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 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Handjob Lover
Posted: 2/4/2014 4:59:59 PM

I dont know about the rest of the women, but I dont really give him hand jobs alot. I mean, I'll stroke him and all, but, I cant jerk him off to the point of cumming.

Why??

Because he's been doing it himself for so many years, that only HE knows how to do it.

Id rather give him oral. He cant do that. I cant give myself oral either.

But he knows how to jerk it man, its amazing to watch. I cant comapre, i really cant.

*sighs*


Don't learn to do it like he does it. Instead, give him a long, slow handjob as though you were massaging his**** Don't jerk it like he does. I promise you he will LOVE what you do. Top it off by sucking him as he starts to cum.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 68 (view)
 
what is best anti-virus program. Kaspersky? Norton?? McAfee???
Posted: 2/3/2014 4:33:41 PM
If you still insist on using Windows, use Avast as your anti-virus. It's free. Regardless of how "good" the most expensive anti-virus programs claim to be, the people with those tend to be the most infected because those pieces of software are, at best, reactive (to discovered threats), not pro-active. What does that mean? It means what the previous guy said — the person sitting in the chair is still the problem, going to sites they shouldn't and clicking on random links because they THINK they are impervious.

Where I disagree with the previous poster is that, in the 25+ years I've been using computers, I've NEVER had to "wipe a drive" and start over. This is a cure-all for Windows users only.

I make the suggestion of either Mac (which may cost you a bit more up front) or Linux (which is completely free and will run better than Windows or Mac OS X on the same hardware). In either case, the problems with malware are far less an issue.

Now, some people will tell you that these targets don't get hit because they're so small, they're not worth going after. I'd argue that these same people have NEVER taken a statistics class. Ever.

A discussion for a different thread, I suppose. Avast for anti-virus. Malwarebytes and Spybot for almost everything else. All free.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 48 (view)
 
Herpes Reality/ Herpes Challenge
Posted: 2/3/2014 4:18:31 PM


WRONG! There are different strains of HSV2. You may have one type, he may have another.



Please post a reputable link. A random POF member saying there are multiple strains and you can pass stuff back and forth contradicts every reputable site I've ever read. We'll wait.


I see we are still waiting. Glad we didn't listen to the person telling us about the multiple strains of HSV-2. But, let's push this back to the top so we can get a reputable link.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Dating someone with HSV2
Posted: 2/3/2014 4:02:50 PM
I can't speak for the genital variety, but I've had cold sores since I'm a small child. In all my relationships to date, no one has caught the virus. Ok, to be fair, no one has seemingly caught the virus. Not facially and not genitally from me going down.

While I don't dispute asymptomatic shedding, I think people who have caught from someone who was "asymptomatic" really caught it from someone who didn't recognize an actual symptom or pretended to not notice the symptom. I say this because I never kissed or did anything sexually with my mouth if I had a remote concern that something I was feeling MIGHT be an oncoming outbreak. I doubt most people are like that and, thus, pass the virus while pretending they "don't know how it happened."
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 1230 (view)
 
kissing after oral sex
Posted: 2/3/2014 3:53:01 PM
I didn't read this whole thread, but I'm unsure of the big deal. Ok, yes, I don't want a mouth full of my own cum, but after she's swallowed me, I'll kiss her. Just like she'll kiss me after I'm done going down on her.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 100 (view)
 
Woman who sucks at sex!!!!
Posted: 2/3/2014 3:50:32 PM

Part of the problem is that too many guys are just happy to be getting something to say anything. That's also why some of you experience the hit-it-and-quit-it guys. They might have actually been interested but you were a lousy lay and it's not usually worth the effort to teach you anything because"

You'll blame the man anyway.
Say: "Fine! I just won't do that anymore!"
Try to insult his skills right back.


This, too, is interesting. I agree with this to a point. Many women do espouse the benefits of communicating, but should you suggest what they could do better (and do it in nice, constructive way), many will get defensive (probably opting for choice number 2 above in bold).

It's not 100% true, however, as I have someone now where we can tell each other likes, dislikes, "do it this way," etc. and there are no problems. In fact, she is the best head I've had to date because she knows what I likes and actually DOES WHAT I LIKE, rather than thinking I should "be grateful her mouth is there at all."
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 69 (view)
 
Ok if you do Not like to give oral sex explain why an do you expect it in return?
Posted: 2/3/2014 3:42:07 PM

So im curious for those out here who I don't care male or female gay bi or straight...

are you somebody who does Not like to give oral sex or never have given it..

what is your story as to why not??

an if you Don't give do you expect the person your intimate with to give you oral sex anyways?? isn't that a bit selfish on your end that you want tongue pleasure but you refuse to give it back or even try....HMMM....


