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 Author Thread: Too small for a condom !?! Then What???
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Too small for a condom !?! Then What???
Posted: 11/10/2009 2:59:04 PM
I think I'd thank him for his time and keep it moving. Ugh. Who wants to deal with that?
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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30 something's with braces? Yay or Nay?
Posted: 10/22/2009 11:21:08 AM
I'm 36 and have been wearing braces for a year and a half. I get a lot of guys who tell me they think braces are sexy and have never been told that they are a turn off so I say go for it. Don't bank on them only being on for a year though. One thing I've learned from my own experience and others is that you will usually have to wear them longer than the orthodontists initially says.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
wondering what girls really see
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:07:29 PM
When a guy tells me he is a "good guy" I automatically think he's lying. Don't know why, just do.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Buffet for first date?
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:04:30 PM
Buffet on first date? Maybe if you're in college & broke. Otherwise no.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
She Doesn't Want a Relationship, BUT....
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:02:20 PM
You've totally confused me. Are you pushing her for a relationship? If so, why then are you dating other people? If not, then why are you sharing with her that you're dating other people? That kind of stuff doesn't need to be discussed if there's no commitment.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 79 (view)
 
Gold-digger is just a term men invented to
Posted: 10/4/2009 1:27:31 PM

Harvey and men like him, are a very substantial contributer to the problems that men and women have with one another... because guys buy into his bullshit and think they should be less feeling, less nurturing, and more "manly"; and women buy into his bullshit and think they're wasting their time trying to gain respect for anything other than how good of a fuk they can be

Newsflash!!! This world has no shortage of unfeeling, unnuturing men. And they were out there long before Steve Harvey or "men like him" opened their mouths or put pen to paper. Don't pretend like Steve Harvey invented the concept or was glorifying it or justifying it as acceptable behavior. What he said is that men don't communicate their feelings and emotions in the same way as women. That's a freaking fact, not something he pulled out of his a$$.

And it's obvious you didn't read the book because your stance on what you think he had to say to women could not be more wrong. If nothing, he conveyed what very high regard & respect he has for women. He did not at any point in his book advise women that they didn't need to have anything going for them other than being good in bed. He urged women to keep their eyes open to the games that men play and remember that women and men don't process things the same so the way a man shows love isn't necessarily going to look the way a woman shows her love. He was trying to get women to understand things from A male perspective, not every male perspective.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Male Grooming - eyebrows
Posted: 10/4/2009 12:55:17 PM
Pluck them to thin them and clean them up a bit but don't wax or thread. It will look too obvious and people will wonder about your sexuality.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Gold-digger is just a term men invented to
Posted: 10/4/2009 12:48:48 PM

Apparently you're an adamant supporter of the book, so I'm inclined to think you must share Steve Harvey's views and support them... How very sad for you.

I've read it twice and found it funny and enlightening both times. Do I take everything he says as the gospel? No. Unlike some people, I can read a body of work and not have the unrealistic expectation that I will agree with everything the author says. But because I do not agree with something doesn't mean the author is wrong or should automatically be discredited. It's called having perspective. The book was written after he noticed a trend in the letters that he received from women seeking advice about men & relationships and after he discussed the recurring questions with his group of male friends. At no point in this book does he say that he has been appointed by God to be the official representative of every single man in the world. Maybe some of what he says got you bent out of shape because he hit a sore spot and you felt convicted about something in your own life. Just sayin.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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The type of people you attract here?
Posted: 10/4/2009 12:22:56 PM
Mostly I've been contacted by very average looking men who are not very interesting. I'm still holding out for the one that is strikingly handsome and has something riveting to say. You only get a one chance to make a first impression and most of the emails I get just aren't enough to make me want to take a second look.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Gold-digger is just a term men invented to
Posted: 10/4/2009 11:51:31 AM

I don't think his book is worth reading any more of than I already did.

