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 Author Thread: Why do woman ignore guys rather tell them the truth?
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Why do woman ignore guys rather tell them the truth?
Posted: 1/14/2016 3:12:04 PM
You picked the wrong ladies. I had men who backed out the last minutes. they were frighten scared who are afraid of Dominant woman in sweden. It better it was done now than if you married her. Good Luck and pick wise next time. You will meet th right one have patience.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 131 (view)
 
Any Virgins or those practicing Celibacy
Posted: 12/30/2009 12:55:51 AM
It is to me I made 1 bad marriage but see other around who have sex then regret it. i am waiting for another who that who I can love again.I believe and know the one for me will wait.. A kiss is just a kiss. I make it count and feel better in the long run. I hope there more guys like you out there. A hug is just aHUG we are normal too
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Do Cheaters Regret or Reform
Posted: 12/26/2009 12:50:24 PM
Woman or men would have to pay their partner back for the lost time. Money if that would hurt or time to help them get their life back
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
should I tell His wife he's cheating?
Posted: 9/18/2009 2:26:12 PM
Tell her but If I was you I would get to know her and tell her what happened to you and ask her if she would like to know if it was her husband cheating . If she says no then do not do it You can then live with a clean conscious . You wanted to tell but she did not want to know,If she said yes do and be there as a friend. Help her find someone else.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
what is your greatest dating fears?
Posted: 9/18/2009 2:16:16 PM
That I will meet the one meant for me and then I will give up being on any dating sites
and stop talking new people. My life will turn to him and my life making it more ??? Everyone I have met to that point I would hope we could remain friends
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 9/18/2009 1:46:36 PM
You wrote that you read that demons were the outlet for stress but I am sure that there is not anyone wants to run away from monsters when stressed. It is a very scared
experience to run away from a monster
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 65 (view)
 
When he says he doesn't want a relationship... could you at least still place some hopes?
Posted: 9/14/2009 5:24:40 PM
I have seen a lot of woman in this situation who become bitter. When ever you decide
you want more because he was honest just leave. If you the kind of person who regrets nothing stay as long as you like . Regrets are the worst or lost time
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Is there something as being too nice or helpful in a realtionship
Posted: 9/14/2009 5:12:33 PM
Someone wrote

"And you challenge them because....?? Are you trying to prove they are not "too nice" as they claim to be?? "


Yes I am because they are bragging about it. A person will show there true colors
sooner or later

The also wrote
" This is something you have to recognize (for yourself) in your every day encounters. "


That is true
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Girlfriend or best friend???
Posted: 9/14/2009 2:51:55 AM
Do not be a rat put 100 % in making it work. Try to think why she became your girlfriend in the first place. You are suppose to grow in a relationship. Try doing something new in hobby or sports you both will enjoy. Really try then end by trying to find her someone nice. You have wasted her time and she does not a clue. Wiat to see about her new dating goes if you are jealous. Maybe it her after all.

Then if it ends ask your friend what would happened if it turned serious. llisten carefully to her answer. Then it up to you to decide. You may lose her from your
life forever. You can love a friend that does not mean she has to be your girlfriend. maybe your feeling are confused. I do not know you . Go places to be alone with your self and be honest with your self and I am sure you will make the right decision for yourself. You sound like a nice guy
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
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Is there something as being too nice or helpful in a realtionship
Posted: 9/14/2009 2:33:44 AM
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 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 32 (view)
 
This Girl That I Know (won't leave me alone..)
Posted: 9/13/2009 7:20:38 AM
It is your pay back but to get rid of her you must find her someone else for her. Talk and find out what she looking for and find that man. You should not have slept with her. It will take time but in the end you will feel good and you will be careful about sleeping around next time.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 92 (view)
 
