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 Author Thread: Income Levels
 DragNFlyBuzzez
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Income Levels
Posted: 6/29/2011 4:51:31 PM
At this age, my income is my business, if ask someone out I pay,
if we go skiing then dutch and Iprobally pick up dinner. What I think is alot of money may not be alot to others, I am looking for compatability skiing, hiking, concerts either I find someone who can hold there own or if I love them enough I pay for them because their company is more important then money to me, its simple
Its about discretionary income after support and alimony and college,
heck Jimmy Buffet tickets are 160each, yankee tickets are $125concert a week or Broadway Show or concert a month, its about discretionary income.

The commonality is, hey we go to a big dinner and show once a month or do you do small restraunts, its called compatability, thats what we all are looking for
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Is respecting an individual's privacy something important in a relationship,
Posted: 8/3/2010 12:02:41 PM
I pity the guy that dates my ex, she will know every keystoke and every website he will have ever visited, she will offer to clean up his slow computer download his surfing history and put a keylogger on it.

so yes to me, I respect your privacy you respect mine,
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 313 (view)
 
Do guys like these exist past 35?
Posted: 7/30/2010 3:08:43 PM
OP my dear, after 20 yrs of "no" you are probally tagged a forever single by your local male population, you need to figure out how to undo it, loosen your list
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Healthy Male Habits
Posted: 7/30/2010 1:54:02 PM
probally once in awhile , but if a lady is interested in playing, we save ourselves for her.

And my motto, make love, have sex like its the last time you will ever have it each time
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Kind of in a bind and don't know what I should do?
Posted: 7/30/2010 12:04:26 PM
wow boring day huh?

You mean you found out it was the other sister when she had your genitilia in her mouth and of course it was to late to say no?
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
I just want the hurt to stop
Posted: 7/30/2010 3:52:14 AM
Ekeys, thank you, yes that groundhog day rewind thought, thanks for that excercise.

Hey Lea, thank you for your contributions, I like your thought process

good Luck OP
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Sex on 2nd date - now what, exclusivity?
Posted: 7/29/2010 3:04:13 PM
Dude,
I know your trying to come off like your doing the right thing,
you pissed off some personalities, Helen appears to be your new associate, but you did say she is great except; 30lbs heavy, some things best left unsaid, but then I think you feel quilty and put that up there To GeT Slammed.
Were you both drinking?
So the question is, when you tell her , we connect on all levels but your not a beauty and your not even top riding worthy,( man I am glad I'm not you), if you are going to break it to this girl, toss all this honesty stuff out the window. Make somthing up instead of destroying her ego. She probally feels great to get laid and is looking at a potential relationship with you, and your going to tell her she is too large to your liking .

a white lie will not hurt this ending relationship where a "your too fat for my liking" will devestate the psych of a fellow human being. I been the recipient of cruelty, and it isn't always easy to recoup your ego.

Good luck buds, sorry to see the pre"dick"iment you got yourself into.
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Men lying about their ages...no it's not just women
Posted: 7/29/2010 12:59:21 PM
well, if you want long term with a lady, trust is everything................

the age thing on profiles are funny,
statements like ohhh I am really 5 years older than my age states, I did not know how to change it.

I guess what I cannot understand, What is with 10-15 yr old pictures on your profile?
If you were a knock out 10yrs ago and did not age well, when I sit with you, am I supposed to pretend your 10yrs younger? I have physically changed in a year, I try to put up new pics every 6 months. False advertising on this type of site is kiss of death.
same fate as separated
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 53 (view)
 
over 45 men and marriage???
Posted: 7/29/2010 12:42:13 PM
Let us look at Divorce from this case

my ex wont settle, offered house and 100k, she said no, 1.8years later,
just got back from settlement panel, she refused, wants a jury trial

So attorneys have taken 150k, and another 120k to support two homes
alimony will be 70k a year................which will start when trial is over in a year

So tell me, If I am not having kids anymore, why do I want the chance to go thru this again?
The penalty for picking bad at this age is life in a medicaid nursing home.

