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 Author Thread: Single mom getting serious with single dad
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Single mom getting serious with single dad
Posted: 5/24/2009 10:05:17 PM
Well...I planned to meet her on Saturday but apparently Dad was excited for us to meet and came to where I was on Friday for a short meet and dinner.

Saturday he had his daughter and his niece and we went for ice cream and to the park where we 3 girls swang on the swings while dad took turns pushing us all on the swing. (I felt like such a kid ;))

By the end of that deal his niece was very affectionate towards me and hugged me, etc...I felt bad because I think he kinda pressured her to hug me when I left but I made a joke of it and told her not to worry that I wouldn't kiss her ;)

I then later discreetly asked him to not pressure her about being responsive to me so quickly - that was the only awkward moment...

They called me to cook out today with his entire immediate family. I left them to their family thing for the most part of the day - came and ate with them and then it was time for her to go home so we took her home and "dad" and I spent some great quality time together after that.

I told her that the next time she was with her dad for the weekend we could go do something fun (a drive inn movie; mini golf; bowling; something and told her to think about what she might like to do....

All in all a very good 1st experience. Thanks everyone for the great advice.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Piercings
Posted: 5/19/2009 9:27:49 PM
Definitely liking the responses on the nipple piercings...

Yup...going to look into that more.

I love the way my tongue piercing looks (and I confess the attention from other's who notice it too) I'm not going to take it out and start over but perhaps I'll just take it out for oral sex...my partner states he feels no difference at all...but I think I will just for my own personal reasons - either that or invest in one of those nifty little vibrating ones.
That sounds fun.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Single mom getting serious with single dad
Posted: 5/19/2009 9:19:23 PM
He is less worrisome about introducing me than I am about meeting her. It's been a long time since he has had anyone at all in his life. I asked him to keep it short - go for ice cream, maybe some miniature golf, maybe...a short period of time so that she has the entire evening with him to herself.

My son has met him and we've spent time together on more than one occasion and my son has never liked anyone I dated before - but he does like him. My family met him and likes him - even my SISTER who is so highly opinionated about everything likes him.

I just don't want to screw this up.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Single mom getting serious with single dad
Posted: 5/18/2009 8:21:18 PM
All great suggestions - thanks!

I think him initially discussing this with her first is a good way to start.

I think us doing something with all 4 of us is a great idea too.

And when all else fails incorporate the best friend so that she never feels alone.

I'm thinking at 12 the friends are starting to be pretty important now, right??? (I haven't been a 12 yr old girl in a long time lol)
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Single mom getting serious with single dad
Posted: 5/18/2009 6:09:46 PM
I'm a 39 yr old woman who has an 18 yr old son who has recently gotten involved with a 32 yr old man who has a 12 yr old girl. I wouldn't ordinarily date a man this much younger then me thinking that he would want more children and I am past that stage in my life now but he has been very firm about the fact that he doesn't want any more children.

Does anyone have any suggestions about how to go about introducing me to his daughter? My son is older and therefore much less intimidated by a man in my life. In fact he has met my new SO and really liked him.

I really like him (may even love him!) and I know that a relationship with a child can make or break a relationship.

How do we go about introducing me into her life without upsetting her? How do I relate to a 12 yr old girl when I've had a son. I don't want to take her place in her dad's life and I don't want her to feel threatened...

Any suggestions or recommendations would be appreciated.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 71 (view)
 
send pic of my bum to get date?
Posted: 5/18/2009 5:43:41 PM
Tell him downloading porn online is free and you're not interested in being solely a fantasy for him...

Unless of course you want to be someone's wack off material...

How many men do you think want to KEEP the girl that sends her photos to men online?

 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
What the heck is up with men wearing women's underwear?
Posted: 5/18/2009 5:10:55 PM
No man I date is going to wear my underwear! Now commando? Heh! All good!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
How do you feel about love bites?
Posted: 5/18/2009 5:02:42 PM
I've had boyfriends who liked to "mark" me so to speak....

I rarely realize it until it's too late so I must be enjoying it at the moment.

I can't help it; if anyone nibbles my neck I'm gone...heavenly.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Cash For Sex
Posted: 5/18/2009 2:03:16 PM
Talk to me about this in July when my unemployment runs out and I haven't found a job yet!

Until then can't says I am desperate enough to accept cash for sex...

And why would any one pay??? Christ there are women all over the place giving it up for free!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 250 (view)
 
what is your opinion on phone sex
Posted: 5/18/2009 1:11:32 PM
With your significant other it could be erotic I suppose - I'm not into phone sex with strangers though. Been there; done that; and he was way hotter online LOL!

