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 Author Thread: What are your feelings on elderly parents and dating?
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What are your feelings on elderly parents and dating?
Posted: 7/22/2007 9:28:34 AM
Just to clarify, I'm not playing nurse. My Mom is quite active, she just has never driven. For instance, we are on a bowling league ( a bowling machine at a bar), and play cards with friends. My house is just around the corner from her apartment, and while I'm at work, she walks over and takes my dog outside, unless the weather's bad. LOL< then she calls my sister to do it after she gets offa work.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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What are your feelings on elderly parents and dating?
Posted: 7/21/2007 10:54:53 AM
Man, there are several thread relating to this topic.

My Mom is 82. Dad passed away 2 1/2 years ago. My brother and sister are married (not to each other, ya sickos). They both work day shift. I'm single and work evening shift, so I do a lot of the "helping" Mom out. If a woman has a problem with me trying to help my Mom, who doesn't drive, BTW, then she should just pass by my profile, as I ain't interested.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Great Lakes Medieval Faire
Posted: 7/18/2007 9:01:32 AM
If some of you want to get together, you should plan to meet somewhere....like by the birds...at a specific time. Ya never know who else may just crash in, too, LOL>
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Geneva-On-The-Lake POF get together.
Posted: 6/28/2007 9:47:23 AM
Set it up. I tried, but there wasn't any interest. Maybe now's a better time. Unfortunately, Conneaut Lake Park isn't open any more. Waldameer is still going strong, it's on route 'alternate-5' in Erie, pa.......at least a 20 min drive across town from Presque Isle Casino. And, gee, it's gotta be about 60 miles from GOTL to the casino. Anyhow, if humanly possible, I'll join you all for a GTG at either location. LOL, I probably wouldn't go to both places, though, as I live just about halfway between them.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Momma's Boy?
Posted: 6/25/2007 2:38:56 AM
I am single, my brother and sister are both married. I work evenings, they both work days. My mother doesn't drive, my Dad passed away 2 1/2 years ago. My mother is 82 years old. Unless I take her someplace, she just sits in her apartment 6 days a week - since my sister takes her grocery shopping on Fridays. I talk to her on the phone usually 2 or 3 times a day for 2-5 minutes just to see if she needs anything. If I don't have any other plans, I take her to a friends' house and we all play cards together on weekend evenings. She and I bowl on a league (bowling machine at a bar). I also take her to visit her side of the family and my Dad at the cemetary whenever she wants to go. (In my car, I have a box that contains shears, for trimming the grass around the headstones and a jug that I use to water the flowers that we've planted there).

I say....I miss my Dad and realize that my Mom isn't going to be around forever. I want to make her remaining time as enjoyable as I can. If you all think that makes me a Momma's Boy, than I'll accept that label and wear it with pride.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Would you date/marry a single mom with 4 kids?
Posted: 6/24/2007 12:31:23 AM
I wouldn't have a problem with a woman with 4 kids. But, at 45, I'd have a problem with 4 kids under 7 years of age. I'm at the age where I can deal with part-time kids Like grandkids, but not raising kids full-time.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Geneva-On-The-Lake POF get together.
Posted: 6/17/2007 3:34:56 PM
No one was interested, so I made other plans for that weekend. Maybe we can try to get something going there at the end of summer.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Geneva-On-The-Lake POF get together.
Posted: 6/2/2007 4:32:15 AM
Yeah, I hadn't seen anything about 534 being shut down. I'm heading to GOTL today to see where we can meet. I'll Get back to ya later.
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 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Geneva-On-The-Lake POF get together.
Posted: 6/1/2007 3:49:56 AM
To get to GOTL, all you have to do is get to rt 534, then go north.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Geneva-On-The-Lake POF get together.
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:30:48 PM
How can you hijack a whole community? I suggested the GOTL party after someone else suggested that it would be a good NE Ohio spot. EVERYONE is welcome to come up here to our "little corner of paradise" - just the same as everyone is welcome to go to any other public place (isn't America grand)? Personally, Columbus in construction season is just wayyyyyy to far for me. Cleveland is gonna be about 1 1/2 hours, and columbus is another hunnert miles or so.

SOOOOO, I dunno yet where we're gonna try to meet up, but I'll figger it out this weekend. Sat, June 23rd
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Geneva-On-The-Lake POF get together.
Posted: 5/30/2007 8:49:10 AM
I have traveled as far as Washington Courthouse, Oh for a chat room party (a few times, in fact. But, that was 5 years ago. Gas costs more than double now, and my weary old bones don't like making "long" trips without good cause any more.

So, for those of you that are interested in a get together on June 23rd in Geneva-On-The-Lake, let's do it!!!.I haven't been out there yet (Had hoped for help from someone that lives closeby there....guess not). I'll go this weekend and find a good place to meet.

