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 Author Thread: New Ottawa Dance Hall Opening, Friday, September 28, 2012
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
New Ottawa Dance Hall Opening, Friday, September 28, 2012
Posted: 9/18/2012 7:27:40 PM
Well it is more like 27, you have to count -1 for me

I wish the best for the event though
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Not married by 30, will it happen, ever?
Posted: 9/17/2012 7:30:11 PM
Do not bother trying, there is no way you will ever find any one once you are over 30

If by the time you turn 30 you did not have any one in your life, then you will never find any one to be in your life, it is way too late by then
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Dance at Lonestar East, Ottawa, Friday, September 7, 2012
Posted: 9/7/2012 10:58:45 AM
Do not forget to count -1 for me, a few reasons

1) I work and can not get there until after closing time
2)Whether I am there or not, it will not change any thing I would still be all alone in the back of the room
3)I only to event like this when I am feeling hipper and fantasised that I could meet a woman and she would like to share her life with me, then when I go to event like this I am quickly reminded that in real life I will never meet any one (see reason #2)
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Dance at Lonestar East, Ottawa, Friday, September 7, 2012
Posted: 8/26/2012 11:18:56 AM

Don't go with the exact purpose of meeting Ms/Mr Right, that doesn't always happen (sometimes but not always), but, you can meet some nice folks who will introduce you to more people and you might just click.

When I go to the Atomic Roster, I always go there in the optic of meeting people, but I found out that people are all in little click(groups) and if you are not part of it then you are out of luck because they will not talk to you

It is hard to meet people in that kind of situation
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Dance at Lonestar East, Ottawa, Friday, September 7, 2012
Posted: 8/26/2012 11:16:01 AM

I really hope I get to talk to you and Rat-7.

That will not be this time around because I have to work at 23:00hrs in the Market, so that will not be possible for me to go to your event, but I still wish you the best for it
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Dance at Lonestar East, Ottawa, Friday, September 7, 2012
Posted: 8/23/2012 5:26:59 AM

Thanks to all the folks who've signed up already. This is going to be a great dance!

Do not forget to count -1 for me, since whether I go to this one or not no body will even notice, it will be like the Atomic Roster
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet at the Atomic Rooster, Saturday August 18, 2012 @ 9 pm
Posted: 8/15/2012 1:48:40 PM

Hoping to meet some new people

Good luck with that, every body stick to little group that knows each others and they do not interact with people they do not know

I know that from experience, I have been there quite a few times and I always spent the evening alone
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
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Not married by 30, will it happen, ever?
Posted: 8/15/2012 5:45:15 AM
Do not bother, if you have not found any one by the time you turn 30, then your chance of finding any one after are any where between zero and null
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Not having a social circle of friends sure hasn't helped, anyone else have this problem?
Posted: 7/27/2012 7:00:58 AM

I don't understand why people don't have friends. How is this possible?

Maybe because they just moved to a new place and do not know any body

I for one move to a new town, and the only people that I know in this town are co-workers, which I found out long ago that you do mix people that you work with and people that you hang around with, it creates way too much problem
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Is Dating over 30 tougher than it was when you were in your 20's?
Posted: 6/12/2012 2:02:27 PM

men in their 30s want 20 and 21 yr old women or barbie dolls

Not all of us are in that boat, I am looking for a woman that is close to my own age, I could not see myself with a 20 some years old, but then again, I do not see why a woman my age would want to date me now when they never wanted to date me when I was younger

Do not worry, there is no younger woman that would want to date a guy like me, especially when I make Frankenstein look extremely attractive
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 224 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 6/5/2012 7:55:11 PM

Quiters are wimps.

Call me a QUITER or a WIMP if you want, but at least I am facing reality and I have accepted it and like that young lady a few post above, I keep living my life for ME and since there will be no one else to share it with, well the other are/will missing on a great guy (gal)
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 222 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 6/5/2012 6:32:33 PM
The fact is that if you have not found any one by the time you are 30, then ou will never find any one
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 221 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 6/5/2012 2:22:53 PM

Im shy. I dont like to go out and go talk to some guy to get shot down.

