else to love. Either way you are not going to be meeting her so cast your line and keep fishing.

There are a lot of women in this world both online and offline.

Good luck OP.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
US Federal Reserve compared to Canada's Bank of Canada
Posted: 1/3/2013 7:40:12 AM
Lefty,

Your essay is very interesting and I can see that the concept of separatism plays a great part in our world problems. It would seem that you are going to have to put forth a lot of effort to get others to come on board and give your ideas a chance. Perhaps you should post more in POF and elsewhere on the net. I have found that over the last 11 years attitudes are beginning to change with more and more people opening their eyes, shedding their rose colored glasses and opening up to different concepts. People are awakening; like you I hope that they do before it is really too late.

As far as the Federal Reserve goes I feel that our money should not be held by a private institution and that this institution has way too much leverage.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 225 (view)
 
Can Republicans permit us to suffer the cliff...
Posted: 1/1/2013 8:57:23 AM
If Congress is not raising the interest rate on "Capital Gains" I see this as doing too little to gain more revenue from the rich. The rich make most of their money off of stocks not employment. Raise the "Capital Gains" rate Congress.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
A happy and healthy and prosperous New year to you all.
Posted: 12/31/2012 5:44:49 PM
Happy New Year everyone!

My New Years Resolution is to stop waiting for others to plan and just plan it myself irregardless of the obstacles and road blocks that be fall me.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 219 (view)
 
Can Republicans permit us to suffer the cliff...
Posted: 12/31/2012 9:16:48 AM
Let's now remove 8 zeros and pretend it's
a household budget:
* Annual family income $21,700
* Money the family spent: $38,200
* New debt on the credit card: $16,500
* Outstanding balance on the
credit card: $142,710


By the way:

This families wage per hour is based on 1968 standards and has not kept up with inflation.

Your $21,700. annual income is around $10.43 per hour. If minimum wages had kept up with inflation this families hourly wage would be more like $24.00 per hour which would give them more than enough to pay the $38,200. in expenses and instead of credit card debt they would have a surplus of around $11,720. dollars that they could apply towards their retirement and/or purchase more products.


http://inequality.org/minimum-wage/

So in a nutshell, increasing taxes on the wealthy and the corporations is good for all and so is keeping government programs that promote the well being of those who can least afford to live which is imperative to true growth. It would also be prudent to raise the minimum wage to reflect fair pay for all and doing so would make this economy flourish more than it has in the last 30 years.

Healthy economies create healthy, happy people and businesses.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 218 (view)
 
Can Republicans permit us to suffer the cliff...
Posted: 12/31/2012 7:38:18 AM

Let's now remove 8 zeros and pretend it's
a household budget:
* Annual family income $21,700
* Money the family spent: $38,200
* New debt on the credit card: $16,500
* Outstanding balance on the
credit card: $142,710


When you give more money to the wealthy they put it into the banks (usually in offshore accounts) and invest in the stock market They are not too concerned with making the economy grow. They are more concerned about making sure their personal wealth grows. They are less charitable as well. The wealthy tend to give to projects that enrich them on down the road yet that does not mean they feel growing a business necessarily enriches them. They are more concerned with the illusion of growth then actual growth.

Corporations are more concerned about their bottom line as well. This is why they look for ways to cut back on their expenses and attracting investors. They have found that they can hire people for slave like wages especially those in other countries and locked up in prisons. They have found that they can get around safety issues as well as everyone has a price. It's easy to buy off those who are suppose to be protecting workers and consumers.

When you give more money to the poor they spend it on new products, utilities, rent, food, medical care, and transportation. The middle class and the poor are your true consumers. Their spending habits cause a greater need for the products being offered by corporations. When they have the money to spend or the plastic they spend. The more they spend the better. Consumers create jobs by their demand for new products and therefore cause new growth in businesses.

Credit card companies love consumerism. Their best customers are those who religiously pay the minimum balance and spend like good little consumers do. Their worst customers are those who do not pay and those who do not consume much. The people who never let interest accumulate are not their top customers either; after all they make their best money from those who are late paying, over the limit, and habitually spending.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Being Honest About Not Wanting Children
Posted: 12/23/2012 6:41:40 AM
Op, if you truly do not want children then honesty is the best policy even if it narrows your search drastically.

It is very unfair to the woman and her children when a man is not honest about his true desires. I was married to such a man. I already had one daughter when we got married. A daughter that he portrayed himself as liking simply to be a part of my life. As our marriage progressed I got pregnant and gave birth to another girl. He said nothing about not wanting children all the way up until I had our second son. Then with four children, he decides to tell me he never wanted children. I don't know if you can imagine how devastating that was to find out that he had just let our life go on without being totally upfront. I ended up doing most of the parenting while he went his merry way everywhere he wanted to go and spending his paycheck as he pleased even when the normal bills and necessities were due/needed.

