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 Author Thread: OSHAWA BIG 8 HRS OF FUN BOWLING/GO-CART/BAR MAY 13TH ****See Time Change
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 172 (view)
Posted: 5/10/2006 6:20:35 AM
I'd like to try to make it out.

Sounds like a lot of fun.

Even though I don't know anyone... lol.

I've been here since August, it's about time I meet people I think.

I should know by tomorrow night for sure if I can make it or not.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 12 (view)
Venting about DeadBeat Parents
Posted: 4/20/2006 9:18:32 AM
He (the father) will be 27 Next week.

I should say, a very immature 27.

Nicest way I can say it.. is that he's not all there.

And as an update...
He's not seen the child (his choice) since One year ago today.
My little one is doing so much better now behavoir wise.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 8 (view)
Young Mums, Of Oshawa!!!
Posted: 4/18/2006 11:31:50 AM
DId anything ever happen with this thread?

Lol.. was anything ever planned?

Just curious.. I'm fairly new to Whitby (since August).. and I have two boys, 7 and 3.

Not only am I busy doing the kid thing...
but I don't know anyone else in the area...

So .. I figured I would find out if there is anything going on.. and if not... Possibly rekindle this thread... and make it so. LOL
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 10 (view)
why would a guy not try to kiss
Posted: 8/8/2005 10:25:42 PM
I agree with bella dona...

Best thing to do is talk about it, both of you need to know what the other is thinking.

Good luck to you.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 5 (view)
Venting about DeadBeat Parents
Posted: 5/4/2005 7:12:33 AM
I signed up for a parenting class for my son, because he was really... ummmm
spirited ... that a good word... and I was having some trouble parenting him.

I spoke with his father and asked him to go with me, and to even bring the gf
if it was that important to him. She refused because she cannot be in the
same room with me. (remember, she's 17... and very immature)

Now, I am not allowed to speak to my Ex, unless I speak through her.
If I call and he answers, he has to hand the phone to her.
If they come to pick up my son, and I try to speak directly to him...
She stands in between him and I forcing me to speak to her.

I love my son, and want him to have a relationship with his dad... I was with
his father for 7 years, and loved him very much in that time, and I know
that he has a lot of wonderful qualities that I want my son to know.

I keep track of everything that happens, in my journal, and I'm trying hard
not to be vindictive. I never bad mouth his dad when he can hear it.. acutally
I rarely do it out loud. I defend his dad's actions to him when he asks why
Daddy doesn't love him, or why Daddy doesn't pick him up etc.

It's hard sometimes, to think of nice things to say about his dad...

But, then again, who ever said being a parent would be easy?
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 3 (view)
Venting about DeadBeat Parents
Posted: 5/3/2005 7:31:25 PM
"Gentlemen everywhere rise up and be counted because your children need you and you need them "

The only thing I disagree with in this statement is the fact that it doesn't say Ladies and Gentleman.


I'm afraid I don't understand what you are saying here... as to how it relates to the post.

Everyone, child or adult makes up their own mind, and everyone, child or adult
is guided by what they can see, hear, smell and feel.

That's HOW we make up our minds.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 3 (view)
What do you do with people who annoy you?
Posted: 5/3/2005 8:14:18 AM
I have, with her first prenancy cause she was bugging me.

Yeah... well the baby is so far up in her ribcage that she can't sit either.

Lol... I'm in total agreement with you about the idiots breeding.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 2 (view)
What do you do with people who annoy you?
Posted: 5/3/2005 7:50:47 AM
Lol I'm trying...
But if she tells me one more time that her baby's kicking is
keeping her up all night I may scream.
(she's 5 weeks pregnant)
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 1 (view)
What do you do with people who annoy you?
Posted: 5/3/2005 7:43:14 AM
I'm usually a pretty good person.

I get to know people, and there are not many people that I can't stand.
I don't think I can name one person that I actually hate.
I try to understand why people are the way they are.
And I try to be someone who I would like.

Every once in awhile though, I meet someone, who just annoys me.
Of course, this happens to everyone, it's just human nature, you
can't like everyone, we're too different.

