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Msg: 6 (view)
What to do with this woman?!
Posted: 10/19/2017 5:51:51 AM
BS thread
you have always had a choice every step of the way
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Msg: 135 (view)
In a relationship but still on dating sites?
Posted: 8/17/2017 10:57:10 AM
hahaha ya some is downright droopy :)
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Msg: 480 (view)
What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart??
Posted: 8/15/2017 12:31:45 PM
for most people ...we deal with a break up in our own way
maybe go out with friends
maybe sit home eat a pint of ice cream
maybe find someone new
maybe take some time to try and figure out what went wrong
and after a period of time...we bounce back again
most of us do this
but then there are some for whatever reasons...cannot seem to bounce back
but stay down and depressed
I hope that if anyone finds themself in this position you would reach out for help
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Msg: 7 (view)
what makes a guy put you through the 3rd degree ?
Posted: 8/15/2017 8:21:53 AM
sounds like a personality disorder to me
I would run
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Msg: 7 (view)
Relationship question
Posted: 8/15/2017 8:18:38 AM
I would question why this person you are with feels the need to hang out with all these women all the time
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Msg: 108 (view)
Do you ever get too 'old' for the forums?
Posted: 8/15/2017 8:05:17 AM
draw of the younger crowd..
some ( not me) are attracted to someone younger
because...they're bodies are younger
and in some cases, in better shape
but with these nubile bodies also comes..
a much younger mind
and they are at a different maturation level
some also like young impressionable minds
might find a younger person easier to influence, control
but what they usually that this young person
is going to act exactly like all their peers do at this age
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Msg: 88 (view)
How many people actually go on a second date ?
Posted: 8/12/2017 1:19:20 PM
good lord amighty there better be chemistry
or I am out the door and this is gonna be a short date
Joined: 5/4/2017
Msg: 132 (view)
In a relationship but still on dating sites?
Posted: 8/12/2017 1:09:44 PM
ya that's some happy horse sh*t right there
if both of you and I do mean both
sat down and decided to be exclusive with one another
and both said that you will take down your profiles
and then you found out he still has his and is checking in
my question first of how did you find this out?
do you have spies that spotted him online?
or were you also tuned in and if so ...why?
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Msg: 41 (view)
food for thought ~ sex cookies
Posted: 8/12/2017 1:01:46 PM
I was married for twenty years
in the beginning I would honestly express what was bothering me thinking that if let him know then we could discuss possible options and come to a compromise, fix it and move on and it would not ...fester Over time, if sitting down and calmly discussing it did not work and things did not change I would pick from my grab bag of womanly charms..try the " honey if you just bag up the garbage everytime it overflows I would be so much happier and when I am so much happier I would be more willing to do ------." When this tactic did not work well then I would pull out the big guns ( red hair for a reason) and nagging, hollering, cursing like a sailor so loud the paint would peel would commence. Did this answer your question? soooo ya I am all for clearing the air :)
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Msg: 28 (view)
Tons of dates but no relationships
Posted: 8/8/2017 6:31:20 AM
seeing that I was not a fly on the wall observing I cannot say what it might be
could be a combination of factors
did you offer to pay or expect her to chip in?
did your eyes follow the waitress or scan the room for pretty chicks when you
were sitting across from her at dinner?
did you concentrate on scoping her out while she was talking
instead of actually listening to what she had to say?
did you bother to clean up, dress up before you showed up?
did you come across as someone who is full of himself and bragging?
did you look her in the eye? compliment her on ...her smile, her eyes, something?
how much time you spend looking at your phone instead of at her?
did you interupt her when she was talking?
space out and not pay attention?
did you come across as needy?
drool in your food as you were looking at her?
everytime she spoke did you say somethign stupid like " you got a perty mouth wish it was on me"
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Msg: 100 (view)
Do you ever get too 'old' for the forums?
Posted: 8/8/2017 6:17:45 AM
mmmm..think ya get too old for a lot of BS that is easy for you spot
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Msg: 18 (view)
found love but, we were too much alike
Posted: 8/8/2017 6:13:53 AM
meeting of the minds baby...meeting of the minds :)
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Msg: 17 (view)
The Disposable Society
Posted: 8/7/2017 8:12:42 AM
ooooooooooooo nelly
so two things often happen when someone new posts
or someone fairly new posts

either the regulars jump in and egg you on
in order to increase the number of responses

or they try to pry more info out of you
in order to increase the number of responses

