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 Author Thread: can't commit now and says to move on
 BrownEyedLeo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 76 (view)
 
can't commit now and says to move on
Posted: 11/10/2011 4:35:41 AM
Why would you not move on? Appreciate the facr that he was honest with you. If a man tells you he can't commit, believe him. Doesn't matter if he is interested or not, he is not wanting a relationship. No need to second-question this one!
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Mouth Shut or Tattle?
Posted: 10/20/2009 8:57:40 PM
I can't imigine a man even thinking about discussing the situation with anyone!! Is it possible you are jealous that your "business associate" has two women interested in him and you have none? I would think if you had a gf you would be home taking care of your own life and not meddling in his ! Time for you to get a life !!
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 105 (view)
 
So he has been in prison so what right?
Posted: 10/18/2009 10:17:50 PM
Hate to break the news to you but amazing men don't violate other people's privacy and break into their homes.Con men however can be quiet amazing.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How soon do you feel safe?
Posted: 10/18/2009 10:05:32 PM
It depends on the person and my gut feeling. I don't have any "set in stone" rules about when I feel safe with someone I've met online. Online people are the same as people I meet offline. If I meet someone offline my rules are the same as meeting someone from online. Meeting someone from online doesn't make them less safer than someone I meet offline.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Why would a guy leave the first and last encounter with me a two second explosion?
Posted: 7/28/2009 8:30:03 PM
maybe he doesnt know you usually never sleep with a guy on the first date .. cuz you did.
I think a better question is why wouldn't a guy wanna leave on the not so great encounter of a 2 minute sexual encounter.At least he was gentleman enough to pull out.
I think you have a much bigger problem than wondering why he didn't call. It only takes one time to have unprotected sex ... and .. get pregnant, or get an std. What did you get from this guy ? Lucky!
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Need advice on moving out / ending relationship
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:35:05 PM
What brought you two together if you never got off the ground to begin with ? There must be something of value in this relationship for both of you to stay in it this long. Maybe counseling would help. If the passion has gone out of the relationship, find a way to get it back.Sometimes we tend to take things for granted instead of cherishing them.How would you feel if he left you because he felt he was just doing time ? Nobody holds the key to your freedom but you.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Does kissing automatically indicate you're a couple?!?!
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:18:33 PM
For me, a kiss is a very intimate thing. However, it does not mean I automatically become a couple with the person I kissed. The way you kiss someone says a lot about what it means. If you kissed him passionately, I can see where a man might feel you wanted more than a friendship with him. Most people don't go around french-kissing their friends, unless they do have intentions of wanting it to go to a different level. No wonder men don't understand women! Don't give off mixed signals and lead him on if you don't want more.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Do you ever really know someone?
Posted: 6/14/2009 2:55:39 PM
I don't think it is possible to have a "perfect" marraige. Just wondering what that really means to you.Maybe he has been living a lie to himself and also thought the marraige was perfect.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Straddling the fence
Posted: 4/29/2009 10:37:26 PM
I just realized something. You are really a "wannabe" romance fiction writer and you tested your first story with us fellow fishies.I read more posts here and I agree with a fellow poster. You must really be bored tonight.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Straddling the fence
Posted: 4/29/2009 10:31:26 PM
I can't believe I actually read all of your post. To put it to you bluntly and honestly. He is a Con Man. If you can not see through him, you really need therapy!
I would bet this man has a woman he lives with when you are not available.Why shouldn't he? You believe everything he tells you...well, except when he tells you the truth.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What motivates you to look for a relationship?
Posted: 3/31/2009 7:46:02 PM
Because I am sure some poor man out there in this pond of fishies really needs me in his life ! I owe it to him to find him and convince him I am the one he has been looking for!
And I won't bother to say that much about my Co-Dependency issues !!
Ok... I will be the honest woman I am and admit it..... I am addicted to the forums !
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Which is preferable in relationships
Posted: 3/25/2009 10:31:32 PM
I am a Leo. I would not want to live with a fellow Leo. There would be no room for both egoes ! Give me different anyday !!
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
A weird question, why do some people have to be so difficult?