I can understand what you are saying, I am the same way.
I tried a few to go out at some POF events, but I always end up at the back of the room sitting alone there for hours, I am the kind of person that will not go and talk to others unless I know that they want to talk to me, but if somebody comes and talk to me, I will talk to them no problem, but I will never make the first move

Even contacting woman on this site, I see some of them that I could be interested but since I have no idea whether they want to talk to me or not I just wait for them to make the first move
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance at the Atomic Rooster Saturday January 21 @ 9 pm
Posted: 1/21/2012 5:40:01 PM
you will not be meeting me, I prefer not to waste my time going and ending up at the same result at the end of the event as at the begining; that means in my case being all alone all evening whether I go there or not, since I would be sitting somewhere in the back of the place with no one to talk to.

Since I can not tell to whom I can talk, I always stay alone in my place, and it is not just at this event, but at every social gathering, if I do not know anyone, then I do not talk to anyone, unless somebody come to talk to me

I wish that the event is a great success because I know that dbottawa is working very hard to make this happening

For those that are going, enjoy the event

PS. the music is usually very good
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 139 (view)
 
Should we, over 30, continue to wait for the one or adapt to what little is available?
Posted: 1/2/2012 11:01:53 AM
I fyou are still alone and over 30, then you have no choice, if somebody is interrested in you, make the best of it, because most likely you will not have anybody else that will be interesseted in you again

So basically just settle for what you have

I know that is what I will do if I ever find one that is interreseted in me
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Saturday June 18, 2011 @ 9 pm.
Posted: 6/18/2011 7:56:50 AM

Funny Rat, but no one seems to ever recall seeing you there

Funny because I have been there at least 4 time already, and it is always the same

And if you are there, you never try to socialize either

With who, I do not nayone there, so I do not know with who I can talk to, I am the kind of person that do not make the first approach (most likely I am too shy), but if approached, I am told that I am quite sociable

BTW to answer the gentleman that sent me a message, I do appreciate all the effort that you DWINOTTAWA put into organizing this event and I did not meant it to attack you, but I just called it as I experienced it

As for someone suggestion that I get forward, there is no place to sit in front, and since I can not stand for long period of time I need to be where there is some seat which are mostly in the back
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Saturday June 18, 2011 @ 9 pm.
Posted: 6/17/2011 4:45:27 AM
DWOTTAWA,

Sorry but from my own experience it is just a waste of time, spending 4 hrs sitting alone in the back of the bar and the only people that are talking to are those that have no other choice (the staff)

You call that a MEET AND GREET, but every time that I went there I was never greeted by you, better yet I never saw you there, and the meet part, well just read the paragraph above
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance - Atomic Rooster, May 21, 2011
Posted: 5/21/2011 1:18:13 PM
Well I wish everyone a good evening

Now try to find me in the room, I bet you that no-one will even know whether I was there or not ( as usual)
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance - Atomic Rooster, May 21, 2011
Posted: 5/5/2011 4:10:01 AM
Do not forget to reserve mine at the far back of the room as usual, so that everybody can just ignore me
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 141 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 4/2/2011 12:19:28 PM

I dont know many places to meet women that doesnt make me look like a total creep or weirdo

I know what you mean, I am in the same ship as you are except for the fact that I am older
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Women: How would you respond to a sexually inexperienced Man over 30?
Posted: 4/2/2011 12:16:50 PM
I am in the same ship as DavidFromDesMoines, except that I am a few years older than he is, and I have since realize that most likely I will never have a girlfriend in my life since I can not attract any woman at all, when they see me they all turn away and do not even want to talk to me (must be my ugly look, or the fact that I too stupid)
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet at the Atomic Rooster, Saturday Feb, 19, 2011
Posted: 2/16/2011 7:53:14 PM
As usual do not forget to reserve the back table for me alone
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Ottawa Christmas Meet & Greet Dance, Saturday December 18, 2010
Posted: 11/27/2010 1:28:12 PM
Can some please tell me what exactly is a Christmas dress
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance November 20, 2010
Posted: 11/20/2010 7:05:43 AM
I wish everybody that goes to the event tonight that they have a good time.

