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 Author Thread: friends with benefits???? go for it or walk away
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
friends with benefits???? go for it or walk away
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:06:42 AM
Run, don't walk.....
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Would you date me ?
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:04:54 AM
Sorry, OP but a "separated" man is still a married man; and therefore, not a desirable person to date. You have wayyyyyyyy too many issues that you are dealing with. Besides, how many stories have you heard where the man goes back to wifey??? I've heard too many to even think of a separated man as a candidate for dating.

Get the papers (divorce) and put yourself out there.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
How come single mothers don't want single fathers
Posted: 8/5/2009 11:02:19 AM
I think you said it best, OP;;;; the kids are your life. Women love a man that loves his kids, but not to make them the entire center of their life. You should make time for you and the one you love (with our without the kids).

Women like men that pay attention to them; wouldn't you?
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Guys hogging your time with no intentions
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:58:01 AM
That's online dating.... isn't it?

Be happy that you can walk away from your computer, phone, etc. and control the "intake."

Better than sitting through endless chatter that doesn't matter.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Ladies, Is Walking You to Your Door Important?
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:55:37 AM
Opening a door is the thing for me....

Other than not showing me any bodily functions while dating! :o)
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Does facial hair on men over 45 make them look older or younger?
Posted: 8/5/2009 10:54:12 AM
Mustaches make men look older

Beards make men look way older

Goatees can make a man look younger - but its like a woman wearing a girdle.... it comes out eventually.

Take care of yourself inside and out and that will make you look your best.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 103 (view)
 
Too much baggage to start a new relationship ???
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:31:56 AM
OP... I would run from this guy... too up and down and not giving you the right signs...

Look for someone that is more stable or that suits your needs and not just his.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Should I move on from him?
Posted: 8/5/2009 8:07:58 AM
Thank you....

I'll forget him and not respond if he tries to contact me.

 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
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Should I move on from him?
Posted: 8/5/2009 7:55:01 AM
Met a nice guy about a month or so ago. Went on about 5 or 6 dates and because I am newly divorced and have a child; I have not been too available to him. I've explained it all to him and he didn't seem to mind. We've tried to plan short meets or dates to see each other.

However, he's been going out of state on a few weekends (when I have my child) but then it takes him a few days to contact me.

He went away last weekend and I didn't hear from him, so I called him last night. Haven't heard from him (didn't leave a message because his mailbox was full).

Do I chill and see what happens? Or, do I move on and forget about him?
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
what to say..
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:52:04 AM
Don't respond. If someone would not take the time to write a few words to attract your attention, then they may be doing the quanitity thing and not the quality thing. Which means, they are not quality - and move on.

Also, there's a section in the "mail settings" that makes a person write up to 50 -100 letters before they can send. Use it.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 551 (view)
 
Are there ANY women who don't CHEAT?
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:55:48 PM
Many women can completely commit to a good man. It's either the way you treat them or your choice in women.

Ponder/reflect on this issue and then you can learn to pick the right one for you.

Once that's done..... you will be very happy.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Commitment without sex?
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:53:47 PM
Pick one girl and stick with her until you both feel it's not working. This will allow you to focus on the person/relationship. Don't worry about the sex; if the relationship is good, the sex will follow and it will be better than if you put sex before the other important factors of a relationship.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
not calling
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:48:59 PM
You will not allow yourself to mend if you call your ex. Remember: he's an EX for good reasons; reasons you validated to leave him. Don't run back; it may stop you from finding the right one for you.
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 77 (view)
 
Are his/her music tastes important to you?
Posted: 4/25/2009 6:10:04 AM
For me, it is essential. Music is such a big part of my life and can really set a mood. I like to be challenged (learn songs I don't know), but we would have to be compatible regarding musical interests.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
When do you consider a marriage is DEAD and must take the next step.
Posted: 4/2/2009 4:16:21 AM
Most people ask this question because they already know the answer and need a push to put them on the right track.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Sexless Marriage?
Posted: 4/2/2009 4:04:47 AM
Well, if sex is missing from the marriage... what else is? Lack of sex is a symptom to a mental or emotional issue lacking in the marriage.

You need to get some confidence and a bit of bravery and leave to be fulfilled and happy with someone who cares and respects you.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Am I old fashion or are guys better looking in jeans and a tee?
Posted: 4/2/2009 4:01:54 AM
I prefer jeans and a tee vs. 1/2 naked or shirtless men online. It's a level of class and confidence. A person willing to go online 1/2 naked isn't a turn on for me.
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Screening New Contacts
Posted: 4/2/2009 3:59:07 AM
A lepard always shows it's spots.
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 92 (view)
 
He couldn't get it UP, should I give him another chance??
Posted: 3/21/2009 5:00:05 PM
Everyone deserves another chance.
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Why do women moan more than men during sex?
Posted: 3/21/2009 4:58:20 PM
Women have over 5 times the amount of nerve endings in erroneous places. It's a much more intense feeling for women - however, less visual.
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
How many women fantasize watching their man with another man?
Posted: 3/21/2009 4:56:40 PM
Me? Never. No interest in it.
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Get together in the Wallingford CT area.
Posted: 3/21/2009 4:54:04 PM
I may have interest. Let me know when.
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Women question a man over 50 and not been married?
Posted: 3/21/2009 4:51:22 PM
The question lies with the person who is asking: In 50+ years, how have you NOT found someone out of over 6 billion people in this world to have a grand connection with?
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Would you prefer being friends or lovers
Posted: 2/15/2009 9:24:33 AM
i prefer to be friends first and lovers later... for me the best combo to a lasting relationship
 blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Do I need to know this?
Posted: 2/15/2009 9:18:22 AM
this guy is doing to you what he's doing to everyone. He's very insecure and a collector of people instead of having intimacy with someone. He's not wired right... run away now!
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Men, confidence and money
Posted: 12/28/2008 2:57:02 PM
All women like confident men
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Young children over 45
Posted: 12/28/2008 12:22:20 PM
Show her that you can be the best parent for your child and that you do not expect her to do any work. Prove it to her; she will stay.
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 87 (view)
 
I think I now understand why you are divorced.
Posted: 12/28/2008 12:19:32 PM
I don't view divorced people as being broken, less desirable, etc. As a matter of fact, I would prefer to befriend a divorced person because they may have similar life experiences to me.

I think all people can be great if they are inspired by the right person; what's good for me may not be for another - therefore, I say... look at anyone and do not discriminate divorced people; for they are "someone else's loss."
 Blueeyes2love
Joined: 12/14/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Is being sexy/sensual a subconsious act?
Posted: 12/28/2008 12:16:02 PM
Yes, I believe being sensual is a subconsious act. You can try to be sexy, but its always better if it comes naturally.
 
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