Posted: 3/25/2009 10:23:08 PM
She wamts a Preppy Guy, not a mountain guy. Even if you were foolish enough to change your way of dressing to suit her,you still can not change the person you are inside. Sometimes there are a of of years between 18 and 22 and she seems to have a ot of growing up to do before she learns to appreicate a man for who he is and not by the clothes he wears. I can understand this so well. I have a 19 year old Daughter and there is no way she would date anyone that did not wear the right shoes.In her eyes, "shoes make the man". My Daughter also has so many other people in her life that are important to her that she would never remember to call you back. Someone else would call and she would forget that she was suppossed to return your call. Not that she is a rude person, she is just at a time in her life where her friends are more important than a guy that wants to spend a lot of time with her. My Daughter falls "in love" every other week. By the second date she is bored, and finds all kind of reasons she doesn't like the boy. She is a long way from becoming involved in a committed relationship. And ... fortunately, she also knows that ! This isn't about you. It is about an 18 year old trying to learn to live in a woman's world.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
If you can't afford STD tests and your parner wants it?
Posted: 3/6/2009 6:42:16 PM
You don't have the right information. Local Health Depts. do give STD tests for no charge to the client if they can not afford to pay. Planned Parenthood also has free STD testing.
I would also like to add I don't think anyone can NOT afford to be tested!
I have a 19 year old Daughter and one of the most important things I feel that I taught her about sex was the importance of practicing safe sex. I also taught her the importance of being tested for STDs, including AIDS and HEP C. I feel it should be a mandatory part of one's yearly check-up. Sometimes practicing safe sex isn't always safe!
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Friendship with a married man.. good idea or bad?
Posted: 11/23/2008 11:19:30 AM
I am surprised this thread has not been deleted. It comes across as an "attention-seeking" post.Who needs someone else to assure them they did the right thing when breaking off anykind of a relationship with a married man? Why even go there to begin with? You were newly seperated due to your husband fooling around on you, yet you immediately began correspondense with a married man.How could you expect that not to bother his wife? You make it sound so innocent when you tell us .. "he contacted me first." Just because he contacted you does not mean you had to reply. And ... you have to ask if someone that is married should be contacting strong feelings for someone else? I think you need to grow up and get real !!
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Odd that it bothers me that she has NEVER voted?
Posted: 11/15/2008 9:46:16 PM
It would bother me also if I knew someone I was interested in didn't vote. I do not agree that it is someone's personal choice. As American citizens, a person should feel a responsibility for our country and want to exercise their right to vote.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Single Parents With Problem Kids
Posted: 11/14/2008 6:26:16 AM
I was in a relationship with a man that had a son with ADHD. I could have handled it, had he handled it. I was the one dealing with him tearing the neighbor's brick grill down ... just to see if he was strong enough to..and I was the one dealing with him cutting my new shower curtain with a knife, just to see if it was sharp enough to cut the curtain. I was the one dealing with him stealing from me, and the one going to school to talk to the teacher's about his problem behavior. I took him to the Doctor.I gave him his meds. I took him to counseling sessions. Not once did his Dad ever punish his son. His excuse, "Well, he has ADHA and impulsive behavior and can't help it." Having ADHD is NOT a reason for a child to get away with distructive behaviour. I tried setting boundaries with him (he would come into our bedroom and go through our personal belongings) and his Daddy would do nothing about it. He would steal money from his Daddy's wallet and not get punished. I did all the Parenting and Disclipline with his child and he enabled his son to continue with his destructive behaviour. Dealing with a child with ADHD is not easy when it is your own child, when it is someone else's child, it is even harder. I loved this child, but I could not deal with all the issues his problems brought into the home.
I finally ended the relationship and his son cried and wanted to stay with me and not go live with his Daddy. It broke my heart, but I had children of my own to deal with. That was years ago and he is grown now. He still calls me occassionally and always tells me how much he appreciates how much I tried to help him when he was a child.
Anyone getting involved with someone that has a child with ADHD needs a lot of patience and time to devote to the child. It definitely takes away from time with the Parent.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Does cyber sex count as cheating?
