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 Author Thread: Why would a girl message me again a month later
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Why would a girl message me again a month later
Posted: 4/25/2017 6:33:59 AM
Seriously? she messaged that you are handsome but you don't have a picture up? Doesn't that seem odd to you?

For some reason she appears to be greeting a large number of men and forgot she had already messaged you. Ok, that isn't so strange, but not talking to you voice after showing interest (in a man with no pictures!) makes me suspicious of several things...
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Woman invites me to her place to meet (date?) for the first time. Good or Bad idea?
Posted: 4/25/2017 6:24:11 AM
I agree with the others. This woman says she doesn't drive and can't meet you anywhere, has a 2 year old and invites you--a total stranger--to her home??

Wanna tell me how she gets groceries and even diapers?

Do NOT go to her home. RUN. If it is just killing you not to meet her, tell her you insist on meeting her at the cafe and have a nice cup of coffee. If she insists that you come to her apartment---move on. You're flattered that she approached you, dude, but something isn't right. It could be she will hit you up for money or could be something much worse.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 16 (view)
 
how do i disable auto renew of subscription?
Posted: 12/11/2016 5:19:28 PM
The only way to do it is contact your auto-pay agent, in my case paypal. PoF does not have a toggle or any other way to stop payments--it even says in my PoF account screen to stop auto renewal through Paypal.

Unfortunately, the Paypal screen that I am look at lists the only reason to stop as "fraud".

You would think that there would be another way to stop auto renewal.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Do you ever look at your viewed me folder?
Posted: 11/2/2016 11:56:58 PM
This is how terminally shy people "do" online dating: he shows in my viewed folder, then I show in his...pause....then he shows in mine, I show back in his....longer pause....(repeat chorus)
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Approach anxiety.
Posted: 11/2/2016 11:46:44 PM

Who else is a gamer here? Currently I play Diablo 3 HC Seasonal on US server. Though I play more than just blizzard games, I just don't have much time for anything long and drawn out like WoW anymore. And definitely not as drawn out as EQ was back in its day. Those were real raids.


I know it's sacrilege, but I could never get into WoW.
As to the other Blizzard bunch--Diablo II was the better one, best played on battle net, though the original Diablo was pretty cool. Loved the hidden rooms.

But seriously, you can't call yourself a gamer until you've played Witcher 3 The Wild Hunt--the newest is the best in the series, but they all rock.

Pity about the Op, but, PoF goes on.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 1119 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 11/2/2016 11:19:53 PM

and some type of shoes/heels (not tradional high heels) I had never seen before...2 -3" heel maybe....I mean they were badddd!!! She must have been at least in her late 50's early 60s....


Good for her! I used to wear high heeled boots all the time--one pair had small silver spur-like ornamentations. I would probably break my neck now trying to walk in such as I am way out of practice. Ahhhh the good ol' days.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Advice for those in a wheelchair?
Posted: 10/25/2016 9:25:06 PM
I like the pic of you best in the green shirt--your expression says "personality" and a bit of a little chit too. Make that your main pic.

Get rid of this line,
"However if this just isn't for you, no hard feelings. That all said, if you have any questions please feel free to ask."
(The paragraph above it is upbeat and really well written--don't lose that by ending with these unsure kind of statements.)

You are very good looking but as others have said here, your age group and being male are difficult to overcome here. Young men have a hard time here, young women get swamped.

I also agree with the poster who said that some might be hesitant to contact you because they just don't know how to interact with a man in a wheelchair. Your task is to use the tiny space that PoF gives you in profiles to write a picture of what you really are: a witty, dreamy, intelligent, man---not a man in a wheelchair. When ladies read the picture you create, when they see you like the same music as they, the same movies, books, into the same college majors, when they recognize your humor, then they will see just a good looking guy and start to talk to you. Also, if you see a profile that interests you, message her based on something that you read there that hit a chord. Remember again though that young women here get swamped, so don't take it personally if you don't get answers, but, i think with a few changes on your profile you will. When you get an answer, be yourself but do not be insecure about your situation. You are a happy, well adjusted, employed, fit and good looking young man in college with a great attitude, don't forget that.