If we are all all that why are we alone?
Posted: 9/13/2009 7:08:09 AM
There is a difference in being alone and lonely. You can be lonely in a crowd. You can be alone but not lonely
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
What Have We Come Across That Was Good In The Opposite Gender?
Posted: 9/12/2009 3:21:05 PM
Most of these stories just warm my heart and bring tears to my eyes. This probably will be deleted but all I am trying to do is find out who and why in my situation. Sometimes
people get involved and are told if the continue helping they will suffer.Also they are
rewarded when they do not.People who are good end up feeling bad because they cannot
stand the pressure.Somethings that seems very simple cannot be solved. I know one
day the truth will not be stopped. That day when someone cannot or will stop until
they find out the truth.Then I guess it will stop others from being afraid and change many lives hearts and mind.Until then I will continue existing until I am stopped again
and have to go around until the truth comes out.I will still continue praying that this good people increases every day.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Is there something as being too nice or helpful in a realtionship
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:27:14 PM
You are right so if you want those types of woman or man you have to be bad. I am a woman myself and do not understand them but everyone entitles to their own taste unless they try to harm you or someone else
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Is there something as being too nice or helpful in a realtionship
Posted: 9/11/2009 7:19:06 PM
In your and their cases I think you were too nice to the wrong woman. I think these people are picking the wrong people. Whatever it be man or woman. The person in question to rethink why they picked that person. Also be extra careful the next time.
It is like if you pick a person that had a star on their arm try one without it or maybe even the other arm. I hope you get the picture
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Is there something as being too nice or helpful in a realtionship
Posted: 9/11/2009 6:58:19 PM
I have read over and over people both men and woman writing that they get dump because they are too nice. I do not believe there is such a thing. I usually challenge someone and in the end they are not too nice. I have met nice people but when you say too nice it never really happens.. Please give examples of situations and people. Restore my faith
that the too nice person really exist. Is it possible they only exist for the person who they want something out of that person.It could be even friendship.

I have sometime said good morning to people who look sad in order to hope their day will change
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Is the truth pity ?
Posted: 9/11/2009 6:26:42 PM
I have had my subject matter deleted because they voted said it pity

This Truth part I too off

My feelings about doing that is
when I really need help I will get it. Mine problem not money but wanting the truth to come out and finding out who is the unknown people who are stopping it. One guy who I knew was told by a man if he helped me he would never get any more jobs.. Otherwise they get more work or promoted by not helping me get the truth out.
My friend became sad because it changed his outlook on people who said they were helpful. He said it must be someone very powerful in back of everything. I would like to know the why and who


I felt since you are Writer you could explain it to me
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 111 (view)
 
The real problem with relationships today.
Posted: 9/9/2009 5:41:23 PM
There is only one reason which is honesty. If people did listen to what each other wanted without trying to change the other then everything would work out. If you found out something you did not like you would not enter into a relationship then. Mariiage would last for ever or the person would leave or you would try to work it out
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 3097 (view)
 
GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage?
Posted: 8/18/2009 4:57:41 PM
My husband waited for sex until we were married and I never regreted it.If you cannot wait for sex you should get married. I think you can marry get a divorce if that all you are after sex. If a man loves you he will wait or marry you. There are courses that can improve your sex life I read about. If sex is number one why are everyone getting divorce after having thinking this is your best sex partner.? It is the whole package
That is why you men who test drive it end up with diseases or an unwanted child. Accidents do happen and it is your fault and responsible.Marriage is underrated by many people.
Whenever I find the right one not a perfect man it would work out again.Good things can come to those who wait. As someone wrote here " An OPEN and honest, ethical, strong, intelligent, logical, affectionate, independent woman is a VERY RARE find." I might be one but know I am not alone
another person wrote " If we were a couple and he had a terrible accident and his Penis was lost In one foul swoop on the production line Id still love him and stand by him 100% - but see Id know the man Id chosen to make that commitment to 100%. I believe in that is true love."

I guess I will not get anymore mail but that it what I believe
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Most Overrated Destinations
Posted: 8/16/2009 3:44:40 PM
Sweden there is a difference to living and visiting. People are told not to tell the truth to other living outside of Sweden. Tell people you are living here and find out the true attitudes.Sometimes you run into the nicest people in the world
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 156 (view)
 