Posted: 11/14/2008 6:13:59 AM
I consider it cheating. I would not want my partner sharing any kind of intimacy with another woman (or man) if it has to do with sex.If he is doing it with my knowledge, it would be almost like having an open marraige.If my partner needs some excitement or extra spice in his sex life, I would be more than willing to share some with him, just the two of us !! If he wants cyber sex, than I have a computer also. I can go into the next room and do the "cyber sex" thing with him.I am not into sharing my partner.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Dredging up old hurts during arguments
Posted: 11/12/2008 3:02:10 PM
There is actually a word for this. It is gunnysacking. Couples do that when past issues have not been resolved. They use it as a means to avoid dealing with the present issue.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Awareness and Change
Posted: 11/10/2008 7:00:12 PM
I think if I were dealing with my friend's terminal illness and also involved with someone for a short time, to hear the words "I Love You" from them would scare me so much I would run also. Loving someone hurts sometimes. He is already dealing with the pain of losing someone he loves. Hearing the words "I Love You" from you has probably put him just a bit over the edge.I could understand how that would not make him feel strength in knowing you love him. I would probably feel sick to my stomach if I were in his situation.I also would probably do as he has done and remove myself from the situation for awhile. Maybe he needs time to digest this and also time to grieve for the loss of someone he loves before dealing with the pressure of having someone else love him. Sometimes having someone love you can be a burden, not a blessing. You told him you loved him because of your needs, without any thought of his.You can not give another person strength or power by loving them.Your need to control his feelings is what created the problem here.You said you owned what you feel. Allow him to do the same!!
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
peppermint altoids
Posted: 11/9/2008 5:36:38 PM
don't forget listerine strips. they work wonders also !
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Self-Induced G-Spot Orgasm
Posted: 11/9/2008 10:20:37 AM
I want one of those G Spot orgasms!!
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking
Posted: 11/9/2008 10:12:00 AM
Maybe he feels intimadated by your sex toys and is too embarrassed to talk about it.
Bet you guys never watched a Porn Flick together either. Suggest going to the local Adult store.If he also won't do that, maybe rent a Porn flick and watch it together, one showing straight couples using sex toys together.Sometimes women have to educate men about something like this. Use a "massager" instead of a vibrator and give him a massage.Use massage oil on him and have the candles burning instead of bright lights. When he is totally relaxed, and you have already beem giving him a massage for awhile,very slowly (and tenderly) massage his testicles and penis.If you have the kind of massager with attachments, it works even better. Use the attachment that curves and can cover the head of his penis and I assure you he will love it. Just make sure you do not put it on full speed. You have to go slow with those or it will be much too sensitive.If he is against the massager, take a shower together and play with the shower massage. Start with his shoulders and back and work your way down, on him, not you ! When he feels how stimulating it can be, he should want to do the same for you. Most men want to give back what they recieve sexually.Good luck!
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Do you see divorced people as damaged goods?
Posted: 7/31/2008 8:55:49 PM
And I suppose you are Virgin Mary made over !!
How dare you call someone "damaged goods" due to them being divorced. Divorce is NOT an uncureable contagious disease! And to consider a woman as "ruined" because she is already a Mother. I noticed you did state "in your eyes". Well, you need much more than glasses to help you see clearly. You are a very arrogant, obnoxuious , and judgemental person. I certainly will not refer to you as a man, as you certainly are not one!
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Who is that person in the mirror?
Posted: 7/31/2008 9:40:45 AM
When I look in the mirror, I see the stress life has put in my eyes. I see a few wrinkles time has placed there. I see the age spots most of us women are blessed with after menapausal years. I don't look at any of this as negative things I see. I look at it positively. It is part of the aging process. I am grateful I can see myself in the mirror.
I also see so much more when I look in the mirror. I see myself. I see dark eyes still full of mischieve and wondering. I see a smile welcoming a stranger to open up to me. I see who I am inside, the woman in me. I see a sensual woman with hope in her eyes. I see a woman with laughter deep in her soul. I see me, exactly where I want to be. I am a woman at peace with myself and my place in life. I see so more more than what the physical reveals.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Extrovert dating an Introvert...
Posted: 7/31/2008 8:48:34 AM
You ask how to bring out his inner extrovert person and then you state in another post you are okay with it. Obviously you are NOT okay with it or you would not be posting and asking how you can change his introvertness.Why try to change it ? Why not learn how to appreciate it and use it to enhance a relationship?
I also am an extrovert and I am usually attracted to introverts. If I was involved with someone like myself, it would drive me nuts ! The introverted personality helps "quieten down" my extroverted one and makes for a more even balance that is much easier to live with. When my mind is racing and I am wanting to do a hundred things at one time, being with someone more laid back helps me to adjust my personality traits and I am easier to live with because then I can relax and have fun WITH the introverted person.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Dating an Alcoholic
Posted: 7/31/2008 8:29:43 AM
So you want advice ? Buy yourself a book. Co-Dependent No More.