But how do you deal with people who annoy you, who you HAVE to have
in you life. (Maybe they are family, or married to family... or you really
like their family.. and can't exclude them because you don't want to offend
the people you do like)

I have a couple who fall into the situations above... and I really find it difficult
being around them, particularly when they decide they really like me.

I suspect there isn't much advice that can be given... but since one of
these people are on their way over today.. I wanted to vent, before they
get here lol.

Anyone else want to vent? Or share ideas on how to cope with people you
don't like but can't avoid?
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 14 (view)
Getting To Now Ya!!!!
Posted: 5/3/2005 7:34:04 AM
Hawaii - No snakes and no snow...

my pj's... nothin beats comfort

Eyes, hands, lips...

A U2 cd for my husband.

My ex's mother's house.

Strong mind.

8am... I drag my sorry butt out of bed.. trying not to complain too much

Vegetable Steamer

People who are rude for no reason, People who judge.


Burgandy, and Pink

SUV... omg I need the room.. my poor little car is too full

I change my mind everyday.

I'll Love You Forever - Robert Munsch (almost all the books by him are great)

Summer... love the heat.

Folding clothes and dishes

The ablitily to go back in time.

None yet...

For about 10 seconds... then someone gets hurt.. usually me.

My Mom.

Christmas and Halloween

I'm scared to look in there... I can't even begin to tell you... but I hope there is a spare tire in there...

Depends on the day.. more often hamburger I guess..
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 9 (view)
Funny Bumper Stickers
Posted: 5/3/2005 6:51:07 AM
Got this in my email... some are cute... Some may be repeats of other ones above me... I'm sorry... just too darn lazy to go through them. lol