Whether he wanted children or not they were just as much his children as mine and he needed to be doing all he could for them. His initial dishonesty was no excuse for being irresponsible.

Be very honest when it comes to desires such as whether you want children or not. There are women out there who feel the same way and you need a relationship where you both are happy with your mutual choices.

Being even a little bit indecisive when it comes to children is a problem as raising children is one of the biggest commitments you can make.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
happy Holidays
Posted: 12/22/2012 8:13:23 AM
Happy holidays!

Holidays can make us more sentimental and can also make us depressed. It's a very stressful, over commercialized time of the year that has the ability to make us feel that somehow we just don't measure up to others unless we have all the bells and whistles going on.

It is also a time to reflect on the good that we can do for others so perhaps it is a time for you to go out and volunteer instead of dwelling on what might have been.

If your relationship ended 8 months ago it is still weighing on your mind. You have to remember the bad times right now to get you through and make you stronger so you can find a better life and relationship down the road.

I hope you will get out there amongst others who are making a difference in the lives of others. I have a feeling that it might just make a difference in your life as well.

Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! I hope that the new year brings you a long lasting sense of true value.

Just remember we all have a reason for being and you will find a way through this if you have a mind to.

Oh and to answer your question, I can get lonely in a crowd so yes I've been lonely during holidays. Perhaps you can call your relatives? Take care.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Dating 6 months now, and her gay male friend is moving into her bedroom!
Posted: 12/22/2012 7:45:42 AM
The mind is a beautiful thing!!!

Fantasize much?

Have you ever read Dr. Suez "In a people's house"?

Oh the things you'll see!!

lol

I'm with Walt. This has to be a troll post.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Reality TV
Posted: 12/20/2012 4:45:35 PM
LOL. Storage Wars. I've seen that on Netflix.

It really looks like it would be hard to determine how much to offer on those storage units.

You know if you are in good health, have an ability to organize and build the shelves or whatever else is needed to make someones garage more manageable for them I think people might pay for such services. Then if you throw in a fee to haul off what they do not want and sort the stuff as recyclable, for resell, and trash you just might make a decent living.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 48 (view)
 
facebook
Posted: 12/20/2012 4:19:41 PM
I got on facebook a few years ago as a request from one of my daughters. I enjoy the pictures of my grandchildren and I played a game for awhile. It got to be very boring.

I have people on my facebook that I grew up with and then there are some family members.

Unfortunately, it is getting to be annoying anymore. I allowed people with different political views to share their posts and now it feels like I'm in the middle of WW3 sometimes. I do like the natural remedies/news/DIY/and creative ideas pages that you can add but the war of words is really getting me down lately.

This leaves me with no options for communication right now. I guess I'm okay with that. I'm a loner in a lot of ways so it just means reading more and trying more creative ideas.

Hope everyone has a happy holiday!!
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Community Gardens
Posted: 12/20/2012 12:14:30 PM
That's what is nice Boomer. People joining together to share the crops that they grew and taking care of the cat. I like that.

I'm really enjoying hearing about these gardens. I hope more people will share.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 194 (view)
 
Newtown
Posted: 12/20/2012 11:26:14 AM
Big,

My latest fear is rich little white boys who are not taught the value of life.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
ObamaCare 29 hour work week?
Posted: 12/20/2012 11:10:07 AM
I'm all for single payer health insurance. I'm not for ripping the poor off more though. I just got a phone call from a very distraught son who said "you told me that Obamacare would not effect me negatively".......it has.

My son is making a little more than minimum wage. He was given very crappy healthcare a while back that the employer was paying for completely............no more.........now he has very crappy healthcare that he is going to be charged $36.00 per week for. His insurance is SO BAD that you might as well just call it all theft.

It will certainly enrich the health insurance providers though!

Perhaps he should just buy some stock in the company instead of using their insurance.

How embarrassing!
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 190 (view)
 
Newtown
Posted: 12/20/2012 9:52:51 AM
HARROLD, Texas (AP) — In this tiny Texas town, children and their parents don't give much thought to safety at the community's lone school — mostly because some of the teachers are carrying concealed weapons.

In remote Harrold, the nearest sheriff's office is 30 minutes away, and people tend to know — and trust — one another. So the school board voted to let teachers bring guns to school.

"We don't have money for a security guard, but this is a better solution," Superintendent David Thweatt said. "A shooter could take out a guard or officer with a visible, holstered weapon, but our teachers have master's degrees, are older and have had extensive training. And their guns are hidden. We can protect our children."