Calling All Divorcees
Posted: 8/16/2009 3:31:24 PM
You are wrong wrong wrong both parties should expect everything. When the going get ruff you communicate with your partner. I do not know one Divorcees who thought of being divorce as a piece of cake. Of course there are the exceptions to the rule. You must know the wrong women who were not serous about marriage in the first place. Marriage is something you must keep working on
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Getting a girl with no relationship experience to open up.
Posted: 8/16/2009 3:19:07 PM
Communication is the key word. I agreed with someone who said it not a relationship
yet because you hae not been dating so long. Do not tell her that. Would you have preferred a wild dating partner. Enjoy it and be kind, gentle and understanding. Think how you would feel if it was on the other foot. If you decided against this dating partner try to find her someone who would care for someone so innocent. The choice is up to you but do not have any regrets.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 97 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/15/2009 4:48:33 PM
Woman do not need to cook today because 99 % of the men who write to me say they can cook,I can cook but men say to me they can do it better.Otherwise they want to share the cooking.. Maybe I should give it up and leave it to the men. I hope they know about keeping the rare meat knife away from the vegetables. Hygiene is the most important and many men are rushed for time.So I hope that are following the hygiene part. That goes for woman and men who do it to impress their partner.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 8/15/2009 4:18:02 PM
You wrote you feel the demons presents how does that feel ?
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Do Cheaters Regret or Reform
Posted: 8/15/2009 4:11:35 PM
As I have stated earlier cheater whatever if they are man or woman had to pay their partner money or give up something they really like most would change. If caught everyone
should know about it is wrong because they can leave. Staying if you have children
would teach them it is ok. I understand some people have to plan to leave due to lack of money that is why there should be a cheater insurance.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Starting to hate women........
Posted: 8/14/2009 2:37:31 PM
Hate is a very strong word. You must remember that your mother is a woman .Do you hate her? There is no such thing as being too nice . I think you should ke going to the gym until you are ready again. You should not change being who you are for anyone if you feel comfortable and it does not hurt. It better to get dump now than to find out you wasted your time and money. The right one will come along someday.
I would say good luck but you do not need it just remeber who you really are. A nice and caring gentleman
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Do Cheaters Regret or Reform
Posted: 8/14/2009 2:00:46 PM
lucky_09_79

I think it is best to contact her. The worst she can do is say no. It better to know the
truth now instead of waiting until you are dying.. Go for it and then tell us here all about what happens. We all like a good ending Good Luck
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 8/14/2009 1:52:09 PM
bwana217

What did you say to the monsters? I am sure not just I are curious
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 645 (view)
 
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 8/8/2009 9:43:35 AM
People have affairs Psychology because they need to be punished


People having affairs should be shunned for 1 month and not allowed to see their children unless
they have a promised time set up and it should be supervised.Next time it is 1 years etc.

There should be a law against it and you have to pay the other person money. Even if you poor you have to take a job to do it. If you rich the partner get to take something you will value besides money. I know children should be allowed to see both parents
but the cheater maybe cheating with someone who in the children life and if that relationship stops fails may takes it out on the children. If there are consequence maybe people will get out of the relationship or simply not do it. Maybe the other partner should suggest the punishment besides the money. Maybe even an affairs
jails called the Cheaters jail . I never did it and never will because a relationship is something very important and you have work on it all the time.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 12:54:26 PM
Hi Inart


When you were flying in your dream how high did you go ?Did you ever hit the ground or were chased by someone ?
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 12:12:56 PM
What happened at the end of the dream?
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
How did you escape from the monster in your dreams ?
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:38:44 AM
How did you escape from the monster(s) in your dreams? Do you remember what they look like ?

Has anyone had dreams when they were younger you could fly
so high the monster could not get you.They could fly as high as airplanes you could fly higher.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Did You Ever Have a Dream In Which You Knew You Were Dreaming?
Posted: 6/9/2009 6:06:54 AM
I used to have bad dreams about falling or monsters . When someone taught me how to stop it.. I could fall or fight monster without any fear
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Is the waters safe and how do I find out ?
Posted: 6/8/2009 11:26:53 AM
My water was turn off for about six months then turn on limited by a stone placed in the facet due to a dispute with the water company

My dog does not want to drink the water. She looks very sad when she comes in. When she visit other people she races and drank their water. How do I find out if this is good water ? All suggestions are welcome and I thank you in advance
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
What would you have done ?
Posted: 6/7/2009 5:19:22 AM
I never mix business with pleasure because he met to help with the fence.Then it became pleasure and fun as I helped him and we went out and did things together. My business is always over before I mixed pleasure. The second hand furnace I brought came from his friend I was trying to buy one from another place. You do not know how an old fashion woman is. Thank you for your answer.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 59 (view)
 
