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 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
BRA ANGEL
Posted: 10/19/2009 2:53:39 AM
Watched the video and felt it was very sweet of this guy to come up with such a brilliant invention. The idea behind it is that the cover is easy to slip in the bra but won't come out again because the spikes will anchor it to the fabric - fantastic! No thread can fix this issue because the wires have a way of coming out between the densest of threads.

As for the magnetic towel, it's a good idea in principle, but I need my towel by the sink or the cooker so it's just as easy for me to hang it on the handle of the cupboard. The magnetic one is OK for throwing across the room but a bugger to go fetch! LOL

I think the bra angel will do much better in the market.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
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Was it easier years ago?
Posted: 10/9/2009 8:04:47 AM
I'd prefer living in a much more orderly society. I was raised with the Savoir Vivre (the book of manners) and do lean towards romanticism. It was definitely easier in the old days.

As an aside:
I wish people would read a thread more carefully before replying. The OP did not say she wanted slop buckets or kids up chimneys, etc. She is specifically referring to relationships/courtship rules.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
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Reality Turn Off
Posted: 10/6/2009 7:00:57 AM
Not all reality shows are a turn-off. I enjoy watching Wife Swap because it gives me an insight into how other families live their lives. There was another show on TV that I enjoyed watching - can't recall its name right now, but it was about families swapping holidays to try something different. Finally I like watching Come Dine With Me because it is entertaining! I get ideas for new dishes and it's always nice to have a good nose around other people's homes. But my goodness, aren't some people disgusting, licking spoons and then putting them in the food or dropping food on the counter and picking it up to put it back for others to eat along with all the germs or allowing cats to climb on the worktops where the food is laid out!
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
The limits of patience
Posted: 10/6/2009 5:44:42 AM
The OP is a very educated man and that sets him apart from the hoipolloi. Most overeducated men find it hard to socialise with women, probably because they have no interest in soap operas, shoes and gossip.

We do not know if he is describing himself in the post or if he is trying to make conversation - better not to judge and offer links to the Samaritans, etc. until we are sure. And there is nothing wrong with his looks or the fact he is wearing glasses. If anything, they are rather smart glasses.

Anyway, we are discussing the limits of patience. I feel patience goes alongside with hope - the hope that things will improve in the future. When you have hope, you have patience.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
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the numerical imbalance of women and men causing problems on plenty of fish
Posted: 10/6/2009 12:14:37 AM
What a depressing thread! It may have some truth in it, but still...

When I was 30 and got a profile on the internet, I used to get around 50 emails a day. My friend did not believe it when he saw my inbox. He was so lucky I had chosen him over the myriads!

When I became 40, my options lessened. I consider myself lucky if I get 3 emails per week.

I am not what most men are looking for - maybe good enough for a desperate stop on their way to better things... don't know, haven't allowed this to happen.

All I am looking for is a person who shares some of my interests so we can keep each other company when circustances permit.

If I go by your post, I will never find someone, so I might as well dig my grave and go lie in it as life has nothing more to offer me...
 LovelySSBBW
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Christians.. A little help here please.
Posted: 10/5/2009 1:42:04 AM
A very interesting thread.

I am a Christian because I was born and raised into the Christian Orthodox faith. My grandmother was very religious but my father was not (though he never objected to us being religious and he always partook in religious festivities).

I studied other religions at school - we were free to research them and report our findings. I was surprised at the similarities I discovered.

Nowadays, as an adult, I no longer have blind faith and you may find it surprising that I have not read the Bible and cannot quote excerpts from it, yet still consider myself a Christian.l I think I have realised that it does not matter what you believe in, as long as you believe in some Higher Authority and live your life by certain rules.

There may not be Heaven and Hell - indeed, sometimes I think these two places are found here on Earth. There may not even be an After Life (but I am not willing to gamble in case there is!) I do not expect that we shall ever know all there is to know or understand everything. But there is nothing stopping us from leading good lives, respecting our neighbours, helping people in need, being honest and decent and so on.

I liked Exceptional Girl's response.