Of course, if any of you want to pay me $3.99 a minute to talk dirty to you I am all for that!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
what do women want in bed???????????
Posted: 5/18/2009 12:58:14 PM
What do I want in bed? I want a man to please me as much as I can please him...

I want him to interact; Use his mouth, his hands and any other means he can come up with to make me feel desirable too.

Breath hard in my ear; talk dirty to me; tell me what he wants me to do to him [I aim to please].

I appreciate audio feedback and enthusiasm and passion [so if he feels inclined to spank my ass or grasp my hair firmly so be it - I kinda like it lol]

I want him to express his desires to me and then take me [sometimes it seems I have to do all the expressing and initiating].

When we're done, I want to lay there a while, enjoy the fact that my body is trembling and shaking and that I feel like I can't breath . I don't want to jump up and shower or wipe down immediately. If it's not dirty then you're not doing it right I always say!

Damn! I need a cigarette! Anybody got a menthol?
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Piercings
Posted: 5/18/2009 7:28:25 AM

Suppose you're wearing surgical steel? Try brass, if they make those.


I am going between that and the flexible plastics.

I've actually started taking it out for oral sex as I feel that it hinders my ability to produce the desired amount of saliva.

Like I said I got the piercing in my tongue for aesthetic reasons and was kind of suprised that I didn't feel it enhanced things. I'm definitely intrigued by the nipple piercings but am probably a little too conservative for the genital piercings - although I can appreciate a man with a genital piercing.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Piercings
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:32:19 PM
I've wanted the tongue piercing for several years. I got it because I like the way it looks. The saliva factor was something noticed post piercing. I'm not a whore - and I didn't get it for only that reason - in fact I wasn't even participating in a sexual relationship at the time of the piercing...

I wanted opinions because all though I like the way it looks I thought it would enhance oral sex not hinder it......

*rolling eyes*
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Warning women about piercings? yes or no
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:23:15 PM
I think mentioning before hand can do one of two things. She is either going to be MORE interested out of curiosity or she is going to be intimidated by it.

I think when you're going to become intimate with someone all you can do is inform her before hand and assure her that you'll be gentle.

I've never seen a PA but have experienced a jacob's ladder and I found it more than pleasurable. I don't go out hunting for men with piercings but I'm not intimidated by them either. It was just a bonus with an individual I already found to be attractive and desirable.

 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Describe your first time
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:06:24 PM
I was 15 and he was 25.

It was not the experience of a life-time. I don't know if it was that he was "small" or what but it was short, messy and left me feeling pretty dirty...

Thanks be that it gets better.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 37 (view)
 
any ideas for masturbation ?
Posted: 5/17/2009 2:00:23 PM
I own the honey dipper made and distributed by Pure Romance and with that I NEVER get bored.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Men receiving oral
Posted: 5/17/2009 1:48:58 PM
My personal point of view is that I do this for special persons who don't expect it but desire to experience it. It's not something I enjoy doing, but have done. Its not something I want to do all the time - special occasion only.I notice a lot of men want it but I'm doing that for my special someone only....That is just something I feel is reserved for a man who is committed to me.

Just my point of view.

 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Piercings
Posted: 5/17/2009 1:42:47 PM
Do men experience a difference in feeling when a woman's tongue is pierced? Do you experience loss of sensation when the nipples are pierced? When women pierce the genital area is it a turn off or frightening to men?

I'm curious about piercings and wonder what if any are right for me. I recently pierced my tongue and all though I enjoy the sensation of it in my mouth I'm finding that there is a slight decrease in saliva production during oral sex.

I just want to know other peoples take on piercings...
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
 
I want him/her to do.......to my .........
Posted: 5/17/2009 1:30:58 PM
I want him to do nice things to my naughty spots.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
a Couples thing....?
Posted: 5/11/2009 5:19:34 PM
Have never done the couples thing - would never consider it even...

Had a threesome once involving two men and me - but I'd not do that again either...

Basically checked it off my list and said "okay tried it, wasn't for me."
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 77 (view)
 
Are there any people left that date one at a time?
Posted: 5/11/2009 4:45:13 PM
I'd be glad to date one at a time that had time....

Men are so busy all the time an they figure they can go a week or two without calling you - by that time I'm talking to the next potential individual.

I'm not going to limit myself to dating one person who is only available when HE wants something...but when I find that man who is actually going to be an active participant in a relationship he is going to be one LUCKY s.o.b.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 495 (view)
 
Does having sex when you meet for the first time ruin a chance for a real relationship?
Posted: 5/11/2009 4:13:50 PM
I guess my only issue with this is that sometimes I will talk to someone online sometimes 6-8 weeks before even AGREEING to meet them....and by then you know an awful lot about someone's personality...

I'd hate to think I'm cutting my own feet off...