I took a similar chance years ago and although eventually we went our separate ways, his being paraplegic had nothing at all to do with it--the buggar found someone else!
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 1204 (view)
 
Importance of issues
Posted: 10/25/2016 8:52:14 PM

you want to know what a shark looks like before you drag it into the boat.


Gawd, I never recognized sharks--you don't have to drag those things anywhere, they hop right in on their own before you even know it.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 1070 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 10/25/2016 8:33:12 PM

"There are 112 million unmarried people over age 18 in the U.S., representing nearly

47% of the adult population. U.S. Census Bureau. (as of 2012)"

Sounds like a lot of single people to me.


Not 50+ singles, in particular single men (as indicated in title of the thread) and by single I mean not living with someone. For every 10 years up from fifty you lose increasing numbers of single men, and, depending on the area of the country where you happen to live, 65+ single male living alone is a small percentage.

If dating is a numbers game, you have to have the numbers, there just aren't that many men left to find someone. Somewhere I read that for every single senior man there were like 3 single women....tough odds.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Visibility
Posted: 10/15/2016 11:10:43 PM
Lost that new car smell have you?

Easy. Put up new pics--make them very different from what you had before. You can even message someone you messaged before but got nowhere/no answer. I suspect that most will have deleted your missive already and when they see a different pic, won't remember that they have already spoken to you--you get a 2nd shot.

If you have premade response or fishing messages, change them too--make them very different than they were.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Interested in thoughts and advice!
Posted: 10/15/2016 11:04:15 PM
Your profile doesn't say much about you--mostly cliches, but, on this site and for the women in your age range it's mostly pics that count anyway.

Your pics are good, so as was said before, run with it.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Why are some woman afraid of commitment?
Posted: 10/15/2016 10:50:48 PM

wow, so many deleted profiles at the beginning of this post....



Probably because the thread originated at the beginning of 2006.


Which means they are probably all still here but different names. You can check out any time you like, but you will never leave...
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Where did all my male friends go?
Posted: 10/15/2016 10:38:55 PM


OP...Have some of these guys gotten married or into serious relationships?



That and we are so mobile these days that people you knew decades ago may have moved on literally.

Op didn't say how long ago that her male friends dropped off, but I bet it is either they have married or moved.

Also Whattsa and halfnot need to get a room--you can cut the sexual tension between those two with a plastic butter knife.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 1055 (view)
 
What do 50+ men want?
Posted: 10/15/2016 10:33:18 PM

The reason some men and some women can't seem to get a good person to relationship with is that even good persons become apathetic for old age, and they figure it's just not worth the effort, because a relationship provides absolutely no more fun or excitement than going without.


I don't think it's apathy, I think it's that there just aren't that many of us left that are single. Things change in your outlook on life too, it's not so rush rush to "find someone" like it is in your twenties (at least for women, maybe not for men) and as you get older i think the journey is more fun than the destination because you've already done that trip at least once and now are more relaxed and looking at the scenery.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Feedback Please!
Posted: 10/15/2016 9:58:24 PM
@Op
He was married for 20 years and hasn't been single long enough. It appears you are far more committed to him than he is to you--all of his texts to you are his insecurity, doesn't appear to be genuine affection.

Cut him loose. You're a widow after many years of marriage so you know what you need in a relationship and your insecurity with him is just your common sense trying to speak.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Would you ever date someone with dreadlocks?
Posted: 10/15/2016 9:44:25 PM

I don't know whether to be appalled or turned on.


Why decide? Be both :P
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 438 (view)
 
The board was much better with moderators
Posted: 10/15/2016 9:40:07 PM

I just had one of my profile pix go "poof" for some mysterious reason....

A pretty good indication that there are mods ?


Or you got nailed by someone doing the picture review thing, I did, and all this time I thought that the "no shirt, no pic rule" was for guys profiles only.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 913 (view)
 
Monty Python warrior pronounced JOHN cleese
Posted: 10/12/2016 7:52:44 PM

someone came here to get laid? that happens to people?

^^^^^ urban legend
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 882 (view)
 
The Birthday Blahs...
Posted: 10/8/2016 4:32:49 PM
^^^^^^^^^^ wait, isn't it a dance?
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 766 (view)
 
The Birthday Bluez
Posted: 10/1/2016 9:16:59 PM

And LA guy -what difference does it make what her challenges might be, I find it dismaying you are getting off on baiting her. What, your young hot Asian GF dump you?
Wanna pick on someone then pick on me. You'll be carrying your balls in your handbag if you choose to.. but come on.. even playing field and all hmm


LOL!!

