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 Author Thread: Post First Date Question *TIA*
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
Post First Date Question *TIA*
Posted: 8/18/2010 2:06:40 PM
2 or 3 days he had no call you

he is not interested
If he was he would have call you the same night to see if you got home safe

move on ,, you wait one day and then NEXT!
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
Erection problems
Posted: 8/12/2010 11:32:14 AM
we had the same problem,,,,
the doctor prescribe viagra and problem solved
but my guy is 41 tho, your is so young,

Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
What exactly qualifies a broken heart?
Posted: 8/11/2010 8:45:26 AM
Feels like someone stabbed you with a broken bottle that was just rubbed in Tobasco sauce. They stick it in and twist it and look into your eyes as you bleed to death in front of one can help you, your friends can't cheer you up. You feel like you'll never see someone like you saw them...

Or you may be having a heart attack. Check with your doctor.

hehehe,,some one said that,, personaly I have never felt a broken heart
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 16 (view)
Need help to stay strong after a breakup (long read)
Posted: 2/11/2010 8:32:24 PM
I have the same situation,
but its me that break it up,
but when he comes back I cannot say no..

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 26 (view)
Lots of first dates.....not many second ones...
Posted: 2/4/2010 8:20:00 PM
back on the market,

started dating 10 days ago, I went on 5 dates, I did not like any of them,
2 are asking me to go out again, I may go out with one, I liked his cat

I have 2 more dates with new guys this weekend,
I think I wont like them either

Oh well, I will keep trying until I found the one who
I pick to be my future ex, lol
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
sex or money??
Posted: 1/29/2010 9:07:45 PM

That is an easy one,,, of course Money,,,

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 107 (view)
She won't write back!
Posted: 1/27/2010 2:58:03 PM

guily! gulty guilty!

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
Posted: 1/27/2010 2:14:14 PM
Guys I need your opinion:

I have 2 brothers and several good male friends.
When I am dating a new guy I tell them about my new guy; so my brothers
and friends usually want to know what this guy have going on. He has to own a house,
have a good job, drive a decent car and be good looking. If the new guy does not satisfied my friends expectations, they would have a bad opinion of him and tell me “he is not good enough” “he is a loser”. why ?? ?? ??

Also my boyfriends are always “too ugly for me” according to my friends.

But when my brothers/friends are dating, if they have the feeling that the girl
are with them because they have good jobs and nice houses, or because of
looks, they thing bad of them, “gold diggers””superficial bch” . why ?? ?? ??

According to my brothers I should shoot for a wealthy and good looking guy,
but the women they want, should not think the same way?? why??

luv u all
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 104 (view)
Meeting at your/his house on first date
Posted: 1/25/2010 4:34:42 PM

Your brother is right to be worried.
you should not bring strangers to your house

Could be dangerous
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 126 (view)
Can women really go without sex????
Posted: 1/25/2010 4:22:26 PM

If I am single, not seeing anyone, I can go without sex for months,

But if I m in a Relationship and really attracted to him, so I CANNOT be without sex,
Everytime I see him I have to have it, if I don’t see him in 2 weeks, I think about having sex with him everyday and when I finally see him ,, guess

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
Is this really meant to be?
Posted: 1/24/2010 3:44:05 PM
Sounds like you are friends like brother and sister,
you should keep the relashionship that way

Real friends are forever, Boyfriends/Girlfriends comes and goes

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
I can't stop thinking about this one
Posted: 1/22/2010 10:26:19 PM
You want to hang out with her like friends because you like her company.

Just tell her that and she will say yes or not and the thing is over ,,,and stop being a baby, you are an old dude, very dramatic, grow up. and happy new year

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
How do you know when you are ready to move on?
Posted: 1/20/2010 9:11:49 PM

Well, I think is when you stop comparing your dates with your ex.

