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 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Help a mug fix thier profile?
Posted: 9/10/2018 1:33:20 AM
Also, your profile says non-smoker yet you are smoking in that 2nd pic. Women like consistency.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Help a mug fix thier profile?
Posted: 9/10/2018 1:32:08 AM
I agree with get rid of the 2nd pic (and all of the above), just my reason is that you look very young in it.
Your profile is nice but vague, i would elaborate a little more on just about everything. You do have a nice smile though so shouldn't be too hard to get people to reply.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Women Don't Know What They Want
Posted: 9/9/2018 9:26:34 AM

ComedyisLife1 "If your going to date, then leave the baggage behind".

I understand about the drama. Yet on the other side, if you want NO drama....then that just means you may be having dinner by yourself. I feel that if someone can't listen to the bad, then they don't deserve the good. I have had some things happen to me, and just needed someone to listen, not fix.
Isn't this all about, "What you really want", and to heck with what your going thru?
I usually don't share myself with someone who has no time to listen to me.


Completely agree.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 9/8/2018 9:27:45 PM
Ok. So we had fun night out a couple of days ago, that was much needed and brought us closer together.
Tonight he's admitted he really wants to have sex with me but scared to in case he has another heart attack and dies. Anything i can do now?
:(
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 176 (view)
 
why woman like eating a pussy more than sex
Posted: 9/8/2018 9:11:41 PM
Probably your****is small and she doesn't wanna touch it.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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:)
Posted: 9/8/2018 1:02:02 PM

Feirene, LOL I didn't recognize you! Read your profile. I am very happy for you. I know you have had some doubts but I hope all that is behind you now. Congrats!


Thanks. I'm fairly happy, taking it slower and enjoying things more now.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Lack of interest.
Posted: 9/7/2018 4:43:00 AM
I don't think there's anything wrong with you, you have expectations of certain feelings for the one you love (and most relationships seem to back that there tend to be special/more exclusive feelings we have for romantic partners), so it would seem normal that you haven't developed them yet as you might be picky. Love at first site isn't real also, so those 'feelings' people get when initially attracted to someone may not happen for everyone. I personally wouldn't expect to fall for someone within a few days and i'd probably also lose interest quicker than you if i felt there was nothing there.

If being lonely is distressing you then maybe make more friends to fill your time and make you happy? Being lonely can mean we see potential in anything/anyone also because we are desperate (then losing interest when we the rose tinted glasses fall off), it can leave us vulnerable to abuse so be careful.

I have a lot of nice friends online.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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80s songs + 2000s electro = heaven
Posted: 9/6/2018 3:11:02 AM
I have become overwhelmed by the amount of music in here and that's never happened before now lol. Gonna shove a calming 2010s kpop in here, the 2nd one is dancey.

The most beautiful song, i prefer remixes but this is the original: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7C2z4GqqS5E BTS (방탄소년단) 'FAKE LOVE' Official MV
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hKEl_q7wSDU BIGBANG - Bae Bae | Areia Kpop Remix
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Constructively destroy my account for me please
Posted: 9/5/2018 5:38:33 PM
You look like a nice guy, this can be good coz loads of women do want one. Your headline is funny. I'm not young so don't understand the snapchat thing (even if i do recognise it).

Maybe check out local meets and events and try to meet people in person? I feel like someone your age would only find quick hookups online? Or as you've found out scammers. Maybe use a meetup site instead of this place too, like they have groups for hobbies and interests rather than dating.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 9/5/2018 5:27:29 PM

Cool,if that doesn't work for him he should find a doctor who specialists in using the injectable meds like caverject,bi-mix and tri-mix.


Yep, we will probably try other stuff at some point if that doesn't work and thank you for trying to help (and thanks to everyone else too). I'm not too bothered at this time now, realised it's quite selfish of me to be pushing for sex when he is already doing things to try and rectify the situation.

And yes @norwegianguy456 it is young. He has a congenital heart condition, had a couple of strokes in his 20s and then a heart attack in his early 30s, he's been told by his consultant he should be dead already. I like him as a person overall so far. I know there are some life changes he probably should implement and his nurse has told him this as well, i won't force them for the sake of sex because idk how long he's got left and it's his life anyway although i do try to encourage him to look after himself better sometimes because i'd like him be around longer. I'm surprised they even gave him viagra? He seemed ok after taking it though even if it didn't work properly.

