Show ALL Forums
Posted In Forum:

Home   login   MyForums  
 
 Author Thread: What tune shall we play
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What tune shall we play
Posted: 2/10/2019 4:56:54 AM
Hi folks, haven’t been on the forums for so long.....

I’d suggest I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor. Love the lyrics 💕
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 25 (view)
 
What's Your DMV?
Posted: 12/28/2018 12:56:03 PM
Dating in general is very variable and there’re no one size fits all rules. One can set their standards and expectations but whether those are realistic, that’s each to their own. IMO.

When I was actively looking to date, I never explicitly told guys who messaged me or stated in my profiles what qualities I did or didn’t want. I had them in my mind, if I got a message from a guy I wasn’t interested or who didn’t meet my “criteria”, I just wished them good luck.

@hemingway.

Just out of curiosity, how do you define a foreigner? I’m British born and bred but my family came from China. Would you say I am a foreigner in the uk, despite having been a British citizen all my life and holding a British passport? My bf loves everything oriental: food, culture, women and his idol was a Chinese and I think that was part of why he was attracted to me in the first place. He isn’t keen on white skin, blue eyes or blond hair (he’s Caucasian,though). I know that my appearance isn’t every guy’s cup of tea. Some do find me attractive, some don’t. I guess the same goes with women of other ethnicities/backgrounds as well.

I get that you’ve got your type and it’s probably the opposites of what my bf likes. Again, each to their own.

Anyway, happy new year everyone xx
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
blocked
Posted: 12/16/2018 2:18:13 PM
While I think a profile review is a good idea, it doesn’t guarantee any success. You might still get blocked.

Don’t ask why people do or don’t do certain things. No points really, IMO. Focus on those who respond to your messages and take it from there. Leave those who blocked or ignored your messages well be.

Good luck.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Turning someone down for sex
Posted: 12/6/2018 1:36:14 PM
I don’t remember refusing having sex with my partner. I enjoy it except when I feel under the weather. But I have turned down a lot of men I dated. I don’t get intimate until I’m ready which is very variable.

I find that men don’t usually refuse sex if offered regardless of their interest (or lack thereof) in the woman. JMO.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 32 (view)
 
What would you expect from a partner?
Posted: 11/14/2018 10:19:00 AM
I’m sure I tick all the boxes of yours, OP. The only thing is the attractiveness. This is quite subjective and I’m attractive to some men but not others.

Do you think I’m attractive? Lol.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Should I stop texting her?
Posted: 10/29/2018 4:02:13 PM
To answer your headline, yes, you should give up. Nothing is real until you meet. Don’t get too emotionally invested before that. Both of you behave like teenagers. Unless you want dramas in your life, look elsewhere.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Plenty of Fakes
Posted: 10/29/2018 3:52:32 PM
OP, I’m in this age group and met my current bf on here, we’re still going strong 💪

I agree with ohenryx that POF isn’t a hook up site even though a number of members might want to treat it like one. There’re a lot of folks who genuinely looking to date. If I come across a guy who wants to get intimate immediately, I’m out. It’s not what I want. Or if a guys wants to chat for good, again, I’m out. Not looking for a pen pal.

I keep my profile because I want to be on the forums.

@sweet danimal, I used to be on match.com as well. But I didn’t find men on there dateable. I quit after 6 months. I agree that the quality of people on paid sites isn’t much different from free ones. It’s their characters and personalities that’ll determine compatibility as a partner.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 524 (view)
 
Random Musings - Talk About Everthing
Posted: 10/28/2018 11:12:37 AM
Wrightbus71, I don’t think you having no car is a dealbreaker at all. It’s down to how determined you are to travel to see and meet with your date(s). Some guys with expensive cars might look appealing but if they’re too lazy to drive to their girls, I’m out.

On a different note, it’s been a freezing weekend. Anyone has had snow where they are?
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Western men seeking love abroad
Posted: 10/28/2018 11:06:13 AM
As a Brit of Chinese descent, I can see why some guys prefer foreign women, i still get proprosal from men who say they can offer me a visa to stay in the uk. Lol. I’m British, don’t need any visa.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being in a relationship with a person of a different ethnic background. I’ve always dated white men. Maybe I’m not so attractive to guys of similar ethnicity.