I still do, so I am not ready for a new relashionship because
I still have feelings for my ex

my 5c

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
Sexy sex
Posted: 1/18/2010 10:04:38 PM

public parking lot with the car door open,
that was too much

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 587 (view)
Very long hair on a woman is very femine and sexy, but few women have long hair
Posted: 1/15/2010 11:13:44 AM

You hair look so beautiful in the 1st pic

I like having my hair long, men love it
but if I cut it short( I look like a boy), I am sure, I would get dates too

men in general like long hair but if its short they like it too,

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
Women with Deep Voices
Posted: 1/14/2010 10:05:31 PM
you guys are too funny

I have this friend in HS, she was so beautiful and nice
but guys did not like her because she sounded like a guy,

deep weird voice

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 581 (view)
Very long hair on a woman is very femine and sexy, but few women have long hair
Posted: 1/14/2010 12:07:38 PM
Every guy finds my long wavy hair very sexy (I have been told many many times)
I want to cut my hair short but my boyfriend says he will kill me if I cut it. LOL

I cut it short once when I was a teen and I looked like a boy, lol

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
Facing harsh reality
Posted: 1/10/2010 1:25:05 PM
Once I changed my cute picture and posted a ugly girl’s picture,
I got emails from guys advising me about how to get better looking,
But no one asking to be my friend : (

Surprise dude, people on the internet are attracted to each other mainly by the way you look in your picures

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 47 (view)
Is Analingus the new Cunnilingus?
Posted: 12/20/2009 6:03:45 PM
I can't see myself sticking my tongue up any one's butthole! The thought of it makes me want to wretch. Just gross.

and I dont like anybody liking my a$$ hole either, yuck!!

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 91 (view)
Are Women Intimidated By Attractive Men?
Posted: 12/18/2009 8:04:23 PM

But I make guys to be nervious on firts dates too,
i think its so cute when guys get nervious because of me

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
How Long In Love?
Posted: 12/13/2009 7:48:43 PM

I have only had 3 boyfriends, I loved them very much,
but never been in love, so I have never felt all that crazy feelings
and emotions

But the positive side is I dont get all upset or broken hearth when I
break up with my boyfriends,
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
Who would you rather nail?................
Posted: 12/8/2009 8:54:46 PM
Judge Alex,,, is cute

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
Are you happier now than you were in high school?
Posted: 12/3/2009 8:23:57 PM
I am happier now, because I can do whatever i want

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
Are you happier now than you were in high school?
Posted: 12/3/2009 8:23:12 PM
My HS years were wonderful.
thanks for asking

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
Almost 2 years...and im not over my FIRST LOVE LOL How?
Posted: 11/27/2009 9:56:54 AM

Wow ,,after two years you are still thinking about her,,,,

i guess you need to stop comparing your dates with her,
and live everyday, hang in there,

you will get over this
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
Fingers and Tounges
Posted: 11/19/2009 2:52:00 PM
do you ladies like being fingered?


Do you like a man going downtown with his tounge?


u r not weird
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
Is this not love?
Posted: 11/9/2009 3:54:45 PM
He was being honest with you and he told you he was not in love
With you, instead of making you waste your time with a going no where relationship.

He likes you like a person but he was not feeling it. Its no ones fault. Don’t take it personally, soon you will find a guy who is crazy about you.
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 49 (view)
Say anything you want!
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:03:05 PM
I would be happy to see him,
I lived the happiest times of my life with him and
I only wish him happiness.

I have 3 exes, I wish them good. I am not able to
hate or be angry, whatever happened in the past is past,
live is too short to waste your time in negativity

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 61 (view)
Broken heart ? its all in your head, get over it !
Posted: 10/22/2009 11:22:40 AM
I am a small bag of water..

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
what right do they have?!?
Posted: 9/25/2009 7:39:37 PM
I have been called ugly many times,,, Who cares?? they are projecting their
own insecurities, do not make a big deal ,,,

goin paty now,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
Sweet Nothing
Posted: 9/22/2009 6:49:18 PM
Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS
You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless **** for dumping him."

I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea."

If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys (tm) are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

Nice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when the so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life...

Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure.

Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them.

They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him.

Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.

Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner.

Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do." Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here."

The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: "Who would want to go out with someone who was inherintly unlovable anyways?"

More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy NEEDS her. "She is my Life, my only source of happiness..." YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That SHE has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip!