Something else I would like to add: when people do not have a religion, they make one up. For example, there are many people who are into BDSM. They do their studies (equivalent to catechism) and gain the knowledge and then are asked to live their lives by certain rules. Only they do not report to God, but to Master or Mistress... And there is a lot of ritual, just like in Church!

Maybe it is in our DNA to need to believe in something.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Are you demonstrative?
Posted: 10/3/2009 3:23:20 AM
It is hard to try and guess what your guy is feeling and why he is responding (or not) the way he does.

From my experiences, I once dated a guy who I was ashamed to be seen with so I did not want him touching/kissing me in public and we walked with a bit of distance between us. LOL When at home, it was a different case because then there were not prying eyes, no society to judge us and condemn us.

I suppose holding hands whilst watching TV is not the worst thing but maybe he just likes to actually concentrate on the TV and not be distracted by touch? Who knows!

Please come back and report on the progress after you've had a couple more dates. I am curious to know how this develops.
 LovelySSBBW
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Is hate crime against the disabled getting out of control?
Posted: 10/3/2009 3:11:08 AM
I am lucky to be living in a safe area where people are respectful and considerate towards each other, so I have not faced discrimination, harrassment or bullying.

The only time I felt bad was when I was in College couple of years ago and my tutor said that the assessor had marked me down because he thought I was aiming for a pity vote (?=!) I cried buckets over that and will never be sure if it was really the assessor's words or my tutor's. I was so heartbroken that I did not pick up a brush or touch clay for a long time afterwards, feeling that somehow I did not measure up to others.

Nevertheless, words are words and they are not actions that can be classified as crime. So like I said before, I count myself lucky.
 LovelySSBBW
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Circumcision in the uk
Posted: 9/27/2009 4:25:25 AM
I prefer an uncircumsized penis as the foreskin offers more stimulation. And no problems with banana-shaped penises; in fact, the odd shape can aid G-spot stimulation. As for cleanliness, I would never go near a guy who didn't keep good hygiene, so cut/uncut, it does not matter.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
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Pre-nups agreements in the UK
Posted: 9/26/2009 1:11:56 PM
I think it is good to plan ahead for everything. It is not defeatist planning your funeral or making a will; why should signing a pre-nuptial agreement be?
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
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healthy school meals
Posted: 9/26/2009 10:51:26 AM
It is hard to make the children eat healthy food when they are not used to it at home.

Have you tried making Greek roast potatoes (just put in oven with a bit of water, oil, lemon juice and salt, pepper, oregano and garlic)? They are irresistible and can be served both to meat eaters as accompaniment or to vegetarians. And what about couscous with a rich vegetable and meat sauce but hardly any fat? Or a selection of meats on a skewer cooked in the oven? Pasta, veg and chicken hotpot?

My favourite meal as a child was spaghetti with a sprinkling of cheese and some meat sauce poured on the top.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
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Men searching for single mum's
Posted: 9/24/2009 9:37:38 AM
Surely you got to judge each person as an individual and not tar everyone with the same brush?

A few years ago I had joined a single parent contact website. I was terribly lonely and facing the harsh reality that perhaps Mr Right had lost my address and I'd never be able to have children of my own. So of course meeting a guy who already had kids was a good alternative for me, as I had a lot of love to give. As nothing came out of that website, I can only think that maybe single dads are as wary of childless women as women are of childless men.
 LovelySSBBW
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Could the money have been better spent?
Posted: 9/24/2009 9:23:01 AM
Actually India IS a technologically advanced country. Let us not forget that most of our consultants, GPs and other specialists are also Indian. I don't see why we need to poke our noses into how the Indian government chooses to spend their budget - it hasn't come out of our pockets and Britain no longer rules India.

Any contribution to learning is welcome, no matter where it comes from. In the long run, Earth as a whole will benefit from research done by individual nations.

Respect.
 LovelySSBBW
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2 obese children removed from their parents by social services
Posted: 9/24/2009 9:16:39 AM
There was an interview on BBC Radio 2 this afternoon about this case and the presenter talked to the family's solicitor.

