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 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Open mic night...
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:45:44 AM
Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar....
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Should I play hard to get? I'm not good at this though---it's not me!
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:22:08 AM

Aaaaaaiiieeee!


Another "Johnny Quest" fan?

OT: Oh the games people play, you take'em or you leave'em, the games people play, just don't make it right, If I promised you the moon and the stars, would you believe it? Oh the games people play in the middle of the night.
(Games People Play - Alan Parson's Project)
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Dating when is it appropriate to take yourself off the market?
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:06:24 AM

discussed with you both of you getting off.


Heh, heh...they were "getting off"....heh,heh

(sorry, just channeled Beavis and Butthead)
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 69 (view)
 
A playful groper
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:53:56 AM
Okay, OP, just some thoughts on this.

I'm still stunned by the 20 years of attacks by this guy on women and no one has done anything.

Anyway, sit down with your lady. TELL her that you don't find the situtation appropiate and that SHE shouldn't as well. (No, not trying to tell a woman what to think.) ASK is there is history. Why? Because she hasn't stopped this behaviour for 20 years, so in my opinion, SHE's accepting it for some reason. Were they former lovers? Did she do a threesome with them at some point? ASK HER! There's just something weird going on, the only time a woman really wants a guy to "fondle" her is when she's in a relationship with him. Otherwise, from ALL other women I've seen, the guy should be pulling back stubs when he groped her.

ASK her if she wants you to do something. Don't go off on your own, see what HER reaction is going to be. If she tells you No don't do anything, then she WANTS this attention.

You say she doesn't like confrontations...so if he decides he wants to rape her she's gonna be okay with that? Not bloody likely.

Also, what's the community's take on this? You said that "they" all called him the octopus. Where's all the other husbands and boyfriends? Does he have the town sewed up where he can squeeze ANY woman's boobs or butt with no fear of consquences? (or however you spell that)

Find out from your girlfriend where she's going to stand, if and when YOU decide to take a stand. If she's not going to back you up on this....sorry dude, you'll need to drop her and move on.

But, as always, that's just my opinion.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 303 (view)
 
raped or not ?
Posted: 11/9/2009 12:44:55 PM
She was 12 years old.

This may sound bad to you folk.
But if it was up to me? They'd never, EVER find his body.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
 
A playful groper
Posted: 11/9/2009 12:18:18 PM
I'm with Sweetness on this one....cop a feel on HIS lady, see how he likes it. (I'd tell YOUR g/f first so she'll know what you're doing)

So he's been playing with her boobs and butt for 20 years now, eh? How come no woman has slapped him yet? How come YOUR girl hasn't told HIM not to do it?

"Oh he's just playing..."

I think there is some "history" there, check with some other friends that have known all three of them for some time and see what's said....

But, that's just my opinion.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Sex...Hurts?
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:50:21 PM
No, you're "cookie" ain't broken. It's just not used to this guy. With time the two of you may "fit" together quite well. I hope you've let him know that you're hurting. The LAST thing we guys (well, MOST of us) want to do is to cause our lover pain. Let him know that you're enjoying the sex, but that it does hurt some. Maybe he can not "go" as deep for a bit, or let him go all the way in, but slowly, allowing you time to get used to him? Just some thoughts.

The human body is an amazing machine and it can cope with a lot of things. It's somewhat adaptable too.

I'd say your best tools in this case would be communication, practice and patience.

But, as always, that's just my opinion.

Sorry, I know I'm not a lady but I thought a view from this side would be okay.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
I gave my girl an orgasm..... through her nipple?
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:44:11 PM
Yes OP, very possible. I was dating one woman who was that sensitive. She'd told me before that they were and I'd enjoyed them often. But one day she was at my place, I had some other friend there as well at the time. My other friends were in the living room and we were in the kitchen. I stood behind her and started to gently massage her breasts and nipples. The next thing I know, she's leaning against me having an orgasm!

Personally, I thought it was great.

Sadly, I was young and stupid and didn't hold on to her. *sigh*
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
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Age 50 - The Kiss of Death?
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:25:40 PM

Kiss? Who's getting a kiss? I want one ...


I'll second that!
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
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Age 50 - The Kiss of Death?
Posted: 11/6/2009 12:02:17 PM
And you become invisible at 52-53.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
To wait or not to wait
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:21:17 AM
OP? Okay. Put down the mouse. Back away from your computer sceen. IMO you have waaay too many control issues. Or maybe too many expectations? Or is it more like demands?

Online dating is not magic, you can't wave your "magic mouse" and PRESTO, Mr. Rich Hunk walks into your life.

It's just another venue to meeting people. I liken it to a large party or gathering of people. You see someone you think is attractive. You go up to them (email) you say hello (first line/greeting of email). They either say hello (reply) or they walk away (read/delete or unread/delete).

At a party do you then grab the person and shout "Hey everybody, I was talking to this person and they just walked away!!!" No. You look around to see if anybody saw and then you sip your drink and start looking again. So do the same here.

But, as always, that's just my opinion.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 45 (view)
 
So.... remind me... What's the downside of 50 and single...???
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:58:56 AM
Same as my answer in "the upside" thread.