My thought is to get together for a picnic, or at a restaurant for lunch or dinner, then play games (putt-putt, skee=ball, etc) then meet up at one of the night clubs for drinks, dancing and ....whatever else. Have a fun day.

Personally, I'd rather be at a gathering of 10 people than 210.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Horrific Habits and Other Deal Breakers
Posted: 5/28/2007 11:12:02 PM
Msg 20..................I wish I had that problem on dates!
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Memorial Day - What Will You Be Remembering (Your Veteran)
Posted: 5/28/2007 7:43:10 AM
Thanks, Cdn guy, for 'finding' Gordon Sinclair's article right here in POF.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Memorial Day - What Will You Be Remembering (Your Veteran)
Posted: 5/28/2007 3:51:09 AM
My Dear Cap'n

obviously, you have internet access. I think you should research an article named "the Americans" written by a Canadian named Gordon Sinclair (and, read it). It pretty much sums up the Foolish American mentality. the article is from decades ago, but it still fits.

Also, I think 'Rememberance Day' is more aligned with our 'Veterans Day', which happens to be Nov 12th this year.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Memorial Day - What Will You Be Remembering (Your Veteran)
Posted: 5/28/2007 3:40:24 AM
First of all, I'd like to say Thank You to all of the veterans. Active duty and former, we are all Vets.

My father was never in the military, as a young child in W VA, he lost 3 fingers to a blasting cap near a coal mine. therefore, he couldn't join up for WW2.

But, 5 of his sons served in the Army, Navy and Marine Corps for a combined total of 48 years. The only family member presently serving is my brother's (step)son, who is in Bahgdad, in the Army.

Today, as I sit down with my mother, brother (his wife's gotta work), and sister, we'll think of him, along with all of the other vets we know - uncles, cousins and friends.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 18 (view)
 
I need to ask a question.
Posted: 5/28/2007 3:19:54 AM
In my opinion, the worst thing a person can do is to be fat (like me) and wear sweats to an all-you-can-eat buffet. that just has Pig written all over it. I have several pairs of sweats, but I usually wear them to sleep in winter, or to lounge around the house......or to actually go out and exercise in (rarely, tho). On a date?? The wearer must not want a second date.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Geneva-On-The-Lake POF get together.
Posted: 5/27/2007 3:31:13 AM
I'm putting out feelers to see if there's interest in a get together in Geneva-On-The-Lake, Ohio.

It's a resort with a carnival atmosphere, with an air of 50's nostalgia. There are a few amusement park type rides, games, and plenty of places to eat, drink, and buy souvenirs. Also hotels close by, and the Geneva Lodge, which was just built a couple of years ago.

I'm hoping for a june 23rd or 30th time frame.

Who all is interested??
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Event in Mentor, Ohio
Posted: 5/27/2007 3:22:42 AM
Well, I took the first baby step in this. I emailed tseames to see if she is able to help get it going. She's in Geneva, and I haven't been there in a LONG time. I'm gonna go look around, tho. Hopefully get it set up for either the 23rd or 30th of June...if that's not too soon. I'll even start up a thread for it.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Event in Mentor, Ohio
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:57:05 AM
Jeez, Jewel's is always so packed, the "regulars" stand in line at the doors for hours to get in, sometimes. You'd have a better shot at Geneva-on-the-lake. HMMMM.......GOTL mat be an idea to work with..............
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Get togethers in the cleveland area
Posted: 5/26/2007 3:45:43 AM
Well, it doesn't appear there's any interest in having one at O"Malley's. Only workatnite expressed any interest.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Event in Mentor, Ohio
Posted: 5/22/2007 6:43:25 AM
Last summer, I went to a POF get together in Cleveland. It was a good time, although everyone dispersed early. I got to meet about 40 people there. I won't drive after I've driven, so I usually won't go anywhere without a hotel nearby.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Event in Mentor, Ohio
Posted: 5/22/2007 1:24:32 AM
Lena, if you're from Mentor...why don't YOU set something up there? Even if only 6 of us show up, that's 5 new friends you can make.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Event in Mentor, Ohio
Posted: 5/21/2007 1:10:54 AM
Check out the ohio threads. There are several suggested and/or planned for NE ohio
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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This is what we call A CLUE.
Posted: 5/19/2007 5:55:34 AM
Apparently, I don't have A CLUE> I thought wine-tasting was something that was done at a bar.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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if you had no kids would you date a grandma/grandpa
Posted: 5/19/2007 5:53:22 AM
Sure I would. I think kids are awesome. Just because I haven't met the woman that I want to spend the rest of my life with yet, doesn't mean that I hate kids. I don't expect to father one (there was a time when I would have liked to, but, alas, it wasn't to be). Any woman that I'd date seriously would be in the age bracket where grandchildren are a definite possibility.

