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 Author Thread: What happened to the forums
 Schrödingers_Dog
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What happened to the forums
Posted: 6/24/2017 1:16:16 PM
Yup. I used to be one of the volunteer moderators and was, at that time, in charge of this sub-forum (as well as helping out with all the others).

"The moderators became too heavy handed with their suspensions, bans, and deletions"
And that's why I quit. TicketToRide (?) was the head mod and he became impossible to work with, banning people left, right and centre. He demanded his word be taken as law and, despite voicing our concerns to Marcus, nothing was done about it. I don't think there's a single moderator left from those days. Actually, I can't see much sign that there are any moderators at all anymore.
 Schrödingers_Dog
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
more and more members
Posted: 5/19/2017 12:33:49 PM
I don't bomb my entire Ultramatch (search method of your choice) with messages. I send several a day, tops. I've gotten much more active in the last month and sent, maybe, 100 messages. ONE profile was "paid-only".
 Schrödingers_Dog
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Can you advertise the forum on the dating pages?
Posted: 5/19/2017 12:30:33 PM
I used to be a volunteer moderator, 12ish years ago. When Ticketoride was slowly escalating his tyrannical hold on this place. Quit because of his megalomania and pointless bans.

Back to the first post, they used to have Forums at the top of profiles/etc. but, to my understanding, they decided to stop advertising them rather than just closing them down completely.
 Schrödingers_Dog
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
written testimonials not showing on users profile??
Posted: 5/19/2017 11:34:24 AM
Trying to figure this one out. Testimonials used to show up at the bottom of the profile. I just had a date that went very well but our goals didn't align but we decided to try writing a testimonial for each other. Done and I've viewed it at the link I found on another thread (http://www.plentyoffish.com/friendtestimonial.aspx) .... but how do *OTHER* people see it?
 Schrödingers_Dog
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Testimonials how do i read what was wrote about me ?
Posted: 5/19/2017 11:30:53 AM
Testimonials used to show up at the bottom of the profile. I just had a date that went very well but our goals didn't align but we decided to try writing a testimonial for each other. Done and I've viewed it at the link above .... but how do *OTHER* people see it?
 Schrödingers_Dog
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Please review my profile. Thanks!!
Posted: 12/5/2014 7:52:40 PM
Well, from a guy's perspective, it's a good profile. Pics are a good balance of fun and casual. I'm never a fan of pics taken in the car but that's probably just me (since they're rampant).

FYI - the shirtless pic is technically against the rules. I used to be a moderator here so that's just so you know. I think context should make it okay but don't be shocked if it disappears.

For the text, also good -- not too long, not too short. Only thing that I really noted was the dropping the third-person narration in the third paragraph (going from "he/him" to "I/me"). I acknowledge that most people are not me and probably wouldn't bat an eye over that.
 Schrödingers_Dog
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 11 (view)
 
I think my girl is cheating,
Posted: 12/5/2014 7:41:26 PM
When I was active in this sub-forum years ago, the moderator would have deleted this thread entirely just for naming names like this (or at least have edited it out). The Ontario forum was as active as many (or more) of the main forum sections. Now... tumbleweeds....

As for the topic itself, checking out your partner's browser history is proof that your relationship is already on the rocks. And then sneaking behind her back asking if anyone here has been messaging her? Doooooomed.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Toshiba Satelite - no CD recognized
Posted: 6/7/2012 10:06:27 PM
It's a CD drive not being recognized. Why has nobody suggested the simplest possible fix in resetting the Upperfilter/Lowerfilters?

http://support.microsoft.com/kb/314060

This might not be the cause but, if it is, it's a helluva lot easier to fix than going through PXEs and such nonsense.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
System logs out too fast
Posted: 6/6/2012 12:06:25 PM
Agreed, very annoying -- I often have the same problem but you, too, have figured out the most correct work-around in copying your post/message before hitting Send.

One other trick is to keep another PoF window/tab running, switch to it on occasion and hit Refresh on it. That will keep your message window active at the same time.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
longest relationship question
Posted: 6/4/2012 8:25:32 PM
The best ones are the ones with a max of, say, 3 years and their profiles say "no players". Those ones scream "BAGGAGE!!!" like no others.

Yes, to me, having no relationships last longer than a handful of years means that someone can't keep a partner happy, can't pick a good partner and/or lacks socials skills to meet people in the first place.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
How to find out if their pic is fake
Posted: 6/4/2012 7:23:02 PM
Right-click pic. "Copy image location"
Go to TinEye.com and paste in the address into its search box.