In the awful aftermath of last week's Connecticut elementary school shooting, lawmakers in a growing number of states — including Oklahoma, Missouri, Minnesota, South Dakota and Oregon — have said they will consider laws allowing teachers and school administrators to carry firearms at school.

http://news.yahoo.com/texas-town-allows-teachers-carry-concealed-guns-081017416.html

Yes, in Texas. You are talking about small towns that you do not have to worry about locking your doors in though.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Community Gardens
Posted: 12/20/2012 9:14:17 AM
Good article. I hope they start a trend that makes all states decide to grow their own food in their prisons. That could become big and then giving the rest to food banks would sure help those in need. I understand that food banks are having a very hard time keeping up with demand currently.

They should use their livestock to provide meat for the prisoners too and might as well get some chickens laying eggs.

What a concept.

I have thought about another idea that I think might provide friendlier neighborhoods once again. I think neighborhood gardens would be a great idea. Either getting permission to utilize a vacant lot in the neighborhood or one or more neighbors agreeing to provide space for the garden.

People could come together and decide what they wanted to grow and take turns supplying the seeds, fertilizers, compost materials/piles, man/women/child power to grow it and share among them. It would surely cause more potlucks and neighborhood bbq's to occur which would lead to happier, closer neighbors.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Community Gardens
Posted: 12/20/2012 8:15:16 AM
I don't understand why more communities don't do it either MsMicki.

One of the sites I looked at, which I admit was a long time ago, was community gardening in Germany. This garden had a little bit different concept as people rented a small plot to grow their crops among other plots growing their own crops. It was such a wonderful idea though.

There were little fences around the plots and stone walkways to maneuver through the individual plots. If I remember correctly it was created as people in apartments had nowhere to plant what they wanted to.

You know, while I truly believe we have way too many non-violent prisoners in the US, I think your idea is a great one. Not only might it save the taxpayers money but it might also provide an uplifting therapy and a sense of self worth to those incarcerated for crimes such as drug use. They would be obtaining skills that they could take with them when they left that could possibly lead to real jobs or become their own entrepreneurs providing the public with exotic plants/organic seedlings/ beautiful flowers/ etc.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Community Gardens
Posted: 12/20/2012 7:45:41 AM
Thank you both for your posts.

It's a shame that your community garden is under utilized Spring. Nice raised beds you have and I love golden retrievers. They are so loving and friendly!

It sounds like you live in a great place DameRight! Sounds like a lot of fun going on there.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Community Gardens
Posted: 12/20/2012 7:18:37 AM
I have been reading a little about various places that are using vacant lots to create community gardens. The gardens are providing food to those in need and to those who plant them. This is a great idea. We have one garden in our town that is through a church group although I believe it is only that group who can participate in it. I would like to see open gardens that everyone could participate in and enjoy the fruits of their labor.

Do you have community gardens where you live?

If so, are they a good place to meet others? If not, do you believe that they might provide a new way to meet others and help each other or those in need?
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 173 (view)
 
Newtown
Posted: 12/19/2012 7:24:36 PM

Obvious answer: not all of these people who are carrying out mass murder with these weapons are on medications. Whoever has said they are is mistaken. It is not true that they all are or even most of them are. Drugs are not the issue.


In the first place, I'm not a pro gun person so your assumptions get you no where with me. I'm not all emotional about this issue either.

Yes, I'm very sad that there was an incident that killed young children and teachers. My relatives are teachers and they teach children that are these ages. This incident makes me wary of my granddaughter going to a public school. She is not old enough yet, thank goodness.

If you really did a bit of research you would find that these medications have some pretty dismal side effects which can cause aggression, paranoia, anxiety, depression, suicidal/homicidal tendencies, obsession, and so on.

Burying your head in the sand or putting on blinders does nothing to get all the facts that are necessary to stop these occurrences from happening yet that is what people have a tendency to do. And then there are those who go in one direction, never diverting their thoughts and so we have the same problems re-occurring over and over again.

Sometimes we have to look outside the box and see events in a panoramic view to actually find solutions.

In that research you might also find that a Mr. Bregg's has done a lot of research on these incidences and wrote books about it. I'm not going to pull up all the information for you as I know you are fully capable of researching if you so choose to.

Many things went wrong. A 20-year old with mental problems and on medications had access to high powered guns and ammunition. We will never know why his mom didn't have those guns under lock and key nor will we know why she felt comfortable teaching him how to shoot those guns. The poor woman is now deceased. We do not know just why she felt the necessity to have so many guns nor will we probably ever know.

We do know that he had guns. We do know that he was not mentally stable. We do know he was taking medications for his mental issues and that his father didn't appear to be seeing him regularly,.