SAA (and other forms of support) are great for me personally. They help me feel calmer, safe, and grounded, in a world that never felt like that to me.

Mr COL was right, i've worked it out. I spent the past couple of weeks with really bad anxiety but today calmed down and;
One, my body isn't coping with being in a relationship and my brain has gone back to the way i usually do them and isn't getting that i wanted to change. Habits are brought about by emotional states of feeling comfortable and secure, it takes willpower to change them.
Two, sex addicts are selfish fundamentally when it comes to sex.
Three, sex isn't the be all and end all of relationships. He's been making a lot of effort for me (and himself) and that's way more important than riding his penis.

I'm gonna let it drop about the message, he knows i'm not happy with it. I know why he hasn't blocked her on messenger also and it honestly doesn't matter, there's nothing to worry about, can't elaborate though especially not on a public forum but his morals match mine (yes i am a knobhead and admitted to it previously in here also lol).
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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scammers
Posted: 9/4/2018 1:13:15 PM
Not really,you can name and shame because there are no forum admins but it's your word against theirs really and some women are so lonely they are up for being scammed.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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80s songs + 2000s electro = heaven
Posted: 9/4/2018 11:06:07 AM
It was Lilian, thanks. Just love the singing on that song as well as the tune and lyrics. :)
I'm terrible with names though.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 9/4/2018 11:04:49 AM
Yep, realised this last night so we've ordered a pump. I thought they were just for making guys bigger. I did some googling for other ways of sorting out ED and a few results mentioned them.









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 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Advice please?
Posted: 9/4/2018 10:57:08 AM
My dog died of kidney failure too, i took her to the vets because her back legs went and he prescribed her some tablets (4 week course but then dropped it to two weeks, think he knew she would die by then), she didn't take all the tablets even and was dead before then. She was 16 so had a long life and didn't suffer much until a few hours before she died and then i regretted not having her put down before it got that bad.

I wouldn't worry too much about losing 5 lbs either, you can do that in one day due to retaining less water. But i like NY advice about keeping on eating.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 34 (view)
 
80s songs + 2000s electro = heaven
Posted: 9/3/2018 5:04:37 PM
Never even heard of Leave in Silence before now, it's alright. Got me thinking about OMD for some reason even though it doesn't sound like them (might be the thumbnail?)

I love master and servant (even before i understood the lyrics). Here's a version that i found that made me love this band, i actually like a lot of the typical stuff off the gay scene, used to go to gay clubs with my friends as a teen and started liking it then. It is usually upbeat music with good lyrics or emotional ones i think, or just catchy in general.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lorfM37rZkg

I will enjoy that Delta album, sometimes i want relaxing music and stuff like that is enjoyable. I like other slow songs like Question of Lust as well, do love a song they did and the title was a womans name but i can't remember what it's called and it's not showing in the side bar. Youtube usually plays it after this song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stpaq27-V70 but not today. :/
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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My ex boyfriend is spreading nasty rumours about me .. how can I handle this??
Posted: 9/3/2018 4:54:01 PM
Definitely go the police, dunno what they're like in your area but they did prosecute someone who was online harassing my neighbour here.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Loose skin a deal breaker?
Posted: 9/3/2018 2:34:09 PM
Congrats on losing the weight for yourself.
Most guys i know don't care, i've had 5 full term births so a little saggy in places myself. You can hide it with sexy underwear? Some women i know do that, personally i don't care about it so don't bother.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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The 80s, a decade of great music or utter rubbish
Posted: 9/3/2018 2:27:57 PM
About 5 mins i there's a long pause that last about the same length. looking at the playlist there doesn't seem to be a song missing there though, might just be the way it was uploaded? I know sometimes stuff doesn't upload right.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 9/3/2018 11:55:35 AM
His medication causes it, he had a heart attack years ago. He isn't older than me.

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 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 9/3/2018 10:45:06 AM
I kind of know what i'm doing, i am a good communicator and ask a lot of stuff but never thought to ask him why he thinks i'm being sexual or what else i could do so i'm not making it that way.

