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 Author Thread: How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 231 (view)
 
How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date
Posted: 8/15/2010 1:38:29 PM
Actually, I prefer to pay for the date...this insures we do what I like to do and if he's a jerkwad I can ditch him!!! Hopefully, I can pick up someone that's not so hung up on calculating and splitting costs....
Just for the record fellas...I don't care if you do foot the bill on splitting a double cheeseburger meal at McDonalds......that does not constitute a date! And don't whine when the next time you try to "take" a girl out and she would rather wash her hair!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Emo Girls
Posted: 8/15/2010 1:03:01 PM
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=emo

Sounds like morons that sit around an whine about how bad their lives are. Pouty children that are angry they have to grow up.....date a clinically depressed person...at least they can have an emo look without faking it.

I don't know...guess I must be to mentally mature to understand the attraction! OMG....I must be over the hill And here all these years the guys liked smiles and laughs! Well, each person has their own individual fetishes I guess.....
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Dear God Not That One Again!
Posted: 10/23/2009 3:49:28 AM
Sponge Bob...for gawd's sake put some boxers on him!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 20 (view)
 
So I met this girl...
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:59:09 PM
LOL!!! I see a future Jerry Springer show! Just do it Miller...you know you're going to anyways. You don't need us to justify your moronic behavior! Do it! TFF
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
why do most of you think kids NEED two parents?
Posted: 10/18/2009 5:54:33 PM
I'd like to know how many of those psychologists are actively parenting? How many are absent parents and how many more don't even have children?
In terms of abuse or neglect it's fairly obvious that the spouse and children are at risk. You can't put your children in those circumstances and remain out of touch with reality.
I pay no attention to the dummy's that bash single parents as a whole! I have to be able to believe regardless of what some people say....not all believe what they bray about how terrible it is to be with a single parent. Not everyone feels the need to hold someone down instead of offering a hand up.
Heart misers abound but Heartfuls are out there searching too. Come on everyone...kumbaya my friend...kumbaya.......


 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
why do most of you think kids NEED two parents?
Posted: 10/17/2009 9:44:55 AM
Oops, hit the post on akident

I have been having issue's with my son and see how he misses the male influence. I think single parents can be just as good as couples when you have the family and friends support. Rather then start a new redundant message I figured I could identify with Super's question.
I would love to say I always am appreciated but...will have to wait until mine has his own to see it. Otherwise....he can tell his therapist in 20 years
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
why do most of you think kids NEED two parents?
Posted: 10/17/2009 9:29:52 AM
I'm afraid I dredged it up again
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
why do most of you think kids NEED two parents?
Posted: 10/17/2009 6:30:46 AM
Having both parents helps them relate to both sexes. Having been a single parent most of my son's life I see how he misses learning from male role models.
That's not to say the biological parents are the right combination. Sometimes things happen and it's not always a frivolous excuse. I think having a couple bringing up children is ultimately better in if they are happy and work well with each other. The family is better off all around.
As a single parent I can get my duties almost done but there is little time for my mental health R & R. Having someone to share the duties mean you have time to enjoy some fun. Having someone to share life with is how we were intended to live. A child needs to see how a good relationship works. they learn that life doesn't revolve around one person.
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
seeing the person you've just started dating on a date with someone else
Posted: 10/17/2009 5:00:05 AM
You're there meeting person B! What difference does it make if you are both meeting other people?
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
House of Flying Daggers/Bunny boilers
Posted: 10/12/2009 6:35:07 PM
Dissection is a favorite hobby here!!!
I can't see giving someone all that attention and thought after they've ripped my heart out. I don't need the material possessions ....
I do believe in karma! Revenge is a dish best served cold...and even better when you can sit back and laugh when you say...I didn't do it! Ya dumba$$!!!! That results in irony Haha!!
So what was the question again?
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Joining Broods
Posted: 10/12/2009 3:41:18 PM
Well for me there wasn't a nasty divorce...it was all amicable and the man that said he loved my son as son disappeared in the sunset. Of course, he said he would always be there but...you know. That just leads to another Subject Heading!