You are involved with her for three months and already wanting her to change.Doesn't seem like she has given you any indication she wants to change anything.
You have NO control over how much she drinks, why she drinks, or when she drinks. The only thing you have control over is your behavior.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 46 (view)
 
Foreskin Restoration
Posted: 7/31/2008 8:18:13 AM
Maybe you need to discuss this with a therpyst first. Sometimes men feel they have lost part of themselves they had no choice in making a decision about. Their wanting/needing foreskin restoration is mainly due to wanting the part of their body back that was taken from them. Their is actually no way you can ever recover the foreskin that was removed. However, you can restore "a" foreskin. This can be done surgically or you can ever do it yourself by stretching your skin daily. A Doctor can show you how this is done. Studies prove foreskin restoration does actually make sex better due to the improved sensation in the head of the penis.
Personally, I think you need to deal with what is in the head on your shoulders before dealing with the head of your penis.
A link with some good info on the subject of foreskin restoration.
http://www.cirp.org/pages/restore.html
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Women making overt moves to initiate sex
Posted: 7/31/2008 7:52:28 AM
Of course there are woman that make moves on a man just for sex and are not looking to be in a relationship. Women have sexual desires the same as men do.
As for the Porn flick, I consider it very realistic. The woman wants to prove herself to you, that you already have the "Best" woman right in front of you and don't need her best friend. She is doing what women have done for ages, using her sexuality to get into your head and make you forget the "other woman". The problem is, it really has nothing to do with the man, it just has to do with the woman. She wants to win this game!
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Tips for girlfriend on new experience-Any advice/pointers?
Posted: 7/30/2008 10:11:54 PM
Titty "Fk" Instructions :
Have gf give you oral sex for starters.
Pull out when ready and thrust your penis between her breasts.Your penis should be wet enough from your gf that you do not need anymore lubrication.
One partner should squeeze the breasts together to create friction and pressure against the penis.
As you thrust your penis between her breasts (still holding them together), she should lick/suck your penis whenever possible.
After you ejaculate on her breasts, kiss and lick them all over .
Lie your head down on her breasts and go to sleep holding her gently ... after you kiss her g'night of course !
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 65 (view)
 
past friends. How close is too close?
Posted: 7/30/2008 9:15:40 PM
To much drama for me to want to deal with.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
women here's a good way to date
Posted: 7/30/2008 8:59:58 PM
If only life were that easy !
 BROWNEYEDLEO
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
A potential partner with Alcohol issues.. is it worth the pain
Posted: 7/12/2008 10:35:48 PM
You would probably be doing this woman a favor by moving on. It might help her open her eyes to her drinking problems. Of course she drinks because of a bad break-up. Every alcoholic has their own reason for drinking other than, " I drink because I am an alcoholic" or "I drink because I have a drinking problem". Getting involved with an active alcohoic is asking to be in a sick relationship. You will probably become as sick or maybe even sicker than she is.
 BROWNEYEDLEO
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Researching Potential Partners
Posted: 7/11/2008 7:28:07 PM
I had someone "google" me after we had made a date for dinner. He emailed me and made a reference in the email about my ex that let me know he had done some kind of background search on me. I can easily see where information can be taken the wrong way as he assumed things about me due to information he found about my ex. He also was upset that he could not find any records on me at all, not even court records, such as paying taxes and such. I have no idea why my public records did not come up, but his assumption of me was so far off base it was almost funny ! He mentioned the fact that my car was not even in my name. Well, I have had several vehicles in my name and I had not owned the one I was driving long enough to get the title back from the Highway Dept. He also made a big deal about me not having a telephone in my name, which I did. My phone number is unlisted so it did not show up. What really made him SURE I was a liar and a gold digging woman was when I sent him a card and put my P.O. Box Number as my address. He emailed me again and said nobody but homeless people use a Post Office box to get their mail ! I told him homeless people can not afford a post office box. Me having a post office box was such an issue with him I knew there was no way I would ever want to go out with him. He kept insisting that he goes outside and gets his mail everyday and what was I hiding that I could not go outside and get mine to ? He was so suspiscpious of everything that I began to feel he must have a LOT to hide !