Or, if it looks fake, it probably is fake.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Blocked
Posted: 6/4/2012 7:20:13 PM
Move on.

Attempting to bypass a Block can/will get your account deleted.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Any female Wrestling Fans
Posted: 5/31/2012 11:09:20 PM
I have no problem with boxing, kickboxing, etc.... but once they start grinding into each other on the ground, UFC seems to be more like "rough gay porn" than any kind of a sport. Could they kick -my- ass? Sure...but I'd be worried about what else they might do with it when they're done kicking.

I'll take 'real' wrestling any day. Men wearing boas and make-up... yet still come across as more masculine than the aforementioned.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
weird that oral sex does nothing for me?
Posted: 4/28/2012 10:29:47 AM
Not sure what the big deal is. I've received oral aplenty and have never orgasmed from it. Do I turn it down? Hell, no. It still feels great but, after a while, we move on. For me, it's strictly foreplay and not an sex act in and of itself.

I'm alright with that.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Using the favorites list to stalk someone
Posted: 4/21/2012 7:55:05 PM
Worth noting that you can't block someone who has not messaged you. The only opportunity to block someone is the same page when you're reading mail from them.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Kindly saying no
Posted: 4/8/2012 4:24:17 PM
I'm in the other camp. I think it's shameful to ignore a message that's sincere. I would much sooner receive a simple "Thanks but I don't see any common ground. Best of luck." than to get ignored.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
My City
Posted: 4/8/2012 3:49:23 PM
The search formula hasn't changed in the last 6 or so years, I don't think it's about to change anytime soon.

And yes, I have the same frustrations. "New Users" shows nobody closer than 50km away. I'd rather it showed none than showed so many pointless profiles.
"My City" claims 70 pages of results but, if I go to the last page, and add the very last person to my Favourites, it shows she was last on line in 2006. Yup. So helpful.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
age is wrong
Posted: 4/3/2012 10:07:15 PM
Unless they've changed the rule, you can change your age (and sex) for the first two weeks. It should be found at the very bottom of "Edit Profile" page.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 597 (view)
 
>>>>>>>>>>>>> Viewed Me Now a Paid Feature: Please post comments here
Posted: 3/14/2012 10:39:56 AM
"Zoosk? Really? That site is a joke with about 4 users."

[u]Facebook likes:[/u]
Zoosk: 328,559 likes
PoF: 35,981 likes

Never heard of Zoosk till today but those numbers aren't made up.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 594 (view)
 
Viewed Me Now a Paid Feature: Please post comments here
Posted: 3/14/2012 10:25:36 AM
I'm not sifting through 40 pages of these complaints but, in case it hasn't been mentioned, Viewed Me works fine on the mobile app on my iPhone.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Transvestites and transgendered advertising on POF?
Posted: 3/14/2012 10:24:03 AM
"My only objection is when they advertise themselves as female without letting you know. I think that I have a right to know what sex I am dating."

Gotta agree with that. There is a local woman whose profile clearly states that she has Hep-C. Gods bless her for her honesty. Anybody with a issue/condition/status/etc that may not be obvious on plain sight should have the balls (pun intended) to let people know well in advance.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Is there a way
Posted: 3/14/2012 10:20:19 AM
"An atheist who chooses not be involved with a Christian is just as intolerant as a Christian who chooses not to be involved with an atheist. Just sayin'."

Yes, but this is a dating site. It's okay to have intolerances about things. I am intolerant of drug users and would never be in a relationship with one. Why should the OP -not- have the right to restrict his preferences based on someone else's "opium of the masses"?
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 143 (view)
 
Name the number one thing keeping you single..
Posted: 12/27/2011 8:36:11 PM

Not getting any replies... ha...
I've msged varies ladies here, connecting through their profiles about likes/dislikes, but I've yet to get a reply...

Yeah, basically the same here. I sent out a dozen messages -- same basics but adapted to each person to whom I was sending (not cookie cutter). Of the dozen, not one reply and only one of them even viewed my profile.

I even went to a meet and greet locally. One woman there seemed quite nice and even gently chastised me for not having contacted her. So, that night, I did: "Nice to have met you... maybe you'd like to get together sometime?"
Nothing.


If absolutely amazes me how many women's profiles rant about how they don't want a man who plays games, etc. but (not that these are the same women) they can't bother to even politely reply if they're not interested.