Another mistake Nice Guys make is to go after "hard luck" cases. They deliberately pick women with neuroses, problems, and personality disorders, because Nice Guys are "helpers". A Nice Guy thinks that by "helping" this woman, it will make him a better, more lovable person. He thinks it will give him a sense of accomplishment, and that she will appreciate and love him more, for all his efforts and sacrifice. He is usually disappointed by the results.

This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".


You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
Sweet Nothing
Posted: 9/22/2009 6:47:43 PM
From Books,,,,,
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
Sweet Nothing
Posted: 9/22/2009 6:46:59 PM
Are you a nice guy who has always wondered why the**** guy -- the one who barely appears interested in the girl -- is usually the one who gets the girl?
Have you suffered from hearing the words, "You're a really nice guy, but I only like you as a friend," from a woman who you would do (or may, in fact, have already done) just about anything and everything for -- only to turn around and watch her date (or even chase) a guy who treats her like she's nothing special? And are you stumped wondering why she would date a guy who treats her like that when she could have you who would treat her like a princess and give her everything she wants? Well, you better brace yourself because I'm going to tell you a couple of secrets that you might not want to hear.
First, "nice" equates with boring and predictable. Look up "nice" in the dictionary and you find: pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory. In other words, average -- not exceptional, not exciting, and not sexy.I'll bet you've never heard a woman say she didn't want to date a guy because he was too confident, too passionate, or too exciting -- have you? But, I'll bet you have heard women say things like, "He's such a nice guy. He's so sweet and he's always there for me, but I only like him as a friend." Or, "He's such a good guy -- kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, loyal -- but there's no chemistry. He just doesn't turn me on." Sadly, I hear it all the time. The fact is, Mr. Nice Guy, you cannot bore a woman into feeling attracted to you or into wanting to date you. And as obvious as that sounds, if you are one of those guys I described that is exactly what you are trying to do. And it won't work.
Please understand that I am not suggesting that you mistreat women or disrespect them in any way.
What I suggesting is that you value and respect yourself more.
What I suggesting is that you value and respect yourself more.
To illustrate what I mean: The answer to the question, "Why does the guy who doesn't appear to care as much about the girl get the girl?" is simple: The nice guy cares too much, too soon. He has made the woman too important and too valuable and it shows in everything he says and does. He is too available, too eager to please, too accommodating, and he gives too much -- all without getting anything in return. By doing so, he has made himself appear desperate, insecure, needy of this woman's attention, affection, and approval -- and he has stripped himself of any value in her eyes. After all, if he's already doing and giving everything, without her doing or giving anything - why would she value him? She won't. She is not going to value him any more than he values himself. What she is going to do is look for someone else, someone who she perceives as being more worthy, more confident, and more valuable.
It works like this:
Once you need something, or you want it too badly, you forfeit your strength and lose all power of negotiation.
Once you need something, or you want it too badly, you forfeit your strength and lose all power of negotiation. You are in a position of weakness and you are perceived as weak. Someone (or something) else is in control of you, the situation, and it's outcome. Men in this situation appear to be anything but confident, strong, and exciting. More, they are perceived as being unworthy and as lacking value.
Translation: Things that are easily acquired, obtained, or maintained, without any effort or sacrifice, lack value... it's human nature.
The secret to why the**** guy wins with women, over the nice guy, is that he is perceived as being a stronger, more confident guy with more value. How? He never invests everything -- his entire being, ego, and self-worth in what one woman's response or reaction to him is. He doesn't gush with compliments; he isn't always available; he doesn't give too much; and he knows he isn't going to die if a woman says "no" to him. More, his attitude is, yeah, I'd like to go out with you, but if I can't, that's OK -- I'm a busy guy, with exciting things going on, and lots of other options.
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
Never been in a relationship before...and im 23
Posted: 9/16/2009 2:33:43 PM
I had my 1st boyfriend at 23, we were dating for a year.
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
do women from different countries act differently
Posted: 9/12/2009 8:44:14 PM
yes ,,we do



 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 26 (view)
whats wrong with her or is it me....?
Posted: 8/25/2009 7:07:28 PM
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
Who has ever had the fantasy of video taping yourself during sex?
Posted: 8/18/2009 9:32:53 PM
I love makin videos
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
what the heck is wrong with men
Posted: 8/7/2009 9:29:14 AM

Picture this now...

