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 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
femdom
Posted: 4/1/2013 7:25:36 PM
Check Fetlife.

Also it depends a lot on your location as well. I live in Montreal, there's a lot of interest in kink, here. I'd imagine there's less in Arkansas or many other places.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Do all men like getting blowjobs?
Posted: 3/21/2013 7:33:15 PM

I think little****guys might not like it. lol


Don't you think it'd be the opposite?
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Advice on casting my net in the real world too
Posted: 3/17/2013 8:34:07 PM
You live in Montreal, like me. There are 329824 places to meet people on any given day. If you haven't looked up groups or events on Craigslist, joined a class to learn a hobby, etc, you need to do that straight away.

Go to Lafontaine park in about a month, any day in the afternoon.

Do not talk to girls on public transport. Most of them will feel threatened of off-put by it. Only talk to a woman in an open space with lots of people around, like a bar, park, sidewalk, store, whatever. Always make sure she has some method to get away if she needs to. Not that you're threatening, but we live in a society where it's easy for a woman to feel trapped in various ways.

As for anxiety, everyone who's ever begun to talk to women has been anxious. Just have something to say besides "hi, you're pretty." If you go to a bar or something like that, think of something actually insightful to say. Don't say "Hey, I like your hair" because that's transparent. Comment on something going on that she's noticing. If I want to talk to a girl I don't know, I'll notice something she's noticing and respond to it somehow. She'll say something if she wants to talk, otherwise I move on.

Wall of text. Good luck!
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
When to hide or delete a profile
Posted: 3/17/2013 8:16:58 PM
I would get rid of my profile as soon as we were exclusive. If I had any friends to keep contact with, they'd be on my Facebook or I'd have their email. I don't date anyone who would get jealous over my keeping a POF account, but there's no wisdom in keeping it up just in case, really.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
why dont woman get back to me
Posted: 3/17/2013 8:14:28 PM
Haha, it might show a little bit. But that's okay, it's not exactly easy. I just think I've got a good handle on the POF thing, that's all. No shame in asking for tips, the internet is a tricky place. Good luck!
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Why won't girls like me :''(
Posted: 3/17/2013 7:46:27 PM
I don't know what's on your leg in that second pic, but it looks like some sort of diseased creature climbing up to your hip. Ahh!

Your profile's inconsistent and it seems like you're trying to please everyone. You are spontaneous but you like to plan things, etc. Be bold in your descriptions of yourself, and don't be afraid to admit the kind of person you are. Nobody likes a malleable everyman.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
why dont woman get back to me
Posted: 3/17/2013 7:41:30 PM
You are seeking long-term but don't have a primary occupation listed, you only mention hobbies and interests. Someone who's interested in long-term will want to know about your stability.

Also your profile says you have kids but you don't even mention them.

I'd include those things if you're looking for someone to take you seriously.

Good luck! Hope it's cool for some young little shit to give his input :p
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Profile Manud99
Posted: 3/17/2013 7:38:48 PM
The idealistic answer is no, it isn't bad - the realistic answer is that yes, some women will not like the pictures of you with another woman. Just the way it is. It's the same with the shirtless pics, some women won't like them but you can't please everyone.

People might assume things about you based on your appearance, which is kind of a weird thing. You seem like a decent dude, though. I'm sure you'll have success.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 40 (view)
 
male escorts
Posted: 3/17/2013 7:15:45 PM
It's so easy to dismiss this kind of behavior. It's not as simple as "Women can get sex all the time so why would she?" Take the time to at least entertain the idea, maybe you'll learn something. People are really fascinating and it's a lot of fun to have an open mind and understand things.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
How come most of the women I'm attracted to turn out to be married?
Posted: 3/17/2013 7:13:35 PM
90% of the women who like me have boyfriends. It's just the button I push, it seems. Maybe it's similar to what's going on with you.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Do all men like getting blowjobs?
Posted: 3/17/2013 7:12:53 PM
I figured this was done to death, but I saw a bunch of specific responses so I figured I'd add to them.

I've never really been into blowjobs. I've had my share of awful ones, and my share of great ones, but they're not really something I seek out or really want. I've never had a traumatic experience and am a filthy, uninhibited animal of a person, so it isn't that. They're just not my thing, which is kind of weird since I'm really, really into a woman's mouth as a source for my excitement. And I'm not bothered something being in there, either.