I have not had a single date off of this site where the man didn't attempt to kiss or touch or lay me down within the first or second date.

I'm not saying I give in...but I am saying that women aren't the only ones responsible for having will power....
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Boring Sex
Posted: 5/11/2009 1:18:07 PM
Yup - that is when I rolled him over on his back and took charge of my own orgasm

Funny I'm still avoiding his calls!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
orgasm
Posted: 5/11/2009 1:15:53 PM
A little sneezing and tightening of the abdomen & vaginal walls shouldn't hurt anyone...in fact might be rather enjoyable as long as its not accompanied by a face full of snot!

I had a cold and a boyfriend who didn't care - he just wanted to be close and he rather liked the coughing jags LOL!

If you can't laugh at it and have fun - what can you do?????
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Go for a friend or Stranger
Posted: 5/11/2009 12:45:41 PM

I don’t want to date my best-friend. I have a best friend, she and I don’t date.


Presuming you're not a lesbian (and I have NOTHING against them so any homosexuals who read this I support GAY marriage and their rights!!!) she isn't your flavor so why would you...

A lot of my friends are men simply because they aren't petty and catty like women....So you know what??? I do want to date a man I can consider a friend first.


I want fire, passion, raging want/desire, sexual compatibility, etc.


Pretty presumptuous on your part that I don't want this or even get it for that matter...My current FRIEND took me to a park, told me I was beautiful, gave me exactly that before he bent me over a picnic table on a dark night giving me exactly that for Mother's Day. LOL!


No offense intended to those who subscribe to the “I want to fall in love with my best friend” theory.


Who said anything about falling in love??? I was talking about sex and dating and friends vs. strangers. Presumptuous again on your part...but then I wouldn't expect any less from a woman....i.e. why I get along better with men...LOL!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Go for a friend or Stranger
Posted: 5/11/2009 10:22:49 AM
Strangers can become your friend too =]

The person you end up with should be your best friend - someone you can't live without; someone who makes you smile even when you don't feel like it; someone you can trust.

I'm having great luck here meeting new people. You win some - you lose some. Just be careful and selective....
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 73 (view)
 
friends with benefits
Posted: 5/9/2009 5:03:31 PM

once the sex goes away -so does he right?


I was in a 9 yr ltr which left me completely heartbroken and for a long time I haven't wanted to get "attached" to anyone...

Over the past 2-3 yrs I have had a few FWBs - It just works for me. They still contact me nearly every week even though I have relocated and moved on.
It doesn't have to destroy a friendship if its between two adults who understand what each needs/wants from it.

Perhaps they contact me in hopes that I will become weak and give it up (I'm only 45 minutes away now) but it has been 6-7 months since I gave it up to any one I didn't think or hope would become more than that.

Anyhow, they don't always go away...that is all I'm saying...and if you're honest with your "friend" and they agree to the terms - go for it! Have fun! If it's not fun it's not worth doing...
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 100 (view)
 
Foreplay
Posted: 5/8/2009 12:15:24 PM
Do you talk online or thru text at all through out the day? Try telling him what you'd like to do for him VIVIDLY and see if he'll play back and that will give him time to think about all the endless ways he could pleasure you before he is even in the room. =]

Sometimes my foreplay starts days before hand (I had a long distance relationship for about 4 months which brought this on)...builds anticipation and excitement. I love it!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 156 (view)
 
What do women think when a guy comes too quickly?
Posted: 5/8/2009 12:08:13 PM

it will be harder, you'll last longer, your ejaculations will be powerful flying far, you'll ejaculate more, your orgasm will be way more powerful, in fact when your in her do the exercise, its like reving your engine.


That's pretty vivid...me likey.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 155 (view)
 
What do women think when a guy comes too quickly?
Posted: 5/8/2009 12:04:14 PM
When he cums quickly I think : Ding Ding Ding Round two!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Does the sexual double standard keep women from having casual sex?
Posted: 5/8/2009 10:43:20 AM
They're not having it alone...so how can you say we are having more? It generally takes a partner to have casual sex....
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 62 (view)
 
a guy not being able to get off
Posted: 5/8/2009 10:39:07 AM
Now there's something to be proud of....
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 99 (view)
 
Good Girl/Bad Girl, What's the difference?
Posted: 5/8/2009 10:10:45 AM
There is an old addage about this...

Be a lady in the livingroom and a whore in the bedroom...

I try to behave; For some people it's an easy choice but for me there's a devil and an angel's voice. /
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 35 (view)
 
A question for the ladies - Fisting
Posted: 5/8/2009 7:30:41 AM
***doing my kegel exercises and running in opposite direction as we speak!***

 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Why do women moan more than men during sex?
Posted: 5/8/2009 6:53:23 AM

Is moaning a woman thing?