However, finding your SO through this way might not be your best bet. People from developing countries are sometimes struggling financially and prepared to do anything to get out of the country. They might decide to marry westerners for the wrong reasons.

You need a partner for life, not someone who wants material things from you. I’ve met a guy who foreign wife left him for another guy and a large debt for him. I know it was just one couple, but it shows that one always has to be careful when it comes to choosing their partner, whether be it online dating, IRL, etc.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Time wasters
Posted: 10/28/2018 10:56:33 AM
This topic has been done to death. These folks could be married/ in a relationship etc. But are on here to seek ego boost, ways to cheat on their other half.

It doesn’t matter why they do what they do. The most important thing is what you want. If you want pen pals, keep chatting to them. If you’re looking to date, stop talking and move on to other guys who want the same thing. There’re plenty of them on here genuinely looking to date.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Pets breakfast
Posted: 10/21/2018 1:22:12 PM
When I still lived with my parents, we had 2 dogs and a cat. The dogs were spoiled to bits. They got whatever food/snacks they wanted. The boy dog loved lamb chops, the girl wasn’t very fussy but she loved ice cream.

For the cat, he got his own bedroom with a cosy bed, a sitting area and a bowl of water. He had his sand tray away from where he slept. The food was served in the kitchen for him. I think he was treated better than my parents did me sometimes!

However, I agreed with the treatments they got, i often spoiled them myself but usually with toys.

They all are now RIP. I still miss them loads. My parents had an army of people to clean their house and look after the pets. So it was easy for them to have 2 drags and a cat. I don’t own any pets myself now, don’t have time or money to take care of them. Sad.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Talking about finding love online
Posted: 10/20/2018 9:02:01 AM
You haven’t messed up at all, OP. I don’t see anything wrong with the reply you gave him.

This guy is likely talking to other girls as well. This is a dating site, people talk and stop talking all the time and if you haven’t met, you and they are strangers. So the disappearance doesn’t require explanation or indicate how good you are as a person.

Be yourself, you’re a pretty lady. Focus on those who is consistent in communication and interested in you. Those who disappear aren’t compatible. Don’t dwell on them. There’re guys who will treat you right out there.

Good luck.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Guys searching for you on FaceBook, etc., without asking & before you have met
Posted: 10/18/2018 12:07:26 PM
I don’t use my real name on here and all my pics aren’t on any site I’m associated to either. So it’s not very easy to find me on the net without my Christian name and surname. So if a guy finds me on the net, yes, that’s creepy.

However, I, as a woman, want to know if my potential date is who he claims to be. But I’ll look him up after the first meet and feel some connection that will lead to subsequent dates. I don’t want nasty surprises.

I wouldn’t mind if my date looks me up after we have met because I have nothing to hide and I don’t have any personal info on any sites even the ones that I require to be on. I’ll give a bit further details of me if I feel that more dats are possible.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Why do women have no sense of humour yet ask for GSOH ?
Posted: 10/15/2018 4:24:53 PM
😂 I like your joke ,OP. But if my potential date sends me this in the first message, I’ll be put off, tbh. It could come across as how you would treat your SO. I know it’s a joke, still....

Try some others that give a romantic or flirty vibe. I used to have loads from my previous admirers, can’t remember any of them now. 😝
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Natural remedies
Posted: 10/12/2018 12:13:12 PM
Hi everyone, the weather has been all over the place again. I’m quite prone to get cold and flu. Used to have to be off a week or so every so often.

I’ve notice that since I started taking Manuka honey everyday, I don’t seem to feel under the weather as much. Can’t find any scientific evidence, could be a placebo effect!

Being an ethnic Chinese, I do have some herbal remedies I use and they seem to work. I know, a bit ironic, working in the NHS and all that.