I am a one women man, I don't date two people at once, would I commit yeppers, I would like someone to cherish again, I would put a ring on it, but would find it hard to believe "forever after' as said in marriage vows are true anymore
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Wants to cum from BJ but can't
Posted: 7/29/2010 11:31:18 AM
OP, it is a pleasure to hear you say " I want to do somthing thats nice for the one you love!!!"""

THAT MY DEAR SAYS IT ALL, I tip my hat that your behavior to provide pleasure to someone you love is just "because you love them".

At 54 it is nice to hear that on this sight, you give hope to most of us who are scarred from past relationships..................there are people that still show love without a payback.
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Are relationships just disposable these days???
Posted: 7/29/2010 11:17:21 AM
Well after 21 yrs of marriage , I tried to get significant other to counseling, finally got her to g0 and shrink said her fault, went to another, same conclusion. Depression for her set in, I aint been laid in six years and never cheated...............

So do I think I left somthing good? FFFFFN No, my ex is a self destructive individual still trying to destroy the same mate that supported and cared for her all her life
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 116 (view)
 
I busted my boyfriend in a lie.
Posted: 7/25/2010 1:46:53 PM
What are you talking about? Looks to me like he was truly trying to upgrade, I don't blame him.
Cut bait and let him go.......................you toy with him and KARMA will be visiting you in the future, i suggest move along
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 1 (view)
 
In Box > users who viewed you
Posted: 7/21/2010 2:20:06 PM
Are the 3 boxes in right side of window the last 3 people that viewed your profile or are those 3 randomly chosen?

Thanks in advance
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 39 (view)
 
30% of Female Online Daters Have Sex on First Date
Posted: 7/20/2010 4:08:53 PM
As consenting adults. I hope they had fun.................I have to laugh at the peer to peer pressure on getting a little nookie, they are consenting adults, I dont agree with the unprotected part, but if they are adults, horny adults..............stop gasping and smile that 30% of some of them are having fun.
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Klonopin, xanax, ambien...does anyone think that this is way too much??
Posted: 7/20/2010 3:53:31 PM
Very bad mix, does she add a****ail or two as well. That combination was final straw for my marriage.

my ex went to 3 different doctors for her supply, found out she was on zanex for 11 yrs then added the others ambien and klonipin then a phantom back injury with Oxycotin and Hydrocodone , we moved out sept 09

Try to get her to deal with her depression, unchecked this could lead to another ruined parent
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Msg to her confirming a date we set...but she cancels?
Posted: 7/16/2010 3:19:19 AM
Well that wave just crashed onto shore............now be a good guy and paddle back out at a chance to catch another one
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 154 (view)
 
Anger in a relationship, or in life in general...
Posted: 7/15/2010 5:39:12 PM
My ex was always angry, I never realized until once we seperated how angry of a person she was, and how angry of a person I had become, my son and I are getting happy again and tonite we were talking that anger is a waste of time
I too.... REFUSE to do anger anymore
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 40 (view)
 
Ever Feel Like your Body Betrayed You??!!
Posted: 7/14/2010 4:58:09 PM
My body has not betrayed me, I used it quite well and plan to get further miliege out of it................tomorrow I will be 54 and so much more
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 28 (view)
 
I FEEL SO ALIVE
Posted: 7/14/2010 12:32:46 PM
ok, based upon responses, DNF scratches that line from my list, man I thought it had merit as a panty dropper.........
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Are women afraid of Attractive guys?
Posted: 7/14/2010 12:11:52 PM
there is a full moon out or somthing, attractive guys are whining!!!!! Holy Toledo,
OP, get a hold of yourself, your whining that your too good looking to get a good looking date,

Turn your man card in, immeadiately, do not proceed with it,

I'm to good looking that good looking girls dont want me............whaaaaa
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Getting married in the Catholic Church
Posted: 7/14/2010 11:55:32 AM
Has both your old marriages been anulled by church? It is not that easy, if he is catholic he needs a diocease anullment to get remarried in catholic church, you have to go thru classes.
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 19 (view)
 
When you meet a guy...
Posted: 7/14/2010 11:09:01 AM
OP, if you live by the motto,
Have sex and make love everytime like it will be the last time you ever do it, you will leave a satisfied partner,
please her first.....you will be glad you did.

