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 Author Thread: can we be saved? please, please give me advice...
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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can we be saved? please, please give me advice...
Posted: 4/24/2012 12:58:03 PM
What's to be saved? It doesn't seem to me that there was very much mutual respect between the two of you. The fact that he had his heart set on a virgin bride (obviously not you) and your unrelenting demand for him to change his behavior were ill-fated from the start. You weren't in love....you just wanted to be, and it never fit. Unless you want to be in a state of continual upheaval, let it go. Examine what went on there and consider it a lesson learned. Go on from there....
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Is a blunt, outspoken woman a turn off?
Posted: 12/13/2011 7:52:18 PM
Are we talking in or out of bed here?
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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ALONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS? how are you dealing with it?
Posted: 11/17/2011 1:15:44 PM
^^^^^I agree with this wisdom.
Although I really enjoy Thanksgiving, I haven't really been a fan of Christmas in quite some time...too much hoopla and forced "holiday cheer." When you are divorced and your children have grown, it puts things in a different perspective. Since the only certainty in life is change, I tend to go with the flow. So instead of staying home and wondering why I should bother to put up a Christmas tree alone, or spend money on needless gifts, I forgo the trappings and spend that money on a flight to Austin to hang out with my son. We go to museums and galleries, watch movies, see live music, take long walks, swim and go on road trips to oddball places. I've done this for the last three years and it has become our special holiday tradition! I now look forward to my "alternative celebration!"
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Posted: 7/15/2010 9:01:04 AM
water shimmering
to shimmer is no effort
you watch forever
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Middle age Wanderlust
Posted: 5/6/2010 11:48:36 AM

What would you be if you couldn’t point to your surroundings to validate your existence? I think I’ll go and find out.


This is a really good point and something indeed to ponder. I don't know if it necessarily would require us to set off on a contemplative journey of self, but it does prod us to realize what we truly are made of. I think I'll go and find out too....
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Middle age Wanderlust
Posted: 5/4/2010 8:57:39 AM
I picked up a hitchhiker/troubador last year near Cooperstown. He had only a small backpack and a guitar and was probably in his 50's, bute was pretty rough around the edges from lack of dentistry and medical care. We chatted about his wanderings, life on the road, his love of music and reliance on the kindness of strangers. When I dropped him off at his destination, a grocery store, where he would sing and play for donations, he offered me a song for my kindness to him. I agreed and was dumfounded when his song was beautiful...pure heart from the soul. I was left wondering about where our security lies and all the rest.
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/29/2010 12:15:55 PM
Sanity reward
a blue ribbon on your chest
this is just a game....
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/22/2010 1:40:02 PM
When their hearts explode
colored sparks fly everywhere
light as a feather.
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/22/2010 8:54:53 AM
Divine energy~
It flows on through the cosmos
right into your soul
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/21/2010 11:42:14 AM
That everyone rides
Not at the same time however
Each take their turn alone....
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/19/2010 12:19:59 PM
Daydreams consummate
listless days spent to and fro
the hammock of life
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/16/2010 7:47:53 AM
Lifting the spirit
the way we were meant to be
unencumbered souls
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/9/2010 9:58:07 AM
That we all enjoy...
It pleases us to no end
A smile dawns on your face
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/9/2010 7:24:12 AM
A comforting piece
like a sweet kiss in the dark
after a bad dream
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/2/2010 11:26:03 AM
Just go with the flow
water, rocks, sand all drift by
one with this fine earth
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 4/2/2010 9:47:15 AM
Open to being~
living now in this moment
give birth to yourself
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Is life passing you by?
Posted: 3/31/2010 9:32:58 AM
I could certainly do that and have been told it might possibly be a best-seller. Of course it would have to include all of my adventurous and most interesting friends. I do believe it's all in enjoying the journey....
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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First Date Rookie
Posted: 3/31/2010 7:59:41 AM

3.5 hours flew by and not 1 second of awkwardness


I might be missing something, but this sounds like an incredible start....so why pull back? You have a second date....enjoy and don't overanalyze. Whoever says that thinking about her a lot is way too much is steering you wrong.

