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 Author Thread: Do you reply/talk to guys out of courtesy?
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Do you reply/talk to guys out of courtesy?
Posted: 9/3/2018 7:21:12 AM
Why are you chatting for a few weeks? Why not ask her on a date if your interested?
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 16 (view)
 
What is holding you back
Posted: 9/3/2018 7:19:14 AM
@Onelionheart
You forgot to mention women that have a JOB that pays well enough for them to support themselves. Not all women rely on alimony or government assistance to get by.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Falling apart
Posted: 9/1/2018 6:17:03 AM
Sorry for your loss. It sounds like your relationship was one sided. You loved her but she didnt love you (as much) You dont need a dating profile at this point. Delete it and give yourself more time to get over the relationship that is clearly over. Fix up your house, get a pet. She never moved into this house so its your house only. Get rid whatever personal items she left when you two broke up, if anything.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What is holding you back
Posted: 9/1/2018 6:02:13 AM
Not everyone with an online profile is looking for a relationship.
Some are just looking for sex.
Some are looking for fun and dating and meeting new people and have no problem being single.
Some are just not interested in YOU.
All of these are fine.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Advice please?
Posted: 8/30/2018 2:19:04 PM
@ Sienna
Youre a little young for a heart attack. Often times, a panic attack has similar symptoms. Did you go to a hospital? See a doctor?
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Advice please?
Posted: 8/29/2018 10:47:01 AM
I agree a 5 month relationship is not serious.
The pill takes trial and error. When I first started using them years ago, I switched several times until I found one that worked for me.
Its doubtful you 'almost had a heart attack' or a 'missed miscarriage' whatever that is. You have lots of issues and health problems. Having a baby would be a disaster. You live with your family. You mom knows you are not responsible or mature enough and she does not want another baby in her house. Rightfully so. I dont think her comments are out of line.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Line is getting blurry between friends and dating
Posted: 8/28/2018 5:44:07 PM
It seems the one making the lines blurry is you. Youve been friends with her for 2 years. Just friends. Even your gut says she isnt interested in you in a romantic way. So much so that she will make sure people you used to work with know the 2 of your are not dating. It doesnt sound like youre interested in her either since youve known her for a long time and havent made a move on her. Dont ruin a good friendship IMO.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Is dating like a job interview.
Posted: 8/25/2018 8:07:10 AM
You could word things in as way to sound less negative. Instead of 'I hate football' you could say ' I dont watch football' That was what she picked up on. Dont go on about things you hate.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Will moderators act on racist abuse in personal messages?
Posted: 8/25/2018 7:56:47 AM
Theres not much you can do when someone insults you. Block them.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 9 (view)
 
im curious to know what u think
Posted: 8/24/2018 10:02:20 AM
Its funny that you have a line about family values but posted a thread about jumping into bed on the first date with 2 different women.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 2 (view)
 
do you guys think she doesnt wanna see me?
Posted: 8/23/2018 11:34:18 AM
Can you please stop posting threads about girls looking at you?
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Confuse
Posted: 8/23/2018 11:27:34 AM
After 2 years, you should know how you feel. I dont think youre in love or even falling in love. It sounds like youre just friends.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Please review my profile
Posted: 8/20/2018 9:58:00 AM
Delete that loonnnnnngggg list of places you want to travel. Save that for conversation. Besides that, divorced women with children arent going to have the time or money to go travelling all over with you. Thats what it looks like to me: youre looking for a travel companion.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Take a look at my profile review it and hopefully looks good
Posted: 8/18/2018 5:06:59 AM
^^Why do you keep posting the same line on these reviews? The profile was there a few months ago and has since been deleted. You could use a review yourself...just sayin..
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Triggers in profile photos
Posted: 8/16/2018 9:42:37 AM
Picture with guns or other weapons or dead animals is an instant turn off for me.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 3 (view)
 