Do you have any natural remedies you find effective? Feel free to share.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 14 (view)
 
A love song ~ for all the men & fine women, on the forums ...
Posted: 10/12/2018 12:04:32 PM
Maybe I’m off the track here but I like this one, it’s called somebody by Rhodes. The irony is that I got the link from a scammer here:) At least, one good thing that came out of it.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sdhDj971H3g&t=0s&index=2&list=LLigxG3vYgBrMe80BBj4nAww
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Message ban?
Posted: 10/12/2018 11:58:28 AM
Sometimes it’s a glitch, that’s all. Especially if you use the app. POF is occasionally down.

If you’re hitting it off, suggest for other means of contacts i.e. emails, WhatsApp etc.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Sexism? Private Images And A Solution
Posted: 10/4/2018 4:58:54 PM
I agree that this approach is sexist. Should men be unable to send private images to other users, neither should women. That’s only fair. This will prevent scammers sending images with links for male users to sign up on porn sites, etc.

Why don’t you contact admin? And give them your feeeback. But don’t expect much, it’s a free site after all.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 9 (view)
 
This is making me consider quitting the site.
Posted: 10/4/2018 4:55:03 PM
A long while ago, I got a message from a good looking guy on here and we started to talk on Hangout. The hints were all over the place, telling me he was a scammer but somehow I didn’t take notice. And it felt very natural.

We continued our communication for just over 2 weeks, then he asked me for money! That was when I was brought back to my senses and I stopped all contacts with him.

Maybe this guy was new, he didn’t groom me long enough 😆. Joking, there’s no way in hell I’ll give money to a stranger or someone I’ve just met.

I was disappointed but it didn’t deter me from keeping my hopes up and looking for dates. On the Internet, anyone can be anyone. I could be be a man, for all you know. Lol.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained, OP. You need to weed out crap before you find real treasure. This also applies to IRL dating. Don’t see it as time wasting. It’s part of the process of finding the right one.

Good luck.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Is contacting current partner's ex taboo to find out why the marriage ended?
Posted: 10/1/2018 1:54:10 PM
OP, I admire your optimism. While I agree that it’s not always true that past behaviour predicts future one, I don’t like the fact that he lied to you more than once in this relationship. Yes, he acknowledged the problem but he hasn’t had it fixed yet. His willingness to admit it, isn’t enough, IMO. Action speaks louder than words.

And I also agreed with other posters about not contacting his ex wife, leave her be. Bringing in the ex is likely to bring more dramas unnecessarily.

It’s good to try to make things work in a relationship, but ask yourself if it’s too hard work to fix? Or is it worth fixing at all?

Good luck.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 36 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 9/30/2018 3:41:32 PM
“I don’t care what someone did in the past. I only care about who and what they are today”

+1
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 14 (view)
 
is it normal if he wants to meet you once a week?
Posted: 9/30/2018 7:54:09 AM
I think this question has no specific answer. It’s very individual and depends on how you want your relationship.

I don’t live with my bf yet , we’re about 30 mins by car from one another. I work full time, long hours. I can’t see him more than once a week, otherwise, I’ll be too exhausted to concentrate on work. I do have friends to go out with and other things in life that I enjoy. I also need my me time every so often. And my bf is ok with this arrangement as well.

So if you want to see him more often than the current arrangement, speak to him. Bring up the topic casually and ask him what he thinks about your proposal. If you come on too strong too early, he might be scared away.

Good luck.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 16 (view)
 
What’s the deal with hey there messages?
Posted: 9/28/2018 10:37:17 AM
I think. a number of hey there messages are created by clicking the send a flirt button on the sender’s profile. It’s a sign that the person is interested in you.

However, I agree that it can be from people who don’t know what to say in their first messages or don’t make an effort to strike up a convo.

I always ignore these hey there messages.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 8 (view)
 
ghosted again, but never expected it 'this time'
Posted: 9/27/2018 12:44:31 PM
Sorry to hear this, OP. But nothing is real until you meet. Even after meeting, ghosting can still happen.

Once I went out with a police officer I met on here on 4 different dates. Things seemed to go well (IMO). After the 4th date, he just ghosted. Stopped texting and only replied if I texted first. I continued to text him a few more times and gave up. I’m not gonna put my life on hold for any guy to ask me out.

I was hoping a guy like that to have some integrity and honesty. But no, just disappeared. I always tell guys if I don’t want to continue seeing/dating them anymore. At least, it’ll give them closure and they’ll move on to find other women.