The solicitor said that the money had not been spent but allocated for spending in August.

The newborn will not be removed from his family but will be placed at the At Risk Register and the Social Services will be keeping a close eye to his upbringing.

To be honest, the solicitor sounded as she was going through the moves of protest regarding her clients' treatment because there was no passion in her voice - probably she too disagrees with the state of this family but due to professional reasons she cannot but defend their rights to keep their children.

The option of putting the overweight kids in hospital was also mentioned but it didn't sound viable - sadly I was negotiating some difficult traffic at that moment so missed the gist.
 LovelySSBBW
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2 obese children removed from their parents by social services
Posted: 9/23/2009 2:52:59 PM

All just sitting there getting fatter and fatter until one of them has a heart attack and then demands a gastric band op on the NHS, followed by the rest of them. [/quote

They will never get any type of bariatric surgery on the NHS. One of the main conditions of surgery is that you are able to lose weight by controlling your food intake. They usually give you a target to lose something like 20 kilos in two months. If they can't, they won't be considered for surgery. The second equally important condition is that they pass the psychological evaluation which they won't, based on their history so far.

For any overweight person out there thinking of bariatric surgery on the NHS, it is not as easy as you think and weight loss surgery can and will fail if you are not prepared to change your ways radically. The consultants won't put anyone's life at risk (and every surgery carries risks) unless they are convinced the benefits outweigh the risks and that the patient will benefit from surgery long term. Feel free to message me with any questions you may have.
 LovelySSBBW
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Family holidays for 2010 where to go to?
Posted: 9/23/2009 2:34:39 PM
http://holidays.monarch.co.uk/destinations/Greece/Rhodes/Kalithea/Hotel-Esperides

The hotel Esperides in Rhodes is brilliant for kids and is on All Inclusive basis so you don't have to worry about forking out any extra money (unless you wish to do tours outside which I do recommend, or even hiring a car and exploring on your own). In this hotel you got 3 pools, a funfair park (!), a waterpark, daily entertainment, kids club - you name it, they got it.

You can book your holiday through a number of operators. Booking early guarantees you low prices. If you wait too long to book, you will have to pay more because the hotel is popular.

Rhodes is a beautiful island made for romance (e.g. walking in the cobbled streets of the Old Town under the shadow of the Castle of the Knights on a moonlit night...or exploring the narrow streets of Lindos town) great shopping (VAT free) amazing nature (e.g. 7 Springs), awesome beaches (Tsambika) - oh now I want to go, too!!!!!!!

The link I gave you has pictures but you can google the hotel name (Hotel Esperides Rhodes) and you can get reports from people who have been there as well as more photos.

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you fun and to be paired up by next summer :)
 LovelySSBBW
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Anyone here with arthritis? Or swine flu?
Posted: 9/23/2009 10:17:12 AM
BigRuss, you need to stop the medication. It is not helping you and it is damaging your health further. Been there, done that. My memory was also affected to the point I felt like I was losing it and then my eyesight got affected, too. Took a bit of time for my body to clear from the drugs but now I am happier to 'embrace' the pain and try to prevent flare-ups. Doctors here are rubbish - sorry to say this. They have so many patients and rarely remember your case off hand. They also do not follow you up properly, i.e. if you do not show up to ring you and ask what is going on, not to mention they have no idea about holistic medicine (medicine looking at you as a whole, not as a symptom... you may be sick because your house has toxic mould or because you are worried about finances, etc.) In all my years in this country there has only been one good doctor and it is no coincidence that while under his care I flourished.
 LovelySSBBW
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2 obese children removed from their parents by social services
Posted: 9/22/2009 11:57:51 AM
It sounds unbelievable but it angers me to think that tax payers money are being wasted on people who do not wish to improve their lives.

I am glad the Social Services have for once done the right thing and to be honest, they should sterilise the couple, as they are clearly unable to look after themselves and their children.

The poor darlings never stood a chance with such parents! I hope the newest member of the family stands a better chance in life by being assigned to properly vetted foster parents or given up for adoption.