BTW, Reallady, do you watch the Ohio forums? There are several threads about upcoming get-togethers throughout the state.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Starting over with a child now....How does that affect things?
Posted: 5/19/2007 5:36:32 AM
At one point, I too considered this option. Being a mid-30's never-married man, I wasn't sure if I'd have the time to devote to the potential child, and I decided against taking on the responsibility. "You're a better man than I, Gunga Din"
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Post-and-run.
Posted: 5/19/2007 5:29:42 AM
I think you should stalk the person that did that to you and then beat them to a bloody pulp when you find them..........or just forget about it.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Northeast Ohio/Norwest PA party?
Posted: 5/19/2007 5:26:59 AM
I'll look into it and see if I'm even available that day. Cleveland and Warren are each over an hour away from me. Conneaut Lake is about 45 minutes away. Rt 44 is the Chardon exit offa I-90 and that is 43 miles. LOL< I used to travel all over hell's half acre to chat parties.....I'll go to mapquest and check it out. Do you have a sign up list for those attending?
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Northeast Ohio/Norwest PA party?
Posted: 5/18/2007 7:16:17 AM
LOL I dunno about that. I'm not sure where Burton is, offhand. I know where Twinsburg is, and O'Malley's is closer. Regardless, if I see a party that I think I can make it to, I'll sign up and attend. I'm not going to parties in Columbus any more, though. It's almost 3 1/2 hours.....plus construction delays. LOL, I wish the NW PA people would get one together in Erie. I could be there in 40 minutes.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Northeast Ohio/Norwest PA party?
Posted: 5/18/2007 1:35:58 AM
I'm located at the OH/PA state line and would LOVE to se a party develop closer than Cleveland. I just posted in another thread suggesting a party June 16th at O'Malley's bar, which is at the cleveland airport Day's Inn. If someone sets up something closer to the state line, count me in. I don't remember where it was, but I went to a chat party in youngstown once that was located at a hotel bar. (I don't like to drink and then drive 1-3 hours home afterwards).
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Get togethers in the cleveland area
Posted: 5/18/2007 1:26:59 AM
The chat roon I used to belong to held parties 3 or 4 times a year at O'Malley's (the bar at the airport Day's Inn). It's convenient to the interstate and large enough that a party doesn't hamper their regular crowds. Would anyone be interested in a party there ? UMMMMM...let's say sat, June 16th? The bar opens at 8:00 till 2:30. If anyone shows interest, I'll start a new thread in a day or two for people to "sign up".
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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TO ALL MOTHER 'S ..
Posted: 5/13/2007 8:46:19 AM
and I agree. I hope that all of you mom's have a wonderfully stress-free day (yeah, I know the chances of that actually happening).
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Do small towns hinder dating if you are a man in his 50's?
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:51:17 AM
I wasn't saying that I am worried about what people say....oh hell no. All I meant was that options are limited, both in who to date, and where to go with them. I love the small town atmosphere, for the most part. But, if I'm with someone new, I'd like the chance to get acquainted without being asked 500 times if this 'might be the one'. LOL< ask anyone here, I do what I want to, regardless of what others might say about it.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Do small towns hinder dating if you are a man in his 50's?
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:04:43 AM
YES!!! And, age has nothing to do with it. My family has lived in this litttle town since 1969. I left for the military in '79 and came back in '93. Everyone knows what everyone else is doing , and they gossip about it all the time. You can go to one of the 2 restaurants open on a Sunday, and listen to all the stories about who is doing what with whom.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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saying I love you, but not meaning it.....
Posted: 5/4/2007 6:00:07 AM
way back.....when I had a social life, it used to really bother me that some women would say it after two or three dates. I even told some..."oh ya do not, you don't even REALLY know me yet" Talk about a way to pi$$ off someone, LOL.

I could count on one hand (with fingers left over) the number of women I've said it to.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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What really excites your date after 45
Posted: 5/3/2007 10:15:11 AM
On a first date, I don't want "anything" to reach its peak. Adrenaline included.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Why do you read Forums?
Posted: 5/3/2007 10:05:21 AM
posts #80 and 83 pretty much sum it up for me. but, I still like to see the topics that some are involved in.........like Ron9, for instance.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Why do you read Forums?
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:14:20 AM
I started this thread almost a year ago, and I thought it may be fun to revive it. There has been a lot of proverbial water under the proverbial bridge since then. I left POF to join another site that is JUST forums. Then, I bought a different house and moved. During the week-or-so that I was without internet, I actually accomplished a lot in real life. so, I'm not on here nearly as much as I used to be.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Would you date a guy in the armed forces??
Posted: 4/28/2007 7:00:32 AM
Nope. I wouldn't date a guy at all - not even a rich one.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 53 (view)
 