This is an interesting question. It is one thing to not like giving oral sex. It's another to still demand receiving oral sex and, to make matters worse, call the person who's willing to give oral sex selfish should they choose to stop giving until it's reciprocated.

Those kind of "lovers" should just be tossed to the curb with the rest of the trash.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 125 (view)
 
Do women really like anal?
Posted: 2/3/2014 3:39:27 PM
This question is somewhat based on the female and the (lack of) experience she has in this area. I've had women who were afraid of anal. Compared it to being gay as to discourage men from wanting it. Have had women tolerate it and met one who couldn't get enough of it. Anal is not a dealbreaker for me, but I really do enjoy it with a woman who even "kind of" likes it.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 74 (view)
 
Cutting Off Sex
Posted: 2/3/2014 3:35:22 PM
I agree with MsMicki as far as telling enthusiasm from a female. I've had blowjobs from women who were just doing it to do it (time watchers) vs. those who made me wait to cum because they were too busy enjoying the blowjob they were giving and didn't want it to end just yet.

I will NEVER again date a woman who kind of likes giving blowjobs. They will eventually stop or be so infrequent because she wants "them to be special" and not just something that happens too often (which is a bullshit excuse anyway).

And as the other guy pointed out (sorry, I can't remember his name), it is true that if you LIKE doing it, you continue doing it. Many guys on here and other sexual forums will talk about their selfish wives and their lack of willingness to do anything but, because the men LOVE eating **** (and their women still want the men doing it), they continue to eat the **** of selfish women. Point proven. Women who stop giving head as a result of *insert reason here* didn't LOVE doing it to begin with.
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Herpes Reality/ Herpes Challenge
Posted: 12/22/2013 11:25:56 AM

WRONG! There are different strains of HSV2. You may have one type, he may have another.


Please post a reputable link. A random POF member saying there are multiple strains and you can pass stuff back and forth contradicts every reputable site I've ever read. We'll wait.
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 57 (view)
 
Cutting Off Sex
Posted: 12/22/2013 11:05:14 AM

No blowjob will be ok with me I will be happy just being with a woman.


This just reeks of desperation. I'm sorry.
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Cutting Off Sex
Posted: 12/22/2013 11:03:54 AM
Men generally take the brunt of wanting/requesting oral sex, or questioning why it has stopped.
In many cases, women love to say it's his fault. He stopped doing something. Compare to a woman with the same issue and, generally, it's still the male's fault. These message boards are rarely good for an unbiased answer.

That said, women are exceptionally guilty of stopping something they used to do regularly or frequently, and no amount of romance or helping around the house or even going above and beyond sexually for her ever brings her back to doing what she used to do. And, gentlemen, if I just described your situation, it's time to leave her, unless you like having a friend in your house who doesn't appreciate all the pleasure you give her, despite her not returning the favor.
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Not enough men on here are serious
Posted: 12/22/2013 10:57:27 AM

It says clearly that i am not interested in 25 year olds. Read the profile before you judge me.


To send a message to ClearTC you MUST meet the following criteria:
Male
Age between 25 and 39.
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
Must not be married


Either I don't know how to read or you don't understand ranges.
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Accurate info on Herpes & testing
Posted: 12/22/2013 10:47:13 AM
Do the IgG testing, not IgM testing.

Why? IgM testing will supposedly show you a new infection, but that's not accurate. It will be positive for re-infection, such as your 100th cold sore (or even a symptom that may not be visible). Therefore, it tells you nothing, other than an active infection (like a recurrence). It also cannot distinguish HSV1 vs. HSV2. It will also be negative once there is no active infection, which won't tell you if you have something long-term.

IgG, however, can give you a type. HSV1 and/or HSV2. IgG tests for permanent antibodies in your system for one or both of these viruses. So, if you caught cold sores as a child, you will absolutely have a positive IgG HSV1.

Now the confusion. HSV1 is the virus, NOT the location. If you have HSV1, you may have it in the typical place (face) or the less-but-growing location (genital, due to oral sex). Accordingly, HSV2 can be genital (typical) or facial (rare, and rarely recurs, according to most reputable sites).
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Has Porn Effected peoples Sex lives
Posted: 9/1/2013 5:10:52 PM
No. It's AFFECTED them.
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 94 (view)
 
In all honesty, how important is oral sex?
Posted: 9/1/2013 4:31:30 PM
This topic is "new" every year. lol

If you don't give, don't expect to get. Anyone who can justify why it's ok to receive while not giving is an ass. The end.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 122 (view)
 
She only prefers anal sex.
Posted: 12/27/2010 7:21:59 PM

are you CERTAIN she's a SHE???

a real SHE???