It's really just not my thing, for no particular reason. I'll take a soft hand or two over it 90% of the time. I'm an odd one.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Chastity belt
Posted: 3/17/2013 7:06:23 PM
This has always been an interest of mine, oddly enough.

The most fascinating thing is that I was on here around, say, 5 years ago, and a topic just like this was around. People were just laying into the guy mercilessly, calling him names and mocking him. I'm not sure if that's what he was going for, but it surprised me.

It's cool to see some responses here from open-minded people. I know now that having an interest like this is totally alright, and really fun, but I was really screwed up over it when I was a bit younger. I always thought something was wrong with me, and seeing that thread made it worse. Thank goodness I got over that. I wish I'd started having fun with it earlier.

Shame can really beat you down if you have some quirky interests, but don't let it :)
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Societal Consequences to Online Dating
Posted: 3/17/2013 6:58:16 PM
I don't really see the difference between now and then, though I'm fairly ignorant having not lived an adult life before the internet.

Society itself has changed, but I don't think that's because of online dating. It's just a lot easier to become connected now. The ancient ways we used to think are going away: most guys now know that women are perverts too, for example.

I think it's just easier to come across all kinds of people now, so you hear a lot about people who've been treated as disposable. Unfortunately, negativity is a lot more prevalent online. I assume the happy people don't bother getting mixed up in it, so we get the impression that it's a nightmare out there.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Ex Girlfriend question...
Posted: 3/17/2013 6:50:27 PM
Overthinking aside, it probably doesn't mean anything. One of my favorite things is finding old pictures of myself. If I found some of me in high school with some friends, and some of them had an old ex in them, I'd hate to think she thought something of me posting them.

Besides, you have a kid together. You were a huge part of her life. At some point you can look back on things without thinking "gosh, I miss that", and you say "gosh, this is a thing that happened." I wouldn't think too much of it unless she calls you tipsy in a few days/weeks.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Take a look :)
Posted: 7/5/2011 8:08:46 PM
I'd send you a message if you lived here, if that helps.

Nothing's wrong with your profile. You've met some guys and they weren't for you, that's all. Keep trying.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 153 (view)
 
Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 7/5/2011 8:07:23 PM

This thread is one of the most depressing things I've ever seen. If you are a virgin past 19-20, then something about you is not quite right (excluding the people that have deep religious convictions about saving it for marriage, but those are few and far between). You can be a virgin and still be a great person with lots of good qualities and all that, but make no mistake: there is something wrong with you. It simply is not normal. Stop lying to yourself and take the time to do some serious self-analysis so you can pinpoint the problem and attempt to correct it.


Kids aren't allowed to have opinions. Shush.

I lost mine when I was fairly young. Just because someone else loses his at 24 or whatever, what does that matter? He has that much less experience, but I know people who are in their 30s and 40s who have no idea what they're doing. They scream and writhe and thrash and have no idea what makes a man happy.

Experience teaches you everything, but people learn at different rates. If someone wants to wait to lose their virginity or hasn't had a serious relationship until later in life, I think it's disruptive to say there's something wrong with him. People have different experiences that change and teach them, and everything depends on one's openness and one's partner, not quantity or the age that it begins happening.

A lot of my friends were virgins around 19-20. You are ridiculous to think that it's abnormal to wait that long to have sex with someone. Some people are like that: some don't meet someone they care for enough, some are insecure or unsure or have various issues, some just don't seek it out. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with them, it means they're wired differently than you, specifically, are.

Frankly, I wish I'd waited a bit longer to lose mine. I'd have rather it been with my first love than the person it was with.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Be blunt, be honest. Be my worst critic (profile review)
Posted: 7/5/2011 7:58:17 PM

It's not your advice that offended me, it's your way of putting it. When you quote something I said and reply with "zwuh" I know what the implication of that is.


That wasn't my implication. I was implying that that was my response to those bits of your profile because they threw me off. I think I was pretty friendly, try not to assume I was trying to insult you.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Iam confused Guys help me
Posted: 6/29/2011 7:11:21 PM
Please tell me you aren't actually 49... ? I had you pegged for 16 :p No offense.

But yeah. He may want to be friends, or he may just want to keep you around to fool around with you whenever you're both up for it. We have no way of knowing. Since you didn't like him all that much anyway, it doesn't seem like a huge deal.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Busy as in truly busy?...Or Just too busy for you.
Posted: 6/29/2011 7:06:22 PM
He contacted you 4 days in a row before you bothered to contact him first, and you wonder if he's actually busy... ? If he was as antsy as you are things would be going a whole lot worse, I think.