Good luck...............another kid who hopefully will be a gentleman...........

Jerseygirl, I just spit my icetea all over my puter.............lol......thanks for that grin
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Pornography
Posted: 7/14/2010 8:59:34 AM
As a follow up, I did not say I was in favor of porn , more I was responding to my interpetation of this guy opening up to you.
It also can be looked at that you don't like the thought of losing control, your partners whole libido isn't in your control anymore, its not you who decide if and when you allow him to get off, its always been in his hand.
This is where trust in a relationship from a man's side comes in, can a man trust that you will take care of his libido or will you use it as a tool or weapon.

I always believed that sex was two adults giving each other pleasure and taking you away from the stressful world into your own relm of pleasure.

So no I am not a big fan of porn, but I read and most men who view porn look for less than 5-7 minutes to get a visual than go about there business, so start to finish is what 12-15 minutes out of a day, jeez, hardly a addiction, if he knew you were going to be horny that night, he probally would not do it.

Once again best of luck to you and may you learn a little more in each encounter in the future
 DragnFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 33 (view)
 
sex on the first date
Posted: 7/13/2010 8:46:51 AM
If someone lusted after me on the first date, well Shazamm, she would truly raise my ego and make me feel good especially if I was attracted to her, two consenting adults playing one night out of what, 19,710 days I been alive, I'd be looking to connect emotionally and think nothing but positiveness if she can match my sexual curve..............isn't that what it is about?

I never want to stop giving my partner pleasure and hope to find someone with same sexual curve as me!

So my answer is......no, she was a horny chick who found me attractive enough to want to do me, I'd work hard to get her to want to do it some more!!!
 DragnFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Pornography
Posted: 7/13/2010 6:16:12 AM
Wow, your 2 year relationship where is everything was going well has turned to you pushing off your guy. He shared probally his most personel vulnurable stuff with you and you judged him and executed him based upon your religious upbringings.

I hope you feel good about your pure self, I work from Home 12-14 hrs a day, Stressful times, yea, take care of the edge , I am in my own home, so what
So he shared it with you............another response could have been, "well you got me!! I'll take care of those urges", instead you judged, ruled, and executed not only his ego but his chances of ever opening up to you again.........good job, and I know you don't care about his future, but you know he will think hard about opening up to the next relationship he is in for fear of another excecution is coming.

Good luck to you..........................
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Am I my own worst enemy?
Posted: 6/1/2010 10:30:05 AM
Yes you are, you are your own worst enemy.
So after your married, you will start even more snooping because you are married and have the right.

This poor guy has no idea what will hit him, he was honest with you and you let your insecurity get the better of you and broke his trust and the poor guy doesn't even know it. So yes marry him, invoke your will on snooping, because then its justified your his wife arn't you?

My dear, you need to realize and be comfortable in your relationship, living with fear like this can only manifest itself.

Good Luck
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Never cheated?
Posted: 5/17/2010 10:41:09 PM
22yrs, never cheated, my word is my honor
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Would you date someone who is not as emotionally strong as you?
Posted: 5/7/2010 7:51:52 AM
Relationship....

my definition is that two people can handle life’s adversity better than one. That couples utilize their combined skills to beat life’s hurdles together. I want my partner strong in area’s I am not so strong. That couples make each other "Feel' a simple sense of emotional wealth because they are together.

