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 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 105 (view)
 
why can't people just be who they are
Posted: 7/28/2009 7:05:56 PM
Works for me....there is this 38 year old married chick I could give you that wants to hop on Harley with me and head off into sunset. Would be good, cept she has kids and I am not in mood for younger kids.. got mine up over 21 and have no desire to raise kids. She is fun though... Bi and into swinging. Woof!...
 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 103 (view)
 
why can't people just be who they are
Posted: 7/28/2009 6:49:28 PM
ROFL Naw I just got tired of playing games so I really do not try and impress the women here so I tell it like it is. As for women.. LOL Back when I was being nice, couldn't get a woman if I went out with a net and capture dart gun. But once I said to heck with it, and didn't give a damn, they are coming out of the wood work. Won't go into detail cause some visit this site. Let's just say I have enough to keep me happy at the moment, one at a time of course, honest, trust me.

And actually have no idea who that Bertha was or is... I rarely come here to the website much anymore. Just started coming back when I got a email saying I had mail here from one of the ladies here (not Bertha) so thought I would stop by and raise some hell and shake up some of these uptight women who seem to have a broom stick up their nether regions. Not all are like that, some are actually nice but seems like a majority fit that description.
 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 322 (view)
 
Why is no head an automatic turn off for guys
Posted: 7/28/2009 6:40:00 PM

Because to a very sexual person it is extremely important. When I meet men and they say they don't like to give oral sex then I move on! I want it all! Whats wrong with that? MelloDLyn


I agree, in fact I would rather oral give than get it personally.
 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 320 (view)
 
Why is no head an automatic turn off for guys
Posted: 7/28/2009 6:36:52 PM
Well for me, I can take it or leave it, but occasionally enjoy it so a woman who will not do it is highly suspect. It shows she is a prude. What else won't she do? Being stuck to a life of missionary position only would suck and not in a good way.
 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 101 (view)
 
why can't people just be who they are
Posted: 7/28/2009 6:21:40 PM
Now lets get real people, describe yourself the way you are. Be honest because it is only going to come out when you meet anyway.
There is an old saying, "read between the lines." Well that is what I think you have to do with profiles and Internet dating. CAUTION People! maggetimes4 on 7/14/2009 57PM


Because one is almost forced to lie in order to meet women. A case in point was a post I made and was severely attacked and some very nasty comments were made about my looks and what I was wearing. This shows that many women here are shallow and do not have a clue about what a person is like. They just judge by appearances and put a person down for them. If one is even the slightest bit non-mainstream he is ignored and attacked because of it.

So it is no wonder guys lie. They are forced to. I agree, a person should be able to be themselves, and not try and cover up anything about them but most shallow, self-centered, snooty, egotistical women here would not even give them the time of day if they did.
 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Dating in Las Vegas in your 50's
Posted: 7/23/2009 2:15:29 PM
One MAJOR problem I have had is finding a woman even close to my age who is into the things I am into.

First: Unfortunately, most women my age are stuck permanently in the 60's and 70's in a continuous "Ground Hog Day" loop. Or if they do listen to so called "modern" music, it is Country and they think they are Annie Friggin Oakley. I mean ask them to go with you to one of the Goth clubs and they run away screaming or look at you like you are nuts, but they have no problem draggin me out to go pretend I am a friggin cowboy in some Country bar. While I do occasionally listen to 60's and 70's music and Country music, I would hate to have a forced diet of it all the time.

Second: Trying to get them to dress in something sexy and risque that shows a lot of skin and I get the "I am not a whore!" and refuse. I love a woman who will wear some of the Goth styles and sexier clothes but at best might get a woman my age into a pair of tight jeans (I say might, because I wouldn't bet on it...most are into relaxed fit).

Third: Most women my age are about as exciting as a bowl of vanilla ice cream when it comes to sex. I mean really ladies, when was the last time you were tied up on the bed and had nipple clamps put on you and a riding crop used? Or engaged in Anal? Or when was the last time you even considered going to the Green Door with your SO? Or the Red Rooster? Or visited sex shops and bought toys or bought Porn DVDs? Didn't think so.