My bet is on Ouija, three rounds KO.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 1162 (view)
 
Impotance of height?
Posted: 10/1/2016 8:50:29 PM

"If you ain't 6'-0", eff right off."

- Women in online dating


Most fun I evah had was 5'6"--he was from Georgia and had the softest, sweetest southern drawl. (but he dumped me for a taller red head :()

I've seen some hotties that were even shorter than I am. If a guy is fine, and intelligent and most of all, actually witty/funny, don't care about his height in the least.

My big problem is age. I keep trying to find someone my age but, just like 20 years ago, the guys who are a couple decades older hit on me.

Sometimes I am not online for a few days--they could have died by then :P
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Is it normal to feel extreme hate towards your ex?
Posted: 10/1/2016 8:39:38 PM
Actually, the moment you just wanted her to drop dead is the first day you were over her. When you stop blaming yourself and crying and all the garbage that goes with it, thinking this means you are good to go on with your life.

Happened to me a couple of times--once for my ex and a couple of times for boyfriends. It got so predictable that once I felt like that I knew I could go out and date with the piece of mind that I m not on the rebound and can give my full attention to a new person.

Rejoice and celebrate! You are now baggage free.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 195 (view)
 
Clones of Bone
Posted: 10/1/2016 8:30:06 PM
If you really want to burst their bubble, just message back : ROFLMAO!!!

That generally stops it. He will either be hurt, (poor baby) or peased off so move on.

Funny thing though. I got a couple of these picks the last time I was on here. Changed my account name and put up different pictures, but got some more d*ck pics. Changed the account once more--got two more pics.

Weird that the messages were all from different men, but all of the pictures were of the same d*ck.

I guess it is like some women getting pictures of models off of the internet and sending them. Somewhere a porn star should be getting royalties.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 16 (view)
 
What am I doing wrong
Posted: 10/1/2016 8:12:27 PM

Height is the most common attribute about which men lie (as is "weight" for women).

No way is the OP 5'8". In his pic, he can barely see over the hood of the Super Duty Ford P/U, even if it is a 4WD.

I suppose he could be standing in a hole. I am barely 5'6" and would stand about the same as him, next to that model.


2016 F150 4x4 is 77.3 inches tall. Yup, he is 5'8".

Seriously though, minus 2 inches isn't something ladies generally get uppity about--unless he is horizontal.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Want to be the very best that no one ever was?
Posted: 9/27/2016 11:08:16 PM
He must have changed things around a bit per suggestions--the profile looks pretty good actually.
Mention exploring abandoned buildings only once--I agree with the previous suggestion.

Other than that, pretty good except you could add a couple more pics, oh eater-of-galaxies.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Profile Review and Help
Posted: 9/27/2016 10:52:26 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^
"Soul Train" was an American TV "band stand" kind of show which is why he associated it with your name.

For the life of me, I can't find anything seriously wrong with your profile! I think it rocks. Witty, great pics, sincere and direct--no clue as to why you are even on this site and not already taken.

Only thing that you might change is the primary profile pics should be the one in the suit: "...all the girls go crazy for a sharp dressed man". (The selfie with the glasses is at an odd angle and not flattering--retake it maybe?)

*Maybe* drop "the 4 day hang over" on your profile line--the rest I have no clue what it is but it sounds fun.

Love the super power comment "smell the future".
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Profile review please?
Posted: 9/27/2016 10:45:37 PM
Actually, its a pretty good profile.

Only thing I see is the height listed in the top stats area and the one you mention in the body of your profile is different--just match them up.

Pictures are good, i.m.o., particularly the one straight on with your beard and the one with the BBQ.

Heck, I'd date you if I were Brit.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 12 (view)
 
What am I doing wrong
Posted: 9/27/2016 10:33:37 PM
Red,

Looks like you did delete the part in your profile about spending days in the woods--it's not there now.

Someone here mentioned you were short at 5'8" though this is the national height average for men, don't let the comment bug you.