1. Constipated People Don't Give A Crap.

2. Practice Safe Sex, Go Screw Yourself.

3. If You Drink Don't Park, Accidents Cause People.

4. Who Lit The Fuse On Your Tampon?

5. If You Don't Believe In Oral Sex, Keep Your Mouth Shut.

6. Please Tell Your Pants Its Not Polite To Point.

7. If That Phone Was Up Your Butt, Maybe You Could Drive A Little Better.

8. My Kid Got Your Honor Roll Student Pregnant.

9. Thank You For Pot Smoking.

10. To All You Virgins Thanks For Nothing.

11. If At First You Don't Succeed . . . Blame Someone Else And Seek Counseling.

12. Impotence: Nature's Way Of Saying "No Hard Feelings".

13. If You Can Read This, I've Lost My Trailer.
14. Horn Broken... Watch For Finger.

15. It's Not How You Pick Your Nose, But Where You Put The Booger.

16. If You're Not A Hemorrhoid, Get Off My Ass.

17. You're Just Jealous Because The Voices Are Talking To Me.

18. The Earth Is Full - Go Home.

19. I Have The Body Of A God... Buddha.

20. This Would Be Really Funny If It Weren't Happening To Me.

21. So Many Pedestrians - So Little Time.

22. Cleverly Disguised As A Responsible Adult.

23. If We Quit Voting Will They All Go Away?

24. The Face Is Familiar But I Can't Quite Remember My Name.

25. Eat Right, Exercise, Die Anyway.

26. Illiterate? Write For Help.

27. Honk If Anything Falls Off.

28. Cover Me I'm Changing Lanes.

29. He Who Hesitates Is Not Only Lost But Miles From The Next Exit.

30. I Refuse To Have A Battle Of Wits With An Unarmed Person.

31. You! Out Of The Gene Pool!

32. I Do Whatever My Rice Krispies Tell Me To.

33. Where Are We Going And Why Am I In This Handbasket?

34. It's Been Lovely But I Have To Scream Now.

35. I Haven't Lost My Mind, It's Backed Up On Disk Somewhere.

36. If You Can Read This, The **** Fell Off... [Seen On The Back Of A Biker's Vest]

37. If Sex Is A Pain In The Ass, Then You're Doing It Wrong...

38. Fight Crime: Shoot Back!

39. If You Can Read This, Please Flip Me Back Over... [Seen Upside Down,On A Jeep]

40. Remember Folks: Stop Lights Timed For 35mph Are Also Timed For 70mph.

41. Guys: No Shirt, No Service Gals: No Shirt, No Charge [Reported To Be Seen On A Restaurant]

42. If Walking Is So Good For You, Then Why Does My Mailman Look Like Jabba The Hut?

43. Necrophillia: That Uncontrollable Urge To Crack Open A Cold One.

44. Ax Me About Ebonics.

45. Body By Nautilus; Brain By Mattel.

46. Boldly Going Nowhere.

47. Cat: The Other White Meat.

48. Caution - Driver Legally Blonde!

49. Don't Be Sexist - Broads Hate That.

50. Heart Attacks... God's Revenge For Eating His Animal Friends.

51. Honk If You've Never Seen An Uzi Fired From A Car Window.

52. How Many Roads Must A Man Travel Down Before He Admits He Is Lost?

53. If You Can't Dazzle Them With Brilliance, Riddle Them With Bullets.

54. Money Isn't Everything, But It Sure Keeps The Kids In Touch.

55. Saw It... Wanted It... Had A Fit... Got It!

56. Warning! Driver Only Carries $20.00 In Ammunition.

57. What Has Four Legs And An Arm? A Happy Pit Bull.

58. Peta - People Eating Tasty Animals
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 2 (view)
Plain Janes
Posted: 5/3/2005 6:36:35 AM
Hooray Random... well said!

Maybe it has nothing to do with your looks manlooking...
Maybe you should take a look at your attitude.

I for one think your statement "It's getting pretty bad, when even an overweight girl shoots ya down." is disgusting... and good for them for seeing through you and turning you down.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 4 (view)
re. this type of mentality
Posted: 5/3/2005 6:30:09 AM
I am the Queen of misplacing phone numbers.
I don't think I have one friend who's number I have never lost.
I bought a new computer and got a palm pilot with it... great idea...all my numbers are in there.

Now if only I could find the palm pilot......hehehe

Anyway... the whole point to my misplaced story...

I agree with danceinpants... call twice..
That way you know for sure she's got your number and it's not just misplaced.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 4 (view)
Crashing Down
Posted: 5/2/2005 8:52:51 PM
I'm sorry to hear this happend to you... what a nasty way for it to go.

But in answer to your question, I think it all depends on how you feel about the city Glennesau.

Look around you at what you do have there, not what you have lost.
Is this somewhere that you would like to make a life for yourself?
If it is... get out there and do it.
Get involved in things that interest you.
Find some club, or volunteer somewhere.

You now, if you choose to stay have something that so many of us never will...

YOu have the chance to reinvent yourself to be who you want to be, there is no one there to judge you on your past, and only your future lies ahead.

But, if it's somewhere that you don't feel like you can be happy... then go home, or somewhere else you want to be.

Good Luck..... just remember, in the end, you will make the right decision for you.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 18 (view)
Is it o.k. to date your best friends former boyfriend or girlfriend when he/she still cares for them
Posted: 5/1/2005 7:27:33 AM
Two days after my ex of 7 years left me,
He moved in with what was a close friend of mine.

As if that wasn't bad enough, they started telling people that her daughter was his.
(there was no chance of that btw, they lived in different cities when the baby
was concieved, and neither had a car... only I did.. so no chance)

It's funny, now years later, I have forgiven him for it, but not her.
I understand that he was just looking to hurt me, because he was
really upset that I asked him to leave.

Her on the other hand, I still haven't spoken to her. Obiviously I'm
not still honestly mad about it, I'm to lazy to stay mad that long, I just
never want her in my life again.

So, having been on the recieving end, I can honestly say I never would.
I still remember the jealousy I felt (and I'm not usually a jealous person)
and the hurt and anger. I wouldn't ever want to make anyone feel that way.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 13 (view)
Women with Physically abusive men
Posted: 4/30/2005 7:53:45 PM
I can understand what Poetic was saying... I too got upset with family members who tried to get involved. (None of them relly knew what was happening, until the final time.. and that one just couldn't be hidden.)

However, once removed from the situation, I appreciated what they tried to do for me.