It was a question I just wanted to ask! I can't imagine a child breaking up a marriage! As everyone agrees it takes time. I just thought we needed a new item for people to froth at the mouth about. I'm so bored with talking about how money gets spent on dating and who pays. I've only introduced one guy to my kid and things headed south real fast. So much for having a sense of humor!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Joining Broods
Posted: 10/12/2009 3:43:56 AM
It was just a question Kind. There is no set amount of how long you wait for that. Some people would say jump right in and others would wait 8 years. I don't think you're a know it all. I just think, like me you put words together that sound completely different.

I basically wanted to see how people would handle a problem like this. Or if they had examples they are free to share. I know that sometimes children sabotage or try to. My son has no interest in sharing me! Although I have been on a few dates, a kink is usually thrown in due to this.

Thanks for the imput Church. Hope things work out better this time! I realize joining families is hard. Teenagers would be especially hard to deal with because of the harder mindset(for lack of a better term).

Ain't love grand!!! Well the thought of it anyways!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 2372 (view)
 
do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/11/2009 6:49:35 PM
Most of the guys in my age bracket have grown children. They aren't really looking to raise another young one. I seem to be relegated to the FWB or avoid completely list!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Joining Broods
Posted: 10/11/2009 4:26:32 PM
This is just asking a question!

You've met someone that has kids, you have kids and married/moved in! You realize that not everyone is happy right off. Does it happen often where kids can't accept the other kids or step-parent?

How often do you think relationships actually fall apart because of it? Please don't give me percentages. I'd like personal opinions not measured data.

How would you deal with the situation? How long do you try to make everyone happy before giving up? Do you think most situations can be remedied through positive reinforcement?

I'm only asking because as any single parent I would like to know how others...especially men deal with things. I see a lot of things on financial issues so this is in regards to personal behavior. Because I believe in thinning out the herd of potentials...I want to know how you would feel!

The fantasy happens and we get married. OK....work with me people!! He has kids and I have kids. If problems arose with one person I would expect for both parents take a positive approach to try and find out why the person feels the way they do. I wouldn't expect the marriage to dissolve because one person can't adjust. I'd like to believe that my spouse would have the patience and put in the emotional support to help get through. This is of course a perfect world and there isn't any singling out or picking on the person(because I wouldn't accept that either). I would make sure the gloomy gus was told as a marriage it wasn't something tossed aside and one person's unhappiness wasn't going to break it up!

What's your opinion? Do you stay or flee? Ddo you actually put an effort into making things work?

I miss the Brady Bunch!

 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
How come single mothers don't want single fathers
Posted: 10/11/2009 3:31:29 PM
Single fathers are great...but they run to fast! It would be nice to be the one being chased tho!

Maybe they don't meet single parents because, well.....they're single parents meeting single parents...we all have schedules! I think you have to be able to plan for time away, sometimes you have to compromise. You have to make the time!

When you find the right person and join families it has to seem easier....lol.......right?
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Seriously Why would you give head on a first date then ignore calls the day after.
Posted: 10/11/2009 2:40:16 PM
Maybe she just missed the screw and moved on to harder pastures!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Are We Too Wounded To
Posted: 10/11/2009 9:36:52 AM
Haha!! As much as they have a right to be rude and personally attack we still have the right to say they rude...so actually we all exist and have a right to freedoms of choice! We will continue to say whats on our minds just as openly as the next person! Some folks put words together differently and different generations speak with their own inflections. No one really has the right to say who belongs and who doesn't.
No we can't all get along because that would be too easy! But ya just pass by the bitter bad stuff and read the pertinant information. Freedom of choice at it's best.
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Why are we here?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:08:52 PM
I have a thing for tragic comedy!! Who brought the popcorn?
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Are We Too Wounded To
Posted: 10/10/2009 7:47:11 PM
Ok so back to my theory of natural selection...this is why the wounded and weak are always the first ones to be eaten
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Practice dating
Posted: 10/10/2009 3:34:05 PM
Isn't dating all practice anyways?
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 17 (view)
 
at almost 40 how do you stay modern with out sacrificing morals
Posted: 10/10/2009 2:31:44 PM
Wow....people still go out dancing? I wouldn't know but glad to see I don't have to worry about the moral issue there!! Shhhwweeeeeewwwwwwww! That's a load off
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Married Women and masterbation?
Posted: 10/10/2009 2:24:16 PM
I like to envision cartoon porn....I don't know why its just haawt and imagination is so much better when you're alone otherwise I prefer to just have him watch.....and touch...and.................. come ere you! If things are good a married woman wouldn't need to masturbate but it might spice things up a bit
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 2358 (view)
 
do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/10/2009 1:58:38 PM
So how long does "dating" go on before you commit or move on? How long before ya ask...where is this going?