Ignoring someone is also being a game-player.
 Xander_Thespian
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 186 (view)
 
raped or not ?
Posted: 12/15/2011 6:42:04 PM
I'm more curious (now that the original guy has been jailed), as to why someone dug this thread up two years later. Was he searching on the term "rape"? If so... why?
 Xander_thespian
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
How far are you willing to go on a date?
Posted: 12/15/2011 10:09:04 AM
Simple answer: a half-hour if it looks like we've got tons in common. For "who knows" kind of dates, less.
 Xander_Thespian
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
St. Catharines/Niagara Mix & Mingle!
Posted: 12/14/2011 11:12:08 PM
Kate, thanks again for having put this together.

Twas a pleasure to meet you tonight (and everyone else).
 Xander_Thespian
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 90 (view)
 
How common is it for guys to like both really big boobs and really small boobs?
Posted: 12/14/2011 4:11:51 PM

Isis_feline : Xander.......whats a 'champagne glass'?? :)


The ones I had in mind are not the proper "flutes" but, if you google saucer champagne glass, that'll give you a visual.
 Xander_Thespian
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
St. Catharines/Niagara Mix & Mingle!
Posted: 12/14/2011 3:19:13 PM
Oddly enough, I was just going to post a thread about ideas for St Catharines/Niagara.

How fortuitous!
 Xander_Thespian
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Longer you are on do you get less exposure
Posted: 12/14/2011 7:49:34 AM
If you look through your search results, you'll usually find them sorted by "last online". It doesn't matter how old a profile was so long as the user checks in regularly. There's not much point in PoF saying, "Hey, here's an exact match in everything... but she hasn't logged in since 2009" when it can show you all the people who checked in yesterday instead that are, at least, similar.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 75 (view)
 
How common is it for guys to like both really big boobs and really small boobs?
Posted: 12/13/2011 10:32:50 PM
I'm probably in the "biased" category. All 3 women in my immediate family had reductions (mother, both sisters). When I see big boobs, I think of the back aches that I kept hearing about. As a result, I tend to favour smaller.
That said, I've never dated a "champagne glass" but dated several "D"s. Big has never been a deal-breaker; it's just not something that I've gone looking for.

FWIW, I'll take tiny and real over big and fake any day.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Cheapness is right next to rudeness, what does it take to offer a lady a drink????
Posted: 12/13/2011 10:29:22 PM

OP: If your smart try buying him the first round he'll most likely buy the next 3 just cause you impressed him

I can't see a flaw in that logic. He's dead right there.


Dreaming-cynic: I have never asked a guy to buy me anything, instead I have a rule.....
Who ever invites the other one for a date pays, so if you invite me to dinner, you pay and If I invite you to the bar first drink is on me!

Wow, how magnanimous! So, he buys a $50+ meal and you'll buy a $5 round!? Equality at last!
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 14 (view)
 
New Profile Format: Questions/Problems Go Here
Posted: 12/13/2011 10:12:24 AM

I think it would make more sense to group astrological sign with religion. It just makes no sense to have your sign grouped under ethnicity.


Agreed. I'd like to do away with astrological crap altogether (there's no "rather not say") but, at least, put it where it makes better sense. It should be with religion next to "unicorn worship" and "Jedis".
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 22 (view)
 
how to get her to head to the bedroom
Posted: 12/12/2011 8:24:10 PM
Well, no, you're not a father at all. By your own admission, you're a deadbeat dad ("She wants me to pay her for child support which i dont really care to").

That aside, and accepting what you're saying about her as true, you might want to consider reevaluating your taste in women. The one you're claiming makes false claims against you and this new one is your boss' daughter!
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
3...2...1.... Review!
Posted: 12/12/2011 8:20:35 PM
Thanks for the feedback, ladies.

Halcyon, I think you may have missed a paragraph further down so I moved it near the top for clarity. Also, it does also say that my kids live in Montreal so they're not (unfortunately) taking too much of my time. FWIW, I see women's profiles constantly list their kids as their first priority and I've never given it a negative thought. Their kids -should- come before anyone else in their life.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 12 (view)
 
to soon or not to soon
Posted: 12/12/2011 6:54:58 PM
Gotta agree with MsMicki. No matter how much a woman enjoys the foreplay, the sex that follows shouldn't be a disappointment. Sure, once in a blue moon, you can write it off to hitting every nerve just right. For all the other times, it needs some expert attention if it's a regular problem.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Just a question about what woman like
Posted: 12/12/2011 6:52:19 PM
There's a big difference between "a little rough" in the bedroom and "violence". Most of the women I've been with have liked the occasional slap on the ass or a firm grip on their hair at times... sometimes. They've all also liked to take things smooth, easy, and gentle.

