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 Author Thread: Guys that shaved their arms and back...what do you think?
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Guys that shaved their arms and back...what do you think?
Posted: 4/2/2013 7:16:50 AM
Meh, I trim my body hair closely since I cycle and work out at the gym. I couldn't care less if a woman doesn't like it. If she wants to judge me for something so trivial, she's not for me any way.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 89 (view)
 
Date With Single Mom Went Horribly Wrong
Posted: 4/1/2013 7:35:44 PM
I had a woman bring her two grown daughters and both of her grandchildren (one an infant) on the first date, and it was my birthday too. I went on three dates total with her, and every one of them included the grandkids.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Do you give second chances?
Posted: 3/2/2013 10:24:59 PM
Generally no, but it would depend on the circumstances. If I feel like I'm someone's second choice though, not a chance in h*ll.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Friend Zoned
Posted: 3/2/2013 10:19:55 PM
If I am attracted to a lady and she doesn't feel the same, our association ends immediately. I won't stay around like a dog begging for scraps. I would guess that many people who say they want to remain friends, actually mean they want to part on friendly terms, but don't want to stay in touch.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 40 (view)
 
No, you can't bring a friend.
Posted: 2/7/2013 9:23:21 PM
I went on a first date, and the lady brought both of her grown daughters, and two grandchildren. Went out twice more, and the grandchildren came both times. After that I never called her again.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 51 (view)
 
40+ Never Married And No Kids--What's Wrong With That?
Posted: 2/5/2013 5:04:00 PM
I'm the same as you OP, and I see less wrong with us than someone who has been married (and failed at it) multiple times.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Handles it
Posted: 2/3/2013 3:13:37 PM
"I'm living with my parents until I move for a job out of state in a few months. Until I'm looking for a guy to spend free time with. Of course he will have to pay for everything since I'm saving all of my money for the move."
"I only eat seafood that is fried." (She looked like a beluga whale)
"I still live in the house with my ex-husband, but we aren't together."
"I know you came all of the way to Ukraine to meet me, and was going to be dependent on me as a translator while here, but I do not feel an interest any more (left me to fend for myself)
"I'm height/weight proportionate" (She sure was, and not in a good way)
"I'm sorry I didn't answer the phone sooner, but I just had my gallbladder removed the other day." (She actually had)
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Why POF should NOT be totally free
Posted: 1/21/2013 1:53:57 PM
I've had about the same amount of luck (not much) on free and paid sites. When my Match.com membership expires next month, I probably won't renew.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Better looking in person? Or in pictures?
Posted: 1/21/2013 1:37:57 PM
Pretty much all of my dates have either looked the same or better in person, luckily. I think I look the same as well, and have never heard any complaints when I've met the women.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Needs the approval of friends before being in a relationship
Posted: 1/12/2013 12:16:52 PM
Sounds like a woman who can't think for herself, and must have validation from many different people before making important decisions.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
More of a Not Dating Experience
Posted: 1/12/2013 12:15:04 PM
It's not just men who do this kind of thing. I was talking to a woman for awhile, and trying to set up a meeting. Out of the blue she messaged me to tell me that she was going back to her ex, who was a former meth addict. The kicker was that he was the father of her 6 y/o daughter, and she wanted to give the girl the best chance for a "normal" family life. I told her not to come crying to me when that comes back to bite her in the butt. Guess I dodged a bullet there, luckily.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 1/6/2013 6:24:25 PM
I paid twice that amount with Matchmaker International some years ago, and I wouldn't advise anyone to use them either for the same reasons.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Confirming dates?
Posted: 1/6/2013 6:08:46 PM
If you had done that to me, you wouldn't have had to worry about future dates. I would have lost your number immediately.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 539 (view)
 
People who just write how are you
Posted: 12/25/2012 9:31:07 AM
When I respond to a woman's ad on here, although rarely, I always try to mention that I read her profile, and list things we have in common. However the majority of women who respond to me, just say hi. Nothing more. I rarely respond back to that message, as it seems to me to be a lazy response.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 24 (view)
 
No one ever talks to me again
Posted: 12/8/2012 9:28:43 AM
I don't know what your personality is like, but you are a very pretty lady, so it can't be that I wouldn't think. I don't know what those guys are thinking.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 44 (view)
 
posting a pic that is not you.....aarrrrrggghhh
Posted: 11/18/2012 7:08:41 PM
"Do women do this sh1t too??? Who would not figure it out the minute they met you??"