I'm sorry Potter... You obviously seem to have a disdain toward woman in general! I'm sorry you have such deep seated resentment...and continue to ask myself...wow I wonder what this person is really like? Then I realize I'm not really that interested!

Yes men do actually date women with kids if they have the ability to want to share something. Other people will just continue to be grouchy and stingy with everything from affection down to every dollar value. Men and woman are no different we each have to go through a lot of bad apples to find a mate without a worm.

I'm sorry to all those bitter, sour apples ..........because it's not gonna stop me from biting until I find the right one! Trust me...it might be surprisingly delightful!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Lack of Kids
Posted: 10/10/2009 10:27:11 AM
Ok so just to clear up things...we're damned if we have kids and damned if we don't! Thanks everything is so much clearer now!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/10/2009 10:08:32 AM
" Single parents are VERY UNDESIRABLE as potential mates."

Thanks for your opinion but I'm still not ready to give up the fantasy that someone doesn't think the same was as you! You don't have children and no interest in them I guess judging from your profile. So your answer doesn't really make much difference to someone that you wouldn't suit in the first place. Check out the whining bachelor thread where your answers might actually be relevant. Of course...that's JMO And have a nice day!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 2355 (view)
 
do men actually exist that date women with kids??
Posted: 10/10/2009 9:14:06 AM
"Do men exist that date women with kids?"

Apparently there's one or 2 but apparently now they think they have to be financially responsible so they're telling the rest of the population how bad all women are!

It's making things increasingly hard to find anyone to believe we aren't all like that!!!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Are We Too Wounded To Be Nice Anymore?
Posted: 10/10/2009 9:09:18 AM
Amen Riverkilt! It seems I been preaching the same sermon today.
Bitterness and personal attacks really should be moderated. I guess in the end we know who we don't want to contact. It must be hard living with the weight of the world on the shoulder.
Don't feed the trolls and especially don't feed the angry bears! Maybe if they go back and hibernate they'll wake up on the right side of the cave!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 93 (view)
 
Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:56:49 AM
"Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them so that they can afford to be stay at home mothers instead of working outside of the home and putting their children into daycare 40 hours a week?"

Futureshock? Another fantasy question? Some people live in a fantasy land and believe that's gonna happen. Yes...I'm sure some girls do want that...and if they're pretty enough and talented enough to get a guy to do it..then so be it. He has the choice to support her or not.

Most mom's aren't looking for anything other then the enrichment to the family household. In whatever form it comes in. I have no desire to be that dependant on anyone.

If a guy gets with a girl with kids and he chips in to help with food...does that mean he's being financially responsible for things or is that just sharing? If she's doing his laundry and he gets laundry soap is he supporting her or the household? If a man is living with a girl married or not and he's unemployed...is it wrong to ask if he can watch the kid(s) before and after school for a couple hours while we go out and work? I don't see anything wrong with asking this from someone I'm sharing my life with.

For a singles site I see a lot of bitter people. They have a bad experience and take it out on others who didn't do anything. I'm not saying this to anyone personally but why are people so hateful and yet actually on a site that should be a bit kinder. There's a difference between an actual discussion on a question someone has. And ...well attacking someone because they are a certain gender.....and because they were hurt by someone of that gender...that person must be guilty of the same infraction.

Most of us are here to eventually find someone to share their life with. We don't want to be lumped into a pot of nastiness. We don't deserve to be ripped apart because someone didn't have the sense to see they were being taken advantage of! Get over it and make nice or move on!

Hey folks! It's almost Christmas! Are most single parents just looking for a sap to financially support them over the holidays?
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Forgive and forget? Do you really mean it?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:07:28 AM
You forgive...because that's how you move one.
You don't forget....because that's how you remember the mistake you made to get you there.
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 89 (view)
 
Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?
Posted: 10/10/2009 8:01:07 AM
"Are most single moms looking for a guy to care for them financially?"

I'm not looking but if you know some nice fella that does want to support me financially...I'm willing to give it a shot! I've always managed to get by just fine on my own. Although, there have been a few guys that seemed to think I was supposed to support them financially! I think it goes for both sexes that anyone can fantasize about living a dream. That's all it really is.

