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 Author Thread: Guys, do you think it's weird when a woman doesn't want children?
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Guys, do you think it's weird when a woman doesn't want children?
Posted: 7/3/2012 9:37:26 PM
I'm not a christian, but I do find it unusual when women don't want children--just because families and children seem to be so central in most of the women I've known. It's certainly not weird or bad; but in my experience definitely less common than not.

For me, I would want kids, but that's just because I've always wanted to have kids. It would be very difficult for me if I was with someone that didn't want kids. I don't know that it would be impossible or not; but I would definitely be conflicted. There are definite advantages to not having kids though.

The problem with kids is that you're never quite sure how they're going to turn out. I've met kids who are just naturally good people and nice and kind all that regardless of how their parents are. But on the flipside I've met kids that are just total bastards and it's all the parents can do from not murdering them.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 7/3/2012 9:27:16 PM
5x a day would hurt. even when i was in my early 20s i could barely do 5 (averaging 2-3).
either they have an unusually high sex drive or they're lying/exaggerating.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 63 (view)
 
What defines a straight mans view of homosexuals?
Posted: 1/20/2010 1:49:37 AM

A long elaborate put down doesn't change the fact that my kids will not have to share the earth with descendants of homosexuals...


wrong.
http://www.vancouversun.com/news/teens+higher+risk+pregnancy+study/1082366/story.html

i know several gay people that have children as a result of trying to 'make themselves straight' or to please parents or to make them appear straight.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 657 (view)
 
Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 1/20/2010 1:25:23 AM
after seeing so many people get divorced i'm not really keen on the idea that marriage is the endgame. i'd much rather just have a companion where i can do my thing, they can do their thing, and we can do somethings together (monogamy is a good thing) but we are 'together' to have fun and to help each other. it's not like it's "until something better comes along", it's more like "marriage isn't all-that".
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
How many of you have DISABLED Microsoft Updates?
Posted: 9/14/2009 1:20:00 AM
if you connect your windows box to the internet all, you should always leave updates on. especially if it fixes buffer overflow errors. in all the years i've worked with MSFT operating systems, there have been very few updates that have hosed systems (although IE tends to be the riskier updates to allow in these terms).

in terms of "being charged to test their products". every OS is going to have these problems (yes, even the much vaunted linux). we're talking literally millions of lines of code for security fixes, ease of use issues, and new technologies. you're going to have stray pointers in there some where. as much as I disagree with a lot of MSFT does, they really are in a position of "damned if they do, damned if they don't". i'm frankly amazed that you don't welcome the fixes they provide.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Are more of you purchasing MAC systems over Windows?
Posted: 9/14/2009 1:06:22 AM
1. virus protection for macs haven't caught on yet. their primary defense is their market share is around 10% and so they aren't a huge target. the latest hacker con shows that macs are indeed vulnerable to virus attacks. it's not a huge issue yet, but could be in the future.

2. there are several ways to run windows on mac hardware; either as a dual boot situation (using boot camp) or through a virtual machine (such as parallels). in both cases you'd just update it like you normally would--run windows updates while windows is running.

3. any software that is designed for windows will run while windows is running (even parallels--parallels recently added hardware video acceleration though so i don't know how fast and bug-free it is--and only up to directx9; so no vista directx 10 games :-) ).

4. if it is, not very noticeable.

5. Macs can run windows, it shouldn't make a difference. as i said, either use boot camp or some virtual machine solution such as vmware or parallels. there will be a little bit of a speed hit when running windows in a virtual machine, but that is true in any OS.

6. well you get to run MacOS... and with some vm solutions such as fusion; you can run windows applications while running MacOS at the same time. other than price tag and some initial pain with set up--there is no real downside.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
What do you use for remote IT support?
Posted: 7/29/2009 9:39:37 PM
I use and have used the following:

SecureVNC/TightVNC
Remote Desktop

When in a domain I prefer Remote Assistance
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Why aren't there more women involved in math and science?
Posted: 7/9/2009 1:26:02 AM
well, first i have to say that women definitely hold their own in science, math, etc ...
however, i feel that honestly, most women are simply not interested in those fields.
when i was in college, studies have shown that men and women are generally "hardwired" to have certain interests (cf. the gender role studies back in the 60's where they tried to get boys to play with barbies and girls to play with construction toys and other role reversal situations). obviously this is not true for everyone, but i pretty much agree with the idea that it's just more or less who we are. men seem to be drawn to fields like construction and engineering (and related fields). it's not good, it's not bad--it just "is".
this kind of relates to another study that was recently done where they concluded (i don't know how correctly, however), that divorce rates are higher in families with "house husbands" where the women work. the conclusion speculated the rate was higher because the wives don't respect the husbands due to stepping outside their expected roles.