 BROWNEYEDLEO
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Does it matter?
Posted: 7/11/2008 1:11:20 PM
It seems to matter to some men. I have been asked many times why I am still single, as though something is wrong with me because I have not remarried yet. It seems to be a "red flag" to some men. I never knew that was suppossed to be an appropiate time to stay single, but obviously there must be and I sure have no clue what that time period is. I will remarry when and if I meet that someone special and .. if we both want to get married.
 BROWNEYEDLEO
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 98 (view)
 
What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship?
Posted: 7/11/2008 1:01:41 PM
I made him a priority in my life when I knew I was never a prioity in his.
I simply loved him too much and he didn't love me enough.
 BROWNEYEDLEO
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Why am I jealous?
Posted: 7/11/2008 12:51:39 PM
I think she is definitely putting his feelings before yours. She told you he does not want to hear about you, therefore she does not introduce you to him. She doesn't seem to care that you would feel more comfortable meeting him.
Personally, I don't think this has anything to do with someone being jealous. It is more about having common sense. I can't imigine being involved with a man and him going to dinner or spending time with someone he used to be intimate with that still loves him. In my opinion, she is showing no respect for you and has no concern for your feelings.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 39 (view)
 
told to move on
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:01:55 PM
I read all the posts here after I made my first post and gave you my opinion. I see that you do not like the responses you have gotten and feel most of us were giving you negative replies. In no way did I mean for my post to be negative to you. I was just being honest as the other posters also seem to be doing. You asked for our help. We give you answers from our viewpoint of the situation and they are not the answers you want to hear. I am not sure why I am even posting this because I don't think you are ready yet to accept the reality of the situation. She can NOT handle being treated like gold. She does NOT feel she deserves to be treated like gold. Even though you do not think you are smothering her, you are. You are not above needing counseling just because you counsel others. I wouldn't be at all surprized if she was with her Ex Husband right now. Most abused women that have not gotten therapy feel safer in the abusive relationship than with a man that treats them like gold. You were her helper, and her Saviour. It seems she is not ready to be saved yet. She tried to tell you that and you don't want to listen to her words anymore than you want to listen to ours.
Try again .. you might catch something better in different waters !
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Did anyone have any success with following The Rules?
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:58:26 AM
I feel that would be no different than playing mind games with someone. I don't want that done to me and I would not do it to anyone else. How can "The Rules" be the same for everyone anyway? All of us are different with different wants/needs/desires. Why would I want to "pretend" to not be available to someone I am interested in ? What works for me is to be myself and not follow someone elses rules who has no idea who I am and what I want out of a relationship.
As to the comment made by msg 36 I would hate to think a man thought so little of me that all I had to offer was sex.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
gives, but doesnt enjoy
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:39:42 AM
Don't ask a question if you aren't sure you can handle the answer!
I suppose some men would consider you lucky that she has never refused. Personally, if I have to ask for it, I don't want it. And ... if he didn't enjoy doing it, I would not have to ask him , I would know by his actions. and again, I would not want it. I would consider it no more than a "mercy fk", or .. in your case, a "mercy bj" !
Part of the pleasure of oral sex is knowing your partner is enjoying giving it as much as we are enjoying receiving it.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
told to move on
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:00:07 AM
Have no idea if this is the reason she more or less dumped you, but women in abusive relationships usually have a hard time dealing with a "normal" one unless they have had some sort of therapy to help them understand what kept them in an abusive relationship. For most women in abusive relationships, that becomes the norm for them and they just simply do not feel good enough to be with someone who treats them like a valuable person. Considering she told you many times she wasn't good enough for you, I would think that has a lot to do with why she decided to end it with you. Some women get addicted to abusive relationships and do not know how to get free of that. I worked in a place for abused women for awhile and most of the time, the women would go right back to the situation she left, even after they were helped to find a job, place to live, etc. It becomes comfortable to these women and yes, they are scared to leave. I know it sounds crazy that an abusivie relationship can feel comfortable to someone, but a woman does have the security of knowing he is not going to leave her. She has to love herself before she can love you and it sounds like she hasn't began the healing process she needs. Doesn't sound like this is so much about you as it is about her and where she is right now.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 35 (view)
 
bad head
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:22:47 PM
There are a lot of ways to let her know she needs to learn how to be better at it. You can tell her w/o saying a word, by your body movements, the way you place your hands on her head, the way you move your pelvis to match the movement of her mouth or the way you DON'T move. Or you can take her with you and visit the Adult Toy Store in town. While looking at sex toys, suggest getting a Porn movie to watch for fun. If she reacts in a Positive way to that, purchase one showing girls giving head.