Your initial post up above here had no spelling errors. I very strongly urge you to do a bit of spell check on your profile (just cut and past it into a MS word program and then correct the errors), get some pics taken of you out doing something, somewhere where there are people. You said you have friends that get responses here--ask one of them to take some pics, face and full length.

I agree that the fireman pics are too many--being a fireman is a plus but its not all that you are so one or two is good (NOT with sunglasses).

Instead of saying you work 6 days a week, say you work very hard--it's all in how you say something even if it is pretty much the same. 6 days a week says you don't have time for a relationship, "work very hard" is not so absolute.

After you have done these things, take your profile to the Profile Review forum and see what else they suggest. The folks that post there are not so.....um......blunt.

Good luck!
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 92 (view)
 
Liars & Gameplayers
Posted: 9/27/2016 10:03:43 PM

Speak for yourself, I find bitterness SUPER FRIKKIN HOT !!!!!


*Makes note to self: Work on the other "B" word.*
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Memory Functioning
Posted: 9/24/2016 10:42:39 PM
Vitamin B 12 deficiency--look it up on reputable medical sites.

If your brain doesn't have the nutrients it needs, you are going to have some weird "experiences".
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Lube job first dates
Posted: 9/24/2016 10:33:10 PM
I just met someone from here and went out my first date in ten years (applause inserted here). However, it probably went better for him, judging from his reactions up to a certain point, than for me.

The absolute critical time for a first date is not when you are chatting each other up, it is when you are walking her back to her car. Do not ever whip out a tube of Chapstick and start lubing you lips in anticipation.

I just looked at him and said, "You greased your lips to kiss me??"

I fled in my car.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Profile Help ASAP
Posted: 9/21/2016 10:40:49 PM
Oi!
Your....um, bio is worse than it was. What is with the run on sentences and weird syntax? I get that you are trying for clever and funny but it just doesn't work in a printed medium like a singles bio.

Charm 'em with some quirky humor when you talk on the phone or meet.

Try this: write a letter to yourself as if you were writing to a lady you KNOW is perfect, but has no idea you exist. (Do profile picture rating until you see a few interesting pictures then look at the profiles.)

If you find one that really hits you and you know you want to meet her, what did she post in her profile that got to you? BEFORE you contact her, change your profile bio to that letter you just wrote. Write things about yourself that you know your perfect match would see as common ground or attractive because of what she is.

Then contact her--if it's a go, great, go meet her. Even if it is not--LEAVE YOUR CHANGED BIO UP. That new bio has now been written to attract the type of woman that you want. See if it works, it should--has for me.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 187 (view)
 
download the new girlfriend 7.0, get another one free
Posted: 9/21/2016 10:02:12 PM

I saw a TV show where a guy was in love with his car, he laid under it and kissed it, it was beyond weird.


You know how a lot of guys are with their cars.

I can see *certain males* with a robotic girlfriend: Tinkering in the bedroom and then teardown and rebuild in
the garage (or is the other way around?)

I bet there will be after market customizing catalogs.

Picture O'Reilly and Auto Zone expanding their customer market and inventory with "adults only" aisles for special lube and suspensions---"do you want 'er to ride like a Cadillac or do you prefer the firmer Fiat, feel-every-bump-and-grind?"

Can you picture men sitting in a bar and bragging about torque and acceleration? or some guy reminiscing about the
time he hit the beach dunes sideways and flipped over? Needed the jaws of life to get him out of that one, but
insurance paid up and he gave up on blondes---bought a more sensible brunette model. Haven't had that problem
since.

You won't hear a thing about peeling rubber--won't need the things with Robo-Hottie.

What about the sixteen year old kid so deliriously happy that he finally got his learner's permit?

...and no woman will ever complain again, "He spends more time in the garage with that machine than he does with me".
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 9 (view)
 
A few questions about my profile
Posted: 9/17/2016 7:32:21 PM
No clue why you would choose that profile name.
Also, you must change your profile age if it isn't correct--there are few bigger turn-offs than lying about age.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Profile Help ASAP
Posted: 9/17/2016 7:27:49 PM
Not enough substance in your profile--you could be anyone or everyone. Write something that defines what you are and a little about who you are looking for.

Pictures are ok. However your comments that you have a great work history and that your job has allowed you to be comfortable talking to people is odd. That is something you might write as a buzzline for a job resume.