I rest my case... I have met younger women (half my age or even less) who are willing to do all the above listed things and have no problems with it. But I would prefer a woman closer to my age but there are none to be found.
 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 86 (view)
 
what does it mean really for a guy to try to have sex with you on the first date?
Posted: 7/23/2009 1:17:03 PM
I always thought the double standard was stupid. Why is it a guy can screw any woman he meets the first time and he is a stud, a ladies man, etc. and if a woman does the same thing she suddenly becomes a slut, and other derogatory terms. I look at it this way, a woman should be able to do anything she wants and it shouldn't matter.

For me, the fact that you had sex on the first date would be a plus. I hate it when women play hard to get and keep a guy hanging on, teasing him with the promise of sex but never getting there.

Like your guy, I would defintely keep talking to you and I would make sure we went out a lot more. Having sex on the date is a plus not a minus.
 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 68 (view)
 
Is having cybersex cheating?
Posted: 7/21/2009 4:33:17 PM

Leeanne on 4/20/2008 204 PM
Subject: Is having cybersex cheating?
Message: Anything you do in secret - knowing it may upset your partner - especially something of a sexual nature - is indeed deemed cheating! What cannot be done with the expressed knowledge of your partner is not acceptable!


But what if your SO is not into anything you are? In other words only wants vanilla sex...
 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Why do women use me for sex???
Posted: 7/21/2009 4:26:10 PM
My Heart bleeds for you... I wish I had your problems. I couldn't get laid if I was at a Cheap Whore Convention and had $100 bills hanging out of my pockets...
 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 384 (view)
 
Sleeping naked
Posted: 11/4/2008 6:14:41 PM
Heck I sleep naked all the time unless I am staying with someone who I am just friends with. Then I wear a pair of very loose shorts and tank top.

My Girlfriend when she sleeps with me also sleeps in the nude. I walk around naked most of the time but keep the shorts and tank top handy in case someone is at door.

Being naked feels good... I don't got it, but I flaunt it LOL


 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Marriage not an option
Posted: 12/9/2007 2:23:00 PM
Well, personally do not see anything wrong with this. I met a woman online who is still married but has been separated from her husband for about 15 years. They live seprately, live thier own lives, and do their own thing, just keep the marriage going because of financial reasons and insurance. The each have had relationships with others over the years... We communicate and unfortunately she went on vacation for 6 months so met someone else. Still occasionally talk to the woman though.

As for my new girlfriend, marriage is also not an option because she gets disability and medical through the state she lives in and if we get married she loses the medical and part of her disability so financially it is not realistic to get married.

So nothing wrong with not getting married if both are happy with the arrangement....

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Why NOT to look for ways to ease emotional pain?
Posted: 12/9/2007 2:14:57 PM
I have gone through I do not know how many therapists and psychologists and other than one who wanted to do some sort of paper on me, none really did much with me. The one who did the paper had me do all sorts of tests and stuff... Other wise they were just all a waste of time... I have been diagnosed as Schizoid, Schizophrenic, Anti-social, and a bunch of other ones I forget now but none seem to really do anything but waste my time going to them...

I have two favorite T-shirts I like:
I used to have Super Powers but my Therapist took them away...
Years of Therapy has taught me that nothing is my fault...
LOL

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Dating in Las Vegas in your 50's
Posted: 12/9/2007 1:59:35 PM

I was just curious what your experiences have been dating in and around Las Vegas...specifically for us older folks in our 50's.....I'd like to know how it's been for you and how long you've been "out there".



Two words... IT SUCKS!!!! I was on POF forever and only got a few nibbles from those living here. I do have a girlfriend I met online, but she lives in Sacramento. She was the closest woman to talk to me and want to get together. The locals here all talk a good game but seem to be pretty much not interested. I had lots of women from the East coast wanted to meet me and get together but only a couple here and never could get to set a meet up time and place so gave up.

The long distance relationship is ok, we see each other every couple of months and spend about a month with each other. Just wish it could have been someone closer...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
50ish clubbing???
Posted: 12/9/2007 1:51:37 PM
LOL Yeah Vegas is a town of the young and the old and rich (High Rollers). They seem to be the only ones out having fun... I have gone to many of the clubs and have been the oldest one there (57 years young) with most being in 20's and 30's.