I'm just trying to get people to realize that guns are not the only issue and that psychiatric drugs are becoming more and more prevalent in the US today. Too little is tested, too little is admitted to and too much controversy keeps rearing its ugly head when it comes to these medications. When people wake up and realize that there is a real problem it will be some sort of miracle.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 138 (view)
 
Newtown
Posted: 12/19/2012 11:19:11 AM
I'm more concerned about the prescribed medications being given to those who then turn around and kill and/or commit suicide after taking those prescribed medications.

You do not realize how much these medications can change a person's personality until you have been around those prescribed them.

The pharmaceutical companies do not want you to know what their prize cash crops are doing so everyone involved keeps us in the dark and feeds us mushrooms (or anti-psychotics, their newest cash crop) and yes, even though they were never recommended for children they are now being prescribed a lot.

Adam's uncle said that Adam was being prescribed Fanapt, a new controversial anti-psychotic medication for his Asberger's Syndrome.

Here is a little bit about the drug:

Maybe more importantly, though, Fanapt is one of a many drugs the FDA pumped out with an ability to exact the opposite desired effect on people: that is, you know, inducing rather than inhibiting psychosis and aggressive behavior.

From Drugs.com, side effects of the drug Fanapt:

Psychiatric

Psychiatric side effects including restlessness, aggression, and delusion have been reported frequently. Hostility, decreased libido, paranoia, anorgasmia, confusional state, mania, catatonia, mood swings, panic attack, obsessive-compulsive disorder, bulimia nervosa, delirium, polydipsia psychogenic, impulse-control disorder, and major depression have been reported infrequently.

In fact, Fanapt was dropped by its first producer, picked up by another, initially rejected by the FDA, then later picked up and mass produced. The adverse side-effect is said to be "infrequent," but still it exists, and can't be ignored.

Read more: http://www.businessinsider.com/adam-lanza-taking-antipsychotic-fanapt-2012-12#ixzz2FWjk18Jb

Meanwhile, they love to say infrequently. Don't believe it.

The guns were bad...........the prescribed drugs worse. The prescribed drugs most likely fueled this fire.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 99 (view)
 
Newtown
Posted: 12/19/2012 6:25:54 AM

We Americans have always had access to arms/weapons.
In the late 70s all high school boys had guns in racks in trucks loaded in the parking lot.
The gals had hand guns in the glove compartment


I remember these times as well. No one used these guns for killing sprees. Everyone had respect for guns and knew not only how to use them but were taught gun safety by their parents.

Heck, many times the guns in those racks were in trucks with open windows.

Texas is a whole different country though. There are many reasons that people need guns in these areas such as the 6 foot long rattle snake that entered my ex father-in-laws house. I really do not think he could of killed it with a broom.

A lot of people here hunt and they eat what they kill. They are supplementing their food supply so that they can eat. Public land, very little left, is free to hunt on as long as you have the proper hunting license and keep within the limits of that license. You must tag what you kill and the license supplies you with the tags. If you run out of tags you can no longer kill any more deer. Many of these people actually gut, skin, and butcher their own meat to save on processing fees. You do what you must to survive.

Living out in the country can be a bit dangerous at times such as when you come up across those snakes, bobcats, foxes, cougars, etc. They have to protect their live stock with guns. Growing a good sized garden might require shooting a rabbit or two. They normally eat the rabbit after if they shot it right.

A lot of men work out in the country doing oil drilling, water drilling, mending fences and cattle guards, installing and repairing or replacing major pumps and a whole lot more. They need protection when they come up against these wild cats and snakes.

I think those assault rifles might be of use when people hunt wild bore. I hear that these bores are very large and destructive. From the stories I've heard those bores will charge the hunters truck and tear it up in the midst of shooting it. I don't understand why the hunters hunt them but perhaps it is the fact that they can overrun the land?

You actually do have to go through classes if you are trying to get a concealed hand gun license.

I think a lot can be said about the fact that these gunmen were on psychiatric medications. Those medications are not as safe as people think they are.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Newtown
Posted: 12/18/2012 3:52:32 PM
I've been through ghettos in my car. Drove quickly but I've been through them.

I don't worry much about the one in our town though. Lived here so many years that I just plan to only go through there during daylight hours.

As far as the NRA, I think most associations are ridiculous. I would only hunt wildlife with a camera, much like my older brother does.

Fishing....sometimes.

You are talking about some pretty hardcore gun enthusiasts though. They love their hunting.
 Twilightslove
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Newtown
Posted: 12/18/2012 2:44:39 PM
Someone just posted this on my FB. I cannot get it to pull up. Perhaps someone on here can.

NRA-ILA | Important Statement from the National Rifle Association
www.nraila.org
The National Rifle Association of America is made up of four million moms and dads, sons and daughters – and we were
http://www.nraila.org/news-issues/news-from-nra-ila/2012/12/important-statement-from-the-national-rifle-association.aspx?s&st&ps
 
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