Definitely answer the car question. Even if it is "no" that is worse than leaving it blank.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Tried to post this on Ask A Guy...Dating older men
Posted: 9/17/2016 7:13:56 PM

There are women out there who admit they have nothing to bring to the table except a desire to nurture a male.

I don't hear them voicing their concerns over sexism...


Not many that were born in this country, Clooney.

However it does happen and apparently goes both ways. You should see my inbox and these are not 20 somethings who haven't decided what they want to do with their lives yet. These are fully mature men of my age who, it appears, have sailed through life with a free ride from what I can figure.

It's not nurturing a woman that they want to do when they say they can lick their eyebrows, or are "great" kissers, lovers or send pics of their d***s. (Not kidding--even in my age group! I almost congratulated the guy).
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 153 (view)
 
OK, I'm starting to feel afraid
Posted: 9/17/2016 6:28:28 PM

Again, why keep writing on a thread if the subject bores you or you want to just whine about it. Post somewhere else or go for a bike ride.
It's a beautiful day and crisp pleasant evening.


Most are posting here probably for the reason I stated--that the side topics are interesting, not the original. Hence numerous changes in the topic title line.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 150 (view)
 
OK, I'm starting to feel afraid
Posted: 9/17/2016 2:13:04 PM

As for women being excluded from competing in that desidn contest..would never stand under legal scrutiny today, but personally I see nothing wrong with only male or only female competitions. Sometimes gus just need to get away from women and compete with other guys.


It's your opinion of course, but why would any guy need to "get away from women and compete with other guys"? Most men do not habitually compete with women. Interesting statement.

...and you are absolutely correct, such shenanigans as that contest would not be tolerated today--and the reason? Because encouraging one sex over the other simply limits opportunities for learning for those left out, (as in man-brain, woman-brain so called differences in abilities in mathematics---girls have not been encouraged in mathematics and many sciences for a very long time).

BTW, "hundreds of studies" is an exaggeration. I just looked through my university's data base and went back as far as the 1980s when someone finally figured that assuming there were some strange differences in children's brains was just not correct. Dozens of much more recent studies have found that there are no differences in the brains of boys vs girls during the developmental stage that the disposition towards mathematics would be formed/learned. There are now several organizations dedicated to equal involvement of girls and boys in math and related sciences for gradeschool children.


That master law abolshed in 1979 in louisiana.


Yup, I know all about community property--I live in California now and did at that time. I did not require my husband's signature to buy property here as I did not need his income to qualify for the purchases. The only explanation may be that five years later, after the law changed, lenders in Louisiana were still operating on their own rules and the agent was quoting the lenders he used. Banks have a tendency to do whatever they wish. Either way, I passed on buying the investment house there.

..and, honestly, I agree with whomever posted that this was a boring thread as it was originally posted. Some of the side threads have been interesting but seriously, what adult woman would be "afraid" of men creating robotic women? (Better that type of man stays away from the real thing and hence, out of the gene pool).
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 127 (view)
 
OK, I'm starting to feel afraid
Posted: 9/15/2016 11:14:49 PM

Sorry ladies, but I just have to play devil's advocate here.

I don't know any married stay at home fathers or 50 year old married men that have never worked a day in their adult lives.

Just sayin'....


Hey there and 'allo, Cloons :)

Whether or not there are 50 year old stay at home Dad's and whether or not they are happy with their lot, is a moot point to me--50 year olds are not of my generation.

Wait a min--aren't you getting close to 50 now, Cloons--is this a hint? :P
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 124 (view)
 
OK, I'm starting to feel afraid
Posted: 9/15/2016 10:37:48 PM

Nonsensical Deborah too. First of all, Louisiana law changed back in the 70s...men and women have the same rights there. Second, i'm your age and girls had it just as good as guys back then. If anything, they were trrated better by their teachers than boys, went on to college and professional schools just like the guys.

Girls from my grammar school are now lawyers, doctors, heart surgeons. Inequality my ass.


In 1986, I inquired as to the purchase of a house in Amite. I was married at the time and it did require a signature by my husband--I could not buy the house on my own though my income alone was sufficient to pay for it. I assumed that it was because the house was being purchased from someone out of state (myself) that I needed his signature but was told via phone by the listing agent that it was the law that a married woman could not buy property on her own--though her husband could. If the law has changed, wonderful, but it did not change in the "70's".