More importantly, you're 26. Stop drinking enough to make an ass of yourself, because obviously it is complicating your life. Go out and have fun, but you need to learn when to draw the line with booze. You're not 19 in da club anymore, okay?

Okay but really. This is easy. If you want to be with him, tell him that and be sincere. If you don't want to be with him, tell him that and be sincere. You're old enough to either give this thing with him a go or just move on, alright?
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
It's gone from just having fun to an emotional rollercoaster...
Posted: 6/29/2011 6:58:32 PM
I still can't believe you're all topsy-turvy over her texting you and then not texting you. Go keep yourself busy doing anything else. Go hang with some friends or something.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Arrggh!, Frustration is setting in now. profile review please
Posted: 6/29/2011 2:07:53 PM
I'd suggest you add some more pictures, flattering ones from closer up.

There really isn't anything wrong with your profile. Maybe you could talk about a passion you have or elaborate on some of your current information. You're not going to get constant messages or meet me requests or what-have-you, just keep messaging girls you find interesting.

I'd lay off asking anything personal, though. I'm sure you're not crossing any lines, but just saying. Just keep sending greetings to people you find interesting and some will respond. No matter how compatible you think you may be with someone based on their profile, she may not feel the same way. It can suck, but don't take it too seriously.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Be blunt, be honest. Be my worst critic (profile review)
Posted: 6/29/2011 2:04:09 PM
One of the (many) issues with online dating, or whatever it is we're doing here, is that people are going to presume a lot about you based on your profile or what you say in messages. It's just something to keep in mind if you're worried about being misjudged or something like that.

2: Nobody thinks every script will be made into a movie. But the way you wrote that part of your profile, it makes it sound as if you know it won't be made because you think the script sucks. It also makes it sound as if you may write something you're proud of but wouldn't pursue getting it looked at because you think others will think it sucks. That's all I meant to say.

3: So you tried something you liked but it didn't go well, so you've decided you're bad at it and will never try it again? I've never heard of a comedian who went on stage and did great his first try. Louis CK, who is probably the best living comedian, did horrible for his first few years and is pretty open about it. But that's not really an issue with your profile. My input should have been that you seem to have a defeatist attitude, I guess.

4: Being honest is great. Offering information nobody wants to hear about and that is solely negative, not so much. I know that the way I write here can seem a bit harsh or holier-than-thou, so I'll say I don't mean to come across that way. You choose what information you offer in your profile. I'd save that story for when you're out with someone for a drink and are talking about your pof experiences (it'd be funny in person).

7: All good. Like I said, I don't mean to come across like I know everything. But I do know that I gave up on some things earlier on in life, and am just now getting back into them (music being one thing) and I wish I'd never abandoned my passions.

Even if you love music but don't feel good at it, how much have you tried? You're 19, how many years have you played any instrument? How many songs have you tried to write? Was it the music, the melody, the lyrics that you had trouble with? Good music comes from experiences and passion, things you're just going to have more and more of as time goes on and you try new things and meet new people. You might as well spend some of your free time now learning some things about composition or practicing and instrument you're interested in.

PREACHING OVER.

Gosh I sure do type a lot.

Oh and for the quoting thingie, just put [*quote] [*/quote] around whatever you want to be in those boxes, without the asterixes.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Be blunt, be honest. Be my worst critic (profile review)
Posted: 6/29/2011 1:41:24 PM
You seem negative and unimpressed with yourself. One of the first things I read in your profile is that something bad happened on stage at a show, and you decided to give up and never try it again even though you have a passion for it. This paints a bad picture of you. Get up there and try again!


If there is any "one thing" that makes me different than most guys, it would be that I am not "domineering". Most girls are probably used to guys being more "in control" of the relationship or whatever, but with me this is hardly the case.


Most guys are not domineering. You're making a generalization that anyone who's ever been in a real relationship with a decent man will scoff at. You probably don't want the kind of girl who will take this paragraph and infer that you're non-assertive or non-confident, but you may be giving that impression. You can be assertive and not a prick, as I'm sure you know.


(which I HIGHLY doubt will be made into an actual movie)


You have no faith in yourself.