He's had it years and used viagra before and it only worked once and that's after the dosage went up, he's on meds that can give you ED and his nurse confirmed that so i know he's not lying. Even i'm starting to wonder if i can be arsed with it all tbh.

Going to an SAA meeting in a bit so i may feel differently after that. Might even be up for not wanting to be sexual until i do trust him, that'd be a first lol.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Is Casual dating... not a relationship????
Posted: 9/3/2018 8:35:42 AM
isn't seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment = Casual dating/No Commitment

it's pretty plain that casual implies non-commitment.

also most people (women) tend not to be interested in sex chat coz it's boring and guy usually goes on about his penis like she is just available to pleasure him, boring as.
friends is a relationship though, but nobody only has on friend they talk to, especially not online. so yeah again no actual exclusivity or commitment is the word the site uses here.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Do you reply/talk to guys out of courtesy?
Posted: 9/3/2018 8:31:26 AM
I wait for guys to ask me out, if they do the chasing i prefer that.
If i was talking to someone online and not officially dating them or in a relationship with them officially then i would be up for seeing others until it became official. I know not all women are like this and prefer to date one person at a time but i don't commit to someone now unless they are up for commitment after being messed about in the past (basically guys imply relationship but there's no real sign of commitment from their side).
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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SCAMMERS
Posted: 9/3/2018 8:27:35 AM
i doubt rich guys would even be POF, they have the money for better stuff than here.
i did join a millionaires dating website years ago but my profile got deleted coz i am not a millionaire.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Advice please?
Posted: 9/3/2018 8:25:27 AM
:) i was more tired last night so couldn't be bothered @playindirt i don't think it matters anyway as it applies to me and maybe not the OP.

yes issues have remained for me despite everything, i don't think they will ever go away but with experience (and i'm also finding this past year with support) you can find ways to deal with it that are more functional. sometimes you feel like you have sorted an issue as well and then something triggers you and you don't even realise there was still something wrong, i don't end up back at square one anyway so that's good.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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The 80s, a decade of great music or utter rubbish
Posted: 9/3/2018 8:02:07 AM
That album is so relaxing, just what i needed today. :)
One song seems to be missing, probably for copyright reasons?

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 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 9/3/2018 7:58:47 AM
Thanks Sienna, i have taken to pressure off him sexually and said that even if we're kissing or i'm stroking him that i do know there's no sex gonna happen, like i said he sees kissing me as sexual (coz i act horny apparently, same for if i'm stroking him he thinks i am trying to seduce him) but he still does show me more affection that way and with cuddles. I dunno, i do think full on deep snogging with someone can lead to sex but it doesn't have to so i don't get why doing that would be sexual? Maybe i need tips on how to show affection without giving off signals that i want sex? I do actually want sex while doing this stuff because i always want it but i did think i could be affectionate without being sexual.

And yes we seemed very compatible from talking and being logical, then we met and spent time together so feelings started creeping in and things changed (for both of us, only sexually and part of it is because he can't perform but also he said he doesn't want anyone else to sleep with me -i actually feel like i don't want to sleep with anyone else anyway so i'm probably monogamous as i'm like this in all relationships and not just with him but i know i won't cope without any sex at all). Also i am distancing myself from him a little emotionally right now while i figure out if he's a liar, we live an hour from each other so this is easy to do.

I think we are more friends right now anyway, i have never started a relationship this way before and actually was hoping to do that firstly because, from SAA saying it isn't a good idea and you should refrain from sex for a while when you first get into a relationship, and also because i feel this is likely to be true as well that you should be friends first and anything more comes later. I am hypersexual and he turns me on a lot, i almost see him being impotent as a blessing but it's also frustrating and something we will have to deal with because i am hypersexual, it's probably why i'm more focusing now on this because it's something i am way more knowledgeable about (and feel safer discussing) than i do about liars, manipulators and so on.