as an unrelated side note (due to reading posts before mine): AP chem in HS sucked -- it was way too hard for me (molecular decomposition kicked my ass and we started that in the first week--not even the "welcome to chem, this is the periodic table"); but the "normal" chem class was way too dumbed down (where all we did was "this is our particular element for today, and here is today's practical--be amazed at the sparks")--i wish i could have started AP chem again after the first couple of months of "regular" chem.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 77 (view)
 
How do you think it will happen?
Posted: 7/9/2009 1:17:41 AM
well, if you believe in the bible, the world will be destroyed by fire.
a friend at work thinks this translates to "huge asteroids"; but i could equally see it being climate change or warfare.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Strange liberal demographic of my film group... WHY?
Posted: 7/6/2009 1:08:36 AM

for the most conservatives are individualistic while liberals have more of the Herd mentality.


this may be true actually--most of my conservative friends generally like small groups of get-togethers where my more liberal friends like bigger parties. who knows. interesting theory!




Now of course there are social liberals who are economic conservatives...that would be the camp I'd be in for the most part. To lump all conservatives or liberals for that matter together is folly. It's just not that simple.


there are tons of groups/labels: liberal, classical liberal, neo liberalism, libertarian, conservative, neo conservative, etc ... generally i'm not too happy with the modern neoconservative movement with its aggressive foreign stances and its seemingly lackadaisical concern about domestic freedoms.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 51 (view)
 
men's habits....
Posted: 7/5/2009 2:20:38 PM


Men are very, very similar to women, except that their triggers can be a little different. I don't see anything wrong with a person wanting to have sex or masturbate every day. Nor is this limited to younger men, or even just MEN for that matter. A man is a visually-triggered creature, so he may look at porn and think about sex. What do YOU think about when YOU masturbate, laundry soap?

Lingerie creates mystery. This means that a (visually-triggered) man's imagination will fill in what he doesn't see. When imagination and reality are in conflict, imagination wins, every time. Therefore, his imagination will make whatever is under that seductive lingerie (or clothing) even hotter than what is actually there. YAY!

QFT -- nice.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Windows 7 RTM set to be released to manufactures on July 13.
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:43:14 AM


Yes but it will be ran on newer netbooks, considering older netbooks and entry level netbooks will struggle with Windows 7.


if it ran vista, it will run 7, and with better performance.
i wonder if the RTM will push up the oct 22 date?
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Looking for me Geek.. here is why!!
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:41:06 AM
well there is that website, http://www.www.hookacanuck.com/
unfortunately it seems defunct
i haven't been to canada since a couple years ago (visiting some friends in toronto)
perhaps i will have to look harder next time i visit?
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 113 (view)
 
why do most men judge women by their number of past lovers?
Posted: 7/5/2009 12:37:26 AM
because no one likes to feel like they're going to be compared--and worry about what if those comparisons come up short.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Bi-Sexuality / Women
Posted: 7/3/2009 4:17:43 PM


They love men that are gay, they all want one to be their best friend...They accept women that are gay and say it really isn't a big a deal...


i haven't found any of those things to be true in my experiences.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Firefox 3.5 has been offically released!
Posted: 7/3/2009 4:15:07 PM


It's beyond me how so many don't even know about Firefox!


probably because IE is "good enough"
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 85 (view)
 
What operating system are you using?
Posted: 7/3/2009 4:13:51 PM
for my home desk computer i run vista ultimate sp2
for my laptop i run xp sp3
for my server i run xp sp3
for my mac i run mac OSX
:-)
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Vista & MSO 2003
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:45:09 AM
@OP

Office 2003 and Office 2007 can coexist peacefully on the same machine but generally Office 2007's outlook will trump 2003's (but you may be able to get around that if you install 2003 second--i haven't tested that yet).

if you have office 2003 i would recommend getting microsoft's office compatibility pack, it allows office 2003 to open 2007 openxml documents (the docx, and so on)...

that said, openoffice.org i *believe* supports office 2007 document formats and it's free. if you're training on 2003 you may want to use OOo as a backup for 2007 documents. (yes, the ooo page confirms it can open 2007 documents but not save as them).