Would you live with someone you want to marry?
Posted: 6/7/2009 5:08:59 AM
Hi Timothy



It is good to know that some men in the USA believe that way.Here in Sweden I heard of and know cases of people who lived together over 25 years and become they lived together and not married they left the next day without warning. People who live together are on better behavior here because they know the can just walk out. Many men or woman
had said to me that being married would change their behavior. Of course there are exceptional to the rules. I personally believe in not living together and have seen in most cases the woman come out worst
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Shocked! how can someone be so demoralising!
Posted: 6/4/2009 1:43:39 PM
It bothered me for a very small time then I realize these guy are missing out on woman like us. We judge by more than looks. It is better not to waste our time on someone who wants a blond and you a brunette.Unless you want to die your hair. A shinny person can always become fats.etc Life is to short. They will keep getting divorce and looking around while the ones like us who look at the big picture will find the right one for us. Stop venting and start laughing
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
What would you have done ?
Posted: 6/3/2009 10:47:50 PM
I agree Sweden is proclaimed a socialist country. Benefits are given to people who have social connections with the government or the newspaper has brought it to light.
Just like everywhere else in the world there are people who have influence over them. In my case it is my neighbor with political , newspaper and etc influence. She is angry with me. She has control over the local newspapers. They come out to her home to do an article and get her opinion . He did a great job but did not know at the time about
the water
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Do Cheaters Regret or Reform
Posted: 6/3/2009 2:54:26 AM
After reading everyone comments. I think some might reform if you tell someone who they know admire and is close to them. They would not want that person to keep seeing them that way. Most people keep it quiet, This is just my opinion because I would or never done it.What is your view?
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
why do i keep wanting to go back?
Posted: 6/1/2009 4:06:10 PM
I know someone in this position and she does not care enough about her child but said she loves the man more. I hate to say this if you love and want your child stay away. It very simple unless you are forced by the court. Many children today are caught in between relationships like this Do not talk about him badly to your son but be honest if he asks. Protect the son you love or give him to a loving relative or someone you have checked out who would not put in the situation like you. I hope you make the right choice because you the only one who can. You are worth more and I hope you know that. I am in Sweden where Drinking every friday/monday is common
but I cook with the wine but do not drink it. Not all do it but most people. Make your child save first and then do what YOU want to do with your life.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Do Cheaters Regret or Reform
Posted: 5/30/2009 4:58:13 PM
You wrote "They regret it when they get caught.
they regret it when family and coworkers find out. Then if they knew friends or family would find out then most people would stop it ? Thank you for your answer
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
What would you have done ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 4:50:31 PM
1.Sorry I used the wrong word. It was a furnace. It was like conecting a plumbing system. In a house you cannot just plug it in. I do not drive

2. A furnace weighs a lot. A new one cost a arm and leg. I worked with him to put it in.


It was a second hand furnace . I could not afford a new one. Most people do not do things for free here in Sweden


2.My friend volunteered to help me. I did not ask him. Sorry no relatives to help


3.. If I could afford a new furnace if might be possible to get a company but I am almost sure they would say I needed a plumbers. You can read what I said about the plumbers to someone earlier.

Thank you for your suggestions but they would not work here in Sweden




Do you have a another oplan thank you for yours

4. The furance I got was perfect for my house.I wish could brought a new .
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Ever have a good date....To never hear from them again....?
Posted: 5/30/2009 1:42:39 PM
In Sweden most men on the first date are polite and lie about seeing you again. I think they like dating too much. I read about it on the date sites in Sweden . Of course it has happened to me. I learned it best to enjoy the nice treatment and if you go out again it is a bonus.

. I think dates should not say anything until you dated a while. Both dating partners should enjoy dating then be careful what they say.. A man or woman should be able to stop dating by being honest . Do you not think that?