I went to a POF gathering once and was talking to some of the women my age and they all said they stay at home and do not go out much. No wonder no one is hooking up. I went for a long time here in POF and finally got a sort of girlfriend who lives in Sacramento of all places. She was the closest one who responded. None of the women here seem to be interested in meeting anyone unless they are rich, drive a BMW and live in Green Valley or Summerlin...

So good luck trying to find people who party here...

Hey there is always the Red Rooster or the Green Door ROFLMAO

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 51 (view)
 
sex on the first or second date???
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:46:41 PM
I see nothing wrong with sex on the first date. It is how the two people feel... It should be up to them when it happens, the first date or the 5th. However, if it is held off for too long, I would be history... I mean if a woman keeps promising but never delivering then I am looking elsewhere.

And for me, I would me more likely to call for more dates if the woman allows sex early, than if she holds off and makes me wait a long time. A woman who has sex on the first date would make me want to call her again and again. One thing about having sex early, it gets it out of the way, and then the dance to get her in bed is over and I can start to work on other parts of the relationship. And as been mentioned, if the sex is lousy I can move on. Nothing worse than having to wait for months and then discover she is lousy in bed, or not into non-mainstream sex...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 140 (view)
 
Why do women find sex on a first date so weird?
Posted: 11/15/2006 2:57:14 PM
Oh get over yourselves people... There is nothing wrong with sex on the first date or waiting until the 5th or 6th date. However, I think it is wrong for a woman to keep holding out the promise of sex and never quite coming through. I met a woman and she said she would not have sex until we got to know each other better... OK and that will be when??? That is a very open ended invitation... Will it take a month? 6 months? one year? A woman who refuses to have sex scares me because I have been in relationships where sex was not that important and the woman I was with could care less if she had sex or not... One reason I am no longer with her.. By the way, the woman I mentioned is definitely no longer on my interst list....

In my opinion I would rather have sex with a woman on the first date so that I know she:

1. Isn't frigid
2. Likes sex as much as I do
3. Once sex is out of the way we can work on getting to know each other..before that it is all about trying to do the "mating dance" (Trying to get the woman to have sex)...

Personally a woman who has sex on the first date or one of the next couple of dates is way more desireable than one who has me wait and jump through hoops for god knows how long... I will definitely ask the woman who has sex out; and dump the one who wants me to wait...

And yes I respect women who have sex soon into the relationship... By the way.. "Love" and "Commitment" and all that Prince Charming, happy ever after crap is a crock and highly over rated.....

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Haven't dated in awhile...problem???
Posted: 9/21/2006 8:22:21 AM

mesg 25 #3 and #4 MIGHT cross a guys mind...especially if he has at some point spent a significant amount of time with a woman who used sex as a weapon...

But here's the deal; if we all worried about saying SOMETHING that would be a 'disconnect',then duct-tape-over-the-mouth would be a standard part of getting ready for a date...

My take would be, don't make a big deal about it, if there seems to be a question hanging in the air, tell him you felt like it would not have been fair to a man to have him in your life when you had so many other claims on your time...
Cindy O


It goes both ways... I didn't date for almost 8 years and when I started again I was asked a couple of times by women why I hadn't dated during those years.. they gave me the impression that they thought there might be something wrong with me or that I was hiding something... So it is not only guys that do this.

Oh yeah I have defintely met the women who use sex as a weapon...in fact for a long time, I thought that was just how women were...

Personally, I don't look at a woman's past, unless she has a string of ex-husbands, then I kind of get suspicious, but otherwise what a woman did previous to meeting me is her business...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
For you guys...the perfect profile...
Posted: 9/21/2006 7:55:58 AM
Wanted: Self absorbed, controlling, manipulative, woman wanted. Eating disorders, drug addictions, mental problems a definite plus. Must be possessive and extremely jealous of me but unfaithful... She must be emotionally distant and have little to no sex drive. I need a woman who will call me any time, 24/7, no matter what, or how small the problem might be. it doesn't matter to me if I am busy...her problems are so much more important...