But, even if your friend gets out of the situation, many still feel protective of their abuser. I find that I still go up and down in my feelings towards mine. Sometimes I'm filled with anger towards him, and other times I feel sorry for him and want him to get the help he needs.

It's a feelling I never could have understood.. and it's one that my best friend, the only one who knows the total truth, still doesn't understand. She often asked why I would protect him in anyway, and that was not an answer I could give her.

And HAHA, I admire you. Always keep that attitude...
I still wonder now why I didn't fight back. I'm 5'9, and I kickbox (for exercise and my own protection) He was 5'4 or 5'5... and I could have wiped the floor with him... yet I didn't, and that's the part that I am most ashamed of... the part that I understand the least.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 2 (view)
Web sites you visit often?
Posted: 4/29/2005 8:09:31 PM
fetchfido (dot co dot uk) - Lots of stupid little games and videos... Keeps my son amused so I can get some cleaning done.

Okay... yeah keeps me amused too.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 7 (view)
more smileys
Posted: 4/29/2005 11:45:00 AM
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 6 (view)
Sleep Deprivation...
Posted: 4/29/2005 9:54:16 AM
"Also fell asleep standing up."

I have done that too.
Lol.. just lean up against the wall for a sec...

I was glad I didn't fall.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 4 (view)
Are you really ready to settle down and have a familly!???
Posted: 4/29/2005 8:41:49 AM
I guess I have been settled down since I was about 12. My parents acted up a great deal, and I was always the one cleaning up after them. I started working full time then too, babysitting, but with a twist, I had the kids 12-15 hours a day, 6 or 7 days a week.
I never really wasn't settled down.
Now I have two children of my own, and occasionally wish I hadn't settled down so quickly. But, wouldn't trade this in for anything either.

I agree with Diggy...

"You are NEVER ready financially for a family."

It is so true. Trying to wait until you have enough money
to have a family is impossible.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 5 (view)
Sleep Deprivation...
Posted: 4/29/2005 8:34:45 AM
When I was a teenager it was terrible.

I would call people and not remember talking to them.
I would make food, then forget to eat it.
I would just totally feel distanced from myself.

When walking (and eventually driving) I would see things
on the side of the road, that no one else could.

I also, when finally asleep had huge sleep walking/talking/smoking/cooking problems.
It was to the point that my parents were scared to leave me alone if there was even
small chance that I was going to fall asleep.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 4 (view)
How generous are your kids?
Posted: 4/29/2005 8:24:30 AM
Well, he did great! I'm so proud of him, he managed to go through all his toys and find 4 giant totes to give away. We're going through his clothes today.

"they give up the cost of one of their presents to give to others who don't have them."

Great idea rusassy... I think I may start that tradition here.
It does seem to give them such joy to give to other people.

mangolino, what an adorable Halloween story!

"I almost have her figured out now that she is almost 3.....with alittle bit more experience she will be hiding my stuff in places even a detective would not think of looking"

It takes some time to finally figure them out...
Sadly, once you're on to them, they usually have just figured out a new plan

"but I could NEVER get her to shAre with her sister.....go figure."

Glad to hear I'm not the only one with that problem. Both my children are wonderful at sharing with other people.. but they hate giving anything to the other one. I will admit... some days they are really really nice to each other, and somedays... well somedays I wish I could seperate them. lol

"He often throws in things I just couldn't give to Goodwill- either for sentimental value to me else far too damaged."

That's what I found yesterday... there was a few things that I just couldn't stand the thought of giving them away.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 10 (view)
Name a tradition you grew up with or a new tradition you would like to start
Posted: 4/28/2005 8:15:54 AM
Every Mother's Day, my children and I take flowers to
a retirement home, and have them given to a woman
who either doesn't have a family or who's family is too
far away to be there with her.

My Mother is no longer here, and this is an excellent way
to keep her memory alive in my children.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 8 (view)
Great Ideas For A First Date
Posted: 4/28/2005 8:01:59 AM
I would be all for doing something...

But, personally I'm pretty relaxed about what to do...

Ice skating (I can't skate so they're both fun lol)
Mini golf
Paddle boats
Amusement Park
And so many more that I just can't think of now.