You had a great time! Go with the spontaneity and just let it continue naturally. It sounds to me like you connected in a special way, so just let it happen. Keep us posted and best wishes to you for an even better second date!
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Posted: 3/26/2010 8:18:11 AM
Until it is gone
it lingers in my senses
I breathe in his scent
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/25/2010 11:07:11 AM
On this afternoon
a sweet tryst with my lover
my heart is there now
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/25/2010 8:30:45 AM
And embrace the void
all we cannot fathom now
through a glass darkly
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Posted: 3/24/2010 12:48:27 PM
With needle and thread
you create a tapestry
stitch by stich you sew
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Posted: 3/24/2010 9:59:02 AM
The magic eight ball
Cue poised and ready to strike
two in the pocket
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/23/2010 9:43:34 AM
Open and blossom?
Release the spirit to love
kindred hearts unite
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/22/2010 1:23:53 PM
To joy in your face
that lights up my entire world
for this I thank you
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/19/2010 12:29:32 PM
Happy needs no words
We say what needs to be said
A glance of the eyes
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Posted: 3/19/2010 9:09:35 AM
When I think of her
my soul erupts into song
universal joy
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/18/2010 1:53:15 PM
Remember to breathe~
breathe in and breathe out
just like a mantra
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Posted: 3/18/2010 1:29:37 PM
How about plain strong
like a really tight embrace
you don't want to end
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/18/2010 8:58:29 AM
Always a first time
after, will be a second
if you like the first
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/17/2010 1:18:08 PM
get down between notes
wailing on that saxophone
makes you want to move
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/16/2010 2:00:06 PM
Soft skin on pillows
a head snuggled on a chest
treasures of the night
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/16/2010 12:14:18 PM
A warm bed just right
to play or sleep in at night
snug warm blankies
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Quickies
Posted: 3/16/2010 9:09:11 AM
quickies can be as satisfying...but only after both of you know how hungry you are for each other and know how to devour each other.


^^^^^^what he's said....(all of it) but especially the last sentence!
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Posted: 3/16/2010 8:43:59 AM
Flourish in the light
lift your face to the shining
it will make you grow
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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most romantic thing someone has done for you
Posted: 3/16/2010 8:26:17 AM
This definitely brings a smile to my face. It was my birthday and my former husband planned this surprise. I arrived home and found a lovely card which told me to get dressed up and proceed to wait for my ride. The ride was a limo that took me a long way into the country to a very special restaurant/inn where he was waiting. We had a wonderful romantic dinner and then spent the night at the inn. After all these years it remains a special memory....
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/12/2010 9:14:18 AM
Melted heart of stone
beautiful beating heartbeats
fear has fled this heart
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/12/2010 6:52:07 AM
Make all lies be true
a pure heart in search of truth
it will come to you
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/11/2010 11:24:19 AM
Timeless, nature's dance
each step forms a tapestry
a piece of the whole
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/11/2010 9:13:24 AM
With the exercise
please take time to enjoy life
so breathe in, breathe out....
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/8/2010 2:01:00 PM
Approach with caution
the heart is a fragile thing
go easy take care
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/5/2010 11:47:24 AM
Cardinal singing
flash of sweet scarlet wafts by
precursor to Spring
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/5/2010 7:48:48 AM
Unable to speak
let eyes utter the response
the better by far
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/5/2010 7:19:44 AM
Unclog my quaint mind
open to the whole cosmos
playing with the stars
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Does ANYONE out there actually fantasize about the person they're with?
Posted: 3/4/2010 8:15:06 AM
Ooooooou yes! I thought that's what daydreams were for?
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/3/2010 1:10:24 PM
Sitting cold in mud
I think I just wet my pants
It seems pretty warm
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/3/2010 11:41:49 AM
The warm calm morning
Belies truth of the new day
Storm clouds gathering
 jazzlovervic
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Posted: 3/3/2010 8:32:45 AM
yesterday, a dream
beyond the dream today wakes
stretching and sleepy
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Outdoor activities plus similar thrill levels as we age. How important?
Posted: 1/8/2010 11:08:54 AM
I struggle with this as well. Although I do mainly flatwater kayaking, I love to hike any terrain, seek out distant waterfalls and am generally quite active. My best buddy is a 30 year old guy and we assist each other as well as challenge each other. So might I suggest a young, strong woman companion...works for me!
 jazzlovervic
Joined: 5/1/2009
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Sensuality in your 50's.....
Posted: 1/6/2010 7:22:45 AM
I think not. Some women are just peaking at 50 and I agree with you that he may be missing out totally. His loss....Skill + Wisdom = Exceptional Experience
 
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