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 Author Thread: Getting my stuff back from the ex
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Joined: 12/27/2015
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Getting my stuff back from the ex
Posted: 9/14/2016 6:54:42 AM
Just an update on this... He dropped off the camera this morning . It just took a few days to coordinate because we are both busy.I got a lot of cynical replies in this post, but he was never a bad guy. We hugged, said our goodbyes and exchange the stuff, and that's the end of it, I can close out this chapter now. I think there were a lot of people assuming the worst about both of us from this thread. Sometimes that's just the way life works out, and now I can move on.
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Getting my stuff back from the ex
Posted: 9/10/2016 4:55:26 AM
Just an update…

I did finally worked up the nerve to text him. Honestly, it is hard for me to talk to him. He told me that he actually texted me on Tuesday about it, but I never got this text… Who knows what happened. Maybe it was all just a misunderstanding. I do feel like he is holding it hostage sometimes to maintain some connections at a distance. I don't know…

And responding to the messages about his roommate and all that, it's complicated. He is in between moving, so I really don't know exactly where he is at, could be staying at family's house as well.
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Getting my stuff back from the ex
Posted: 9/9/2016 11:13:41 AM
Um, I never said I wanted to still be friends with him. I don't believe in being friends with exes. He's the one who still sends me occasional random texts. I'm just trying to figure out the camera, which still has my mom's pictures on it and isn't mine.. How does that make me looking for drama because I want to handle things like adults and end this? I don't want to just drop by because he lives with a roommate... Specifically not looking for drama, that's why I'm asking.
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Getting my stuff back from the ex
Posted: 9/9/2016 9:53:11 AM
So what if he says he can't make it?

I was trying to give him the benefit of a doubt. I went away last weekend and told him I wouldn't be around. And, He was always so thoughtful when he was my bf, but I barely recognize him now. I know he's going through something, but I don't know why he's acting like this towards me. We never fought or anything. Now, it's like he can't even face me for something so simple as a goodbye and exchange.
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Getting my stuff back from the ex
Posted: 9/9/2016 8:52:22 AM
Dated this guy I met on POF for a couple of months. All indications were that we really liked each other, never had issues. Then, he found out his father is dying and decided to move to Florida to spend his final time with him. He told me his feelings for me never died, but lately, he cut off communication with me (for a few weeks, he was still sending me random texts and was amicable; sort of mixed msgs). The last he talked to me, he said the only reason we couldn't work out was the distance, that he didn't want to hurt either of us. But I just want closure. It ended so abruptly, the last time we saw each other, he kissed me and said he'd see me soon; we were making plans with his family.

The main thing is, I lent him my mom's camera for his work. I've reminded him numerous times I need it back and that I also have some of his things he left here. He has said don't worry, he'll drop it off before he leaves. The last time I reminded him was a week ago. I'm not sure when he's moving. Do I bother him again over this camera, should I wait or what? I don't want to come off as a clingy ex. I'm trying so hard to move on, but I feel like I have a right to ask for something back that isn't a gift. I told him he can keep everything else; we were both good to each other. I just want closure now. I even offered to drive to a central location so he wouldn't have to drive to my place to drop it off, but he keeps saying he will drive here, then never does. I only text him about once a week over this, and it's been a month since I saw him. What should I do now?
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Posted: 9/9/2016 8:26:43 AM
This is mostly to vent. I recently had a painful breakup and wasn't trying to jump into a new relationship. This younger man (10 yrs) has been pursuing me on POF and persisted, despite the fact that I told him I wasn't really looking for a guy his age. But he kept sending me msgs, and he was cute, so we started talking. He was relentlessly asking me on dates to walk around the park. Today, I finally gave in and decided ok, it might be fun, and it will get me out of the house. We talked on the phone and agreed on a specific place to meet in 45 min. I get in the car and start driving. I get a msg from him a few min into it saying he's going to pass, but text him later. Well, I have no intention of seeing him now; he's obviously a flake I'd waste my time on. But why go to all this trouble?? Is this a game, just to see if he can make me feel foolish?

More cynical than ever...
 
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