I suppose if that's what a guys willing to do he's made his own choice. All that should be sorted out before the relationship is serious. Some guys actually want a "trophy" wife whether she's got kids or not. My ex had more money in his pocket then he came to me with. I sent him packing after giving nothing financially towards the household in the 6+ yrs we were married. And before someone tries to bash me for supporting him that long you don't know the circumstances.....zip it...you have no clue about the situation! It happens and we get over it. Live and learn is all I can say!

No...most single moms aren't looking for someone to support them financially! They're probably looking for some guy to share life with her and and her child(ren). She doesn't need your wallet to enjoy a relationship! She does want someone to help her improve life as a family and be able to contribute to the betterment of the household.
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 180 (view)
 
Can men tell when a woman is faking it?
Posted: 10/9/2009 9:46:52 AM
I think any woman that fakes it is short changing herself and the guy she's with. I think it's just as important to communicate needs to acheive the desired effect. Any guy who can't tell a girl is faking just doesn't want to know or maybe doesn't really care.
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How often do condoms really break?
Posted: 10/3/2009 7:46:17 AM
Always use a water based lube with condoms! Sometimes, a guy is to big for the condoms that's why they came out with Magnums! And condoms do have an expiration date! Use some common sense folks!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
A little scared, I think I have contacted a weirdo
Posted: 9/25/2009 4:17:20 PM
Well...I tried reading through the OP's post several times
Did he really come out and tell her he wasn't interested? I mean....maybe that's all he had to do. Seems like bad manners he had to keep stringin her along....just tell her!
Then if that don't work....you get a restraining order
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 45 (view)
 
What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You?
Posted: 9/23/2009 3:29:10 AM
I would have apologized for him being so shallow then ordered the most expensive thing on the menu!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 1321 (view)
 
full-time single dads
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:31:21 PM
Much applause for all the responsible dad's
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Spontaneous dates
Posted: 9/20/2009 5:09:10 PM
Many things are lost in translation. I got ya Idaho! Correct. Sometimes, you have to read a post a couple times to make sure you are understanding what the writer means.
I also try not to be to critical of anyones views but why do people feel its right to wrongly accuse someone of saying something that they didn't? Then have the gall to make a crack about someones grammatical errors. The proper thing would have been to apologize for the error in understanding. Making someone feel worse is not good class. I'm sorry Idaho that should not have happened.
Thanks singledad, again!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Spontaneous dates
Posted: 9/20/2009 12:46:47 PM
My thoughts too Deerclan! They actually help speed up the decision process.
I don't usually introduce my dates to my son. Not that there have been many but I like to wait until I have an idea if it's someone I would continue seeing. To many single moms run a parade of men past their kids. Not to mention the fact my son doesn't think I should be dating....I'm supposed to be all his
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Spontaneous dates
Posted: 9/20/2009 11:04:11 AM
Although I would consider that a given....I still have to say no way could I go for that!
I try not to be judgemental but in this day and age......should those ppl even have children? Letting a complete stranger take your kid........heeeelllllll nooooooo!!!
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Spontaneous dates
Posted: 9/20/2009 10:29:33 AM
Thanks all! My support system is pretty small so sometimes it's hard to find someone that can take my son.
I will say the other evening I was asked out for drinks and appetizers. Fate was smiling and I got out. He was an absolute gentleman. Far superior to what I'm used to......as I usually attract the wrong sort
Had I told him no he would have been disappointed but one of us would have counter offered.
The fact is no one needs to rush. If the interest is there a week or 2 to meet isn't really to much to ask for. If I set a date or time I will be there or u will know ahead of time.
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Spontaneous dates
Posted: 9/19/2009 9:10:49 PM
I'm always up front with the information. I was just wondering if anyone else felt that way!
And I do stop talking to them when they get rude. Thanks
 gabrielle523
Joined: 9/16/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Spontaneous dates
Posted: 9/19/2009 6:19:26 PM
I've been asked for spur of the moment dates. When I say I'm unable to get a sitter that quick...I'm met with a lot of nasty remarks.
Am I wrong in thinking this is loutish behavior? Is asking for a little warning to plan to much? Also, why would I want to go out with someone like that? Just saying.........kinda scarey if ya ask me.
 
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