I might find out how it turned out tonight with the comment for the next event
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Dance West End of Ottawa Friday November 12th
Posted: 11/12/2010 7:12:25 AM
Once again I wish everybody a good evening

I hope that everybody will enjoy themselves and have a good time
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Dance West End of Ottawa Friday November 12th
Posted: 11/4/2010 1:04:26 PM
I hope you will all enjoy your evening

I am sorry if my comments were mis-interpreted earlier
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Dance West End of Ottawa Friday November 12th
Posted: 10/23/2010 1:35:31 PM

I started by going to pool nights and then dances and met my partner. We now have been going out for a little over 8 months. I felt the same way but by putting myself out there it paid off in spades. Also we have a very friendly group of regulars that go. So don't be shy come out and enjoy. Like my Mother used to say you get what you put into it

I know how it will end up for me, I will end up in a corner all alone and nobody will even want to talk to me (except if I am lucky the waiter/waitress, but then again they have no other choice)
So why should I even bother going
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Dance West End of Ottawa Friday November 12th
Posted: 10/22/2010 1:20:10 PM
Wrong count
It is 58, always count me out :-)
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance ~ Sat. Oct.16th, 2010
Posted: 9/24/2010 1:33:33 PM

You must have me confused with some-one else

No, I do not confuse you. A few months ago you called me a nerd, I may not have an education that is higher than high-school, but I do now how to read and the definition of NERD is someone who is a reject of society

I just wanted to thank you for letting me know what I am, and also that you are right, there is an event to prove it
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance ~ Sat. Oct.16th, 2010
Posted: 9/24/2010 10:07:57 AM
ROB409

Do not forget to reserve the table for the rejet

You were right a few months ago when you called me a reject of society, when I went to the dance I did ended up all alone at my table, and the only one that even talked to me, well she had no other choice, it was the waitress, because otherwise I am sure that she would just have ignore me like everybody else
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance, August 21, 2010 @ 9 pm
Posted: 7/28/2010 10:26:18 PM
DWOTTAWA, I did not wanted to put down the event I was just mentioning to the other guy that it was an open venue

The person you are looking for may not even be on POF

that person is neither on POF or outside POF, she just does not exist at all.
The reaso I am saying that is if she existed I would of found her many years ago when it was the right time, since that never happened back then that means she does not exist and now it is too late for finding her anyway
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance, August 21, 2010 @ 9 pm
Posted: 7/28/2010 6:10:20 AM
You do not know, this is from what I have been told an open venue, meaning that not just people from POF are there but also people that are just walikng on the street can come in

Not very appealing since we are suppose to go there to meet POF people :-)
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
August 7 - Downtown Meet and Mingle
Posted: 7/23/2010 1:27:45 PM

I was just providing him with directions

I meant no disrespect to you ChocolateLover1967, but the adress that you provided in the invitation did not mentioned any city, and in Ottawa there is no bus service there.

Why don't you come? ?

Sorry, but I rather meet people in the city where I am, instead of in a city far away.
Not that I have have any luck with that over here either
Thanks for the invitation
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
August 7 - Downtown Meet and Mingle
Posted: 7/21/2010 6:34:57 AM

The party is located in Downtown Toronto

Why do I receive an invitation to something in Toronto, and why would I go to something like that in Toronto

It is not very helpfull for me
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
August 7 - Downtown Meet and Mingle
Posted: 7/20/2010 2:46:34 PM
It is to out of town, there is no bus service there
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance, Saturday July 17, 2010 @ 9 pm
Posted: 7/16/2010 7:48:48 AM

As well, it is not uncommon for people walking down the street to decide to come in and join us

I was under the impression that it was a private thing for POF member only
 rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Freakish to be over 30 and never have had a boyfriend?
Posted: 6/28/2010 7:44:37 AM

I chat to a man in england who has never been on one date ever. Never held hands, kissed nothing. He is 47.