all the offices, 2003, 2007, and OOo are vista compatible; and they can coexist. if you want 2003 and 2007 to coexist choose a custom install and tell it not to upgrade your 2003.

if you're interested in taking the courses to improve job skills, you may want to consider certification ~> http://www.microsoft.com/learning/en/us/certification/mbc.aspx


 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
WTF: Microsoft Getting Desperate??
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:39:59 AM
although i use firefox (now 3.5) as my main browser, i have to say i actually like IE8.
i haven't heard of the campaign until this thread though--it seems ... like a horrible, horrible idea.

but i don't hate microsoft's technology so much (some of it is quite good, if not burdened with legacy crud and marketing tack); i hate MSFT more or less because of their behavior as a company--but even then balmer is pretty good for a laugh when he loses his temper (although it has been an unusually long time for someone almost infamous for his temper)
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Turn Windows 7 taskbar back to classic mode.
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:31:57 AM
the links don't work :-)

hmm, personally, i love the new "super bar" since it combines all the functions of the quick launch and the normal task bar and is very much a "dock". and the show desktop hotkey is perfect.

but i am interested in seeing how to get the classic look back.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Inappropriate Matches
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:21:15 AM

Hello SYSADMINS,
I have to tell you that your automated mathing system really is lousy. I stated quite clearly that I am a man looking for men so why oh why do you keep sending me profiles of women? I reckon your programming is homophobic. But seriously, why can't you reprogram your system so it only send me matches that I am looking for rather than based upon my gender and your assumption that I want the opposite? That is really poor service and if it isn't changed quickly I am out of here!


well, fret not, it seems to me that POF...while great...seems very much like a continual work in progress. i'm sure with time and some community feedback things will work out. if POF was coded in PHP, i'd help out, but alas, i have not touched ASP
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 16 (view)
 
FOR THE HORDE!
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:16:37 AM


No WoW here, but I frequent L4D, Unreal Tournament 2004, and rarely WC3.


L4D rocks -- i've been playing L4D, Red Alert2, Starcraft, and Spore: Galactic Adventures
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Lucid dreaming... What are the possibilities?
Posted: 7/1/2009 1:12:18 AM
i've never had the ability to steer my dreams, or if i did, i guess i chose not to.
i don't really remember my dreams any more but as a teenager i used to be aware that i was dreaming on several occasions.
oddly enough, i quit remembering my dreams roughly about the same time i realized some of my dreams were about things that were going to happen to me (like one i remember particularly well is how a dodgeball game was going to play out after school, the day before it happened, and it happened exactly as i dreamt it). i guess at the time it bothered me, now i wish i could do that again.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Are there any programmers here?
Posted: 6/23/2009 11:32:59 PM
@bigdaddyjinx
PHP/CSS/SQL ... FTW!
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Looking for me Geek.. here is why!!
Posted: 6/21/2009 11:07:03 PM
@OP
very nice.
too bad i don't live in canada.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 57 (view)
 
extreme fetish
Posted: 6/18/2009 10:25:46 PM
no, in my experience, women have not only not been into fetishes but wouldn't even entertain the idea of more mainstream activities (like receiving or giving oral sex). although i have met a couple of women that have admitted to being turned on by the idea of men wearing panties.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
are girls into bi men and man on man action
Posted: 6/18/2009 10:20:36 PM
well in my experience most women don't like bi men because bi men 'aren't "real" men' apparently. although some women i've met--it doesn't seem to bother them and a couple actually get really turned on by the idea (for various reasons). one thing that's become popular in recent years is that more and more women have admitted to liking yaoi and a few have admitted to enjoying gay movies. you know whatever floats your boat.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
UNIX/Linux Utilities / Apps
Posted: 6/18/2009 1:39:29 AM
Unix/Linux Flavor
Desktop - Ubuntu

Browser - Firefox
Office Software - OpenOffice
Imaging Software - Paint.NET (but not windows)
Instant Messaging - Pidgin
eMail - Thunderbird
Multimedia - Audacity, Totem, MPlayer
Other - WINE, LAMP (Apache, MySQL, PHP)
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Anyone game on Unix/Linux?
Posted: 6/17/2009 8:31:59 PM
-red alert 2
-red alert 3
-starcraft
-spore
-left4dead (steam: team fortress2, half-life1, opposing force, blueshift)
-diablo2

eagerly anticipating starcraft2
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Anyone game on Unix/Linux?
Posted: 6/17/2009 1:04:16 AM
i would totally ditch windows in a heartbeat if i could get windows games to play on *nix. WINE has never really proven itself to be all that workable a solution for me. what really irks me is that parallels for mac (essentially BSD) shows so much promise, i wish they'd port it to debian or slackware.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 76 (view)
 