I'm a moaner (now that I think of it) but there is one POFer that I see that absolutely drives me wild with his sounds...very erotic...highly recommend it to the guys! Can never be a bad thing to let her know you're loving it!!!

Impish banter is always appreciated too!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Is sexual attraction based on fetish?
Posted: 5/7/2009 5:25:16 PM

That means comedians must have some awesome sex lives.


Well if Vince Vaughn would stop avoiding my calls he would!!!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Is sexual attraction based on fetish?
Posted: 5/7/2009 11:43:20 AM

women are drawn to men based on personality traits, more so than physical traits.


I'm no expert, but I would agree in my case, that it is definitely the personality more so than the physical traits. Whether he is a blond, brunette, black or red head is of no consequence to me - heck he doesn't even need hair at all!

What is important to me is that he is considerate, honest and has a great sense of humor. A funny man can make me do just about anything!

P.s. said individual might benefit from having a bit of a naughty streak too that he saves solely for me.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Have I got a problem
Posted: 5/6/2009 7:11:53 PM

If I were a guy; I would be damn proud of every erection I had!!


Right!!!! And if I were the girl you couldn't touch without becoming excited well then...I'd be just as happy as if it were my own! ;)
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 40 (view)
 
If You could choose to be a famous sex symbol of the opposite gender you are, Who would you be ?
Posted: 5/6/2009 5:52:34 PM
Vin Diesel (Yum), or his hottie co-hort in "Fast & Furious" Paul Walker, maybe Matthew McConaughey, if not them then I'd have to go for a funny guy: a funny guy can make ME do just about anything!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 442 (view)
 
I caught a women I've been sleeping with inserting my used condom inside her
Posted: 5/6/2009 5:46:11 PM

any advice?


For starters find a new booty to call on (probably should have done that when she started wanting to pursue a relationship if you weren't interested in that any how!)

But that woman???? Lunatic!!!! Who wants to have a child with someone who never intends to have a relationship with them?!? Seriously! Insane!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 116 (view)
 
Do you agree with this (A little offensive)
Posted: 5/6/2009 5:38:28 PM

Is that irony I smell?


Nope, I believe its the combination of your hand lotion and motion...Try a water based product next time!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Vibrators
Posted: 5/6/2009 5:32:28 PM

does anyone have any suggestions on what kind or what a good beginner one would be?


Depends on whether she wants strictly clitoral stimulation or she'd like to be penetrated too or even both...

Check out www.pureromance.com (p.s. I'm not a dealer either, just like their products...)
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 125 (view)
 
Can women really go without sex????
Posted: 5/6/2009 1:40:15 PM
I can, but why should I have to just because I don't want a relationship or marriage???

Maybe she wants to initiate it sometimes LOL

Make her ask for it
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Has an orgasm ever knocked you out?
Posted: 5/6/2009 9:20:05 AM
Nope - at best I tremble excessively and get extremely light headed.

Where can I put my order in for one of those any way? Thank you, please drive thru!
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 109 (view)
 
Would you perform oral sex on your date at a walkin movie theatre?
Posted: 5/6/2009 9:13:09 AM
Ask the guy who kept trying to get me in the back row every time we went to a movie! Just don't ask that one boy in high school.

But in all seriousness, if the theater was empty (and it has been) I might consider all sorts of fun things.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Do you agree with this (A little offensive)
Posted: 5/6/2009 8:56:14 AM

All you have to do is lie down or assume the doggie position and 'ooo' and 'ahh'.


Crap! Had I known this I wouldn't be putting forth so much effort.

 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
letting a man wait for sex
Posted: 5/5/2009 11:49:35 PM
"For Me" being the key words...

"For Her" completely different perhaps? And she shouldn't be presumed to be lacking self control either. It came off like an attack....Just call me a defender of the open minded.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Nude pics!
Posted: 5/5/2009 11:28:28 PM

What is the big deal? its just nudity!!!!


Ask a woman that question who has lost her job because her photos were found on the internet or a woman who may lose her job due to promiscuity....Not in my case mind you....but it happens.
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 525 (view)
 
Are there ANY women who don't CHEAT?
Posted: 5/5/2009 11:14:31 PM

Are there any women out there who DON'T cheat?


Any woman who has been cheated on could ask the same about men.

Maybe you should try asking yourself why you keep dating & getting engaged to the same types of women over and over instead...
 trishinwi2009
Joined: 2/24/2009
Msg: 136 (view)
 
Spending the night
Posted: 5/5/2009 10:56:51 PM

I asked this of one woman one night before she slept over, thinking I was being cute: I said, "How do you like your eggs in the morning?" And she responded, "Unfertilized!"


Funny - I order mine that way at Perkins at bar time too LMAO
 
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