...A Sexual Relationship WITHOUT Emotional Attachments...
Posted: 4/28/2007 6:43:54 AM
Nope. Not in the long term. One of the two will soon mess up the "stress relief" by letting emotions in.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Akron/Cleve. Mon. 4/23 - Casino 1-Day Bus Trip to New - Erie Casino.
Posted: 4/25/2007 10:11:55 AM
I'm glad you had a good time. You drove right by me. I'm in Conneaut, the last ohio exit off I-90.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 8:03:48 AM
Timothy...........I don't think the label 'confirmed batchelor' really fits guys in a dating web site. Most of us (I am one), that are 45+ and never married clearly state that we just haven't met the woman that we want to spend our life with. If I were dead set against marriage, ( I hope to get married some time - preferably sooner than later) I wouldn't be taking up space in a dating site.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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How far is too when it comes to falling for someone you just met online.
Posted: 4/22/2007 1:11:22 PM
I've been on line for about 8 years now, and I used to be heavily involved with a chat room. I talked to hundreds of women, and went to dozens of chat room parties over the course of about 4 years. I know a few couples that chatted, met, married and have 'made it' for 5 years or more......most don't last 5 months (if they get as far as living together).

When you 'meet' on line, whether it's a chat room, IM, or whatever - you only get one aspect of the other person. Every person is complex, no one is exactly the same black and white image they project during an internet conversation. As you think about that person more, you start thinking about whatever it is that you are looking for in a partner and project qualities that you seek into some of the 'unknowns' of your new friend. It just snowballs onward, and suddenly you are in love with the image that you've built of this person that you've never even met.

I have seen it dozens of times.....I've even known people that claimed to be engaged, and had never even actually met their supposed fiancee!!!
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Going out with friends
Posted: 4/22/2007 6:54:03 AM
It looks to me from the original post that the man is proud of her, and enjoys being with her whenever he can, while she is ashamed of him or jealous that one of her friends will try to take him away. Just my two cents.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Roommates/Freinds and Loaning Money
Posted: 4/22/2007 6:45:52 AM
Yes, I have loaned money to friends and room mates. In the case of room mates, it was always with the understanding that the money would be paid back with the next month's rent payment. With friends, it can get sticky. I don't think I'd loan more than I can afford to lose to anyone. If I loan a friend 10 or 20 and they don't repay me....they weren't a real friend, and gaining that knowledge was probably worth the investment. Last year, I helped someone with Christmas gifts, with the understanding that I would be repaid from their income tax refund. That worked out just fine, they got their taxes when my house payments were due. I wouldn't loan money to "just anybody" though.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/22/2007 6:15:54 AM
Wow, cdn guy. I musta missed the posts where they said to avoid widowed people.

I guess it all just adds up to ...... look for someone to date - but don't trust them, huh?
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 28 (view)
 
From the horses mouth?
Posted: 4/22/2007 3:32:18 AM
Someone said that there are 2 women on here for every man. Would mine please step forward and email me immediately.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/21/2007 8:21:06 PM
DRG wins the big prize! he hit the nail on the head. It's better to be in no relationship, than to be in a bad one.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Akron/Cleve. Mon. 4/23 - Casino 1-Day Bus Trip to New - Erie Casino.
Posted: 4/21/2007 12:11:33 PM
Wow! It looks like you might be going alone. I've already been to Presque Isle Downs - it's about a 35 minute drive for me. If you have any questions about it, feel free to email me and ask. Unfortunately, I just found out about your outing, or I'd have offered my 2 cents. I go on bus trips to Seneca Allegheny, in Salamenca, NY occaisionally. The 'norm' is 25.00 per person for the trip, and the casino gives each person 20.00 back in slots, and 5.00 towards food. I have a friend that used to live in Hudson, a trip to Salamenca would take about 3 hours.
 terry44030
Joined: 12/4/2005
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Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/21/2007 9:45:38 AM
Turk, I thank you for the dictionary definitions of drivel. IMHO, the third definition applies to several of the posters in this thread.

3. To talk stupidly or childishly.

As was stated several times previously in many ways, private definitons are quite different than Websters'. I invite all of you people out there that "know" there is an ABNORMALITY in un-married people over 45 (or any age), to post the factual information substantiating your claims.

Sevearl of you DISS me simply because I chose not not wed the woman that I was engaged to and learned was a drunkard, or the fiancee who got herself a b/f and another guy she was screwing, while living with me in a LTR. You say it's a defect in me. This, in MY definition , is DRIVEL.

Before several of you jump down my throat about this, all I'm saying is you shouldn't prejudge me (or any of us) simply based on our marital status.

Here's a thought, try getting to know people before you meet them and get married.
 
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