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 Author Thread: The just be yourself advice
 kinski02
Joined: 3/12/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
The just be yourself advice
Posted: 4/5/2009 2:04:09 PM
yeah good question. I have been wondering about the same thing in the past.
When I was using "dating how to advice" I attracted the wrong girls sometimes.
Cause I was acting.
I guess the challenge is to be really 100% yourself. really there in the moment. having fun.
to not want approval. thats where the "cocky funny" stuff is going in the right direction.
so as a mindset it can be useful.. (it's got the word fun in it)

A lot of guys seem to think that being yourself is being needy and nervous though..
gotta be equal status at least.
 kinski02
Joined: 3/12/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
You don't choose who you fall in love with. True?
Posted: 4/5/2009 1:43:25 PM
it's as true as true can be! it's attraction....and then that deeper connection. It happens.
although... now you bring it up...all depends on how conscious you are as a person I guess.
but...the term "fall in love' in its common use doesn't exactly create an image of choice right?
 kinski02
Joined: 3/12/2009
Msg: 116 (view)
 
Honesty - does it really matter?
Posted: 4/5/2009 1:36:46 PM
I think it's huge. you can hear it in people's voices whether they are honest or not. so I can always tell when I meet someone who isn't honest in some areas of their life.
 
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