Later I found out that he came back on pof and continued to shave 5 years off his age (he told me that his profile I saw was a mistake) and he’s been back on here so many times with different profiles with 5 years younger than his real age. So I’m not surprised that he was dishonest with me.

Now, I’ve been in a relationship with a nice guy. And him? Still looking to date. Karma is a b*tch. Lol.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Questions regarding space
Posted: 9/24/2018 11:54:54 PM
I’ll pass.

I like geeky/nerdy guys. But for a first message, hoping to lead to a romantic relationship, it’s a no. I’m afraid.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 417 (view)
 
Random Music - Happy Mondays
Posted: 9/24/2018 11:49:48 PM
Lol, i meant to say it was a Friday night. This bloody autocorrect thing on my phone!
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 416 (view)
 
Random Music - Happy Mondays
Posted: 9/24/2018 4:12:47 PM
Hi, wrightbus71 and theydidnotfixit.

I didn’t go, unfortunately. It was a school night and we both had to start work early the next day.

Did you have a good time?
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How men mathematically sleep with more people than women
Posted: 9/24/2018 1:50:53 PM
I don’t know about other women. But the number of guys I slept with is far less than the number of the ones I went out or dated. This is because I won’t be able to convince myself to have sex with strangers. One night stands or sex on a first date will be out of questions.

I know a lot of people sleep with everyone they date but that’s not who I am.

When I date a guy, I’ll know whether I want to continue to see him within 4dates or less and sex never happens before that because I must get to know the guy better before jumping into bed with him.

However, I don’t see what significance it makes to have more or fewer sexual partners in the past. I don’t care so long as my guy only have me once we’re in a relationship.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Big killers of prospects once you're having regular involvement with som
Posted: 9/23/2018 5:41:57 PM
The biggest killer in the scenario you posted is messaging for longer than 2 weeks.

I have very little patience, if a guy who messsages me doesn’t aske me out within 3 days of chatting online, I’m out. It doesn’t mean that I’ll meet him after 3 days of chatting on here but he must propose a date and time to meet in person which usually happens in a week after that, depending on how busy I am. During that time, I’m happy to continue chatting and getting to know a bit more about him.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Leaving POF for eharmony
Posted: 9/23/2018 5:36:46 PM
OP, please come back and give us feedback on how well it goes for you on eHarmony.

Just curious, lol.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Guilty of overthinking or something else..?
Posted: 9/23/2018 5:35:10 PM
Give her the benefits of the doubt, OP, when she says she’ll be busy. However, it’s not quite clear how less often the contact has become between you and your date.

But you need to lock her down if you want a second date with her. Instead of vaguely agreeing on a Sunday which she might have a hangover from going out the night before, agree on another day that could be during the week. It doesn’t have to be a long date, even a few hours, just to get to know her more. You both seemed to get on well/have chemistry on the first date already.

The early stage of dating is uncertain, one has to tread carefully. Too much or too less could be a killer. Nonetheless, if you want to see her, you must agree a specific date and time with her. If she’s interested but genuinely busy, she’ll counter offer another date that suits her better. Then that’s your cue to grab the opportunity.

Good luck.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Lack of effort/common sense in profiles
Posted: 9/23/2018 12:38:01 PM
I agree with message 2.

Don’t take things on dating sites too seriously, OP. There’re all sorts of people behind their computer screen. Some are here to cheat on their partners, hook up only or FWBs etc.

IME, how a person writes their profile tells a lot about their personalities. If they don’t put effort into writing a decent (not necessarily a long with all life details) profile, they tend to be flakes IRL.

JMO.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
I thought she was interested, is she?
Posted: 9/23/2018 9:11:05 AM
OP, don’t think too much into it. You seem to have asked her out a few times and she said she was “busy” without counter offering another date and time. I do see this as a polite decline to your approach.

As a girl, if I’m busy but interested in the guy who asks me out, I’ll offer him a couple of possible dates to meet. And if he’s really interested, he’ll grab it quick.