Burping and farting?
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 59 (view)
 
How do you deal with someone when the sex isn't satisfying?
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:55:57 AM
How do you deal with someone when the sex isn't satisfying?

Get on the forums and complain about it to strangers?
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Why do men have to see you before trying to get to know you?
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:37:03 AM
As many other posts have pointed out, women are not visual creatures?

If that's the case, why do so many profiles state "must have a picture to contact this user".

I thought you were using your 'senses'.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please'
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:14:52 AM
If she says "Show me your driver's license so I'll know you're a legitimate man."

Then I'll say "Okay, then show me your breasts so I'll know you're a legitimate woman."

Okay, so I'll drink my coffee alone, she obviously wasn't a legitimate woman.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Birthday Sex
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:07:43 AM

A group of male attendees are being polled to find out how often they have sex. The speaker asks that all men who average sex once per day raise their hands and some 50% or so raise their hands.

She then asks those who have sex once per week to raise their hands and again, a good number of hands are raised.

"Once per month?" Hands raise again... but only a very small number this time.
Noticing one gentlemen anxiously awaiting she asks tentatively, "Once per year?" and he emphatically replies, "Me, me!"

Shocked, the speaker asks, "And why are you excited about that sir?" at which he replies, "Because today is my birthday and today is the day, today IS the day!"


Whereupon his wife, sitting next to him, says "Not NOW you're not!"
You may laugh, but it's a true story.

I've three days that I'd love to be intimate on. Birthday, Christmas and Valantines days. In all my years I've only been able to be intimate on those days once each. Even married, if the day didn't fall on her 8month three week sexual cycle....tough luck.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 44 (view)
 
How to prevent THIS type of hurt?
Posted: 11/6/2009 7:47:49 AM
In the hypotical example...Jane is playing Jon like a stradivarius.

If married, at once, see an attourney and start the divorice proceedings. Do not pass GO do not collect $200. She'll get everything anyway, but you'll at least get a clean break and can start a brand new ,better life without her.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN?
Posted: 11/6/2009 7:41:11 AM
It's true, a woman should NOT pursue a man. After all, she might catch him, then what? GASP! She might have to be in a relationship! OMG...shudders! She might have to show some emotion, or or maybe, Heavon forbid, affection!

Nope, no, nada, nyet....women should never pursue a man.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 22 (view)
 
She's a rock wall...
Posted: 11/6/2009 7:25:35 AM

can I get any advice on what she may be thinking?


She's thinking..."ha, I've hooked another sucker. One more soul for my Master."

Get out of there quick. She's never going to be there for you, you will always have to be there for her. You'll give...she'll take and take and take and....well, you get the picture.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 117 (view)
 
What's the upside to being over 50 and single
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:50:09 AM
Nobody complains when you drool into your oatmeal?
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:47:58 AM


Thank you BDJ!

Nailed it in one.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 394 (view)
 
Do men really like submissive women?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:07:44 AM
"Do men really like submissive women? "

Only on Wednesdays.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
My life has been turned upside down!
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:17:47 AM
The baby was planned? By both? Or just by you?
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
My life has been turned upside down!
Posted: 11/5/2009 8:07:05 AM
So, which party did not use protection?
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:56:10 AM
Okay, I'll tell you what you're wanting to hear....stay with this guy, you've found your 'soulmate' the love of your life. His little temper tantrums are just soooooo cute!

Do I mean it?

Hell no! Do us all a favor and change your username to.......Doormat!
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Why do women over analyze old relationships ?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:47:24 AM

Women tend not to be raised with the quality of autonomy in their thinking, and so they rely on other people for permission to be right about something.




Oh, this is going to be fun!
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Why to worry about when to give sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:14:34 AM

Why to worry about when to give sex?


When to GIVE sex?? How magnanimous of you.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
I miss the boy...
Posted: 11/5/2009 7:09:07 AM
OP, please, get out of this guys life. You only did what you did because you have a need to be 'needed'. Someone who will come in and try to make things all pretty.

I call BS! You've impacted what, 4 guy's lives now? And are wanting to do more damage?

Please, please (damn, why am I being polite?), leave this guy and his family alone!!
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
She has changed...
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:53:17 AM

Women aren't used to being turned down for sexual activities and aren't nearly as cool about it as guys.


Someone please carve this in granite somewhere.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Wow.....wow....
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:43:58 AM
Only 15 months? That's just a little over a year!

Big deal.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Whats wrong if you dont feel like having sex?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:42:07 AM
Let's see...if you're a woman, it means that it's your body and you decide when you will be pleasured and when you will not. You're entitled.


If you're a man it means you have E.D., have no passion, are toying with her affections and can't "man-up" to her standards.
(and all it really was, was he was just tired.)
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
should i try to win her back?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:34:00 AM

should i try to win her back?


"win" her back? She's not a prize. Besides, you already told her to go to him, so why cry now? She's jumped back on the "abuse cycle", so don't let her run you over with it.

Run while you still can.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 31 (view)
 
omg that explains alot!!
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:17:35 AM
"Stumbled" on the information? Not bloody likely. Just how many days did it take you to "stumble" on it? 5? 10? What other little tidbits did you 'stumble' across to hit him with? You've got them all lined up on the dining room table, all ready for when he walks in the door.