I need to comment on that poster that said their mate likes you because of your strong sense of emotional strength because “you put them in their place” , well I did that for about 16 years, then got exhausted from the emotional negativity as the ex partner used prescription meds and alcohol to put herself into her own place that I and my son chose not to be.
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Talking about Experience
Posted: 5/5/2010 9:36:42 AM
Well OP, now ya done it, you mentioned the past experiences but made him wait 6-7 dates, ok, if it was me, I think this is friends only here with me type of women..............see ya
second thought was all that stuff said above
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Sex Maniac???
Posted: 5/3/2010 4:27:45 PM
Ride the wave...............or whatever with a grin!!!

45 and your really alive!!!!!!!!! Good for you, enjoy it, embrace the memory!!!!
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Hey I have a real life question...
Posted: 5/3/2010 4:19:27 PM
21 and ready for fun!!!!!!!!!!!

Dude you go around life just once, have some memories of really fun spring of 2010.......you never know unless you try.
Life is about experiences, experiences are about memories anf memories last a life time!!!
Go fot it!!!!!
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 555 (view)
 
how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 5/3/2010 2:41:04 PM
Thats like reading profiles..............just the rotations are different........

I dont drink so bring the naked body with a smile, I'll take it from there, lol.......

man.........I like your tenacity, you have determination of a pitbull.......
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 9 (view)
 
my gf and her umm.. addiction...
Posted: 5/1/2010 3:13:15 PM
WOW...............mine logged 3542hours in 16 months................she stopped cooking, cleaning, played WOW and took pills.........ohhh man,
the horror of it all!!!!
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 2 (view)
 
the I Love You
Posted: 5/1/2010 5:24:47 AM
1 month of bliss...............great for you little lady!!!! I don't know your age , but

Many men do not toss that word around easily, I would enjoy what you have, embrace it, its only a month, if you want to keep your relationship alive, I would not push for the words YOU want to hear. Actions speak louder than words!!!

Good luck to you, may your relationship last your lifetime!!
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 482 (view)
 
how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 5/1/2010 12:04:28 AM
popcorn Here......get your popcorn here!................full moom and a thread full of JADED people.........no wonder the forums are hidden.

every situation is unique to the couple>>>>>> note that two people that were married and brought children into this world.

I know many men that stayed in a marriage for sake of kids and did not get laid or cheat.

It takes two to fight in a relationship, its 50% each side is to blame, If either side believes its ALL the others fault, then they, both people are doomed to be alone because it appears that this group in this thread are really jaded against the other species.

I wish some type of peace to you all, because it looks like karma has come around to most of you

Popcorn here.........get your popcorn here
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Won't quit 'for me'
Posted: 4/30/2010 1:14:17 PM
Looks like he is using tobacco to settle the nerves, the tuff part is getting a Marine to admit that.

Positive karma out to your daughter.
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 434 (view)
 
how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 4/30/2010 9:29:35 AM
^^^^^^^^^ This thread is amazing,
Did you ever think the women uses her kids as a excuse to get a day off work?

I noticeed the fruedian slip on: ones that are in serious relashionships .............

yes, each person getting lashed is what 70% of both sides end up with.

I agree, this thread has shown why the sides both men and women are so far apart!!

on the way to my attorney for my never ending divorce...........yes I started it over 2 yrs ago
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 52 (view)
 
So how have you changed over the years?
Posted: 4/29/2010 6:37:45 PM
I've mellowed, less intense of a person, I learned that life is to short to sweat the small stuff, I laugh at myself more and stop to smell roses, watch children play and interact.