Yes they do, and it was done to me. Then she couldn't understand why I dropped all communication. She posted pics of some model. When she finally sent her real pic, well let's just say she hadn't missed many meals.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
 
How do you handle the convos where...
Posted: 11/18/2012 10:29:10 AM
"He is nervous and is just talking to much.
He is a man and is hard wired to try to impress you.
He doesn't want to come across as a creep by asking you too many personal questions.
He is truly self absorbed.
Men don't get as many opportunities to talk and he is enjoying sharing with you."

I've been guilty of numbers one and five in the past--especially the first one. Blasted nerves get in the way. I have been on some dates though where I felt pressure to monopolize the conversation because the woman always gave very short answers to any questions I asked her, and just sat there like a bump on a log.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
dating without pictures
Posted: 11/11/2012 1:02:50 PM
Nope. Been burned before that way, but never again.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Are you still a big kid at Christmas?
Posted: 11/10/2012 10:33:15 PM
Man, some of you are debbie downers. I love the Christmas season. All of the movies, Christmas specials, pretty lights, etc. I don't care about the commercialization aspect because I don't have a SO with whom to share the good times. I do see my family every Christmas, and enjoy the dinner we have. Not to mention seeing family members who live far away.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Checking Your Cellphone on the Date
Posted: 11/10/2012 12:47:05 PM
I leave my phone in the car when I go on a date. Problem solved. I'm with the OP. I would think it was rude too unless she had children at home.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
woulld you date a woman who is not financially stable or unable to pay for babby sitter for date?
Posted: 11/3/2012 10:32:04 AM
That's nothing. I met a girl for a first date in a big city a few hours away. Unbeknownst to me she had rented a limo for the night. Imagine my surprise when the limo driver asked me for my share of the cost---300 bucks. Like the young, naive person I was, I stopped at an ATM to get it. Of course I was p*ssed, but it put me on the spot. If it happened today she would be paying the whole cost herself.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Do You Do Drugs??
Posted: 10/25/2012 4:38:07 PM
Never have, never will, and wouldn't knowingly date someone who did.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Are there any lawyers or doctors on this site?
Posted: 10/23/2012 2:42:52 PM
I am a Kinesiotherapist working at a V.A. hospital. I only had one incident occur when I was dating because the lady knew one of my patients. I told her I couldn't divulge any info. about him, and she understood. I don't have to worry about dating patients though. The majority of mine are WWII male veterans.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 635 (view)
 
older guys younger women
Posted: 10/13/2012 9:45:03 AM
I certainly don't mind dating younger women, and have done so when they show interest. It's tough to find a woman close to my age who still looks decent since I live in the fattest state in the nation. The rare ones who do look good in their 40's and 50's are VERY picky.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Dating more than one person ?
Posted: 10/11/2012 6:47:55 PM
Hey, at least she told you about the other guy. I don't ask a woman I ask out if she is a multiple dater, but if I do find out, I lose her number immediately. No hard feelings, but we just aren't compatible.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Not Again!
Posted: 10/10/2012 7:14:57 PM
Next time, tell them you forgot to inform them that you have Mono.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Short attention span? Time between msg and meet
Posted: 9/17/2012 5:35:18 PM
I will admit that if it takes four or five days for a woman to get back to me after we have emailed a couple of times, my interest level drops dramatically unless I am aware there is a good reason. I get the feeling I am her second choice.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 49 (view)
 
You're Hot
Posted: 8/29/2012 1:35:15 PM
I get a little embarrassed when a woman calls me hot, but uncomfortable? Heck no!
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Excuse for no 2nd date
Posted: 8/29/2012 12:52:58 PM
This "you remind me of my ex" sentiment is strange to me. Just because someone looks the same doesn't mean they are the same person. I would date someone who looks like me exes or my sister since I know they are different people.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 33 (view)
 
The accidental boob graze
Posted: 8/25/2012 9:48:41 PM
I've never done it either. Never considered it.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Not having a social circle of friends sure hasn't helped, anyone else have this problem?
Posted: 8/19/2012 7:39:41 PM
Man, this thread hits home for me as well. I don't have any close friends either. I had plenty when I was in the military, but all the people I know know are my co-workers, and they are married, and sedentary. I'm a shy guy, and it makes meeting women difficult when you have no one around for moral support.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Dating Snafu - MONOLOGUES
Posted: 8/11/2012 10:52:59 PM
He could be like me. I get nervous on first dates, and talk too much for that reason--especially if I'm attracted to the lady. Not because of ego. I usually get more relaxed by the second date, so maybe he would too.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people
Posted: 8/1/2012 5:57:16 PM
I've had women tell me I am attractive, but it doesn't matter. Shyness plays no favorites.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Quirks & habits that make me cringe!
Posted: 7/29/2012 10:44:50 AM
"people who fart and laugh and are actually proud of the sound and smell...."