Yes, please do tell him about the information you found. Then he can make an honest and intelligent decision...to leave your snooping butt and find an honest woman.

but...that's just my opinion.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 75 (view)
 
What if the woman makes more money than the man.
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:12:09 AM
I say good for her if she has money, hope she enjoys it.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 57 (view)
 
caught my fiance having cyber sex and text sex with other women
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:09:53 AM
Text sex and cyber sex.

I'm guessing that he got her computer AND phone pregnant?
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Why do women over analyze old relationships ?
Posted: 11/5/2009 6:08:59 AM
They analyze the relationship so they can make sure they have noted every single "fault" the guy has/had. Then they can cry, beating their chests on how they were wronged, while heaping scathing diatribes about how terrible he was and how much he was a player and how much that proves that all men are evil. Then will continue with extolling her virtues and how superior she was to him all along.

It's called a man bashing pity party. You see them on here all the time.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 430 (view)
 
Sarcasm red flag or not?
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:52:26 AM
Occasional sarcasm is okay.
Constant sarcasm is not.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 214 (view)
 
Love,Quality of life and who pays
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:52:52 AM

Can you imagine some wife saying this? "If I was with a man who was financially dependent on me, it would make my skin crawl. If he became ill, I'd have him in a nursing home so fast that you'd see my the soles of my running shoes smoke!! Hopefully his kids can pay for his keep. I'm not!!!"



Yet, I've heard almost these exact same words from women.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Frustration.Confusion.Help?
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:21:48 AM
Most interesting...

You know how they say once a cheater always a cheater?


So now....if you chose employment over a relationship....you're a cheater?
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
A Question of Jealousy -
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:06:46 AM
Jealousy? Nope. Not going there.

I decided, early in life, that jealousy was something that was illogical. After all, if SHE wants HIM then nothing you can do will bring her back. If she's doing something with him to MAKE me jealous....then I don't really need her.

If she loves me, nothing he can do will sway her. If she wants him, nothing I can do will sway her.

So what's the point of being jealous?
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Is marriage necessary for a healthy LTR?
Posted: 11/4/2009 11:02:45 AM
Is marriage necessary for a healthy LTR?


God, I hope not.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
A different look on the Nice syndrome.
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:35:58 AM
So...you're name should be "jack-d-dripper"???? (just pokin' fun)
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Old Fashioned Popcorn Balls
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:32:43 AM
Nope, no salt needed.

Yes, I live in a rural area where everyone still knows everyone else. (for the most part). Yes there are still home made goodies given out. But it is BECAUSE everyone knows everyone else.

One of the advantages of country living. lol.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why some men never want marry?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:57:06 AM
Nowadays, if I know someone who is getting married, I always ask him..."Getting married, eh? Want me to just shoot you now?"
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Does reading the forums make you more or less cynical about dating?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:54:30 AM
Nah, I was already cynical about dating.

But the forums have taught me a lot of things:

1- Man bad/woman good
2- all men (most men) are scum and only out for sex.
3- Men are liars (though the common spelling of that tends to be liers)
4- Men are cheap
5- Men cannot be trusted
6- Woman bad/man good
7-all women (most women) are scum and will never have sex again
8- Women are liars (though spelling differs)
9- Women are cheap
10-Women cannot be trusted.

Basically the forums have taught me what I already knew. Men and women are......people.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Guys, Is It An Urban Myth Or Are Women With Tats Easier Than Women With None?
Posted: 11/4/2009 7:27:47 AM
Women easy? Yep, another myth.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What is it with men & sexually liberated women
Posted: 11/3/2009 12:48:09 PM

I'm going to say sorry for generalising but in my experience men dream of a woman that is sexualy liberated


Actually, we dream that once in a relationship, the woman will actually HAVE sex with us. Even though it's used as a joke, there does seem to be a link between wedding cake and dimished/vanished sex drive.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Old Fashioned Popcorn Balls
Posted: 11/2/2009 12:50:02 PM
Me? Mean? (insert image of twirling moustache) lol.

My son and I made 4 batches of popcorn balls for Halloween. 43 popcorn balls!

And their still good! I had parents come up to the door for one, too.
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Let's take a walk in the woods
Posted: 11/2/2009 11:27:41 AM
OP, in general, I agree. BOTH genders need to take precautions. That being said, however, OP, take a gander at sooooo many of the ladies profiles. Guess what is really big on their "first date" in many profiles?

Long walks in woods, hiking trails, long walks at the beach and many have talking a long drive, especially if he has a motorcycle.

Were this just once or twice, I wouldn't think a thing about it. But there are many profiles that state such.

These women may be intelliget,but they're not too wise.

"Intelligence means you know how and why it's raining. Wisdom means you know to go inside when it IS raining."
 scottdehart
Joined: 6/5/2009
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Mature Adults in their Sexual Prime ??!!!
Posted: 11/2/2009 10:22:05 AM

So ladies and gents, give a 30 something a window into the future - Is sex better? Relationships better?


If I ever have a relationship or sex again, I'll let you know.
 
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