to answer your question OP
yes I do think this is happening in the dating world
and that online dating and phone apps add to it and make it easier
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Msg: 10 (view)
Married ex from 10 years ago spills her emotions on me, how to proceed?
Posted: 8/7/2017 8:08:51 AM
cut ties
run forest run!!!
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Msg: 16 (view)
Being Blown Off . . .
Posted: 8/4/2017 6:08:48 AM
how much time has gone by? pffft if that man was interested he would have made a point to call , text or email
he would have been running out door and down hallway to find a private place to send you a quick message
stand out in friggin rain or go to his car
he would give you a quick heads up that he is driving but would love to call you as soon as he got home

there would be NO question he was interested
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Msg: 2 (view)
found love but, we were too much alike
Posted: 8/4/2017 6:01:47 AM
if I found the male equivalent of me? man we'd probably hate each other :)

why? two stubborn, opinionated alphas butting heads on everything
always thinking " I am right and you are wrong"
both having read the exact same books, echoing the exact same political beliefs
the same views on parenting, the economy

oooo that would get boring mighty quick
and the tempers in an arguement??? look out :)
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Msg: 25 (view)
Finding a relationship as an asexual
Posted: 7/31/2017 5:55:19 AM
sounds to me like you may have an adversity to anything to do with your mouth
I would make an appt with a doctor to rule out anything physical
then make an appt with a therapist
to work on why you feel the way you do
then and only then think about what it is you are hoping to find in a romantic relationship
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Msg: 77 (view)
Women, would you date a guy who is impotent?
Posted: 7/31/2017 5:49:52 AM
what you described: becoming erect but then unable to maintain it
is a very common event for men in their forties
or so the doctor told us
a few years back
when I dragged my now ex husband into the doctor's office

and there are meds you take all the time
and ones you take that only last a few hours

there are options..
if a man is making excuses instead of a doctor appt? he does not really
want to do anything about this
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Msg: 54 (view)
relationship ~ may not be in the cards
Posted: 7/29/2017 6:14:44 AM
I was contemplating finding a man
ya know or things like yard work
maybe plowing the driveway
checking the oil in my car
but I then can pay someone for that :)
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Msg: 35 (view)
relationship ~ may not be in the cards
Posted: 7/27/2017 9:10:51 AM
oh great now that song's stuck in my head :)
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Msg: 26 (view)
relationship ~ may not be in the cards
Posted: 7/26/2017 9:26:32 AM
hmmmm..yep I kind of consider myself to be in this boat ..for one so to speak
I was married for twenty years and I seriously considered what it would be like to be alone when I decided to file.
Why? well I am still parenting a teenager and he is my priority. I have no plans to move so this limits the area I would date in. I am not going to leave my state. I am not going to hop on a plane to meet someone. I know myself too well. I have fairly high expectations for myself. I am a very private person. I do not bar hop or strike up mindless conversations with strangers at the super market. It's not that I am completely closed off the idea..
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Msg: 43 (view)
Disagreements in relationships
Posted: 7/11/2017 3:57:05 PM
are you allowed your own opinions or only if the coincide with his?
does he believe he is entitled to browbeat you into giving up your own ?
if you need to have a quiet space in order to retreat from this man in your life
you better take some time to figure out why
Joined: 5/4/2017
Msg: 44 (view)
Effort in a relationship
Posted: 7/11/2017 3:51:58 PM
here are my thoughts darling
sounds to me like there are some real issues going on
sounds to me that they are big enough to really bother you
what will you decide to do if he never makes his homeless brother leave?
what do you really need out of a relationship
and what are you willing to settle for just to be in one?
I would suggest you figure out what is best for you and for your son
Joined: 5/4/2017
Msg: 48 (view)
how to change who you are attracted to
Posted: 7/8/2017 6:50:03 AM
emotional abuse is a bit tougher to define is it not..
in my opinion it is manipulation and railroading types of behavior
ridicule, derision, ignoring
also facial expressions of displeasure
informing another human being that you are in a relationship with
how they are allowed to think, act or express themselves
trying to control someone else by playing on their emotions
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Msg: 244 (view)
Lorena Bobbitt had an idea
Posted: 7/8/2017 6:42:51 AM
choice and his ability to justify his own behavior
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Msg: 46 (view)
how to change who you are attracted to
Posted: 7/8/2017 6:41:12 AM
I am attracted to older intelligent egotistical azzholes but I don't date them :)

why am I attracted to these kind of men who believe they are smarter than anyone else?