I'm not expecting to make it "big" in stand up comedy though.


Er...


Last but not least: Want to immediately ruin your chances of even being friends with me for the rest of your life? I suggest you tell me that I "don't have what it takes" to make a living out of writing.


Hrm...


Q: I am a fat, country, sticks-my-tounge-out-in-all-my-pics, girl, who is eager for a one night stand. Will you go out with me?

A: Not a snowball's chance in hell.


Zwuh...


Q: So what would you define as attractive?

A: Well first of all, "attractive" is subjective.


"You" being the subject as was asked in the question itself.


Perhaps this is because the first girl I really liked had fair skin with black hair?


No girl with fair skin and black hair will ever message you. She will always think you find her attractive because of some girl from a long time ago that she kinda-sorta looks like.


And a piece of advise for you girls: You always look the most attractive when you're not trying too. Posing in a skimpy bikini screams desperate attention whore.


Zwuh again, since I liked how that sounded the first time when I said it aloud.

I'm writing all of this because you seem to genuinely want some advice and want to find someone. Your worst enemies are being negative and making assumptions. Nobody wants to read your profile and know anything about a girl you used to like, nobody wants to read your profile and see that unattractive girls message you for anonymous sex, and nobody wants someone who doesn't think they can make it big in what they love.

And absolutely nobody wants someone who gives up on something they have a passion for because of a past embarrassment. You're lucky to have a passion and know what it is at such a young age, and you should be taking advantage of that.

GOOD LUCK. Here, and in life.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Looking for some opinions
Posted: 6/29/2011 1:30:10 PM
I'd put up some more serious photos if I were you, I suppose. Keep one or two of the more fun ones, but if you're 29 and looking for a woman around the same age, you don't want them to get the impression you play guitar hero all day.

I realize you don't do that. I love those games too, they're fun as hell - but some people may make assumptions there. Do you have any pictures of you in a suit from a wedding or something? INSTANT APPEAL FOR YOU.

I'd disagree with putting laid off as your occupation, honestly. It may give the impression that you were incompetent or disposable. Sorry you got laid off, but what are you doing in the meantime? I imagine you're looking... maybe put up a temporary, non-serious occupation and explain to someone interested what your situation is. If you've exchanged messages with someone it'd be easy to explain what happened and what you're doing to fix it, but having it just out there for anyone to write off instantly... you know what I'm saying.

Your profile seems just fine, pretty much.

And yeah, your pics are funny and there isn't anything wrong with them. But having a few serious ones is a very very good idea.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
It's gone from just having fun to an emotional rollercoaster...
Posted: 6/29/2011 1:08:49 PM
You're thinking way too damn much and sabotaging yourself. You seem to get along pretty well and if she didn't have any interest in seeing you again, she probably wouldn't be texting you.

And if she's going out of town, she IS going to be really busy up until then.

Just relax your ass, man. Don't create issues when none exist. I get that you're embarrassed, but don't worry so much. She seemed okay with what happened, right? Make it up to her if you get the possibility (and if you're both up for it).

I can promise you that if you keep showing concern that she doesn't want to see you again, she will soon not want to see you again.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Overbearing much?
Posted: 6/29/2011 1:04:38 PM
Perhaps she just deleted it because she was tired of meeting guys off the internet who seemed to be especially needy and controlling. I wonder how many interesting women do that just to save themselves the trouble... shame for the rest of us :(
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 142 (view)
 
Dating Male Virgins
Posted: 6/29/2011 1:01:07 PM
Cool post, Icon. You have a good outlook on things and it seems like you know who you are, so good for you. I wish I'd had such a level head at 21!
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
You know the deal
Posted: 11/16/2010 1:49:22 AM
Quit pot and move out of Cali, my friend.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
You know the deal
Posted: 11/16/2010 1:36:31 AM
Any woman with any sense is going to read your profile and see what I'm seeing.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
You know the deal
Posted: 11/16/2010 1:12:52 AM
Yet here you are on plentyoffish with us normies?
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What does a 'kiss' mean?
Posted: 11/16/2010 12:22:47 AM
People are different. Kisses mean different things to different people. More importantly: what does a kiss mean to YOU? It seems to mean a lot.