I was wondering about dating and why we do it before i left the forums not long back, this is because i was questioning how relationships should start with someone. It probably does seem like a hassle, there's probably a lesson i need to learn from all this though and i will work it out.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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The 80s, a decade of great music or utter rubbish
Posted: 9/3/2018 5:43:46 AM
That's a shame it isn't showing up anything, well you might not even like it so maybe not a shame for you.
Insight (Organic Mix) Remastered 2010 - Depeche Mode
Lerchen 1877

13K views11 months ago that's the result i was trying to link to.

I'm just in the mood for DM remixes so gonna follow that link and anything that comes up in the sidebar after it, thanks. I've not listened to abums, i tend to leave youtube running itself in the background when on my laptop and usually happy with what it sends my way, some nice live stuff has appeared sometimes but i can't remember what songs now.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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The 80s, a decade of great music or utter rubbish
Posted: 9/3/2018 5:00:47 AM
I liked a little bit of Depeche Mode when they were out but not a lot by them (first single i bought was See You) but i started really loving their stuff last year, especially when i found a load of remixes on youtube.
This one https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4loyv59AGPA sounds weird at first because of an additional sound in it but by the time it gets to 3.36 i really love the song and wish there was just a really long version of that part of the song.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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The 80s, a decade of great music or utter rubbish
Posted: 9/2/2018 10:45:05 AM
I have found a DJ soda and a couple of mixes she's done on youtube, they're nice and upbeat. Probably gonna go to sleep soon, really tired tonight.

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 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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The 80s, a decade of great music or utter rubbish
Posted: 9/2/2018 9:08:09 AM
Lol, that's a good tune as well, kind of fun.
Going back to kpop remixes now, just in the mood for them and have been for a day or two now.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Advice please?
Posted: 9/2/2018 9:07:05 AM
fair enough @playindirt, i sort of have a different experience but can't be bothered to explain (sorry) and do mostly agree with you.

as for the coil i had one implanted after 2 births and it still hurt, removing it i felt nothing though so that was good. it was the best contraception i used. but everyones body can react in it's own way too, so dunno what to recommend. rhythm method actually worked well for me also.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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The 80s, a decade of great music or utter rubbish
Posted: 9/2/2018 7:01:06 AM
Got caught up in a world of Scott brown and Dj trashy thanks to the Q-tex link, looking forward to Altern8 later, used to love them. Thanks @spectrallight
:)
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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The 80s, a decade of great music or utter rubbish
Posted: 9/1/2018 4:03:38 PM
80s were pretty good, i prefer electronic stuff and the 90s seemed to have really good music then, rave, house, euphoria, usually with strong voices singing or being sampled. Of course i like vince clark and stuff like that from the 80s too. I like a lot of the last decades industrial techno too and this decades stuff seems to get better than that even.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 9/1/2018 3:54:59 PM
I'm not only interested in sex, that's why. We're compatible in other ways as well plus did seem to be good for each other (he's already helped with my disabled son and i get on with his daughter who has issues and she opens up to me).

Plus he's kind of given me permission to have sex with other people anyway, which i will do if he's definitely ok with it. I was hoping we'd have 3sums occasionally and similar like this in the future but idk now, hopefully he genuinely likes the idea of cuckolding.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Advice please?
Posted: 9/1/2018 11:43:53 AM
It's not that simple when it's your parents though, they're supposed to love you, they shape the way love and care is and set some kind of cruddy standard if they are abusive. I've seen some of the other OPs posts and her mum seems to be toxic.

I spent up until the age of about 23 seeking my parents 'approval and love' when they weren't even capable of giving it to me. By the age of 28 i had met my first truly loving partner and when he showed me real love that was the day i decided what my parents had to offer wasn't worth shit and i went no contact/minimal contact with them
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 9/1/2018 11:37:37 AM
Yeah we've done other stuff @Julystorm and tried sex but he wasn't hard at all (he can still cum while soft though) so he got viagra and that helped a bit but still he wasn't hard enough, i did think about****rings for making him harder but we haven't tried those yet (not sure he even wants to try them coz of his feeling inadequate already plus the nurse was concerned that viagra didn't work properly and thinks he needs to get that sorted and checked out so i won't bother with that for now because if one does work he might not bother getting checked out). He is showing me more affection since we can't have sex but he also complains that i am horny when kissing him lol, i did explain i'm fine with being horny and don't expect sex just because we're kissing and that i also need that affection but don't want to force it onto him.