 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
The silent treatment.
Posted: 9/20/2006 3:45:54 PM
Women always have the last word in any arguement... If you say anything it is the start of a new arguement... Just go with the flow and enjoy the silence...but be prepared...if you are still with her, 25 years from now, she will bring up what ever it was that you did like it happened yesterday...even if you never did the thing that PO'd her off the first time again...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Haven't dated in awhile...problem???
Posted: 9/20/2006 3:05:47 PM
Well some reasons guys are turned off could be they think:

1. She isn't interested in guys since she hasn't dated.
2. She isn't interested in having a relationship since she hasn't been in any for so long...
3. Apparently she isn't interested in sex since she hasn't been dating...
4. Is she going to get all clingy and emotional and serious since this is her first relationship in quite a while...


just a guess...but these might be some of the things they are thinking...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Is internet dating at middle age like a coloring book?
Posted: 9/20/2006 2:55:22 PM
Women seem to be looking for the Perfect match and set un-defineable guidelines for the guys they are looking for...and just when the guy figures out what the women wants, they change the guidelines and don't tell anyone.

It's no wonder people have to much trouble fijnding someone online, women and to some extend some guys, are like kids in a candy store. They jump from one to another selection and don't give what they are looking at a chance.

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Celibacy - a more common choice than people admit?
Posted: 9/20/2006 2:47:20 PM
Well, I went through about an 8 year forced Celebacy which thank the gods is about to end in a super major way. (No won't go into details, but man am I gonna be smiling)... For the most part, for the first few years I didn't miss not having someone to be intimate with, yes there were moments when I wanted to jump someone's bones just to have sex, but it passed. Unfortunately, my doc got my male hormones up to where they should be about a year ago and things went to heck in a hand basket. I suddenly felt VERY horny and went through hell trying to find someone to have a relationship with that was interested in sex and lots of it. Finally after months of frustration and "Let's just be friends first" finally found a really cool woman that if things work out, I may have just found Ms Right..or at least my future Ex-girlfriend... ROFL... And the best part she her libido is about the same as mine...

Some say that masturbation is the answer to not having sex. Well, from experience, yes it helps a little, for a while, but eventually it just doesn't cut it. Having someone touch you and being able to touch someone, and yes, having sex is so much more enjoyable than just taking matters in your own hands... Women have it much easier, for women, there are dozens of shapes and sizes and all sorts of toys that they can use... there just aren't many good mechanical alternatives for us guys... All that I have seen are funky blow up dolls that look like balloons, some gummy looking fake things with holes in them... nothing that turns me on that for sure...

The only reason not to have sex is the disease factor, otherwise any excuse not to is pretty bogus. As far as the emotional stuff...well that is just a cop out... There is a difference between having sex and making love and there is nothing wrong with either...

Personally, I think more people should be looking into the Polyamory Sexual F-Buddies where you have sex with one or more people who agree only to have sex just with each other. This would prevent disease spreading and solve a heck of a lot of relationship problems...

Personally it is each persons decision as to what they want to do as far as sex... more power to them and thier decision. What is right for them, is not right for all...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
planning local las vegas PoF halloween costume party!
Posted: 9/17/2006 10:04:11 AM
Looking forward to going to this party... But then any excuse to party RIGHT??? ROFL

I will see if I can get my roomie to come too...she kind of wanted to come to the last one... I think she will this one...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 132 (view)
 
The truth about Introverts.
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:54:10 PM
Your Type is

ISTJ

Introverted Sensing Thinking Judging

Strength of the preferences %

89 25 75 11


I guess I am REALLY an introvert LOL

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 129 (view)
 
The truth about Introverts.
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:43:40 PM

Introverts are more intelligent ?
more independent ?
hahaha

funny OP, msg 1...

lol



I'll take a pound of that baloney... just for entertainemt purposes !
LOL


I take it Rainbow is an Extrovert from his comments...Because he fits the description given in the first post... ROFL...

I am an Introvert. I like my own company and loathe small talk. People who talk just to hear themselves get on my nerves... Some people say I am Anti-Social, I just laugh and tell them "I am not Anti-Social, I just don't like people"...

I tend to think best when alone, and when walking. I used to pace when I had something to consider, it drove my Ex nuts because she wanted to talk about "it"... One needs to come up with some viable options before you can talk about a problem, and that was what I was doing, thinking about options, on my own without distraction... Once I was ready, I could go the the wife and discuss options and such... I like being an Introvert and would never want to change...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
what do you consider one of your biggest personal assets?
Posted: 9/2/2006 9:07:54 PM
My biggest asset is that I am a nice guy.... Yes I have flaws but everyone keeps telling me how nice I am LOL. I will do anything to help others and will go way out of my way to help them, sometimes even if they do not ask for help...