If you really want to know what it means to him, ask him what it means to him. If you are more concerned with maintaining some strange level of shyness, feel free not to ask him and remain confused. A kiss doesn't necessarily mean anything huge to your first responder, and same with me. Other guys might feel otherwise. You can't know without asking.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 189 (view)
 
Would you use a prostitute/escort? What do u think of people who use them?
Posted: 4/30/2010 6:34:18 PM
Two people above, in Canada, still think prostitution is illegal in Canada. It is not. Public solicitation is illegal - paying for sex is not. You might say it's just semantics, but there is a huge difference. They are not synonyms.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 181 (view)
 
lol
Posted: 4/28/2010 9:39:23 PM
I'm curious about what this "professional community of social help workers" is. Is this a US-wide group of social workers? Is it specific to one city or state? Do people who hire escorts but don't speak to any kind of social worker factor in to these statistics? I would assume the number of well-adjusted, well-paid tricks is so low because most of them aren't accounted for for obvious reasons.

It seems as if these percentages are taken only from a sample of people who are actually accounted for. I can't imagine everyone who has hired an escort is interviewed about his income and social ability.

I would also make the assumption that a woman who pays for sex also factors in the idea that an escort might actually perform to her satisfaction. Guy-in-bar-eating-a-burrito or professional-sexer? Hm.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 601 (view)
 
Liking asian girls
Posted: 4/28/2010 9:14:09 PM

steven2o1o's blabber


Okay, you think you are more intelligent than North Americans. Let's explore that for just a second.


More nonsense, which again no doubt you're an American/Canadian (or somewhere around there) as this obsession with labelling things as fetishes seems to only come from people from that side of the world.


Would you read this and tell me how in the hell it qualifies as a sentence? Is this how you speak out loud, too? Is your mouth too busy frothing to make the right words come out?

How many people have you met who are obsessed with labeling things as a fetish, anyway? Is this something you just DO in your spare time?
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
When a woman punches walls...
Posted: 4/27/2010 12:01:48 AM

I see OP's point. If a guy in the office gets mad and punches a filing cabinet, it will be the topic of discussion until lunch. If a woman in the office did the same thing, it would be the topic of discussion for the next week!!


To be frank, that's because the women would be yakking about the woman punching a filing cabinet, talking about how they never liked her anyway, how they always thought she had a screw loose, how they all saw it coming since she cheated on her husband with her stepson, etc.

The guys would say "Damn, Frank was pissed this morning" and probably move on. Maybe buy him a beer after work.

:)
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
What are you looking for?
Posted: 4/26/2010 11:52:55 PM
It's absolutely amazing to witness the differences between men and women and the way they think. Questions and topics like this really seem to bring it out.

Any time I have asked this question, or a similar one, it's always been because I want to know the answer. I usually ask if I'm enjoying myself and have that little spark of "hey, this might have potential!" It's an easy way, if she can just be honest and not read too much into the bloody question, to find out what she's looking for. That's it.

Honestly, if a guy is looking to hook up with you and nothing more, he's not going to ask you any dumbshit questions like this.

Way too much suspicion. If a guy is with you just to sleep with you, it's probably a lot more obvious than you think.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 154 (view)
 
Would you use a prostitute/escort? What do u think of people who use them?
Posted: 4/26/2010 11:40:44 PM
I think it's funny that confidenceman's argument about not having sex with a prostitute because it's illegal is hilarious, because it is indeed legal in Canada to hire and have sex with a prostitute. Saying "son" and talking down to people when he has no idea what he's talking about.

That said, I don't care if someone hires a prostitute. The law here in Canada is just about perfect regarding the general idea of prostitution. You can call an agency or an independent escort and have her come to your place and screw you. You cannot solicit a prostitute off the street (which keeps the streets clean), you cannot operate a dwelling where people have sex for money (which keeps the neighborhood clean), it isn't bad.

I'm sure someone's already mentioned that prostitution's the oldest job in the world. An argument against safe, near-unseen prostitution for those who choose to partake is an argument I'd argue against, argumentatively.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 354 (view)
 
The New Season Of LOST
Posted: 3/10/2010 8:34:03 PM
Sound a lot like Christ's death and the need for his followers to still have faith in him after his resurrection, yes? They still needed to follow his principles and guidelines despite him not physically being there, just like Jacob.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
I think I'm doing it wrong
Posted: 3/10/2010 4:36:01 PM
Get a hobby. Don't overthink girls you meet. Learn to do things on your own. See your friends often. Get a job.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Will there be a second date?
Posted: 3/10/2010 4:26:28 PM
He seemed interested and interesting. You really shouldn't be thinking beyond this.