The right one for you will stay
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
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Why do women say one thing one day and another the next
Posted: 5/30/2009 1:36:15 PM
In Sweden most men on the first date are polite and lie about seeing you again. I think they like dating too much. I read about it on the date sites in Sweden . I learned it best to enjoy the nice treatment and if you go out again it is a bonus. I think you should have not been hurt because it was your first date. It was better she did it now than waited.She would have wasted your times unless you did not care.
She could have made you believe she was the one and you missed the right person. I think dates should not say anything until you dated a while. Both dating partners should enjoy dating then be careful what they say.. A man or woman should be able to stop dating by being honest . Do you not think that. you would you preferred to find out the truth later? As you stated it is her lost
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
What would you have done ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 12:31:55 PM
I am an old fashion woman in many ways I believe the guy should make the first move.You wanted the moderator to link this to," why do men not want to me more than friends" I could have stayed his friend for life and got married without crossing the line. He liked my cooking, me help with working. conversation and company ( We went to restaurants many times . I think I gave him a kiss on his cheek and hug on his birthday. I usually do that but it does not count in my book because it was his Birthday. I took him out for a surprise meal and to some sport activity he liked. If in your book an old fashion woman is one who waits for the man to make the first move are player then I am one by that definition. Thank you for your answer.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Do Cheaters Regret or Reform
Posted: 5/30/2009 2:05:31 AM
I agreed with you but I could not decide for the other partner because they will have to live with it. It is better to leave then it will not be called cheating.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
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What would you have done ?
Posted: 5/30/2009 12:40:14 AM
He came to help me built a fence. Then when I had water problems he said he knew how it was because he had bad time and his friends helped him out.They is why it seemed so unbelievable he would not correct what he did wrong.Once when he said he had to leave early but had plan to stay for dinner. He smelt my food and decided to stay. I am a great a cook.I am great company or maybe he stayed for my dog.I
appreciate all answers as long as they come from the heart.
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Do Cheaters Regret or Reform
Posted: 5/29/2009 6:31:17 PM
I just wonder if people who cheat ever regret it? Are there people who are reform now and will never cheat?.When a person cheats it is a whole family involved.You could lose or hurt your children,relatives or friends on either side. Was it worth it ? I know many people will say it between the two people but maybe you like his or her parents or friends and you lose them because you hurt someone badly. When the lies flow out your mouth how do you feel ? When your partner found out how do you feel? When they lose touch with their anyone because of it how do you feel ? Personality I would
never do it because that person had meant something to me in the beginning.
I just wonder how cheater male and female really feel ?
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Cant stant doggs..
Posted: 5/29/2009 5:59:52 PM
I think you should get to know a dog before you judge them. Some dogs shed more than others. Some people dress their dogs up but I do not . My dog does not lick my face but she loves me. I understand most dogs. When I younger were not a fan of dogs because I did not understand them but now I know them better.

Get a dog that does not shed hair on loan and then review if you still dislikes dogs. Dogs have different personality like people. There are dogs of the same breed who have behaviors opinion. Dogs have open up a another world for me.

Warning Do not start with a puppy because many can nip you and you will be turned off. Pick one you have talked to the owner and know what to expect. Give at least 3 dogs breeds a try because they may not like your actions. Dogs know when you do not like them.

Cant stand dogs are too strong words when you never owned one. If a dog has bad behavior it is usually the owners fault but not always.


You have a right to your opinion but I hope you will give some dog a chance
 thebestlady
Joined: 5/19/2009
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Cant stant doggs..
Posted: 5/29/2009 5:58:25 PM
I think you should get to know a dog before you judge them. Some dogs shed more than others. Some people dress their dogs up but I do not . My dog does not lick my face but she loves me. I understand most dogs. When I younger were not a fan of dogs because I did not understand them but now I know them better.

Get a dog that does not shed hair on loan and then review if you still dislikes dogs. Dogs have different personality like people. There are dogs of the same breed who have behaviors opinion. Dogs have open up a another world for me.

Warning Do not start with a puppy because many can nip you and you will be turned off. Pick one you have talked to the owner and know what to expect. Give at least 3 dogs breeds a try because they may not like your actions. Dogs know when you do not like them.

Cant stand dogs are too strong words when you never owned one. If a dog has bad behavior it is usually the owners fault but not always.


You have a right to your opinion but I hope you will give some dog a chance
 
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