Condemning your children to a life sentence of pain, illness, loneliness and incapacity is not fair - not fair at all.
 LovelySSBBW
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Loneliness!!!!
Posted: 9/22/2009 6:46:28 AM
DVT = Deep Vein Thrombosis; a blood clot in other words. Very common after surgery or when people sit down for long periods of time (say you sit at the computer for 6 hours non stop...), travel in constricted spaces (cars, trains, airplanes), wear constrictive clothing (e.g. hold up stockings that are too small or boots that are too tight or a leg cast) or simply spend a lot of time with one leg over the other.

It doesn't happen to everyone, but when it does happen, you find out how many people suffer from it and you get to experience the Warfarin Clinic for your weekly blood tests for months or years or even life. (Warfarin= drug regulating the speed of blood clotting). Initially of course you'll have to brave the belly injections of enoxoparin or similar medicine (as warfarin takes a few days to work). *sigh* Still all these are preferable to getting a stroke or a pulmonary embolism (stroke: blood clot reaching brain; pulmonary embolish: blood clot reaching lungs). Yes, the nasty buggers do travel in your blood stream.

Basically do not worry, just talk to your GP if you experience any of the following symptoms:

wheezing
shortness of breath
chest pain
swelling of extremities
pain near or inside plaster cast
skin colour change to red/purple

or better still, take yourself to the A&E and tell them you suspect having a clot so they can do the blood tests, chest X-ray and if necessary scan your legs.

But don't worry. This is the kind of thing you deal with as and if necessary.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
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Anyone here with arthritis? Or swine flu?
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:57:20 AM
Swine flu > google it and you'll get the NHS website where you can tick the symptoms and get an instant diagnosis. If they think you may have it, you will be issued with a number for Tamiflu which you have to ask your flu buddy to get for you as you are not allowed out of your house for a week.

The course of Tamiflu lasts 5 days, twice a day. It is proven to speed up healing by close to 2 days.

If you do get the Tamiflu you may also get a pack through the post with a test tube and a prepaid envelope. You are asked to fill out a form (totally voluntary) and take a swab of your nasal cavities, put the Q-tip in a little bottle with a yellow liquid, seal the bag and post it in the biohazard envelope. Two weeks later they will let you know if it was swine flu.

Now as to getting arthritis after a viral infection - sad, but true. Just be grateful it wasn't M.E. as that is a horrible disease that can leave you paralysed.

Arthritis has its periods when it is active and you have a lot of pain, so much pain that no position of your limbs can ease it. Painkillers are the order of the day as well as topical heat (whether by special creams or by applying a hot pack on the affected joint) though some people swear they feel better after a cold pack -you'll find out what works best for you. Massage helps a lot - maybe it is the body heat transfer that does the trick and also the fact that someone cares enough to offer you this comfort, I am not sure.

There is no set time for the arthritis duration. Some people get it just for a few days, others for weeks and others for months. The same goes for the remission periods - nobody knows how long they will last. You can go to bed feeling fine one night and wake up the following day unable to move!

Anyway, as with other chronic diseases, your body will get used to it, you will learn what activates the pain and what eases it and you will be able to manage it to an acceptable degree.

What is important to remember is that when you feel the pain, it is already too late. You should have stopped exerting yourself five minutes ago. Seriously! The moment you get an inkling that you are running out of energy, stop. It is not something to be ashamed of. It is self defence.

All the best.
 LovelySSBBW
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Councils are not giving 'some' female victims of domestic violence temporary accommodation!
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:32:41 AM
Women (or men) with children should have priority over childless individuals because the life of the minors is affected by their domestic situation. A childless woman can manage better than one who has to haul her kids with her as she only has to look after herself.

As to the issue why councils provide accommodation to asylum seekers, I think it is paying off a debt to society for once being an Empire and draining off the resources of the conquered countries.