Working in sales in NYC has really become fun, its not work anymore.........I guess I was a A++ personality, now I'm a A with a smile.
Today, stopped at fulton st fish market as they were bringing in fresh grouper, bought a nice 3 lb filet, heavy wind off the water , just a great day.......

good thread
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 401 (view)
 
how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time?
Posted: 4/29/2010 12:48:56 PM
ok rant over ...............delete rant

yes jinx................I agree
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 186 (view)
 
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 4/28/2010 4:08:21 PM
The pleasure is not worth all the pain!!!!!

valumn, zanex, hydrocodone, klonipin, oxycotins...........toss a couple drinks on top of it all and ya got enough reasons to take your son and leave
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Erect for what duration ?
Posted: 4/28/2010 2:09:50 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^ great one pingshooter............Divert the thoughts, divert to prolong, that was funny, I laughed out loud.........

damn I forgot I get demerits for bad spelling
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 121 (view)
 
Women, what do you want from men other than money ?
Posted: 4/28/2010 2:04:10 PM
But..........making good money is also a gauge on the type of individual a man is. A goal attainer, a achiever and the life style he lives, as well does he have money left over after paying alimony and college.
Sure I bet its very important just not talked about because the women would look like a gold digger.

So a majority that say it doesn't matter are trying to be politically correct and I don't blame them.
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 135 (view)
 
honest answer...
Posted: 4/27/2010 11:45:16 PM
Hey OP, I got thru 3 pages, and will give my opinion.
What are your wishes? At mid 30's, with a child or children of your own.
Do you want to bear his children?
Is he happy interfacing with your children?
Do you want him to marry you?
Are you looking for economic support?

For 2 yrs you have acted like a couple, had sex like a couple, in your opinion its a good situation, but is More the answers to the above questions?

I did read as too his age?

So, as most of the women responses state get the commitment if that is what you desire, but be prepared for the fallout if you start with the pressure to marry you.

Based upon the first 3 pages of reading, that appears to you thoughts of how the relationship continues.
Have you tested the waters at all yet or have you been content with status quo?

I'm a strong believer in monogomous relationships, but no longer believe in marriage.

You need to define your needs and wants if you honestly answer the Q's above.

Good luck
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Why women wont date seperated men
Posted: 4/27/2010 5:05:12 PM
Tupelo honey is produced when honeybees collect nectar from the blossoms of the white Ogeechee tupelo (Nyssa ogeche) tree.

I like your taste!!!!!
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Why women wont date seperated men
Posted: 4/27/2010 4:37:27 PM
ABBicci,
thank you,

You have given me hope, my divorce is 2 plus years long so far, this place makes me feel like toxic waste, thank goodness for the forums.........

"kind of like molasses running up hill in winter slow"
after reading you everyday,
how about warm honey on your belly!!!!!!

hehehehehe
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 29 (view)
 
What is too kinky?
Posted: 4/27/2010 3:43:26 PM
CatsEye.................at least you know what you want!!! I have a 30" waist, but exceed your other requirements by 2.35"

nothing like silk scarves and a little pleasure bondage,
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 18 (view)
 
What are you looking for?
Posted: 4/27/2010 3:32:25 PM
What would I want? Someone to love me as much as I love them, do I think at 53 I will find it, nope, most of us (male and females) have guarded hearts and emotions.

I'll end up sking my winters and golfing my summers, if I meet someone along the way than it would be really kewl.
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Erect for what duration ?
Posted: 4/27/2010 1:00:59 PM
The feeling of going balls to the wall ain't nothing like your hand, you will fire quickly real quick, question is how fast until you fire a second time or do you need to rest and recover.

Good luck to you, its a feeling like no other, relax, explore her, give her pleasure, and enjoy the closeness.................and keep your hand off of your own tool until you get to a "slice of paradise"
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 32 (view)
 
going to resturants alone
Posted: 4/26/2010 5:44:42 PM
As a former road dog who traveled 5 states, I hated hotel rooms, I went everywhere alone and explored neighborhoods, ask locals where they would go. Now I have no problem, I don't drink but always sit at the bar and ate and tipped like I did drink.

Diners are also great to go too!
 DragNFly0142
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 70 (view)
 
You have 30 Minutes To Impress Me!
Posted: 4/26/2010 4:43:17 PM


Take a bow, the egg timer was a great move...............

I want to know what kind of ice cream you had too?

She called it a date and she is calling you......................simply wild, (insert grin here) this was a fun thread.............I liked the ending!!!!!!

Thanks for sharing
 
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