So I guess he's still with his significant other?
Posted: 8/15/2018 7:15:21 PM
You didnt really end it if you left the door open for him to come back when he is available. It sounds like a half-hearted effort IMO.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
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Profile review question
Posted: 8/13/2018 2:43:06 PM
The first main photo looks nothing like the last photo. Almost like 2 different dudes.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Does being single stop you from doing what you want?
Posted: 8/12/2018 11:12:10 AM
I had more time to do things I wanted to do when I was single. My boyfriend likes alot of 'together time' so often times I dont have any time to myself.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
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Not allowed to upload new pictuers
Posted: 8/10/2018 9:59:25 AM
You have 5 pictures that are exactly the same. Delete 1 or 2 and upload different ones.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Erectile Dysfuntion: Can skipping days trying to have sex help?
Posted: 8/10/2018 9:56:30 AM
I fail to see your attraction to this guy. He old, obese, insults you by making inappropriate comments about other women, brags about how many women he's been with, tries to control who you see and has ED..like what are you thinking? Are you that lonely for a boyfriend that youll just put up with anything? SMH. I think 40's is prime for women sexually (maybe its just me) but dont waste it on this bum.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 10 (view)
 
My ex boyfriend is spreading nasty rumours about me .. how can I handle this??
Posted: 8/9/2018 9:47:29 AM
Why would you care what he says to kids you went to high school with?
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 13 (view)
 
I can't seem to leave him
Posted: 8/4/2018 5:49:25 AM
He is clearly using you but youre letting him. Block his number and delete him from your social media. Do not contact him. Find someone who is available.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 25 (view)
 
The notion of nice guys is cheap, paperback fiction.
Posted: 8/2/2018 9:58:19 AM
Being nice shouldnt be seen as something extra. People should be nice to each other. Women want a 'nice' guy that they are interested in and are attracted to, share the same values, hobbies, etc. Being nice alone isnt really enough.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 7 (view)
 
I can't seem to leave him
Posted: 8/1/2018 9:47:57 AM
Youve never actually been in a relationship with him. Youre just meeting him occasionally for sex and then he goes home to his wife and kids. He isnt really separated from his wife if they still share a residence.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Looking for tips and advice on my profile
Posted: 7/31/2018 7:00:34 PM
Single parent is not a profession. Do you work? Any woman looking at your profile will think you are unemployed.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
I need help with my profile
Posted: 7/31/2018 6:55:15 PM

Jesus
God
Church
Bible
Klove

I agree you are laying it on thick. Nothing wrong with wanting someone like minded but it seems like overkill.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Bartender story- advice needed!
Posted: 7/30/2018 9:40:10 AM
Its doubtful she went 'out of her way' to talk to you. Youre sitting at the bar in front of her. They work for tips so its to their benefit to be friendly and seem interested. She didnt offer her number. Why didnt you ask if you were so interested?
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 72 (view)
 
My senior citizen aged boyfriend has slept with 150 women; Why do I feel put off?
Posted: 7/26/2018 2:30:35 PM
He needs to date someone his own age, not someone with a young child where the father is in the picture. You dont have a choice but to see your ex because of the child. He cant tell you who to see.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
How did a user determine my Zodiac sign
Posted: 7/24/2018 2:44:15 PM
Op you may want to update that photo. Clearly its not of a supposed 59 yr old guy.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Dating a much older man and getting looks from people; Should I increase my age when they ask?
Posted: 7/24/2018 9:53:04 AM
^He is really being a jerk off to you. Why are you even with him? He is obviously not a catch.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 2 (view)
 
How did a user determine my Zodiac sign
Posted: 7/24/2018 9:49:30 AM
Your profile says youre Aquarius. I can see it listed on your profile.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Dating a much older man and getting looks from people; Should I increase my age when they ask?
Posted: 7/23/2018 7:54:40 PM
Based on what you wrote, no one has actually asked you how old you are. Its none of their business anyway so why do you feel the need to make something up? Why does your date feel like he needs to explain with 'shes older than she looks'? Screw em! Live your life, be happy.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Do women want to be judged on their looks?
Posted: 7/22/2018 8:43:53 AM
Even an average looking woman can look beautiful with a little bit of makeup. I dont know any girls that take hours to apply makeup. I wear makeup most days and it takes 10-15 minutes. Blow drying my hair takes longer to do.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 607 (view)
 
the women may get short, the men may be short, but the posts are long
Posted: 7/21/2018 7:07:01 PM