How dumb is this?
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:46:08 AM
at least it was just a phone number and not a picture of junkage. :fear:

i posted a "hey looking for friends to hang out" ad on craigslist (in their non-hookup section; which apparently doesn't actually exist in this world) and got all kinds of spam, messages for hookups, and a couple "hey i'm drunk, want to do it?" type messages. it truly fills me with dread what their "adult encounters" section is like (or whatever it's called).
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Something ALL women on pof should put in their profiles
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:38:03 AM
i don't mind paying for a date's meal if that what we agree to. i've met people that feel like they need to pay for themselves just so there's no strings, or so they can show they're independent, and there's been those that believe that the asker should always pay. generally, i find first dates to be rather awkward (for most people) and feel much more comfortable with meeting as friends the first time--that way, at least in my mind, there are no expectations or obligations for anyone and more time can be spent stumbling through likes and dislikes.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Dating in the workplace?
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:27:23 AM
well considering you're working at a movie theatre and still pretty young--at least ask her if she's seeing anyone to test the waters. generally i'd say dating people from the work place can lead to Bad Things (tm) more often than not because your work and personal life will start to overlap and if it ends bad it will make work hell. but at this point in your life, live a little.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 72 (view)
 
Why would a guy turn down a fuck buddy?
Posted: 2/11/2009 10:26:45 PM
1. possibly already in a relationship.
2. fear of "strings" being attached.
3. fear of STDs (and children if applicable).
4. fear of f--k buddy that turns into the psycho obsessed "now we need to get married" type
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 39 (view)
 
being gay - genetic or social
Posted: 1/13/2009 7:38:41 PM


being gay is a choice in my opinion, if humans were meant to be gay there wouldn't be 2 genders. i also believe it's about the way you were raised as a child, there's alot of factors that could make one homosexual. but i still stand strong in my belief that it's a choice. and besides how the heck could you tell the difference between a gay baby and a straight one? it makes no sense to me. and not to mention i have no interest in doing research on homosexuality.


no, it's apparent that you make your decisions on truthiness rather than research and proved my point
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
edit posts
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:09:55 PM
oh ok, i guess i didn't see the option.
thanks!
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
edit posts
Posted: 1/12/2009 8:44:08 PM
that would be "yes, thank you for your suggestion"
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
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edit posts
Posted: 1/12/2009 8:15:55 PM
i would like to be able edit my posts :-)
also a single log on for profiles/forum
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 37 (view)
 
being gay - genetic or social
Posted: 1/12/2009 8:12:28 PM
i believe that sexuality is mostly biologically caused. some people i've known have "gone gay" because of abuse but those that i've met have been in a great minority and from my interaction with them i often wonder if there aren't deeper issues. from the current research it seems most of human traits are from an interplay of genes and i believe that sexuality is no different. studies of yeast has shown that external environmental factors can also turn genes on/off. i think most people that say sexuality is a choice either use it as an excuse for their hatred/actions or lack of intellectual honesty to do some honest to goodness research.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2008/dec/01/homosexuality-genetics-usa
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 131 (view)
 
How can anyone feel comfortable enough to have sex?
Posted: 1/11/2009 5:16:29 PM
sex is what keeps the species going.
if sex was a disgusting thing that you weren't meant to do -- there'd be no humans left.

christian dogma says sex is actually a good thing when in the confines of a marriage. basically, don't be a whore, don't degrade yourself, and enjoy sex within a relationship. you should actually read the new testament. the old testament is the law and the new testament fulfills the law and lays down new guidelines. also, if you're not christian, why do you feel bound by old testament laws?

i'm not christian but at least i've heard enough theology to know that sex is not inherently evil -- lust on the other hand, is what is condemned.
 luckygreentiger
Joined: 1/5/2009
Msg: 38 (view)
 
what is with everyone being bi-sexual?
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:59:01 PM
i think everyone is somewhere along the sexual spectrum with very few people being 100% straight or gay. studies seem to support this--but most people feel that they need to label themselves one way or the other. it does seem to have gotten "trendy" in the last 10 years or so but doesn't really change the reality of the situation.
 
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