Buy a book for "both" of you to read about the joys of oral sex. Read it to her as part of foreplay, hand the book to her and tell her it's her turn to read to you. It can be very erotic reading to each other in bed and she may learn something too.
Most women give the best head when they just got the best, so make sure you aren't lacking in the department also and she just doesn't know how to go about telling you !
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 57 (view)
 
SHOULD I INFORM HE'S WIFE SHE'S BEING CHEATED ON?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:47:49 PM
You already answered your question, when you said you know it is none of your business.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Did you ever do this?
Posted: 7/1/2008 10:02:06 AM
If I love you is said in the heat of passion, does that count ?
Personally, I don't think we should be held accountable about what we say in the heat of the moment.
 Browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Can love really be bought?
Posted: 7/1/2008 9:50:26 AM
My opinion about this is different than most of the Posters I have read. I actually think it is a good idea. Marraige is a contract just like a business relationship is. When two business partners enter into a business together, they put up money, collatereal, their assests, worth, and what they are willing to do in a business venture. In a Business relationship, there must be trust and loyalty to the 0ther partner to make the business work. Not much difference in a marraige contract. Two people are entering into a contract together to make a relationship work. They both bring with them certain things expecting the contract to work. If it doesn't work, they get a divorce. That sounds simple enough, but when love enters the picture, the contract becomes more binding.(Or at least, it should).
Is what this woman offering any different from many other "arranged" marraiges that actully end up working out? We Americans just aren't as used to seeing arranged marraiges. She seems to be thinking realistically and not emotionally.
This is NOT something I could see myself doing, but to each his own. I prefer the tradionally way we Americans meet and combine our lives together when we find that special someone.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Need some opinions please!
Posted: 6/5/2008 9:09:36 PM
First of all , I have only read a few Posts so I may be repeating what someone else has already said to you. I can't help but wonder why you are so concerned about his moving on issues, when the REAL problem seems to be how you feel about it. Look into your own heart and deal with your issues about the end of this relationship and not his. How are you dealing with it ??
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
What causes most arguments in a relationship?
Posted: 5/30/2008 7:26:06 PM
I think lack of communication and also blowing small matters out of proprotion.
Most men don't like to talk about the issue, and most women want to talk it to death.
Maybe if somehow all of us could learn to meet in the middle it would all work itself out in the end.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
What would you do in this situation?
Posted: 5/29/2008 9:46:01 PM
and ... Just for the record. I wasn't tempted to email or Im you to ask you if you would have casual sex with me. I wouldn't think most men would either .. until they read that in your profile.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
What would you do in this situation?
Posted: 5/29/2008 9:39:02 PM
It could be a number of things. He may have over-reacted because he feels he has put himself in a bind with the second mortgage and it is something he is super sensitive about. The fact that he is upset over his credit score shows he is a responsible about financial matters. He may feel he did not make the best decision in this matter and it bothers him. I am not in agreement with most of the Posters here. I feel we all can have moments when we don't act in the best interest of others. A lot of reasons cause us to handle a situation differently at sometimes than we would at another time. One incident does not mean he has anger issues. Seems like the entire situation just got out of hand. None of us are perfect. Give it some time to settle down.
And .. for my UNASKED opinion regarding your intentions of moving in with him. You don't even know this man yet and are planning on moving in with him? THAT I would consider a MUCH bigger issue than his getting upset over a sensitive matter.
What's the rush? Get to know each other and learn to appreciate the good things about each other and how to deal with the not so good things.
 browneyedleo
Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
False Teeth ........
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:52:24 PM
I don't think of it as being shallow. I would have a problem if a man I dated had false teeth and did not wear his bottom ones. I could not look past this. I would wonder if he left them somewhere or maybe loaned them to a friend or something. Or prehaps he could not afford to get his uppers and lowers at the same time. There are a lot of possibilities here.
I had a friend once that dated a man who had false teeth and he actually took them out and placed them on the table when they went out to eat. He told her the teeth hurt his gums when he ate. That is the moment I would have ran to the bathroom and NOT returned!
 
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