As to whether girls in my generation were having it "just as good as the guys", the following is only one of many instances, but sticks in my mind to this day.

I graduated from high school in northern Ohio in 1971. In 1968 the entire high school was brought into the auditorium to view an assembly given by General Motor's Body by Fisher team. They were offering a scholarship to anyone who could design an automobile body, done as a technical/draftsman drawing as well as a plaster cast of specific size. We had a deadline to meet.

My grandmother had been a "Rosey the Riveter" sort during WWII and did drafting for Goodyear aerospace. She was a member of the draftsman team who did modifications on the Goodyear F2G Corsair. There were few men and she was talented so was able to do this during the war. I had all of her draftsman tools and intended to do a beautiful job of drawing and inking the car design--Granma was still alive of course and I knew she would help.

I was in my high school art class later that day and was working on a design (looked a lot like a cross between that year's Camaro and a Shelby GT350 if I must say so) when my instructor, Mr. Hale, looked over my shoulder and asked what was I doing. I told him it was an entry into the Body by Fisher contest and he laughed. He said that the contest was for boys only, not girls.

They brought us to an assembly to show us a scholarship contest that was solely for boys.

I did not tell my grandmother, but I did tell my mother. We moved to another school district the next year and myself and another girl, a junior, were the first two girls to take the draftsman class. The instructor changed the final exam design from the traditional brassiere to a house plan, though he was not required to. I continued and aced the second year mechanical drawing class as well. They did not offer a third year or I would have signed up--loved it.

(I even wanted to design and race a soapbox car for the Soapbox Derby, but, girls were not allowed to enter until 1971--too late for me).

Of course there are women doctors, teachers, engineers from our generation--the saying at the time was to be accepted in a man's career, you had to be better than any man there. Problem is that these women still make considerably less than their male counterparts. http://www.cnn.com/2016/04/12/us/equal-pay-day/

Now you are entitled to your opinion, of course, but unless you are a woman, it is only an opinion about this subject and not a fact. It would be like me saying as a fact that everything was hunky dory in Mississippi in the late sixties for African Americans--I am not qualified to state that as factual. I frankly would not state it as an opinion either, else appear as a fool.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Review for my profile
Posted: 9/14/2016 10:32:17 PM
Op,

Your profile is good--you apparently changed a few things judging by the posts here.

Just make sure that when you message someone you are not using "mass" messages like "I like your profile, you are someone I would like to get to know". If you see something in a lady's profile that scores a connection with you, (NOT just her looks) then mention it to her--or ask about it. That means that you are not mass messaging and actually read her profile.

So many guys don't realize it is not "the numbers" that count in that way.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Profile review
Posted: 9/14/2016 10:26:48 PM
What is a Michelin star restaurant?
Your profile now isn't bad at all really. The profile is only part of it--the other is what you say when you message someone. Lots of guys have problems with that part.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Liars & Gameplayers
Posted: 9/14/2016 10:08:01 PM

I wonder if Heffelump found someone to love him forever and ever?


Shortly after someone said he looked like Bill Clinton he bailed. Hope he is all right--what trauma that must have been :)
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Getting over breaking up
Posted: 9/14/2016 9:54:54 PM

Every time you contact that ex, you are practically resetting the "get over" internal clock.


Even worse than that, you come off to HIM as desperate.

If someone doesn't want to be with you, why cling?

He is a fool--do NOT grovel. Do not become a bigger fool and lose your own self respect in the process.

If you have friends you can commiserate with in real life---do it! And what was said here by someone is true--fastest way to forget one is become intriguing to another(s).

Put a spin on your life--do something incredibly sexy, flirty, imaginative. Women travel in packs for a reason, and not just that there is safety in numbers when you're clubbing, but to SUPPORT each other (often raucously), and even egg each other on--and that is exactly what you need.

Now get out there with your posse and take no prisoners :)
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 96 (view)
 
OK, I'm starting to feel afraid
Posted: 9/14/2016 9:23:14 PM

In reality, what you did was prove that feminism is a threat to free speech like it is on campuses across the Western world.