But anyway, no matter who or what you are, getting housed by a council is not a piece of cake and takes years and years of waiting, filling in of applications, begging, arguing, consulting solicitors, putting in appeals... I think it was the Conservatives that encouraged councils to sell off their housing stock as well as close schools, hospitals, asylums and turn them into luxury flats all in the name of profit, so of course social housing is now in short supply.
 LovelySSBBW
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Is hospital right to ban Christian nurse from wearing cross at work?
Posted: 9/22/2009 5:21:23 AM
It will be interesting to see the Tribunal's response to this. As a Christian, I would wear the cross inside my clothes, unless of course I used it as a piece of jewelry.

We don't know what has gone on between administration and that member of staff, how they have handled the issue, what words were exchanged and what the history is. Sometimes people bear grudges over insignificant things that have blown up over the course of years and something becomes the last straw forcing them to take action. Needless to say grudges can be borne on both sides and the book can be thrown at someone to teach them a lesson.
 LovelySSBBW
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Msg: 40 (view)
 
healthy choices
Posted: 9/22/2009 4:45:32 AM
As a morbidly obese person who has been struggling with weight issues all her life, I can only applaud the council's decision to ban the sale of sweets at the school tuck shop.

My daughter's school has a strict policy about what children can bring into school with them and that includes fizzy drinks (whether the sugar or sweeteners type), chocolate/sweets, peanuts. I am trying to teach my daughter healthy eating habits and it is great to have the school's support.
 LovelySSBBW
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Msg: 27 (view)
 
Loneliness!!!!
Posted: 9/21/2009 1:06:58 PM
bighairyrob, what game is it that you are playing? I used to play Runescape but got to a level that I had done most of the quests and got bored.

Beautiful lady with Asian characteristics: sorry to hear about the 8 weeks in a cast, keep coming into the forums and we'll entertain you. But remember to rest your leg up often so you don't get into trouble.

altafica, welcome to the club!
 LovelySSBBW
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Old people driving.
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:57:21 AM
I am surprised at the attitudes of younger and healthier people towards the aged and infirm. You think you are going to be young and fit forever? What you ridicule now, you will face up to very soon, believe you me.

I got end stage osteoarthritis on both knees which means I have to walk using a stick and like that lady you described, I take a lot of time to walk and it is hard and painful to get in/out of the car. However, once behind the wheel, I am OK. My car has power steering which makes things easier. Driving is a big consolation for someone whose life has slowed down to a standstill.

Please try to think and understand before you judge others. Thank you.
 LovelySSBBW
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Talking about accents and voices
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:45:33 AM
I dated a guy whose voice sounded like the actor's from Some Mothers Do Have Them. He looked like him, too, so it was hard to maintain my composure when I made the connection. He was not hopeless like the character portrayed by the actor but still... the wrong inflection can kill the passion 'oh you like that, don't you?'

After this guy, anything will be an improvement!
 LovelySSBBW
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Msg: 56 (view)
 
pen pals in prison..
Posted: 9/21/2009 2:16:28 AM
I was working as a legal temp some years ago and came upon a case file that contained love letters from a prisoner to the female solicitor. I read them and his poems brought tears to my eyes. I asked her how could she manage not to be moved by his letters. She told me she avoided reading letters as the prisoners would try anything to get out and all they are looking for is a vulnerable female to latch on to. She also cautioned me that a lot of what was written was not genuine, it was just playing to an audience.

For the person who was wondering how to communicate with soldiers, etc. who are in active service, please go to the MOD website and you can register and look through adverts - you might find someone to correspond with.
 LovelySSBBW
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Loneliness!!!!
Posted: 9/20/2009 3:42:10 PM
Matty, you can start socialising with your work mates and then check out the local library for any groups. My library had an announcement for a film group - they go to see a film and then sit at the pub to discuss it. Surely you can devote one day a week to yourself? And maybe you can find a Mon-Thu girlfriend who understands the necessity of you being away at weekends - it is all possible.
 LovelySSBBW
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Loneliness!!!!
Posted: 9/20/2009 3:36:53 PM
Amanda, I don't know how the message system works, the emails might have to do with the settings and what each person is looking for? I'll try to message you via email to say hello.
 LovelySSBBW
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Male/Female Roles - Can You Deal With Change?
Posted: 9/20/2009 1:48:12 PM
That society has got it wrong is evident by the number of people living on their own. In the old days, the singles were so few that you'd call a woman a spinster and a man an old boy if they hadn't married. Now the singles outnumber the couples and the world is full of frustrated and bitter people though nobody will truly admit to it. They are all 'so happy to be single' that it is amazing sites like this exist.