I agree with the shooting range idea too, that's an original
idea that I personally would go for.

Basically anything that gets you talking and/or laughing is an excellent idea.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 1 (view)
How generous are your kids?
Posted: 4/28/2005 6:49:11 AM
I've been trying to 'spring clean' the house, and while doing so,
I have realized just how many toys my children have.
Lol... we have a nice sized 3 bedroom house, with a full
basement, but still not enough room for all these darn toys.

So, my plan today is, talking to my 6 year old son about giving
some of his toys to children who have none.
I have done this a couple times before, with both clothes and
toys, and have recieved a good response from him, however
I'm a little bit worried about today.

How do your kids do giving up things for charity?

Well I'm going up to talk to him about it now...
I'll post what his response was when we're done.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 13 (view)
Break up sex - the relationship is truly over but then you end up in bed together again
Posted: 4/27/2005 4:53:00 PM
I admit I was guilty of doing it... and I know exactly why...

While I was on my own, I was worried that no one would ever want me. I had an 18 month old son, no skills etc.... thought that I didn't have much to attract another man, and I was very sad and very scared of being alone.

When ex showed up at the door, I was in a moment of weakness, and near tears to begin with. We were together for 7 years, so as soon as he seen me, he knew something was wrong and asked if I wanted to talk about it.

We sat down and talked... and I cried all the way through my explination. He took me into his arms, and told me the most wonderful things he could (why didn't he do that when we were together????? grrr lol). I felt so safe with him, so comfortable in his arms, and it was nice to have that feeling back.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 11 (view)
Re: Dreams - the REAL ones!
Posted: 4/27/2005 1:06:47 PM
Ahhh pregnancy dreams are the worst for me... cause they seem so real.

Durning my last pregnancy I dreamed that I was cheating on my husband. When I say cheating, I don't mean just having an affair with one guy... that would be bad enough. I dreamed that I was sleeping with EVERYONE.

I woke up at about 4 in the morning, and actually believed the dream, I cried for 15 minutes while I tried to figure out how to tell him, because obiviously we could not continue like this.

Finally I fell back asleep and when I woke up at 7 am ... I figured the whole thing had been a dream, until my husband asked me why I was up at 4.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 8 (view)
I have found the one thing I have been missing
Posted: 4/26/2005 6:33:50 PM
I can't even find my keys!!

Best wishes to you both and congratulations!

Isn't it wonderful how hearing that a total stranger (to me anyways) has found love can lift your spirits?
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 18 (view)
five year old in handcuffs
Posted: 4/26/2005 2:54:28 PM
I don't know about all of Canada, but Ontario has adopted a zero tolerance rule.
It is just totally unacceptable to behave that way at school, and children are
suspended for it immediately.

Just thought I would point that out.

However... about the zero tolerance, I think honestly it's taken too far sometimes. One little girl at a school not far from me, was suspended for kissing a little boy after he drew her a picture. They were in JK... so 4 or 5, and it was considered sexual harrasment.

Edit: What that had to do with anything, I don't know... it just annoyed me... and well haven't gotten it off my chest till now.

There, I feel better.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 4 (view)
looking in Boone NC
Posted: 4/26/2005 2:04:04 PM
LOL Xander... never thought of that....
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 11 (view)
Responding 2 Numbers
Posted: 4/26/2005 11:00:23 AM
Oh when I'm using my cell phone to text someone I use numbers and other shorthand.

But I think honestly, when you are messaging someone for the first time (or even first few times) it doesn't create a great first impression.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 22 (view)
Messy house or apartment...
Posted: 4/26/2005 10:28:47 AM
"My kid is like a tornado,'s unbelievable!

It's amazing what she can do in just 15 minutes."