I do this to overcome my other personality defects... Now just have to find someone who appreciates it... LOL

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Celibacy and monoagmy:The only acceptible lifestyles?
Posted: 9/2/2006 8:28:24 PM
abstinent lady on 9/2/2006 2:34:29 PM
Control "sexuality" or live by God's plan? Fornication is wrong but yeah we all have "free- will" to wander off tha right path


The question is..Who's god are you referring to? What if someone doesn't believe in "your god"??? A person should be able to do what ever he or she wants without being judged by some questionable "morality"...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
how do you feel about getting old?
Posted: 9/2/2006 8:02:20 AM
I agree getting old scares and depresses me. I go to the VA and I see all these old guys in their wheelchairs and I get so afraid I will end up like one of them. Plus I look around me and it seems like life and relationships are for the young and good looking. I have gone places trying to find women my age and all I see are young 20 to 30ish types who look at me like I am some old pervert looking at young girls... Heck I do not want a young one anymore...been there done that. Unfortunately, even women my age seem to want younger guys... I know they sure don't want me... LOL... Everything is geared toward the young. TV, Movies, advertising, you name it. Us old farts are ignored or treated like jokes or stereotypes...

It is very depressing...

I still try to act and think young...but when I do, I get the "Why don't you act your age" crap. Hell, I have no idea what someone my age is supposed to act like, someone must have forgotten to send me the rulebook....

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Get Out There!
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:22:03 PM
I agree. The Las Vegas POF just had a get-to-gether and it was great. We had a bunch show up and I met some very nice ladies. It is so much better to meet in person, than to hide behind a keyboard. No one can really tell who another person is, if they never meet...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Do you take notice of who does/does not, creates threads or posts on them
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:18:24 PM
I read the topics on all the forums and respond to the ones that interest me or I have something to do with... I do not respond to every thread since some do not affect me or is about anything that I am interested in...

I must admit to occasionally starting a topic as a "Devil's Advocate" where I post an idea a bit radical or off beat just to see what others will add. I find it very interesting to read what people think and what makes them "tick"...


 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
How Old is Too Old?
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:11:14 PM
How old is too old? When you are dead...

A person is never too old. Just keep looking and sooner or later you will find someone. I was getting very discouraged and quit looking and "poof" I met a woman who is awesome and my perfect woman... So you just have to keep "playing the game" and don't give up...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Dressing too young
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:00:02 PM
OK this ranks right in there with the infamous "Why don't you act your age?" Crap. What is wrong with someone dressing young? If they want to dress young more power to them. I refuse to start wearing my bermuda shorts up around my armpits, wearing ugly sport shirts, and wearing white knee socks and loafers just because i am 55 years old.

People keep telling me to act my age...well mentally I feel like I am a teen ager so therefore I am acting my age... True, the old body kind of goes a bit slower but hey I refuse to be "old"... Besides, where is the list of things I am supposed to be acting and dressing like? I have yet to find a list that says "55 Year Old's should be acting and dressing as follows:"

Some people need to get over themselves and let people be and do whatever they want to...and wear what ever they want to...

I am working on building a relationship with a lady who is 50. In talking, she wears super short, tight shorts (butt cheek showing), mini-skirts, and loves to show her body off... She recently entered a Wet t-shirt contest and came in second... And I love it... she is a totally cool lady and as far as I am concerned the sexier and less she wears the better...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Showing who You Really Are Online...How?
Posted: 8/30/2006 6:28:49 PM
Unfortunately, you cannot show who you are online...just like you cannot know who the person you are talking to is for sure. No matter how we try, and even if we try to be truthful, we always hold back or put forth a "public" face on everything we do. The Internet makes a great place to hide who we really are.

The only way to know someone is to meet them face to face, and then not just for a short time, you need to be with them for quite a while before you actually "know them" and see who they really are.