DING DING DING DING DING!!!
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Sexual conversation ruining long term potential?
Posted: 9/6/2010 7:33:53 AM
Talking about your sexual likes and dislikes is important, especially early on. If he or you are not willing to do some of the things that you deem "necessary," the relationship is doomed to fail or, at the very least, one of you will come to POF (or something similar) to forever complain about things you lack in the bedroom.

Sex w/o the "relationship" is FwB scenario, which you're trying to avoid.
Relationship w/o sex is called friendship.
Relationship with unfulfilling sex is called doomed.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 153 (view)
 
How do you deal with someone when the sex isn`t satisfying?
Posted: 8/23/2010 7:22:00 PM
Too many people here have the wrong answer. There is no point in "trying to work on it." The normal routine is...
- She's not comfortable with sex.
- You feel bad and try to work with her.
- Years pass, but you feel guilty ending a relationship over sex.
- You express your desires.
- She tells you, "Well, you knew I was like this when we got together..."

OR

You do what you did, which was not only right for you, but was honest.

Notice — either way, women tell you you're wrong. Typical.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 139 (view)
 
How do you deal with someone when the sex isn`t satisfying?
Posted: 8/21/2010 7:46:39 PM
She's a psycho — trying to make you feel guilty due to her lack of sexual enthusiasm. Run. Run fast! Run far! Run now!
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 38 (view)
 
coldsores
Posted: 8/21/2010 1:02:07 PM
@ToWoman: You are correct. I think HSV-1 and HSV-2 share about 50% of their DNA. So, they are extremely similar, but not exactly the same. I was really trying to point out that people assume oral HSV-1 will "turn into" genital HSV-2, which just isn't the case.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 36 (view)
 
coldsores
Posted: 8/20/2010 8:23:29 PM
Lots of misinformation. First, to clear it up, the number in HSV-1 and HSV-2 has *NOTHING* to do with the location. They are actually 2 different viruses. That said, HSV-1 USUALLY is on the face (lips, nose, and in worst case scenarios, eyes or even brain). HSV-2 is USUALLY genitals (also including anywhere in the "boxer shorts" area).

So, if you don't have either virus and someone with a cold sore (99% HSV-1) gives you oral sex, you will get genital herpes of the TYPE 1 variant. It doesn't turn into HSV-2.

Most studies seem to conclude that oral HSV-2 is rare and recurrences are extremely rare, whereas genital HSV-1 can still be somewhat frequent in recurrence.

If you already have cold sores (again, most likely HSV-1) and someone with a cold sore gives you oral sex, it is less likely (though nothing is 0) that you will contract it again, since you have antibodies fr the virus already. You WILL catch HSV-2, however, if you have unprotected intercourse with someone else who has it. HSV-1 antibodies will provide some resistance to catching it, but not enough to keep you safe.

Knowing all this about HSV makes me glad that I grew up with cold sores, because I'm better educated and actually somewhat protected against the virus. While I'm certainly not being judgmental about genital herpes, I also don't ever want it.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 105 (view)
 
Why do lots of women find it so stimulating to give a blowjob?
Posted: 1/16/2010 6:31:57 AM

... I don't give a dam about submission, domination, power, or even pleasing him.


So, if you have no interest in pleasing your man, one can easily infer that you are selfish and only interested in your own pleasure. You then become what you accuse all the guys of — being selfish for wanting pleasure. If you disagree with my assessment, it can only mean you're not really interested in sex due to anger of some past issue.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 91 (view)
 
Does oral sex change your opinion of a girl?
Posted: 1/15/2010 4:49:04 AM
This only matters — this concept of being easy — for young girls. Adults don't have to count dates before having sex (or sexual acts). Just my opinion.

And yes, oral sex does change my opinion of a girl. If she does it, score++ for her! :)
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 100 (view)
 
Wife finds porn on computer and....
Posted: 1/15/2010 4:44:14 AM
Um, nothing wrong with porn. And, if you don't want your wife to find the porn, have separate accounts (and make yourself an admin account, while she has a regular account). Another solution is to have separate computers. Of course, the best solution is to get a new, non-high-strung female.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 47 (view)
 
What is the connection between being a submissive in bed and being insecure/shy or lazy?
Posted: 1/3/2010 10:40:38 AM
Submissive and insecure MAY have a correlation, but not exclusively.