I miss the time when men were men and women did not have to prove anything. I'd rather have a man who says 'woman!bed! now!' than a man who is waiting for me to make the first step and is always asking me if it is alright to do this and that.
 LovelySSBBW
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Loneliness!!!!
Posted: 9/20/2009 12:37:24 PM
Cheer up! Soon you'll be meeting up with your son to have coffee outside and talk about the new things in his life and once you are allowed to drive again (I assume your isolation is because you are not allowed to drive for 6 weeks post surgery) you'll be out and about with nothing stopping you.

Loneliness is something we all experience at some point or other. I have nobody, so for me it is the norm rather than the exception. I have tried to join some groups but it did not feel right - think it is my accent and size that scare people off. But when the sadness grips me, I try to think of other people who are worse off than me and shake it off.

Do you have any good friends who could come and take you out?
 LovelySSBBW
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Msg: 6 (view)
 
Male/Female Roles - Can You Deal With Change?
Posted: 9/20/2009 12:13:00 PM
Perhaps I have not explained my point well. When I wrote this post I was thinking of people like my ex partner who admitted that he was looking for a woman to mummy him. I have also noticed a lot of male profiles here stating they are looking for a woman who is richer than them and can provide for them. Even young men are cheeky enough to think that a woman will come along and they'll get the car of their dreams and the expensive holidays, etc. They aspire to be TROPHY MEN! This is the shift I cannot deal with, that soon we'll have to buy our men...
 LovelySSBBW
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Msg: 5 (view)
 
Male/Female Roles - Can You Deal With Change?
Posted: 9/20/2009 12:01:08 PM

I must admit I've never heard of or witnessed the swift in social norms you mention
OMG! I meant to write 'shift'. Brownie points to you for noticing the error. Typing with 39 fever is not my strong point. LOL
 LovelySSBBW
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Male/Female Roles - Can You Deal With Change?
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:10:33 AM

I have a friend who stays home and looks after her 2 kids while her husband works, there are no eyebrows raised at that arrangement in the slightest so why should there be if the roles are reversed?


Because it is not traditional for the man to stay at home. Furthermore, a man can earn far more money than a woman can doing the same job (yes, I've heard of equality but you'd be surprised how easily employers can dodge it). And a female is by nature more nurturing than a male. Females are programmed to stay near their young and protect them; males are programmed by nature to go out and fight (or at least have a few pints at their local)
 LovelySSBBW
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Male/Female Roles - Can You Deal With Change?
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:03:43 AM

By the way, what is a Musical Director and why do you have one?


It is a person who is responsible for the musical side of a show. I no longer have (or need) a Musical Director because I am not currently involved in any productions.
 LovelySSBBW
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Msg: 1 (view)
 
Male/Female Roles - Can You Deal With Change?
Posted: 9/20/2009 4:21:37 AM
Some years ago my Musical Director complained that the traditional male/female roles were changing and it was hard for her to find a man who was a man. I had not given the matter much thought then as that had not been my experience.

Nowadays, I notice that more and more men aspire to be house husbands and to be 'kept' by their lady. It starts off as a joke, but they are not really kidding; they are just waiting for the mummy figure who will take care of them for life.

Is anyone else unnerved by this swift in social norms?

If you are female, would you want to (or do you) have the upper hand in the house?

If you are male, do you dream of (or live) this carefree lifestyle, or do you feel emasculated by the idea of a woman having the upper hand?

Personally, I side with my Musical Director, but it would be great to hear your views.
 LovelySSBBW
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Msg: 4 (view)
 
How often do you purchase new underwear?
Posted: 9/19/2009 1:17:35 AM
Does not matter how often a guy buys new underwear; I'll have him out of them as soon as possible and dressed in ones of my choice!