What you can do right now is to let her know that you’re really keen to go out on a date with her, please be clear about this that you’re interested in her romantically and don’t leave room for interpretation. Then if she says she’s busy again this time, leave your contact details with her and ask her to let you know when she can go out with you. If you don’t hear any further, that’s your answer right there. If she’s interested, she knows how to reach you.

Leave the ball in her court.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 11 (view)
 
wants to date or relationship?
Posted: 9/23/2018 9:02:31 AM
I may be different from other posters on here.

I think POF should have only 2 options: not looking for commitment and looking for a relationship. This reduces confusion. Maybe because I’m dyslexic but I don’t see much different between looking for a relationship and actively seeking a relationship. Or wanting to date but nothing serious means a number of different things to different people, it could mean hooking up, testing the waters, just came out of a long term relationship etc. Because everyone on a dating site is presumably looking to date (except scammers, lol) but their ultimate goal out of dating may or may not be to have a long term relationship. Some just want to have fun with no strings attached. It’s just the matter of finding the one looking for the same thing as you do.

And it should be universally understood that no one will be able to tell if their date has potential to become a long term partner on a first date/meet or even within the first 6 months of dating . If anyone shows signs of wanting to be serious soon after dating me, I’ll run for the hills.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Should I respond to messages from guys I will not meet?
Posted: 9/21/2018 4:14:04 PM
I see why you feel the dilemmas here, OP. If you want someone to chat only, be upfront about it. If the guy is looking for something more, he’ll be able to make a decision himself to either stay in touch with you or move on to other girls.

There’re plenty of users on here who want to chat only and never to meet.

Sometimes I have a convo with some guys whom I see as my potential dates, but they bore me and I just stop talking to them. Meeting with these guys is then out of questions.

Anyway, if you want to chat, you can message me. I don’t have restrictions on my profile, it’s for the forums.😀 I do get messages from users in America chatting on and off about all sorts of things. It’s kind of fun.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Annoying questions. How do you answer them?
Posted: 9/21/2018 4:05:07 PM
I don’t have any specific questions that’ll trigger me to piss off. But I have very little patience when it comes to chatting online. If any guys doesn’t ask me out in a couple of days of chatting, I’ll get bored and disappear.

Anyone asking annoying questions, either gets deleted or blocked. As I said earlier, I have very little patience. Lol.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 15 (view)
 
I am thinking of creating another profile with my age twenty years younger.
Posted: 9/19/2018 4:05:30 PM
I don’t see why you can’t create a new profile with a 20 year younger age. I have had a lot of messages from younger guys whose profile shows a much older age because they’re looking for women in their 40s. But they mention their real age in the profile and specifically say that they want to date older women.

So I think, as long as, you mention your real age in your new profile with reasons that you seem to connect better with much younger females, you’ll be alright.

Good luck.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Are most women honest about their age?
Posted: 9/18/2018 10:45:14 AM
The age on my profile is accurate. When I was looking to date, I didn’t have any expectations about my dates’ age. It’s just a number and not in anyway related to maturity or compatibility.

I’ve seen some men telling fibs about their age as well. Once I dated a police officer I met on here, he shaved 5 years off his real age. Later he tried to tell me about his real age, I was put off by this behaviour and other things. Yes, I stopped seeing him after that.

Any forms of dishonesty are my number one dealbreaker.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 31 (view)
 
what is your guilty pleasure
Posted: 9/14/2018 9:37:11 AM
@justanotherchap

My dad used to collect those model cars and he loved them. Not sure if he got them from your factory though. He had other makes as well, some convertibles.

I know we’ve got cheap imports but they’re never of the same quality of what we had here.

Ahh, the good old days.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 28 (view)
 
what is your guilty pleasure
Posted: 9/13/2018 4:45:51 PM
@Wrightbus71

You must have got quite a collection then. Have you got a dedicated room to keep them? I’ve got a collection of some things myself, would love to have a room to show them properly.... daydreaming 😄😄😄
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
I am lovely
Posted: 9/13/2018 4:41:25 PM
Everyday, several time a day. Lol.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What to do?
Posted: 9/7/2018 2:09:59 PM
What to do?