As for sex i have always had persistent arousal, so know how to deal with that by now as it's been 30 yrs. Always been able to find sex and been in relationships with highly sexed men so it hasn't really been a problem. Last year i started going to the meetings as it did become out of control and i was messing up because of it, now i'm going back there because i'm not used to starting a relationship without constantly having sex with the person (10 hr+ sex sessions are good for bonding)...but SAA can help me form relationships without being sexual, i do have friends but i don't want to have sex with them so that's easy enough.

@ohenryx i'm worried that i'm with another liar or even worse another psycho. Like i said i don't even care if they are friends and chatting but he said she was blocked on his phone (and she is but only for calls/texts and not on the messenger app so not really blocked is she). I wasn't snooping, we had to be up for an appointment and his phone was next to me so i looked what time it was when i woke up and noticed notifications on his phone and one was from her. He did offer me his phone password when we was arguing but i declined, i don't feel like i need that.
And he has played with me, even offered to buy me some toys to do it as well. I know my hypersexuality is a problem here. I know he's pissed off because he can't get hard and that puts him off doing stuff though, like i said he feels inadequate even though he can make me cum without his penis. Not sure what i'm supposed to do though? And tbh i kind of get that if i was gonna be sexual and nothing much was happening for me then i wouldn't bother doing anything. I have also asked him if he even wants sex, he said he does and he is making some effort to try and make sure it happens.


Why doesn't you boyfriend just go to a good doctor that specializes in the treatment of Erectile Dysfunction?

He has been single for 4 years (and was sexual with the other person mentioned in the OP but they never had sex coz she never wanted it apparently), but before her viagra was working for him so it 'was' sorted as far as he was concerned (idk if he's lying about not having sex with her though but apparently they didn't). He made an appointment to see someone about this after we went to the nurse this week, he was hoping his nurse would increase the amount of viagra she would give him but she decided he should go for a general check up and look at other options because she is concerned.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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What is holding you back
Posted: 9/1/2018 3:25:13 AM
A lot of people on here are not single and are looking to cheat or escape a relationship by hopping into a new one (where they will continue the cycle).
I was pursuing a relationship personally, found that most single people are cruddy and so gave up but also stayed for the forums until they got on my tits.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
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Can you trust married women?
Posted: 9/1/2018 3:21:35 AM
She might be lonely and feels like you'd make a good friend? She may even work in telelsales and get money for your number, idk.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 9/1/2018 3:14:59 AM
He was on about buying me sex toys this week (i already have loads so told him not to bother, plus i want sex with him and not sex with toys). I also went back to SAA since getting in the relationship and feeling like my sex drive is out of control. So i know i have issues there. It's also why i was seeking to cuckold someone because at my age i did expect men my own age not to be able to keep up with me as well.
He said he hadn't had sex for 4 years and expected to need viagra to have sex, seems his condition has worsened since then though as he got viagra from his GP and it didn't really do anything much. We went to the Dr since arguing about sex (he had a meds review with his nurse anyway so he asked me if i wanted to go with him) and i asked her some questions and he's being referred to someone to see if there's anything else that can be done.
It was after this appointment that he said if i had to sleep with other people then he would have to deal with it, i'm going to continue with SAA coz i feel like i am pressuring him too much for sex while he is not capable and more because it makes him feel inadequate not being able to perform. I do think he's already accepted that we may not be able to have sex and i have not yet. I'm not opposed to cuckolding him, but i'm still in the infatuated stages of the relationship so far and definitely would rather have sex with him. I may also never want to cuckold him but we'll have to see how things pan out from here, does seem unlikely i will not want to at this stage but i have googled and there's quite a lot of options to explore still before we consider this.