that was who Daddy was..very well educated man and loved to feel superior
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Msg: 115 (view)
Am I being made to feel less than a woman for lack of 'assets'?
Posted: 7/4/2017 6:28:36 AM
does NOT matter if he is saying it in a light hearted way
and says that you are too sensitive if you get offended
what matters is that he is saying it at all
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Msg: 38 (view)
Is this true?
Posted: 7/4/2017 5:42:59 AM
@ youstillhere
communication is a two-way street
if she had other plans for the weekend
your little fingers were capable of texting or picking up phone and calling this woman
and ya know...actually talking to her about it
and about when the two of you can get together
instead it sounds like you got miffy and left
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Msg: 132 (view)
Women watching porn. If you've done it?
Posted: 7/3/2017 9:54:41 AM
that happens to be the biggest consumer market porn is trying to cater to right now
have you noticed some of the sites have porn for her section now?
there are sites that are designed more for what some females tend to like
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Msg: 17 (view)
cock blocking?
Posted: 7/3/2017 6:19:29 AM
he somehow believes he has some kind of ownership of you
because he has known you for so long
considers you a friend
maybe he feels like he is watching over you
and by doing this, he is somehow keeping you safe
or maybe he wants you for himself
Joined: 5/4/2017
Msg: 15 (view)
Oh no, another Need Advice question!
Posted: 7/3/2017 6:14:40 AM
sounds like it is fairly one-sided
you are really only looking for somene to listen to you
keep you from being bored
while unemployed
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Msg: 13 (view)
Anal virgin
Posted: 7/3/2017 6:09:27 AM
ever check out the porn sites these days?
anal is all the rage
it's the new big thing
why they even got women
shooting golf balls outta that thing

were as you used to have guys that just wanted to get laid
you now have a million of em all running around
asking each other if they have tried it
how was it and where can I find a chick that is willing to do it

the choice to allow anything to enter that area of your body
or any area actually is yours
if it feels like this is all that this man wants from you?
it probably is
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Msg: 60 (view)
Do you ever get too 'old' for the forums?
Posted: 6/30/2017 6:17:15 AM
how kind
the old women get ugly but men get better looking line

am I too old..mmmm
I can tell you what I have noticed from the forty and up group
we carry a good deal of cynicism that comes shining through in our posts
we have a fair degree of intolerance, impatience
many ( including myself) have high standards
on what we will or will not accept
often times unrealistic expectations of what the other person in our life
better give us that the last one did not
I see many that have a rather bleak outlook
and are drinking too much, depressed and have pretty much given up
there are many who want all the rewards of being in a relationship
someone who is there for them when they have a bad day, or just want casual sex
but they do not want to put in any time or effort
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Msg: 6 (view)
Conflicting schedules or is he avoiding me?
Posted: 6/25/2017 6:15:10 AM
pfffffffffft you already know the answer
if man want to be in your life? you will know it
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Msg: 35 (view)
Am I being made to feel less than a woman for lack of 'assets'?
Posted: 6/25/2017 6:13:14 AM
OP no one can make you feel less than who you are without your permission
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Msg: 34 (view)
Bait and Switch
Posted: 6/19/2017 9:01:27 AM
ouch! though I think it may be true for many women that did marry early on for love
and were somewhat dependent on their spouse due to staying home with young kids or making only working part-time. Yes, many found it less than perfect and chose later in life to find their own means of financial independence.

if you are a man that has only a pay check to offer than yes, an indedpendent woman might be somewhat intimidating
for you will want to know what else you bring to the table
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Msg: 21 (view)
Bait and Switch
Posted: 6/18/2017 9:44:20 AM
did you grow up in a different country? perhaps it is a cultural difference or it may the city you live in or the type of women you are choosing to date. I live in the midwest and I can assure you booze and drugs do not rank that high on my list and I am certain many women feel the same.
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Msg: 3 (view)
Deleted for real or blocked?
Posted: 6/15/2017 7:15:26 AM
probably just deleted your messages
lied about deleting his acct
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Msg: 15 (view)
Posted: 6/14/2017 8:18:00 AM
took it to mean someone that puts work first on their priority list
to the exclusion of everything else
meaning hobbies, free time, leisure pursuits, family, love
all put on the back burner
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Msg: 2 (view)
Posted: 6/14/2017 6:42:52 AM
because they 'have their cake and want to eat it too'
they want it all and somehow expect to find it
without setting aside any time for it
hoping it will somehow magically fall into their laps
most if not all human beings look for some kind of connection
perhaps they are control freaks and want it only when it is convenient for them
and on their terms
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Msg: 60 (view)
Wondering Why People box themselves in with Specifics
Posted: 6/13/2017 7:42:38 AM the ones posing on their bike
you ask them if they ride