Get out and disappear from his life for good. For your own sake, OP.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Forum Roll Call
Posted: 9/7/2018 2:08:41 PM
Greetings from South Yorkshire.

I think I’m an unidentified type on the forums. I come and go as I please.😁

I don’t get into arguments/heavy debates and I’ll disappear if the topic(s) get derailed.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Do you reply/talk to guys out of courtesy?
Posted: 9/5/2018 10:32:31 AM
Lol, OP. No one can read people via the internet. We need to meet in person to be able to do that.

Anyone on a dating site is presumably looking for a date (except scammers, lol). So the girls you’ve been talking to should expect a date proposal, why else would they be on here?

A simple “I find you interesting/attractive and would like to meet you in person, what do you reckon” will do the job. As I said in my previous post, if she’s genuinely looking to date, she’ll say yes and then it’s your cue to set up a date, time and venue and lock her down to meet.

This will help weed out time wasters. IMO.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Do you reply/talk to guys out of courtesy?
Posted: 9/4/2018 1:25:54 PM
Just ask her out, OP. If she’s interested, she’ll say yes. Then you both can find out if you have a connection/click or what very you want to call it. If not, move on . Don’t waste your time esp. if you want to find a gf or partner.

IME, guys who are really interested in me, will ask me out within a few days of chatting and we’ll settle for a date and time to meet in person in 2 weeks. Anyone who keeps chatting longer than a week without asking me out, bores me and I’ll stop talking to them.

Unless you want a text buddy, ask her out.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Falling apart
Posted: 9/2/2018 10:06:14 AM
Sorry to hear that your previous relationship didn’t work out. Are you sure you’re ready to start dating? If you still “can’t function right”, why don’t you get a break and give plenty of time to heal your heartbreak?

Dating when you’re not ready could affect the other person badly and you’ll feel even worse for hurting them unintentionally.

JMO.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 9 (view)
 
What is holding you back
Posted: 9/2/2018 10:02:41 AM
“It’s just puzzling how many single people are out there “ I do think you mean people who’re not in a relationship, not all of them are single. They could be divorced, widowed, etc.

To answer your post, I’m now here for the forums only. I do get private messages from other users who want to talk to me off the forums. I no longer look to date, having found my bf on here.

I agree with you that some users aren’t put effort into dating whilst on a dating site. Is this why they’re still single?
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 14 (view)
 
what is your guilty pleasure
Posted: 8/30/2018 11:23:06 AM
I love chocolate eclairs from Marks and Sparks. Can never have enough. Sometimes, I don’t have normal food for tea, I just eat 2 eclairs and a cup of tea. Yummy😛
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 3 (view)
 
real life things that drive you mad
Posted: 8/29/2018 10:30:52 AM
Thanks for starting this thread, I need somewhere to vent the frustration.

Just came back from work and I had to drive to another site of work outside of Doncaster. Came across people who drive 30 or 40 in a 60 stretch in and outbound. Absolutely drove me crazy. I just don’t understand why people can’t drive up to or near the speed limit. There was no traffic whatsoever, they were just being slow for no reasons.

I think this is very dangerous because it makes people do things they wouldn’t normally do. The car in front of me tried to overtake unsuccessfully on quite a few occasions and once it alomost collided with the oncoming traffic. I screamed in my car, having witnessed it. The slow car at the very front was oblivious to the agony of the drivers behind it.

Yes, people driving far too slow(for no reasons) drive me mad. Very mad.
 PollyR107
Joined: 4/8/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 8/27/2018 11:27:22 AM
I think you probably know what to do but just want some reassurance from us forumites.

I don’t think any relationship will survive if there’s no trust. Lying is a dealbreaker for me. I always walk away from liars. I don’t mind if my bf is in contact with his female companions,but he has to be open about it and there must be no sexual or romantic element.i don’t like the fact that he lied to you. If you feel the need to check his online activities, it’s not a healthy relationship. Moreover, the sexual compatibility isn’t quite what you expect.

You did the right thing by sitting quietly on your own to collect some thoughts. People won’t change things they do unless they want to. If you think this relationship is worth it, talk to your partner and see how he responds. You’re the only one to have the say.

Best of luck.
 
Show ALL Forums