Submissive and laziness... nope. Submissive, to me, doesn't mean "just lie there." In my experience, submissives go out of their way to please you, so they do extra work, almost taking pride in it.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 1155 (view)
 
kissing after oral sex
Posted: 1/3/2010 10:38:35 AM
I'm not into the whole "snowball" thing, but after she's swallowed (or spit), I'll kiss her. No need for her to run to the bathroom and brush first.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Video Card Question: what in the hell do they do?
Posted: 12/31/2009 12:28:29 PM
This sounds more like a RAM issue. I'd check that your PC is not running multiple things behind the scenes that would use up so much RAM.

Usual culprits:
- Malware
- Crapware set to startup with Windows
- Norton's or McAfee (use Avast or something similar)
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/31/2009 9:59:33 AM


These men should try to be with women who SQUIRT (if you can find one!), and then...let's see if these men would let a woman SQUIRT in their FACES or in their MOUTHS!! (no?!).


I have been with a woman who squirts and it was beyond a turn on to have her attempt to stand over me while I made her cum. While she started squirting and pouring out, I couldn't have forced my tongue any further in her if I tried. Graphic enough for you? I love it. Therefore, I will not deal with a woman who is squeamish about c*mshots, swallowing, etc.

I know there are people that give the old cliche, "Well, you shouldn't not do something just because your partner doesn't." Um, yes you should (not do something), because otherwise, only one person will ever be getting pleasure while the other one gets frustration.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 79 (view)
 
How do you deal with someone when the sex isn`t satisfying?
Posted: 12/29/2009 10:05:49 AM
There's no point in continuing the relationship. A great friendship without satisfying sex is... a great friendship. If the sex isn't there or isn't good, you will eventually become resentful. You did the right thing by simply saying you were no compatible. If she cannot handle it, she's a psycho.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Sex Addiction
Posted: 12/29/2009 10:03:48 AM
"Sex addict" is a label used by a cheater to justify his/her motives.
"Sex addict" is a label partner A will use on partner B in an attempt to:
- prove that partner A has a normal sex drive when it may be low
- prove that partner B has an (abnormally) high sex drive when it may be quite normal

In other words, the term "sex addict" is full of shiiiiiiiiiiiiii.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/29/2009 9:53:12 AM
The fact that someone is worried about what their children will think about a sex act shows you how far off track they are.

I don't care what my son thinks because.... my son shouldn't know what I do sexually. I like women who like cumsh•ts and don't have time for the squeamish women. Doesn't mean I'm looking to do it every time, but if you'd rather dodge me like a bullet is coming, don't expect me to do anything you might find exciting either.

It is amazing to me that there are adults out here who have sexually child-like thinking (ewww, peeeee comes out of there). Don't have sex. What can I tell you?
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 170 (view)
 
Herpes
Posted: 12/22/2009 8:12:23 AM
@KaylieCat:

I'm not attempting to downplay what HSV-1 is. I'm merely saying that, while it most certainly can be an STD — and many more cases of Herpes are now being caused by type 1 — it isn't an STD in and of itself (whereas the same cannot be said for type 2).

I've suffered cold sores since I'm a little kid. I wasn't molested in any way. Shît happens, I have it and, yes, I'm thankful it's oral rather than genital.

Have I always been honest about it? Yes. Do I know what it is? Yes. Do I know people in their 50s and 60s who still think a cold sore is just something that is caused by a cold or fever? Yes. Some people do not want to accept what they have and give it a cute name to make themselves feel better. In turn, these are the people who have helped spread the non-sexual (and sexual) HSV-1. "This isn't the bad herpes." Morons.

I always know when I'm about to have an outbreak and, while we can argue all day long that no symptoms does not guarantee no transmission, I was with someone for a LONG time who never caught it from me. Anything that SEEMED like a symptom, no matter how mild, was cause for me not to do anything (just in case).

People... go get educated. HSV sucks and, yet, 80-90% of the population have it (only about 25% have HSV-2) . Yup - that's the truth! MOST people never show symptoms.
 smellyone
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 160 (view)
 
Herpes
Posted: 12/17/2009 7:52:47 AM
While it's true that HSV-1 can become an STD, it's not fair to call it an STD. Remember, a good portion of people have HSV-1 and don't know it, since a good amount of people never actually show symptoms (but can still spread it). They didn't catch it sexually. They caught it as a child when their Aunt Bertha insisted on kissing them on the lips.

"Oh, it's just a little fever blister." Nope. It's herpes, despite the cute name you give it.
 
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