It is true but most men do not know what works for their ... erm... manhood. I don't mind how ugly a man is to other people's eyes, to my eyes he is full of potential that begs to come out. To date, I have only met one man who refused to enbetter himself despite undergoing my makeover treatment. Needless to say he is back living with his parents.
 LovelySSBBW
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Was the school right to announce a 12yo student's sex change?
Posted: 9/19/2009 1:04:53 AM
What an awful story! I have no issues with gender reassignement surgery when it is performed to adults who have gone through all the stages of preparation and have proven their determination but for children? I wonder how much the parents had to do with this kid behaving like a girl because I have heard loads of stories of mothers dressing up their little boys as girls and treating them as girls because they actually wanted to have a girl and that leaves the child confused and frustrated to the point they can develop antisocial behaviour.

As for the school, the parent's point of view makes sense. I would also have prefered to talk about gender issues with my child before she got exposed to them at school.

But back to M>F or F>M surgeries: have you ever met anyone who's had one?

I met a guy when I first came to England and he was oh! so manly and sexy and then he tells me in the car drive home that he feels like a woman and wants to become a woman. Imagine my shock! I thought 'he is putting it on because he doesn't want me to fancy him' but sure enough this guy went through all the preps including counselling and living as a 24/7 female, working, etc. and then had his surgery. He is now a gorgeous female and the strange thing is the deep masculine voice has turned into a soft female voice so much that people do not believe me when I say he used to be male.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Dancing Strictly for poofs
Posted: 9/18/2009 11:17:01 AM
Oh Gosh, yes, a man who can dance is very desirable! I remember going to Reveillons (posh parties for Xmas or New Year) and watching all the couples dancing. I never did the white wedding and dance thing in my life, but at least I got to dance with a couple of men in Sweden at a company dinner. They have the custom to ask ALL ladies to dance. No woman was left out that evening.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Real Profile Interests.
Posted: 9/18/2009 2:12:21 AM
This is a hard one. I have listed some of my actual pasttimes in my interests but left out others that I can get interested in with the right partner.

For example: FISHING. Done it once and thoroughly enjoyed it. But then the odds were that I would catch some fish as it was in a trout farm. LOL I am grateful to the man who introduced me to the joys of fishing - I would never have gone out and tried it on my own.

I also enjoyed looking at STEAM ENGINES though I could not understand as much as my trainspotting pal.

As for FOOTBALL, again, I don't like it but when it was the European Cup and my country was playing. I did watch the game with my friend though I could not again understand much other than my team's colours and whether a goal had been scored or not. My team won so we took it as a good sign that homemade pizza and beers were lucky and did exactly the same the next time they played. And they won again! And guess who was screaming at the top of her lungs filled with enthusiasm? Me!! So that makes me a football fanatic and a beer lout? No. Just a versatile person who is open minded and ready to give things a try.

I'd be thrilled for someone to challenge my boundaries and beliefs but I would be really sad if someone rejected me based on my interests because maybe he thought I was too brainy for him and he could not compete. You would not believe the number of times I had to change my profile and make it simpler so people would not feel intimidated!
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
in the wrong? or to much of a risk?
Posted: 9/17/2009 3:01:38 PM
Kids have no boundaries these days and think they rule the roost.

It was the fault of the swimmers for not complaining enough and going to the Reception to demand their money back as their swim session had been ruined by the actions of this boy. We all know the management would have taken immediate action if they saw their finances threatened!

You were not wrong to take action, but it could have backfired, which is probably why everyone else chose to be a bystander. People must learn to make a stand - it's the only way society can be changed.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
100% compatable?
Posted: 9/17/2009 2:25:18 PM
100% compatibility is not necessary for a successful relationship - just some common points of reference. After all, people are meant to compliment each other.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Freeganism
Posted: 9/17/2009 2:18:32 PM
When I was in hospital after having given birth, I was shocked that they would serve me food as I was the patient but would not allow my nurse to eat anything, even after they had done the rounds and every patient had been fed. I asked and they said they had to bin the food but saw the server give food away to other hospital workers (which she should not have done as the time limit had passed and these people would take the food to their homes hours later which could result in food poisoning). But apart from that, my poor nurse could not eat anything!