If he doesn't call you tomorrow, YOU call HIM and ask him out. If he says no or that he isn't available, that's when you move on. If he's interested he'll call you back, if he's not you shouldn't dwell on it.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Should I Back Off?
Posted: 3/10/2010 4:10:10 PM
Maybe stop with the sleepovers? Do you really need someone to tell you this?
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Meddling Mother's.
Posted: 3/10/2010 4:01:48 PM
It's what parents do. It's what I'd do if I had a daughter who was dating a shitbag.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
what the heck is this?
Posted: 3/9/2010 10:16:17 PM
I've known many women who were kind of sexy when they were mad. Maybe not mad, but frustrated or something to that effect. It differs from woman to woman. There's something cute about it, and not in a condescending way.

Buuuut making someone mad just to get that reaction is dangerous... because there's "cute mad" and there's "scary mad", and purposely pushing buttons tends to bring out the latter.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Addressing a Relationship Issue - Your perspective
Posted: 3/9/2010 10:14:34 PM
If he doesn't see his temper as a problem, you need to make it very clear that it is a problem TO YOU. It isn't about whether or not he feels it's a character flaw, it's that his behavior is making YOU feel unappreciated, lashed out at, whatever. If you're unhappy about something you need to communicate that, and if changing for your benefit isn't something he is willing to do, he's not worth it.

I've never faced this particular situation, so I'm not sure what my approach would be. He needs to be shown that this is something that threatens your comfort and your relationship with him.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Opinions please
Posted: 3/9/2010 10:10:14 PM
I'm having a hard time really understanding the problem. Your typing isn't extremely clear.

However I want to point out that spending time chatting with people online or on the phone is NOT the same as spending the day together, and it would be a very bad idea for you to think that it would absolutely translate that way. You should be excited and happy to have met someone, but you shouldn't get too attached until you live closer together.

That said, the situation can go either way. He could be seeing someone else, sure, but he could have just not had a chance to get to you for some reason. It is a family emergency, after all.

Though honestly, I don't think anyone is so busy that they can't take thirty seconds to send a text. I say you wait a bit and see if it happens again. A one or two-time mistake isn't something to bother yourself over if you have no way of knowing if anything's really wrong.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How long is too long to go without seeing your SO?
Posted: 3/9/2010 9:59:47 PM
Some of you need to spend more time alone.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 349 (view)
 
The New Season Of LOST
Posted: 3/9/2010 9:52:04 PM

Interesting perspective...It does seem to have a bit of merit..but considering Jacobs predilection with numbers ( the fact that each name was given one on both the roof of the cave and in the lighthouse) I would have to argue that jacob would be the one to learn more to the science side of things if this were indeed the case.


Besides Jacob having a thing for numbers (which doesn't necessarily imply anything scientific), there's not really any more credence to lend to that. I think the fact that Locke, the Others, Ben and now Richard have been following Jacob without fully knowing his plan (god's plan?) and some of them never seeing him is a stronger correlation.

Opinions on tonight's episode? I liked it, but I felt like it went by really fast. Ben seems to make the decision to side with the 'good people'. Seems he was only able to have that as an option after he finally stopped lying and running, which is interesting.

I also like that now, we pretty much know that anyone Jacob touches becomes ageless and cannot commit suicide. This episode also suggested that Jacob basically allowed himself to be killed in order to test Ben. Hm.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
HELP ME GET RESPONCES
Posted: 3/9/2010 9:46:30 PM
You have a faux-hawk.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
HELP ME GET RESPONCES
Posted: 3/8/2010 11:05:28 PM
'pagerayo : WANT TO LAUGH WITH ME" is frightening.
 mrcyrus
Joined: 1/26/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Help me out please, I don't get replied back to
Posted: 3/8/2010 10:49:50 PM
There are few women who consider themselves blunt. You probably don't want any of them, as the term's often misunderstood. You may be appearing too picky. Women who you're dating for the first time don't want to be wondering if they're blunt or personable enough for you. I feel that searching for certain personality traits is the wrong route to go, but if you're not looking for something specific (like a woman with kids, for example), that should be included.

Manored should be 'mannered'.

You talk a bit about what you're looking for but don't really present yourself as anything special compared to the next guy. What makes you unique? What is it about you that people like?
 
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