I don't think it's messed up to have multiple sex partners, so long as we're honest and i was from the start (and having enjoyed this stuff in casual relationships i did not expect my feelings to change, although i'm aware my hypersexuality is stronger when single), i think it appealed to him because he has ED so he wasn't lying either. But while he feels bad about not being able to perform i'm unlikely to act on it no matter how tempting that is. We have other options to explore first but my hypersexual side is not very patient.
I am holding back a bit emotionally now but continuing to communicate well with him. We had really long talks that day (set off by 2 arguments instigated by myself) and i more got the idea that he likes to piss this person off. But like someone already said here this means he is not 'done' with her and that this had an effect on our relationship and he doesn't seem concerned about that (i don't think i was being unreasonable to question him either). And other people on another site i use (male) said that by not blocking her on messenger does defeat the purpose of blocking her at all. I'm taking this into consideration and weighing him up still, i also don't like the idea that he enjoys pissing off this person because as his now gf i am a potential person to be pissed off in the future as well (although i would just block him on everything online anyway and not message him or let him be able to message me if he tried to).

Not sure why i am justifying anything really, might be a part of being an abused person, hypersexual, or maybe i like to see things through to the end or maybe i just need to work him out and reassure myself that i am right about him (had to do that with my last ex but once i found i was right i got rid of him).
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Advice please?
Posted: 8/31/2018 9:34:23 AM
I doubt your mum will change, maybe if she wanted to but she seems to get off on scapegoating you instead. Bet she doesn't have digs at the sister who already has had a kid? I also think you should get away from her, she's toxic it seems.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 12 (view)
 
real life things that drive you mad
Posted: 8/31/2018 8:02:45 AM
Lol, nothing phases me. I hit peak insanity decades ago and that helped.
XD
 feirene
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Advice please?
Posted: 8/31/2018 8:01:18 AM
Sorry to see so much invalidation in here.

You know what? I would seek out some support for being disabled because i feel they are saying you'd be a terrible mum for that reason? Scope are a charity that has a forums and they have tips on how to have kids if you are disabled. I know you're not planning on having them yet but at least there's some support and advice there so that's one less thing to worry about (and knowing this stuff also gives you ammo to fight back with if you wish to do that).

I feel like you might be the family scapegoat also, sadly.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 8/31/2018 7:45:53 AM
Not a joke, it was on my profile (on the site i met him on) that i wanted to cuckold someone so the idea has always been there. I think coz he has ED that was a relief to him?
Thing is since i met him i lost interest in that and only want him, he's also said he wouldn't be happy about me having sex with someone else but if i did then he'd have to deal with that (initially, before we met and coupled up we were both happy with the cuckold situation).

I'm tempted to think that if i did sleep with someone else then it'd take the pressure off him sexually and i'd not be as dependent on him too so if he is lying then at least i've not given up too much either.

In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.
Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread. Hmm.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 8/31/2018 6:22:44 AM
He said i can cuck him coz of his ED, if i'm gonna fk this up i may as well do it properly.
Aw i'm kind of sad really but i don't think relationships are for me.

In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread.I know i'm not HQ and don't care.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 52 (view)
 
6 Classes of Single Moms
Posted: 8/30/2018 7:27:08 PM
People tend to put themselves on pedestals and expect others to too, when really they're probably pretty similar to those they're looking down on.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Opinions please, and advice if you can.
Posted: 8/30/2018 7:21:40 PM
She hasn't butted in, he did say he would block her on messenger if i wanted but i felt like i was being jealous then. I know he does things to intentionally upset her coz she stole some of his families stuff and has kept messenger open for that reason, to see if she messages him being paranoid and he buzzes off that. Not sure what to make of him yet, he never messages her back that i can tell but i'm concerned more that he enjoys being a dikc.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Do men and women still speak the same language?
Posted: 8/30/2018 7:15:16 PM
We have a hard time commiting, especially on dating sites where people talk a lot of shit basically.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Is it important for you to date your intellectual equal?
Posted: 8/30/2018 7:07:01 PM
I prefer them to be intelligent in similar and different ways to me, that way we do have interests in common and i can learn from them. Couldn't be with someone dumb, have done that before and found it intolerable.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Ladies: What was it you liked about him?
Posted: 8/30/2018 7:00:49 PM
He'd just come out of hospital, it appealed to my nurturing side.
And he lets me do pee stuff and seems to be into it.
 feirene
Joined: 1/3/2017
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is it possible to re-attract a woman who was once into me, but lost interest?
Posted: 8/30/2018 6:56:21 PM
Maybe if you flirt with her? But you have been a dikc already so if she has standards she probably won't care or be interested anyway.
 
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