" uh I used to but I don't own the bike anymore"
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Msg: 58 (view)
Wondering Why People box themselves in with Specifics
Posted: 6/13/2017 6:06:46 AM
hahahhaa oh lawdy now you have gone and done it
northern Michigan
every man got a pic of himself
holding a dead deer, or a fish on a pole
and they all say I like to hunt, fish, go camping, 4 wheeling
just looking for a good woman
who likes to do the same things I like

hahhaaa...I am not the female equivalent of a man

I am woman and I ...uh ain't a sleepin in no tent buster
been there and done that too many years with the kids
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Msg: 3 (view)
Posted: 6/11/2017 4:23:50 PM
sounds like you both want different things from a relationship and that you perhaps need to have a real conversation with him about what your expectations are. His may not be the same as yours which you already suspect. You will need to make a decision at that point
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Msg: 34 (view)
How songs provoke our thoughts ....
Posted: 6/11/2017 9:03:38 AM
nothing wrong with a little FOREIGNER
but I like this one more
Day light, alright, I don't know, I don't know if it's real
Been a long night, and something ain't right
You won't show, you won't show how you feel
No time ever seems right, to talk about the reasons why you and I fight
It's high time to draw the line, put an end to this game, before it's too late
Head games, it's you and me, baby
Head games, and I can't take it anymore
Head games, I don't want to play the head games
A daydream, for hours it seems, I keep thinking of you, yeah thinking of you
These daydreams, what do they mean? They keep haunting me, are they warning me
Daylight turns into night
We try and find the answer, but it's nowhere in sight
It's always the same, and you know who's to blame
You know what I'm saying, still we keep on playing
Head games, that's all I get from you
Head games, and I can't take it anymore
Head games, don't want to play the head games

So near, yet so far away, we pass each other by cause we don't know what to say
It's so clear, I'm sorry to say
But if you want to win, you gotta learn how to play
Head games, always you and me, baby
Head games, till I can't take it anymore
Head games, instead of making love
Head games, oh
Head games, always you and me, baby
Head games, till I can't take it anymore, no more
Head games, instead of making love, we play
Head games
Head games, in the first degree
Head games, yeah, always you and me
Head games, why do you do it, baby
Head games
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Msg: 49 (view)
Wondering Why People box themselves in with Specifics
Posted: 6/11/2017 8:13:19 AM
hahahaa..ah yes I have been gulty a time or two of doing this myself

in fact I could list them alphabetically and numerically..
think it comes out of frustration from having to sift through the same kind of messages over and over
so ya just start listing off all the red flags
do not message me if....
truth be told..women around my age have a loooooooooooong list :)
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Msg: 22 (view)
How songs provoke our thoughts ....
Posted: 6/8/2017 5:40:54 PM
crazy **** by buckcherry?

hahahaa I like that song
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Msg: 41 (view)
He can only see me during his company hours..?
Posted: 6/8/2017 5:39:01 PM
so married
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Msg: 79 (view)
They are showing online for hours & says it's not them doing it? It's automatic honey????
Posted: 6/8/2017 5:35:27 PM
could be he never logged off for whatever reasons
could be he has more than one account
here or on other dating sites
could be he just finds it easier to stay logged in
could be he does not feel like he needs to be exclusive with you
or does not feel like you are the one for him
some of these dating sites just have features that let you go invisible anyhow
instead of deleting your account
so even if he claims he has deleted it just for you? ya he might be lying
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Msg: 17 (view)
Feminity/Being a Princess = Respect?
Posted: 5/18/2017 7:20:04 AM
I suggest you be yourself darling
and stop attempting to change yourself in order to attract a man
Joined: 5/4/2017
Msg: 24 (view)
I want to be a dad!
Posted: 5/18/2017 7:16:12 AM
jesus and ya wonder why nobody new shows up more than once in these forums

OP perhaps state in your profile that you are looking for a serious relationship and go from there
if you lead with " I want a baby" you might scare them off
just like a woman would if she said that in her profile
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