anyone can live gainfully on $8 per hour working 30 hours a week

Maybe if youre a college student living at home, not paying rent or a car payment or other bills. In NJ, you wont be able to rent even a cheap apartment if you make so little money. Rent in a shitty area like Trenton will cost $700-$800 minimum.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 10 (view)
 
new topic
Posted: 7/21/2018 6:43:08 PM
There is nothing wrong with wanting more for your life than what you had as a child. I grew up very much like this. We were poor, lived in a not great area. One income household, food stamps, etc. No shame in that. My mother worked hard for us. She made her own choices, not all of them good but she did the best she could. For me, I like having nice things, a nice car, clothes etc. that I didnt have growing up. I make a good living and can support myself and have the things I want.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 27 (view)
 
new 'mature age' way of saying no without actually saying no
Posted: 7/21/2018 6:28:44 PM
^^+1
Agree with this 100%. Ive never wished someone luck in their search and wanted to continue corresponding. Its def a rejection.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 1586 (view)
 
Paying for a date
Posted: 7/19/2018 2:51:58 PM
@tech30

A man paying for a date shows that instinct to provide and when a woman offers to pay for things here and there it shows she appreciates their time together

Yeessssss. After 64 pages of comments someone gets it.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Modern dating
Posted: 7/19/2018 2:36:13 PM
Sounds like more MGTOW nonsense from the chronically dateless.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Do women want to be judged on their looks?
Posted: 7/18/2018 2:08:56 PM
Plenty of women like wearing makeup and dressing in pretty clothes even if they arent trying to attract a man. Everything a woman does isnt for that purpose. Get over yourself OP.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Help! Stuck between 2 guys... Needs advice!
Posted: 7/15/2018 6:48:52 PM
^^Agree with this. It doesnt sound like youre that jazzed about either of them.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 12 (view)
 
writing first message
Posted: 7/10/2018 9:46:45 AM
Yeah whats wrong with all of those entitled divas that expect a man to be able to compose a whole sentence. What nerve.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Princess syndrome
Posted: 7/10/2018 9:43:57 AM
There is nothing wrong with treating yourself to nice things that make you feel special.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Racial/Ethnicity preference for profile
Posted: 7/9/2018 9:56:54 AM
The option for 'Black' is there. It may not be politically correct but you can select that.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
writing first message
Posted: 7/8/2018 8:32:33 AM
Typing 'hello' as a first message is generic and lazy. Does saying hello to a stranger really start a conversation? Not really. Exchange hellos and keep walking. Online is no different really. Youre not going to start a conersation with everyone that says hello. There needs to be something more to it.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Friends With Exes: What are your thoughts?
Posted: 7/5/2018 9:52:21 AM
If there are no children involved, I dont see any reason to be friends with or have contact with an ex. Over is over.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Always editing my searches
Posted: 7/4/2018 5:26:56 AM
The site automatically adjusts when there arent many results. Others have also mentioned this.
Your profile needs some help. Its very angry sounding and negative. Messages wont send if they contain profanity usually.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 135 (view)
 
Who Is Too Young or Too Old for You to Date?
Posted: 7/4/2018 5:14:00 AM
Ive never date anyone more than 1 or 2 yrs younger than me. My boyfriend is 5 yrs older than me. I liked much older guys when I was younger, not so much now.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Legitimate sounding excuses for sending inappropriate messages
Posted: 7/3/2018 3:54:08 PM
How about just dont send inappropriate messages? Youre an adult. You should know whats appropriate and whats not. No need to make excuses for anything.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Profile review
Posted: 7/3/2018 3:45:45 PM
Is the wording correct regarding fertility treatments? Do you mean you used a sperm bank to conceive a baby? Its not quite the same thing. Either way, you should save such personal info for when you meet someone in person and the subject of the childs father comes up.
 cindi_rella
Joined: 7/25/2016
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Family problems, boyfriend wants me to live with him?
Posted: 7/3/2018 10:02:05 AM
It sounds like your a going from one bad situation to another bad situation. Never mind that dating for only 3 months, you dont really know the person well enough to live with them. Your profile says you are a student. Why not live on campus?
 
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