Again. Someone running off at the mouth about a book they did not read. Excerpts of anything can be taken out of context. Read the entire book before you pass judgment.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Gold-digger is just a term men invented to
Posted: 10/4/2009 7:12:17 AM

This guy is a total self serving moron, and no one should waste their money on the crap he sandwiches between two covers

Have you even read the book? He has nothing to GAIN by saying the thing he says in the book. Steve Harvey is already very wealthy at all of the other stuff he does (tv, radio, standup, etc). He didn't need to write a book to make money. Try reading the book before you assume you know what it's about & why he wrote it.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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So You Get A Note...
Posted: 10/2/2009 12:25:36 PM
There was a post similar to this on another forum but the scenario was a drive-thru window. I think it's creepy and lazy. Passing notes with names and phone numbers is very junior high type behavior. It reminds me of the fellas on here that send an initial email and include their phone number and a message to call them. Who in the world wants to cold call a perfect stranger? Men like that are wimps and want to put all of the effort of making the initial approach on the woman. Tell your friend he should have made the effort to stay on the bus a few days and start up a conversation with this women before he started passing notes. If it turns out she is involved or not interested, she's probably going to be very uncomfortable the next time their paths cross.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 161 (view)
 
Girls - Would you date a guy with bad teeth?
Posted: 10/1/2009 2:42:58 PM
NO! It's 2009 not 1809. There's no reason for anyone to have a jacked up grill.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Am I the only one this really puts off?
Posted: 10/1/2009 2:38:42 PM
That is exactly what I was thinking. You'd probably never get rid of him. LOL!
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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three months now
Posted: 10/1/2009 2:29:45 PM
You know they say you don't miss the water until the well runs dry. Maybe you should have appreciated her a little more. Sounds like you did some things to percepitate the breakup so maybe she checked out long ago because she knew it was going nowhere with you. In any case, no need to cry over spilled milk. Move on. She has.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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How to fight back fear of rejection and shyness ?
Posted: 10/1/2009 2:13:03 PM
Blah, blah, blah. Didn't read your post. Whatever it is that you want to do, just do it. You only live once and there are worse things in life than rejection. Nobody ever died from it and it's not likely that you will either.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Women, do you think penises are ulgy or attractive?
Posted: 10/1/2009 2:10:37 PM
All are ugly but some are worse than others. Not man-bashing though, women have some pretty jacked up looking nether regions as well. I've never seen one of either that I thought was "attractive".
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Asking someone out in a drivethrew ???
Posted: 10/1/2009 10:36:48 AM
I'm with you Revilors. Nothing ventured, nothing gain. You may make a total fool of yourself but so what? There are worse things in life than rejection and the fact that you put yourself out there no knowing what's gonna happen gives any man bonus points in my book.

Most women like a man who has the cajones to approach her when there's no guarantee she's interested. Passing a note through the window is very passive and puts the REAL approach on the woman. I don't know about this woman in particular but I would never call a man that slide his phone number to me on a piece of paper and I had never spoken a word to him.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Asking someone out in a drivethrew ???
Posted: 10/1/2009 9:31:10 AM

NOT advocating stalking her outside. Waiting outside for her to come or go? THAT is creepy!!!

Yes, because passed a phone number through a drive thru window by a man you can only see from the neck up, if that, is not creepy AT ALL.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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Asking someone out in a drivethrew ???
Posted: 10/1/2009 9:06:38 AM
She doesn't LIVE at the drive-thru. She comes and goes at some point. Go inside and ask when she'll be available. Geez. Who wants to be bothered by a man than can't make the effort to get out of the vehicle and introduce himself properly?
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Asking someone out in a drivethrew ???
Posted: 10/1/2009 8:40:14 AM
Carry your lazy a$$ inside and introduce yourself would be my suggestion.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Why Some Woman Remain Single...
Posted: 10/1/2009 8:22:27 AM
OMG! That was hilarious. There's nothing wrong with him, huh? Yeah, I think we can dispute that. Imagine how big of a jerk he is in person. Geez.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
How long before you know you're attracted to someone?
Posted: 10/1/2009 8:07:37 AM
It depends on the person. Some people I am immediately attracted to and sometimes it takes a while for the person to "grow on me". I was recently seeing a guy who I knew for years and hated but later became attracted to. It's just one of those odd things that can't be explained.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Casinos, Vegas, etc.
Posted: 10/1/2009 5:53:51 AM
A date to Vegas would be awesome! I'm not much into gambling myself but there are plenty of romantic things to do there.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Paying the check deal
Posted: 9/29/2009 1:31:08 PM
Whoever does the asking should do the paying.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
honestly confused about a profile
Posted: 9/24/2009 3:06:31 PM

............i wonder what would be said about a mans profile that was a ridged and demanding and contained an oxymoron?