I thought it was rather funny also, I was told to change everything I am, and everything about me, and everything in my profile, if I wanted to meet women. OK so if I did that...and then after meeting a woman, became myself, I would be accused of lying to her....

So I have no idea what you need to do or how to do it...just cross your fingers and hope for the best... good luck you will need it...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 46 (view)
 
What fashion trend would you like to see make a comeback?
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:33:30 PM
Micro-Minie skirts...

Elephant Bell bottoms

Hot Pants

Tie dyed t-shirts

Garter belts and nylons

Nehru jackets

Beatle Boots

Go Go Boots and the 60's type clothing that went with it...also the Hippy style clothes..all psychodelic and wild...

just to name a few

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Outdoors
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:04:41 PM
Hey I loved Biking when I had my Harley together... Put 15K a year on that sucker..looking forward to getting back on two wheels again ASAP...

As for walking and hiking. I used to love them up until my legs when to heck in a handbasket. I would still go walking and hiking if I could... nothing better than getting out in the desert, or woods, or where ever...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Anyone ever jump a train?
Posted: 8/30/2006 4:57:09 PM
LOL Heck, these days haven't seen many trains running and when I do, they are usually either just sitting there or are moving along at a good clip...

I always wanted to try it. MY dad back in 1929 at the age of 14, left home, jumped a train and rode the rails to Montana where he worked for the rest of his life as a cowboy... Kind of romantic..but nowdays not sure it has the same kind of lure...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 55 (view)
 
Girls and partying/clubbing
Posted: 8/27/2006 1:24:33 PM
LOL Only the 18 to 30+ year old women do this... Women closer to my age (45 and up) all seem to be hiding out. As one older woman told me when I ask her where the women my age were hanging out or hiding, she said, "at home".

Apparently this is one reason why it is almost impossible to find women close to my age. They sit at home and hope that the guy of thier dreams will knock on the door after writing down the wrong address LOL...


Or they sit at home on thier computers and wait for the perfect match to contact them. Of course they delete anyone who doesn't come close to what they have created in their minds as the perfect man...

Hate to tell you ladies, but your perfect man does not exist...


 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Is it worth it to have an email relationship?
Posted: 8/27/2006 1:17:05 PM
LOL Internet IM'ing or just by email is little more than being a Pen-Pal. It is friendship. Oh sure you can create a fantasy in your mind about the other person, but until you are actually face to face, and talk to each other, there is nothing based in reality about it.

A person can be anyone they want to typing on a keyboard and the chances of the person you are madly in love with being the same person you think he or she is, is not one I would like to stake my life and my happiness on.

Even if you talk to the person on the phone, until you actually meet in person, you are taking chances. It would be nice if everyone told the truth, if they didn't misrepresent themselves, if they were the same person they try to get others to think they are...but even if the person isn't intentionally lying, sometimes they stretch the truth, or do not tell you things that if you knew, you would be long gone and the relationship would be over...

Now if you are just talking internet email and IM friendships, then there is nothing wrong with it..just don't plan on finding your one true love who will fall madly in love with you and you with her...


 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Is it possible to have a relationship just by IM'ing
Posted: 8/27/2006 1:13:42 PM
LOL Internet IM'ing is little more than being a Pen-Pal. It is friendship. Oh sure you can create a fantasy in your mind about the other person, but until you are actually face to face, and talk to each other, there is nothing based in reality about it.

A person can be anyone they want to typing on a keyboard and the chances of the person you are madly in love with being the same person you think he or she is, is not one I would like to stake my life and my happiness on.

Even if you talk to the person on the phone, until you actually meet in person, you are taking chances. It would be nice if everyone told the truth, if they didn't misrepresent themselves, if they were the same person they try to get others to think they are...but even if the person isn't intentionally lying, sometimes they stretch the truth, or do not tell you things that if you knew, you would be long gone and the relationship would be over...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Sex or friendship first?
Posted: 8/27/2006 7:13:48 AM
Hmm well, for me, having sex early might be a problem but personally I don't see any problem with it. Where I have problems is when the woman wants to wait and "just be friends" for an unknown extended period of time and then after you become friends decides that she doesn't want to ruin the friendship by taking it to the next level....

