|Dealing with cigarette smoke|
Posted: 3/27/2013 6:20:40 PM
|If you stated in your profile that smoking is a deal breaker, then it should have been. I have found that if I want to be taken seriously then I have to mean what I say. |
There are a lot of very serious reasons why I finally walked away from a 4-month relationship, but right at the top was the smoking one cigarette after another, even when I bought him the e-cigs and pulled strings to get him free hypnotherapy. Smoking wasn't the only habit that was making him as sick as he appeared to be at 47 years old , and which caused his heart attack, and the smoking caused worse things than just that horrible cigarette smell, of which I will spare the disgusting details.
What really pushed me over the edge was when one of my girlfriends' boyfriend of 15 years passed away at the age of 50 recently. I told my ex all about it while the guy was dying and he remained in total denial. I told him that I was not going invest my life in a relationship with him, only to lose him in a few short years. He still didn't take me seriously, all the while coughing and puking, and completely losing his voice.
Three weeks ago, I stopped replying to his messages and blocked him from whatever I could. Now he is telling everyone that I dumped him for no reason. Denial is denial and when denial is the engine of a person's existence, it tends to generalize to all areas of their life. And that, my friend, is an even bigger deal-breaker for me.