I would read it and if I wasn't what he was looking, I would move on. At least you know what a person like that wants. It's worse when you get people who don't tell you anything and you have to waste your time trying to read their mind and figure them out only to NOT be what they are looking for.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
stumped ???
Posted: 9/24/2009 3:01:47 PM
LOL! I don't know what to make of it but it definitely is funny. Did you say anything to her about her appearance??
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 133 (view)
 
GEMINI'S..........what was your experience?
Posted: 9/24/2009 2:57:48 PM
I'm a Gemini and have only dated one other Gemini. We got along well and would joke about our two personalities. Things didn't work out but I would definitely date a Gemini in the future. Now Virgos? That's a different story. Boy do they LIE!!
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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honestly confused about a profile
Posted: 9/24/2009 2:30:27 PM
I didn't find it confusing. She seems like she knows exactly what she wants. Is she limiting herself by being so specific, yeah probably, but she came up with this list for a reason. She's probably trying to cut down on spending a lot of time weeding through people who don't possess the attributes she is looking for.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 83 (view)
 
What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/24/2009 11:37:33 AM
Someone sounds bitter. And for the record, I don't drink cheap beer or smoke.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Is taking a break from dating a good idea when you are frustrated/fatigued?
Posted: 9/24/2009 9:03:50 AM

it is a good idea for me to take a break from dating and trying to meet people? I would be interested to hear from people who have done this and to see what perspective it has given them to just be alone for a while


Oh yeah, I think most people who aren't willing to settle just for the sake of being in a relationship go through periods where they feel cynical and are "over it" when it comes to dating. When you feel like that, take a step back and regroup. Do things that make you feel good and pamper yourself. Do things with your other single friends and try not to focus on the fact that you don't have anyone in your life at this moment. When you're feeling less burnt out by the dating process and think it'd be nice to try again, then recast your line then get back out there.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 80 (view)
 
What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 9/24/2009 8:53:06 AM
I'd say "Me too" and would get up and leave.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 33 (view)
 
why woman get mad!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 9/22/2009 2:28:35 PM

Let's get real here. You feel good looking sexy because it draws mens attention. It validates your sex appeal.

No. It makes me feel good because I like the way my body looks. I don't go out with my boobs hanging out. You can feel sexy without someone else validating you.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 79 (view)
 
What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/22/2009 11:51:06 AM

you the type of woman that gives us a bad name

Yes, women who have standards usually aren't liked by those who don't. Not wanting to date a man who lives at home is no different than not wanting to date a man who smokes, or does drugs or has kids. It's called personal preference and doesn't make me judgmental. You can approach dating as an equal opporunity situation if you choose to and act like everyone deserves a chance at wasting your time. But I appreciate my free time and don't wish to go on dates with people who lives a lifestyle I'm turned off by.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Should I just be up front with this?
Posted: 9/22/2009 11:06:44 AM

You don't sound dateable.
No money no job no place to live no car.
Get your own life in order first.

You took the words right out of my mouth.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 77 (view)
 
What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/22/2009 8:10:15 AM
I'd love to respond to the verbal fit you just had but I didn't understand a thing you said. Use some of the money you're saving by living with your parents to take a grammar & writing course.

I did manage to get your last sentences. No one is judging you. If you don't see a problem with what you're doing, then why do you care what other people (particularly complete strangers) think?
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 76 (view)
 
What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/22/2009 6:01:03 AM

So that it makes the guy look better to not be helping out his parent(s) when it is needed but only if it is convenient?

You are absolutely missing the point. I think it's great if people take care of their ailing parents/grandparents. But you can take care of your parents and still be an independent adult with your own place. The two things are not exclusive unless of course your plan is to wait for your parent(s) to kick it so you can have the family roost to yourself.

I guarantee if you took a poll of all the people over the age of 22 years old who are living at home, I bet you most of them aren't living at home because they have an ailing parent. They are living at home because they (1) want to save their OWN money so they can buy themselves nice things or (2) have screwed their credit up because they didn't know how to be responsible the first time they left home and now can't afford to take care of themselves.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 71 (view)
 
What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:42:51 PM
Not sure why you assume that a woman who owns her own home must be doing so for the purpose of having one night stands. I have my own place because I'm independent. My parents raised me & taught me the necessary life skills to be able to take care of myself. I'm divorced as well and have two kids. We moved into a small apartment in a good neighborhood and my boys shared a room but we were happy. Having a big house with horses and private country schools is not all that children need & doesn't teach them anything about life. Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 70 (view)
 
What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:15:12 PM
However you choose to justify mooching off of your parents is perfectly fine with me. Live and let live. I just said I would not date anyone who lived with his parents. It's not an attack on how you want to live your life. It's just a personal choice I have made.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
why woman get mad!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:11:30 PM

nothing wrong with taking a look but don't sit there and gawk

100% agree!