I mean, women want to be friends first and then it seems to me, in most cases do not want to have sex because you are friends... enough to make a guy sit in a corner and bang his head against the wall... LOL

Now if a woman tells me, lets be platonic friends for 4 months and then if we get along then we can take it to the next level, I can go with that. It is the vague, no time limit friendship before taking it to the next level, that gets to me... Why am I wasting my time if all it turns out to be is a platonic friendship? Yes it is nice to have women friends, but that is not why I am on a dating site. I have a lot of female friends...almost more than I can handle now, hard keeping up on correspondence/talking to so many so really having one more is getting way to much...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
I know you are out there I can hear you breathing......
Posted: 8/27/2006 7:04:23 AM
Hello Soft...

OK, lets declare a truce LOL... my outlook is much better now...back when I posted on this thread I was very cynical about women here. I guess part of the problem was frustration since trying to meet women here in Vegas seemed to be almost impossible.

It was very nice to meet you and get to talk to you... in fact it was very nice to actually get to talk to several of the people I have seem posting here and meet them face to face.


Hope you had a good time and look forward to seeing you at the next get to gether...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Thanks Kathy and Steve...the get together was awesome...
Posted: 8/27/2006 6:58:42 AM
Just wanted to thank Kathy and Steve for the get together. Now that is what we singles here in Vegas needed... I asked a lady who was there about where women my age hung out and she said "at home", her friend agreed with her. So this is what we all needed..to be able to get out, meet face to face and not have to send emails and hope they don't get deleted and play the waiting game. It is so much nicer to be able to meet someone face to face and talk to them...

I met a couple of very nice ladies there and my friend met a really nice guy that she thinks is very cool (she must have, she spent the night talking to him and I had to have a crowbar to pry her away from him so I could drive her home ROFLMAO)...

Thanks again and hope we keep on meeting... We all need to spread the word to the rest of the Las Vegas people on POF and get them out to the next one... the more the merrier...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Soul-mates: By design or just mere choice
Posted: 8/22/2006 1:31:51 PM
I agree... This sounds way more logical than the idea that there are only one or maybe two people in the whole world who will "fit" you as a "Soul Mate". I mean, if that were so, them one would have to travel all over the world trying to find that one special person...

Ever throw a small diamond out on a sandy beach and then go try and find it? The chances of doing so are very small... There would be very few happy couples around, even fewer than there are today. So I can see where the Lock analogy works...

Good way to put it...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Where to meet available women?
Posted: 8/21/2006 9:51:29 AM
lilredfiero on 8/20/2006 9:45:36 AM
Okay......... I'll turn this around and ask where in this great big world can I go to meet available, SANE men?????
What would encourage a man my age (42ish) to approach me say at the grocery store, Chapters, etc........ I need to know I've seen them.......... trying to "check" me out without looking too obvious but when I try to look back they quickly look away..... too shy? Should I be the one to approach them?? Most of the time there's no way for me to tell if they are available or not..........
I've been out of practice way too long........... need dating101...........



Well in looking at your profile, I can see why many guys would be shy around you. I mean, yeah a lot of us guys look at very pretty women, but the thought of approaching any of them is very intimidating. For me, the thought that anyone that pretty has to have a 6'8" muscle builder boyfriend who would stuff me in a trash can if I bother you, comes to mind. (Hey I still remember getting hit in the jaw by the Co-Captain of the football team for hitting on his Cheerleader girlfriend.. Love those redhead girls Woof!)...

So, don't be shy yourself, approach guys and let them know you are 1. Available 2. Let them know you are not one of the stuck up pretty women who look down on anyone not GQ Material... and 3. find out if they are available...


Hey why should us guys be the one to approach women all the time? I love it when women "come to me" because it lets me know that they are at least going to consider talking to me and maybe even having a continueing relationship with me...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Longest you have been in a relationship (with opposite sex) without it turning physical.
Posted: 8/20/2006 11:08:05 AM
mizladyluck on 8/20/2006 10:24:36 AM
Sex is something anyone can do. I have always stressed the importance of friendship before sex. It's trust and tantra. I agree, leading a guy on is not right. But timing is everything and if you force a situation to be sexier than it is, quite often the sex stinks, so why bother. It's detached, I want to vibrate every cell in my being when I make love to someone, so, ya, wait until the time is right. Don't feel obligated to make it sexual just because we are grown ups.