I am not sure I agree with the Freegan movement, it seems like an excuse not to join the system but I knew a guy in College who lived in a squat (yes, there are still squats!) and ate off the bins. He was not allowed benefits as he was an immigrant.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
My mom says I should keep the faith, should I give up? (Really long, but I need help)
Posted: 9/12/2009 12:48:32 PM
Oh honey what a bittersweet story! I can feel the longing in you for him to love you back but I disagree with your mother that he will come around. He is too young and he cannot handle the responsibility (but surprised that a man in the navy would act so irresponsibly - thought they taught them about honour and stuff). No matter what you try, it will not work. Sex? He'll take it when it is on offer. His child? He'll see her as long as he doesn't have to make the effort (e.g. by coming to YOUR house). And the years will go by with you hoping and keeping your life on hold for him to turn around and say he loves you...

I've seen it happen so many times!

My opinion is to steel your heart and move on. There are loads of men out there who crave a child, but for one reason or another cannot have one. Your daughter will find a father and you will find a partner who will cherish you. Keep the faith, yes, but not for the biological father of the child.

All the best.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Why are Women cold if they don’t like to snuggle?
Posted: 9/12/2009 2:45:58 AM
The only time someone cannot bear being touched is if he/she is suffering from ME or a similar condition, but most people would shrug it off as a bad day and not give it much thought. However, if you or your partner continue to be put off by touch, you ought to discuss this your GP/family doctor as it is not normal and the causes should be investigated. It is not about being cold fish; it's about being healthy in body and mind.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
A bit of a quandry
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:43:40 AM
I am happy you have found a woman you can dream of a future with. But you have to talk to her about your situation honestly. And start those divorce proceedings as soon as possible since you are certain there is not making up with your wife. No need to keep everyone's life on hold, eh?

All the best.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Would Just A Housewife Do -?
Posted: 9/11/2009 8:23:15 AM
A stay-at-home mum is the glue that holds a household together. You are there for your husband and your children, there to let the workmen in and supervise them, there to make sure all admin is done properly and on time, there to remind everyone where they should be and when, ready to ferry them to and fro activities. Stay-at-home mums are not obsolete but you need to look for the man who is happy to ... well, be the man of the house!

As for kindman's comment that you have to have sex anytime your man wants, have a spotless house, well cooked meals and sexy lingerie... LOL that is what ALL men want, but they don't necessarily get from their working or stay home wives.
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Home alone when she is partying
Posted: 9/10/2009 7:34:36 AM
Interesting responses. Especially the farting/belching ones :D I suppose the culture gap is too big to cross easily. We hold dinner parties where our friends come and see us or we go to restaurants - there never has been the desire/need to be on our own. We have plenty of 'me' time at the hair salon, nail salon, beauty salon and at the shops where we can gossip to our hearts' content and talk about subjects that men would find boring. We don't need to go out at night with our girlfriends. But maybe all this is because we were brought up with this mindset? Maybe it is because some cultures have a 'we' attitude instead of an 'I'?
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Home alone when she is partying
Posted: 9/10/2009 6:43:21 AM
What are your thoughts on the subject of men who stay at home whilst their girlfriend/partner goes out partying with her mates? Is this a part of modern life or is it something you have often wondered about?

I come from a culture with traditional values where couples spend their time together and I find this 'me time' very strange. I am sure I would feel miserable going out without my partner or at least guilty knowing he's stuck at home and I am out having fun.

And whilst we are discussing things, what is the point of British men going to the pub alone when they can drink at home? LOL
 LovelySSBBW
Joined: 9/7/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 9/10/2009 6:28:20 AM
LOL

You should NEVER give up! There are good men and women out there who want the same things as you do, it is only a matter of putting yourself out there and daring to give people a chance. After all, look at your best friends. Are they drop-dead-gorgeous, ultra-intelligent, super-rich? No, I am sure they are not. But you love them all the same and when you are with them you do not notice their faults because you are enveloped by their personality.
 
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