*blink*

Um.....feminism is one of the enforcers of the Constitution/Bill of Rights.

Without feminists women would still not be able to vote, own property without the permission of her husband (still can't in Louisiana--Napoleonic Law there), work in a field not traditionally feminine (physicians, bankers, lawyers, elected public official, teacher (originally schoolmasters) theater (originally all male actors), carpenter, draftsman, etc), or work at all outside of the home, get a bank loan (not that long ago you were danged if you were married (husband's permission) and danged if you were single (poor financial risk) nor would you be able to use birthcontrol methods (early 20th century abject poverty because even the rhythm method was forbidden to be taught to a woman, married or not).

The rights that we all have are because of our own efforts as well as the efforts of others to gain theirs.

I am only 62 and let me tell you, it was no picnic getting to the place where we are now. I remember so much horrible, outright discrimination against girls in highschool and college--and we were expected to smile, nod and take it. Cannot let the dark ages return.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Getting over breaking up
Posted: 9/12/2016 8:42:19 PM
jellybeans,

Forty years ago when such things happened, I was part of a group of very good girlfriends. We had this saying that the worst was the first 72 hours after either being dumped outright or finding out that you were not in the mutual relationship you thought you were. After 72 hours, it gradually got easier. Number one rule was when you are dumped, never call the guy--do not contact him in letters or through friends, nothing. Anytime one of us had this happen, we would take turns hanging out/going out with her--often the whole group--so that she did not contact the guy and didn't feel abandoned.

Going out in a group was safe, supportive and sheesh, there were so many more "fish" out there by the end of the a couple weeks he was forgotten history even if it had been a long term relationship (long term at that time was 6 months or so).

Funny thing too, I found that when contact is completely cut they eventually try to come back. (Twenty something men as drama queens? apparently so).

Now that I've gotten older and my group has scattered--one even passed away---I have found a different way of handling loss like this. Although it has been awhile since I last dated and was dumped (hence I'm here) I will still never call them or contact them in any form, if they try to contact me they'll hear a dial tone immediately. I'll also reflect back on the relationship because really, only death is sudden--everything else has subtle changes and warnings.

Stop running it through your mind that everything was perfect (if you didn't think so, you wouldn't have any difficulty moving on) and what went wrong--or worse, what did you do wrong. Nothing you can do about what is going around in someone else's head--you gotta keep your own straight. If you take one hour and go over how things really were, you'll realize you didn't lose anything.

Then, back to fishing :)
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Liars & Gameplayers
Posted: 9/12/2016 8:13:55 PM

I'm surprised you've not had much luck here.
You seem awesome and attractive?
Maybe take the bull by the horns, strap a mattress to your
back and go bang on the door of the woman you really want.
It's not like you'll look or sound any creepier than you already do.



ROFLMAO
High five, boo--that was priceless.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 48 (view)
 
OK, I'm starting to feel afraid
Posted: 9/12/2016 12:34:35 AM

-Or maybe a 'two-stroke'..?


Brilliant!! Yes, a V-twin!! Who better to build the robomale than the company, beloved by so many women, who manufactures big, rumbling road machines? (You do know why we love riding them, don't you?)
"Mom, Dad? I'd like you to meet my new friend, Harley"
Dad roles his eyes--another big pretty boy.
Mom is preplexed they can't stay for dinner. "You said Harley can't eat because of gas?"
"No, Mom, 'gasoline'---it's complicated"


I once had to resort to performing a selfless act of cumulonimbus


You rained on her?? er...no, wait.....never mind.
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 188 (view)
 
Cornering the dik market
Posted: 9/10/2016 9:41:57 PM
Meme circulating on the Internet:
D*** pics are for wussies,
Real men get out there and disappoint women in real life!

(and of course this was circulated around the time that the former Senator Weiner....er....struck again)
 justdeb111a
Joined: 9/4/2016
Msg: 43 (view)
 
OK, I'm starting to feel afraid
Posted: 9/10/2016 9:33:45 PM
I don't think I've laughed this hard in years---you guys took the topic and ran with it.

The main difference between a robot male and robot female sex partner is the female can have a portable lithium cell powerpack. A male, on the other hand is going to be a challenge--both vibrators and live men tend to run out of juice (don't go there) far too soon.

I'm thinking nuclear....
 
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