Violence in the bedroom simply doesn't belong. I can't put the words 'violent' and 'consensual' together in my head. Either she's asked for it rough and you've set some sort of limits on it OR YOU'RE DOING IT ENTIRELY WRONG.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Please review my profile
Posted: 12/12/2011 6:34:39 PM
I don't have breasts but I can help you a little:
* "So, who compliments me?" --> complements
* You've got two photos that are almost identical. Lose one.

Other than that, it's a great profile. Thumbs up.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
please tell me why I get so many sex mails
Posted: 12/12/2011 6:31:24 PM
Put something somewhere in your profile to the effect of: "Emails without the word 'platypus' as the subject line will be deleted." This way, you'll filter out the guys who can't even bother to read up about you.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
3...2...1.... Review!
Posted: 12/12/2011 6:23:29 PM
I'd like some input on the pros and cons of what you see in my profile. I think I've got it to a fairly good point but would welcome some creative feedback. A little bit of humour, a little bit of self-disclosure, likes/dislikes....

S'il vous plait.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Just a question about what woman like
Posted: 12/12/2011 3:34:32 PM

Revilors: no fowl as long as it's welcomed.


I, for one, would never allow a chicken into my bedroom. Nor a duck. A good goose? Well, maybe.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
like button
Posted: 12/11/2011 5:15:40 PM
PoF's forum setup is one of the worst I've ever seen:
* No options for tags, likes, etc.
* No markers for threads you've posted in.
* No subscription options for threads you want to follow, etc.
* Not able to click on a spot and go to the last post, or last one you'd read.
Almost all of those features are pretty much standard on just about any forum you'll visit... except here.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Remove the Do you have a car? question
Posted: 12/11/2011 9:03:08 AM
But you're likely to be meeting other residents of Chicago where they will also not have/need cars. In general, most of your locals won't care about that question but, in the vast majority of areas, owning a car is important to one's social life.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Chemistry/zip code problems
Posted: 12/11/2011 8:49:39 AM
Probably has to do with PoF not being able to adapt to every single country's way of coordinating their zip codes. The US has 5 digit zip codes but, as time has gone by, they've been adding suffixes to them to distinguish boroughs/neighbourhoods/etc. That system is, undoubtedly, NOT the same as Brazil's so, when PoF tries to use the US algorithm on a Brazilian zip code.... not so good.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Roses And Log In Points
Posted: 12/11/2011 8:46:53 AM
Might also be worth knowing that each rose has its own 30 day timer for renewing. If you send one on the 1st and another on the 8th, you will get replacements on the first and your next on the eighth of the next month.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 6 (view)
 
is there something wrong???
Posted: 12/10/2011 5:04:01 PM

im horny all the time, and want it almost everyday, i honestly think im a sexaholic


Looks to me more like somebody's Inbox wasn't seeing enough traffic.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 10 (view)
 
how to get her to head to the bedroom
Posted: 12/10/2011 5:01:31 PM

Nathan Glover
Interests: living for jesus


Tell her Jesus wants her to put out?
Grow a pair, either ditch the hypocrisy or live up to what you claim to believe in.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 104 (view)
 
For the ladies - How long do you like actual intercourse to last?
Posted: 12/10/2011 1:55:43 PM
There's no way to get a right answer here. It's all circumstantial. Sometimes a good ol' "wham bam" at the kitchen counter is right for both of you; others, it's best to take your time with it and see how long you can stretch it out.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 112 (view)
 
What are some good tricks when going down on a woman??
Posted: 12/10/2011 12:16:13 PM

psst-hey: the correct vernacular is cunnilingus and na....its just a hobby lol

You misused the word "vernacular". Just so you know.
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Does Anyone Discuss The Possibility of Pregnancy Before Sex?
Posted: 12/10/2011 12:10:25 PM

--Zen--: With accessible back door such discussions become moot.
So, you prefer her to own a strap-on?
 Xander905
Joined: 11/17/2009
Msg: 37 (view)
 
sex on the first date
Posted: 12/9/2011 11:06:16 PM
JayDeeJam : I would never ever ever date a woman who let me **** her on the first date....hate to say it but I lose all respect for the woman at that point
But you wouldn't lose any respect for yourself? Wow.

That, plus your views on 'afterplay' here: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/14841881datingPostpage3.aspx
Afterplay for me is either getting a snack and watching television or sleeping
...make you quite a catch indeed.
 
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