I am in the same situation and I am 42, I seem to make woman go away for some reason, they do not want to get close to me, I know that I am not good looking at all but they do not even want to talk to me except for whatever business we have to do
 dumb and stupid
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance, Saturday June 19, 2010 @ 9:00 pm
Posted: 6/7/2010 2:34:50 PM

I have always found the POF crowd to be welcoming

Only for those that have university or higher education, as for those without it, they are completely ignored or made fun of because they do not have university
 dumb and stupid
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Ottawa Meet & Greet Dance, Saturday June 19, 2010 @ 9:00 pm
Posted: 6/4/2010 1:04:38 PM
I forgot to ask if there is a reserved spot for those of us that do not have University education
 dumb and stupid
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
My Match suggestions [CLOSED Thread]
Posted: 5/17/2010 5:08:04 PM
In the MYMATCH, there use to be a way to get rid of the profile that we did not want, but right now I do seem to find it any where

If that was removed then why keeping this useless part of the website, if we can not remove what we do not want there for what ever reason
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 261 (view)
 
Do guys like these exist past 35?
Posted: 3/29/2010 8:04:55 AM

2. The very, very shy man who never knew how to approach women

That is what I am, and no matter what I try, I still can approach women
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 74 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 2/18/2010 1:03:41 PM

what it's like to truly love someone

And just how do you
1) find that person
2) how do you know that you are in love

I have no clue on how to find (or find out) someone who might be interrested in me, and I presume that I am not the only one, and since I never found anyone I would not know what it is like to be in love
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 58 (view)
 
the magic number
Posted: 2/15/2010 6:20:04 AM

Quite wrong. There is hope. I understand women in their 60's & 70's start looking for boy toys that are in their 40's...

Sorry, but I am not looking to date GRANDMA
Any woman who is older than me, I am not even considering her, why would she be interrested in me to begin with
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Valentines Day Speed Dating at Lago, Ottawa February 13, 2010 2pm
Posted: 2/11/2010 12:54:53 PM

Maybe you should come out and try it anyway - you just never know

Well I do know, it is always the same thing at every event that I tried, I always endup in a remote corner of the room and usually even the staff forget about me and I can not even get a glass of water, and you are telling me that because it is called Speed Dating the samething will not happen, I was not born yesterday I might not have an education any higher than High School but I can still put 2+2 together and I know what will happen
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Valentines Day Speed Dating at Lago, Ottawa February 13, 2010 2pm
Posted: 2/11/2010 9:31:45 AM
Speed dating

So the date is over in less than 5 minutes, is that what it is, then I will be the champion since I never had a date and I do not expect to have any woman interested in having a date with me, that means that I will not be speed dating I would be express dating
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 57 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 1/11/2010 5:22:09 PM

Negative self-talk is a top attractiveness killer

It is not being negative, it is being realist, and the reallity is that some of us can not get to attract anyone
And another fact is that by the time anyone get to 30 years old, if you have not found anyone you will never find anyone, and that is a proven fact
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 1/11/2010 7:13:21 AM

Clearly, for whatever reason you are not attracting/meeting the right people.

How can you attract the right people when you can not attract anyone at all, when they see you they just turn away and runaway
Especially when one makes Frankenstein look like Miss Universe when compared to
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Grey Hair: Distinguished, or EX-tinguished?
Posted: 12/19/2009 1:30:12 PM

Please dye your hair guys. Thanks

If you do not like a men with gray hair, why not look somewhere else.
I am 42, and I have more gray hair than black one, and I will not dye my hair for any reason, and I think that those that do (men or women) are just pretending something and are a shame of what they really look like
BTW I make Frankenstein look like Miss Universe
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 75 (view)
 
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/24/2009 12:23:37 AM
What is wrong is that if you have not found somebody before you turn 30, then it is all over
I was told that when I grew up, and it is true
I know, I never was able to attract a woman before I turned 30, and now that I am 41, I still can not attract anyone, and I am sure that I never will be able to
That the way things work
 Rat-7
Joined: 2/10/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Whats it like being single over 30?
Posted: 11/10/2009 12:09:42 PM
It is pretty much loke it was when I was in my 20s, and what it is now that I am over 40s
The only thing that changed are the numbers that mark my age, and nothing else
 
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