Not sure why men jump to the conclusion that women wear sexy clothes for them though. Personally I like to wear something sexy when I go out because it makes ME feel good. If a man can take a glance while keeping his eyes in his head and his mouth shut, it's all good. If he stares or comments it shows he doesn't know how to be discreet. If you can't be discreet about seeing cleavage, how are you going to keep your mouth shut if you happen to get lucky?
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 69 (view)
 
What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/21/2009 11:46:20 AM

so essentially what you're saying is that you'd rather date someone that will be murdered with debt for who knows how long in lieu of living alone or renting?

There are certain types of debt that are absolutely appropriate and expected (i.e. rent/mortgage and car payment). If you are being "murdered" by either or both of these then maybe you are living beyond your means & need to re-evaluate your spending.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Good O, Bad Sex?
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:33:22 AM
Ugh yes. I've had bad sex (jackrabbit/jackhammer) and an orgasm at the same time. When I'm with someone for the first time I always try to get mine quickly (first five minutes) just in case it's REALLY bad. Nothing worse than bad sex and no orgasm. But just to be clear no orgasm doesn't always mean the sex was bad. Sometimes the foreplay, closeness and intimacy of the act itself is satisfying enough.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 67 (view)
 
What Ive discovered about the living at home issue
Posted: 9/21/2009 9:05:10 AM
Absolutely would NOT date a man that lived with his parent(s). I don't care the reason, it's just not something I'm interested in doing. Grown man needs to have his name on a lease/mortgage somewhere. If he stays with his parents overnight on occasion because they are sick, no problem. But every single night and he doesn't have four walls and a roof of his own? No way. Come to think of it, I wouldn't date a man with roomate(s) either.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Is it ok to date the friend of an ex
Posted: 9/18/2009 11:59:52 AM
Oh no! That's one of those unwritten/unspoken rules between friends. But if you decide to do it & get caught, be prepared to lose a friend.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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should I tell His wife he's cheating?
Posted: 9/18/2009 11:47:00 AM
You said you divorced your wife already so why didn't you tell the guy's wife when you were still married and first found out about the affair? You're hurt that your ex wife is still seeing this man after losing you and you want to hurt her back. But once you divorced her, what she does and who she does it with is no longer your business. If you were that concerned about the man's wife, you should have spoken up before. Let it go.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Do you prefer a challenge or someone who is up front and straight forward?
Posted: 9/16/2009 12:10:41 PM
Upfront and straightforward. I don't have time for the game of trying to figure someone's intentions.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 63 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/14/2009 11:53:20 AM

Maybe because he's got manners?

I'm sorry, did I say be rude about it? No, I said simply state to the person that there must have been an misunderstanding, explain that they were not the person you were expecting and leave. If I met a guy for drinks and he was 100 lbs heavier than his photo, I would have no problem doing so.

It seems to me if people would be more upfront about what upsets them at the time of the offense, it would be easier for all parties involved. The poor woman the OP had the meal with is probably on POF posting on a thread asking us why he never called her back after they had a nice first meeting. Five bucks says he never was straight with her about his feelings. If you are not interested, be honest about it. Don't waste your time, their time, your money, their money, etc.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
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being asked out by text message
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:20:01 PM

I'm from the "old school", I never ask a man for a date, not by phone, text, carrier pigeon, in person, newspaper ad, email. If a man is interested in me, he will let me know.


Amen!

I'd prefer to have few phone calls before a date but if the email/IM is going well, I would not be offended if a guy asked me out via text message. However, if that gets to be the only way he communicates, I would get irritated and cut him off.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Do you really read the page before opening an email?
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:15:56 PM
I read the email first and look at the picture (I don't accept emails from profiles without a picture). If the emai l and photo interest me, then I'll take a look at the profile. If not, I'll just delete the email.
 reallycleverone
Joined: 4/4/2009
Msg: 48 (view)
 
is meeting over a cup of coffee the answer?
Posted: 9/12/2009 6:08:19 PM

she is accusing OP of being cheap because he feels ripped off by paying for the meals of women who mis represented themselves. I dont care if he is cheap or not. No one should pay for a meal for a woman who misrepresented herself.


Why go forward with the date if the person misrepresented themselves and you're not attracted?
 
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