What gets me are the women who say they will not have a relationship with a guy unless they are friends for a while to get to know each other...and then, once they become friends, they decide that they just want to keep things platonic and go out and find someone else. (Had this happen to me...not to mention she said we would have to be friends for a long time before we went to the next level. Well right after she decided to just be friends she met a guy and after a month is willing to jump his bones... Strange... If she didn't want to be with me, it would be much nicer to just say "go away" instead of leaving me dangling with the friendship stuff...

Another thing are women who give no timetable on when the relationship will go to the next level. I mean "let's be friends for a while until we see if we are compatible" is pretty vague. I would much rather have a woman tell me "I will give us 4 months and then evaluate where we are... now that is something I can tolerate...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 74 (view)
 
Woman or Man who is most powerful creature
Posted: 8/20/2006 10:55:31 AM
I say women have the power...at least as far as sex goes. If she doesn't want to give it up, then there is no way short of rape that a man is going to get it. She has the power to decide who she will bestow her favors on..or take them away from. And using sex, she can get a guy to do all sorts of things he normally would not do. If a guy does something she doesn't like she can punish him and get him to come around by withholding sex or if he does something she likes she can reward him with sex... Ring the bell and the dog begins to salivate... ROFLMAO...

So, contrary to what they may say, women are the ones in power...

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Celibacy and monoagmy:The only acceptible lifestyles?
Posted: 8/20/2006 10:50:39 AM
I agree, sex is something that should be a individuals own choice. If he or she doesn't want to have sex..then fine, they don't have to... But when someone tries to force their own persnal views on others then it becomes wrong. We are individuals and should have the freedom of choice to choose what ever we want.

Sex is a natural function of life. Creatures from the smallest to the largest practice it and it is only Man who has decided that it is wrong or evil or vile. it is as natural as breathing, eating and sleeping.

Yes sex with someone you have an attachment with might be better, but sex with a stranger is almost as good and there is nothing wrong with it. If it feels good do it...and do it often.

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 74 (view)
 
Longest you have been in a relationship (with opposite sex) without it turning physical.
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:46:37 AM
Well for my Ex-Wife we knew each other for about 2 years or so before we got married and had sex. For my other relationships, it varied but usually withing a week to a couple of weeks. For me, the quicker sex is out of the way, the sooner the relationship can be worked on... Nothing worse than having that hanging out there like a sword over your head.

I have dated women (for a VERY short time) that kept promising sex but never delivered. Well I will only wait for so long (and not that long) and hate head games...

Now for platonic female friends who I have no interest in, well anywhere from a few months (and going) to 7 or 8 years or more... When a woman says she just wants to be friends, I start looking for a new woman who will date and not go into the "Let's be friends first crap", but retain the old one as a friend.

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Setting the standard
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:29:27 AM
Well for me, I have a woman in my past that is perfect for me. She liked the same things I did, she liked the same music, the same horror movies, loved Living dead dolls, Loved Alice Cooper and Rob Zombie, etc. I mean she was about as close a perfect match for me that will ever be. The only thing wrong with her was she decided I had some personality flaws that she didn't like (I tended to be not as touchy feely as she wanted her guy to be, and I wasn't free with my emotions and didn't show them like she wanted me to) so we just became friends.

I will never find a woman like her again although I am looking. She is the perfect woman, or as close to perfect as possible. So I measure all the women I meet to her. And unfortunately, none have even come close.

 Halfevl333
Joined: 3/26/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Any Non- LDS people date LDS people?
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:22:19 AM
Well being an Ex-Mormon and Born Again Pagan, I find that just like any Christian belief system, they are never happy unless they convert everyone to believe just like they do. They cannot just accept that others do not believe what they do, and like all christians it is their duty to save everyone from themselves.

For those contemplating dating Mormons or LDS as they prefer to be called, the women if they are religious are pretty much nuns... (Don't want nun, don't need nun and you ain't gonna get nun) unless you put that ring on their finger and the only way to do that is to join the church.

Although there used to be a joke about girls going to Ricks Collage back when I was an active member... "We don't smoke, we don't drink, two out of three ain't bad" ROFL Three guesses what the third thing was...

 
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