What is it like for this single attractive man
when he goes out and meets women?

What are the women like who he comes across,
meets, and goes on dates with?

What do most of these women have in common?

What do they say and do with him once they see
how great he is?

And how do they act as a result of recognizing
this great man and wanting him all to themselves?

Are they all fun, laid-back, easygoing, and as
carefree as he is?

Or are they different than they were with him
at first?

For the rare single attractive man out
there...finding and meeting a great women who
also has her act together on every level is NOT

In fact, for lots of men, they feel frustrated
the same way lots of women do -

They feel like there's just no "normal" women
out there.

And this frustration is only made worse when
a single man finally thinks he's met a woman who
he thinks is great....

Because after a few dates, something strange
and uncomfortable often happens.

The woman he met who SEEMED mature, healthy,
and who had a full life of her own suddenly
starts acting different.

Instead of enjoying the PROCESS of getting to
know one another and seeing where things are

Her attitude and her behavior change.

Suddenly she's tense.

Suddenly she's anxious and uncertain.

And suddenly she is asking for answers from
the man about what's going on, when he just feels
like he's barely getting to know her.

And this is where the man feels a complete
"disconnect" both physically and emotionally, and
sees that this must not be the right woman for

He's thinking-

"If she's acting this way within the first few
weeks... imagine what's down the road!?"

What's going on here?

To make a long story short, in these situations
a man's response is all too common:


That means he STOPS CALLING, he stops asking
the woman out, and he's no longer interested in
getting to know her.

Which of course is the worst possible thing a
man could do to a woman who's already
wondering what's going on with him... and it
makes her feel even more freaked out.

And it's here where things can go from bad to
worse for some women.

Instead of seeing that their desire to know
what a man is feeling or wanting has pushed him
away early on...

They actually start trying harder to get him
to open up to them and give them answers.

(As though the man is the one who's in

They call, they email, and they sound totally
freaked out or upset when they finally do talk
to him - which only makes things worse.

The situation I described doesn't paint a very
pretty picture of what happens for some women
when they start dating a man.

The strange truth is, I've seen very smart and
amazing women who are usually calm, loving,
and "centered" turn into freaked-out, "needy",
panic-stricken women.

It's not because they aren't great women. It's
just that they let their FEARS and NEGATIVE
EMOTIONS take over and get in their way.
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
Can u fall out of love??
Posted: 8/7/2009 8:36:44 AM

ARE YOU 12???

 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
Cute quickies, funny quotes and phrases...
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:09:12 AM
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
I've never understood the 'silence' method of breaking up
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:53:57 AM
i do it too,, but only with guys i have been dating less than 2 months,,,

why,, i dont want to talk about it, about what
problem is, and anything realted to it
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
what the heck is wrong with men
Posted: 8/6/2009 7:30:53 AM
never happened to me,,,
men are always taking most of my time,, spending all their time with me,
cant get ride of them, even after years of being in a relationship. even my exes,,always around, checking on me and happy if i give them a few moments of my life, love them all.

Maybe you are clingy,,that is annoying,,
allow them to have their space, while they do that go
do your own stuff, have fun with your friends or do something for you
 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 51 (view)
what's your perfect man/woman?
Posted: 7/26/2009 5:39:48 PM
I miss him ; (


 latin crazy
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
what's your perfect man/woman?
Posted: 7/22/2009 1:40:26 PM
6’ tall, good shape but not too muscular, tan, little body hair,
6”**** perfect white teeth, pretty smile, dark hair and eyes, soft and tick tonge,
strong, very affectionate, sexually aggressive, gives lots of compliments, have a lot of money, lol,,,,
o well ,,in my dreams

Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
Man/Woman with too high standards or too much expectation
Posted: 6/26/2009 12:44:55 PM
Thank you very much for crying me a huge river. now with this river you have provided me, i will fish like i have never fished before.
im terribly sorry that your area lacks the number of woman that your sexy A$$ is intitled to.

AMEN!!!!!! L U.....

OP u r an A S... S
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