Ah, I see you've met my brother. :-)
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
No job, no ambition and poor grammar... Is this the norm?
Posted: 7/28/2012 1:59:51 PM
I call it internet ebonics, and it is a pet peeve of mine as well. I hate to see an email with ur instead of you're or your expressed. I can kind of understand if it is a text, but not in an email.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
introvert/extrovert
Posted: 7/14/2012 5:41:52 PM
I'm a shy introvert too, but I can talk fine when I get to know people. It's made meeting women difficult though since I have no wing-man.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 61 (view)
 
age, appearance and what you think
Posted: 7/4/2012 5:45:27 PM
I'll be 47 next month, and probably look close to that age. Luckily a lot of women have told me they thought I was younger, so what do I know?
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 87 (view)
 
Would U @ MiddleAge B willing 2 make a change in your appearance 2B more successful w/dates?
Posted: 7/1/2012 9:21:22 PM
I try to dress fashionably, exercise regularly, and maintain a healthy weight. I like to do it for me, but I would be lying if I said I didn't also do it to attract the right woman as well.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 37 (view)
 
the vanishing man
Posted: 6/24/2012 1:35:04 PM
Oh yeah. It happens to men too. A lady did it to me recently.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Why do men delete their profiles just when it gets interesting?
Posted: 6/14/2012 4:56:43 AM
Ha. It's not just men. I had a lady do it to me last week. She contacted me first, and we were messaging back and forth. She seemed to be genuinely interested. All of a sudden, poof. She was gone. No explanation or anything. Just deleted her account.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 39 (view)
 
attractiveness difference
Posted: 6/13/2012 6:30:13 PM
Don't know which guys the OP is meeting, but I can tell you that I don't have that kind of ego. I don't pursue younger women because I automatically assume they aren't interested in someone my age. I have no problems with it if they indicate initial interest though, and a few have.

Oh, and I think the OP is cute. I'd love to meet a woman who likes sci-fi stuff. Haven't found one yet, unfortunately.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Back-Up Plan for a bad date?
Posted: 6/11/2012 5:03:28 PM
I sweat it until the end. If I asked someone out, I owe it to them to be there for the whole date. I've had some blind dates where I wish I was a little more callous though.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
whats with walks on the beach
Posted: 6/11/2012 4:52:21 PM
I live two miles from the beach, and can walk on it whenever I want. I've only done it with one girl I dated though. If I'm near the beach, I'm on my bicycle working on a 10 mile ride.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Giving a guy flowers....
Posted: 6/11/2012 4:46:35 PM
I don't care that much for flowers. However if a woman I liked sent me some, I would make sure she knew that the gesture was appreciated. I would be just as happy with a new book, or a back rub when I get home from lifting weights.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
What should I think of this girl, she comes to see me 6 hours, but wont kiss or touch me
Posted: 6/6/2012 6:06:31 PM
Heck if she's shy, send her to me. I am too, so we would have something in common. It wouldn't bother me to take things slowly.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Quirks & habits that make me cringe!
Posted: 6/1/2012 4:57:08 PM
I'm a healthcare worker, so it takes a lot to gross me out. I've been puked on, peed on, and crapped on at some points in the past.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Quirks & habits that make me cringe!
Posted: 6/1/2012 4:44:20 PM
People who drive the speed limit or below in the left lane, and refuse to switch to the right lane.
People who don't brush their teeth, and/or have bad breath
People who leave water all over the bathroom counter or on the floor after getting out of the shower
people who dip snuff, and spit in their can in front of me
People who blast their c(rap) music so loudly that it shakes my car sitting next to them at a red light
People whose dog barks all night, and keeps me from getting any sleep
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 40 (view)
 
rejections after 1st date
Posted: 5/27/2012 10:13:21 AM
We men get rejected quite often after first dates too. I've gotten a lot of the "you're a nice guy but" emails the next day. I'm a shy guy, which I admit, so I sometimes talk a little too much on first dates due to nervousness. I am always much calmer the longer I see someone, but some women often don't want to progress past the initial meeting. Oh well.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
What should I do?
Posted: 5/27/2012 10:07:38 AM
1Wild Hare, if you keep bombarding the board with this same message in multiple threads, you won't have to worry about it. You'll be a candidate to have your profile deleted.
 lobo65
Joined: 6/9/2009
Msg: 26 (view)
 
What should I do?
Posted: 5/27/2012 10:06:08 AM
I've never understood the belief some women have that initiating contact means they are desperate. I'm flattered when they do, and it makes me feel like they are genuinely interested.
 
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