I hear you there Late....I would have never believed it if I didn't see it.
I have friends with no children come over, and they look at the mess, and make little comments about how I'm home all day, they can't figure out why my house would be this messy. What they don't realize, is that 15 minutes before they got there, I vaccuumed and dusted and washed the floor. You just can't tell. lol

My house is always clean, and usually messy. Of course, if I KNOW I'm having someone over then I try to make sure it is picked up... but if you're dropping by unexpectedly... well just don't if you can't stand a mess.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 18 (view)
Messy house or apartment...
Posted: 4/26/2005 10:16:19 AM

Today is spring cleaning day here. My kids have a cute little habit of putting stuff in drawers to hide it when I tell them to clean up... sadly, my tv unit has many drawers. So today... out it all came, I had it all on the couch organized in to little piles of what had to go where ...

I left the room, for MAYBE 1 minute... sixty seconds...MAYBE.... and my two year old had EVERY couch cushion (and of course my 8 million little piles) on the floor.


Yeah... gotta love them... cause if you didn't, life would be miserable.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 11 (view)
Messy house or apartment...
Posted: 4/26/2005 10:02:46 AM
I'm with Yam...

If they have kids, cut them some slack...

I have two little ones, a dog and a cat,
I can't keep up with it.

Messy I can live with, Dirty I cannot.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 61 (view)
Women's Errogeneous Zones
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:59:46 AM
Oh God... has it been so long that I have actually forgot?

yes wrist... love it.. not enough guys think of it.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 5 (view)
Responding 2 Numbers
Posted: 4/26/2005 9:31:40 AM
Lol... I guess the fact that I seen this thred a couple times before I even bothered to open it answers the question quite well.

Yeah, I don't know what it is that bothers me so much about it, but particularly in a profile or a first message when you are actually trying to get someone's attention in a positive way it just looks bad.

No, we're not all brilliant, heck, some of us aren't even smart... but why would we want to look any dumber than we already are?

On a side note: Yes, I know not all the people who type this way are dumb... but to me it just looks that way. So if you choose to type like that, that's your choice but I don't care if you got all A's in school... still looks dumb.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 23 (view)
pain medicine
Posted: 4/26/2005 5:20:22 AM
I am not ignoring his feelings in any way shape or form.

EVERY boo boo is tended to. Big or small. I just don't give him pain medication for
everyone. Some need a kiss, some need a bandaid, some do need pain medication.

My oldest son is 6, and he is a drama King.....he is one of those kids who cries very easily if he is hurt, I'm not going to medicate him just because he is crying, I need to look at the injury and make a judgement call over how badly he is hurt.

I hardly think that is denying his feelings.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 7 (view)
What's your worst eating out experience?
Posted: 4/25/2005 6:05:46 PM
Went out... a beautiful romantic dinner with my ex.

It was such a beautiful night, we held hands and cuddled in the car on the way there. While at the resturant, he and I sat beside eachother in the booth, and giggled and whispered wonderful things to each other. As the waitress brought us our meal, I was looking into his eyes and thinking to myself - This is a night I will never forget.

THe waitress set the food down, started to stand back up, and threw up on the table.

Guess what? I was right... it was a night I will never forget.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 4 (view)
Just a quick question
Posted: 4/25/2005 3:44:08 PM
There is life outside the forums?

Oh crap... when did that happen?

Okay, yeah I spend way too much time here...not all at once, but I'm home all day... when the kids are busy with something... it's just too easy to pop in here and find out whats happening.

I need to get a job...
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 37 (view)
Women's Errogeneous Zones
Posted: 4/25/2005 3:37:45 PM
Lol too many to mention...
They're everywhere!
Ones that aren't included for me:
Lower back, shoulders, inside of my elbow, my hands..... and the list goes on and on and on.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 2 (view)
Facts to Remember
Posted: 4/25/2005 3:36:09 PM
Glad you all liked it.

I got it in a moment that I was feelin pretty down... and it made me feel better.

Glad to hear it had that effect on others.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 33 (view)
Women's Errogeneous Zones
Posted: 4/25/2005 3:30:55 PM
I don't know anyone who doesn't want to feel that way.

Everyone of us wants to feel special, I don't care if your a man or a woman.
A partner that does that, is a partner worth teaching the physical part of it.

Sadly, so many people worry so much about the actual physical act, that they are carried away making sure that they're 'doing it right'.

Technique is something that improves with practice. The longer you are with the person, the better it can get, if you're willing to listen, learn, relax, experiment and enjoy. But, to get to the point that you can practice a lot... you gotta make sure that you make them feel special, desireable, beautiful and sexy... so, the most important errogeneous zone is the brain. With out it... you're not gettin to the other parts.

Oh an yeah... I include hammers with hacksaws... basically, if you're going out to the garage to get the tools... well... seek help.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 28 (view)
Women's Errogeneous Zones
Posted: 4/25/2005 3:24:17 PM
Some of my biggest attractions have come from what the guy is saying and making me feel...

Rather than the parts of my body that he's touching.

Make me feel beautiful, make me feel sexy... and you are well on your way to doing it right.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 25 (view)
Women's Errogeneous Zones
Posted: 4/25/2005 3:22:50 PM
Every guy I have ever known has needed the hint.
That's the whole reason I've been there.
If not for me, they would never know how to please me. :o)

My rule of thumb... is if it's attached to the body, it needs attention.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 23 (view)
Women's Errogeneous Zones
Posted: 4/25/2005 3:21:21 PM
Okay Okay, I should have been more clear.

If you have a hacksaw to reach the brain - You're using the WRONG tools.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 20 (view)
Women's Errogeneous Zones
Posted: 4/25/2005 3:18:46 PM
If you don't have the tools to reach the brain...

Well then nothing will work.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 18 (view)
Women's Errogeneous Zones
Posted: 4/25/2005 3:17:22 PM
I'm not sure there is any part of me that is not an errogeneous zone when touched the right way.
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 20 (view)
Can you tell by reading the profile?
Posted: 4/25/2005 2:51:41 PM
@ SweetKristine.

Oh yes...

Would love to hang out with you listening to cheesey music and just havin fun :)
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 16 (view)
five year old in handcuffs
Posted: 4/25/2005 2:11:37 PM
My son acted that way for a year.

When he was 4, he was suspended from school 5 times and eventually expelled.

I felt like the worst mother in the world, and was treated that way by many people around me. I try to do my best with my children, I am strict with them, and I love them... but my little one was just a complete mystery to me. I felt like I was a total failure.

I contacted my dr, who put me in touch with a class to help deal with children who need a little bit of extra help. It was an excellent class, and I met a lot of very supportive people, and learned a lot. However, my parenting style didn't change much at all, even after following everything they were saying. (I was doing what they were saying since he was born, and still had this out of control 4 year old)

Then one day, he stopped. My son started school again in September, and sending him that first day I felt sick... so scared of another year like last. I am happy to say, other than a couple small things (very very normal things) my son has had no trouble this year. He is a completely different child.

I've been there, and it is not always the parents... sometimes it's just who the kid is. My younger son, is nothing like that, a total opposite. I do agree however a lot of the times it is the parents... however.. .not always.

On Topic: From the Police Officer's discussion with the child at the end of the tape, when he said "remember me? I'm the one who told your mom to put you in handcuffs." You get the feeling, or I did, that during some altercation with the police, the mother admitted to them some of the problems she was having. I think the police were doing what they felt was best, and I don't think I disagree.

From my own experiences, and from watching that video, that little girl was NOT calm when the police arrived, but full of rage, I have seen my son like that many times, where an outside observer may think he's sitting calmly, but he's not... he would just be plotting his next tantrum... or building the energy for it.

If I was that child's parent, I don't think I would sue. What was done was done with the best of intentions and, MIGHT work as an effective 'tough love' attempt. I don't believe this was the absolute wrong thing to do.... even if I am not sure it was the right thing either.

Now having said that... I can't imagine anyone putting either of my little ones in handcuffs...
Joined: 7/2/2004
Msg: 4 (view)
Help! why do i Always have to make the first move?
Posted: 4/25/2005 11:10:04 AM

Please, I'm begging you.

Tell him how you feel about it, and ask him his thoughts and feelings.
I am in a situation like that right now, and it has only gotten worse.

This is something that sounds like such a small thing in the grand
scheme of things, but it's not. Because it can get much worse.

At some point, you may even realize, it's been almost 2 years since
you last had any physical contact with him.
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