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 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Help ASAP
Posted: 1/17/2019 12:40:24 PM
It would totally depend on what the mistake or problem was.
I figure most people at this age (mine) should know the difference
between right and wrong and should know how to behave in most
if not all situations. I also think most people know when they're doing
something wrong, and something about them or the situation makes
them think it's okei to do it anyways.

I'm not one for second chances this late in life. Most of us have already
had second, third, fourth and sometimes even more chances to get things right.
Not perfect, just right enough someone doesn't decide they need to run
from you.

So, I'd be curious why she's interesting in seeing him again.
But that's just me.
Everyone should do what they think is best.
I won't be around to say I told ya so.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Is this girl testing my nerves ?? Please advice !
Posted: 1/10/2019 12:52:48 PM
This all sounded high schoolish to me...I thought the OP was a lot younger...
and I was thinking...awwwwwww young angst.

But geez.
Do people still do this in their 30's?
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 308 (view)
 
Older men's expectations
Posted: 1/9/2019 9:02:18 AM
How does lying about your age attract younger men?
Men either like what they see or they don't. I don't have
to lie about my age to attract younger men.

Some younger men like old poots such as myself.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 1810 (view)
 
Paying for a date
Posted: 1/9/2019 9:00:50 AM
I like meeting at the bookstore...not mine...but you can get a tea or
whatever and a snack, I'll pick up the tab,
and if it doesn't work out...I'm in a place I like anyways.

I see a lot of first meets at the bookie I work...you can always pick
them out. Some haven't stayed long, others we've had to kick out
at closing and then I see them in the parking lot when I leave.

I don't mind dinner, but I hate the whole who pays thing. I just
assume I'm paying for myself, because I'm a friggin adult with
my own funds, but if someone offers to pay, I don't throw a hissy
fit and I'll offer the tip.

I don't like tests or insincere offers to pay...that right there is a
red flag.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 176 (view)
 
Ladies, would you want a stay-at-home boyfriend?
Posted: 1/9/2019 8:53:17 AM
I just recently moved with my daughter and I realized I like not
having anyone else around.

I might consider a male housekeeper, but he'd have to leave
by the time I got outta work....and not eat all the snacks.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 30 (view)
 
How do I word this?
Posted: 12/13/2018 8:51:08 AM

How do you avoid people who are out of shape on dating sites? - you can't. If you put it in your profile, you'll likely turn off ones you may want.

The best you can do is choose who you respond to.


This.
I don't understand why it's so difficult for some people to just pass over the people they aren't interested in.
Why get offended or pissy if someone you don't fancy sends you a message.
It's not like they're coming into your home and stealing your birthday.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 3 (view)
 
delete my account
Posted: 12/6/2018 12:26:39 PM




Messages this short may not be posted
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 96 (view)
 
If looks do matter.
Posted: 12/5/2018 11:12:43 AM

Is it just that some of you quit caring so much about what other people think of you as you get older?
When you were my age (35) did you care more then?


Honestly, you are one of the saddest and most bitter of the people here.
You're so young and so messed up. You have no idea what a healthy relationship is,
you have no idea of your worth (as you allow others to determine it), you are unable to do much
more than lament your poor lot in life, which has come about mostly because of your poor decisions.
You recognize you grew up in a dysfunctional family, but you're unable to make the choice to
stop the cycle. You're searching for love in all the wrong places because you have not learned
to love yourself enough to be comfortable with yourself and to feel worthy of a real relationship.

Apparently you have no friends that you can talk to because you spend all your time in here
typing out a daily thesis of what's wrong with your life, and then lash out at those that try to
give you the benefit of their experiences.

Maybe you should look at yourself as someone you'd like your children
to look up to and admire and not worry so much what others think.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 27 (view)
 
How to Know If Your Partner Is Financially ‘Cheating’ in Your Relationship
Posted: 12/5/2018 6:41:34 AM

Where is the "we" and "our" in separate bank accounts? If it's treated as "our" money, should both people be able to see each other's bank statements, and see where "our" money is going?


I've not said anything about hiding money or not sharing when needed.
That's what being honest is about.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 16 (view)
 
How to Know If Your Partner Is Financially ‘Cheating’ in Your Relationship
Posted: 12/4/2018 1:04:36 PM

If you have kids together, it's pretty difficult to keep separate accounts, especially if one spouse cuts down on work to raise children or quits their job altogether. Almost every woman I know either had to change jobs/positions, lessen the amount of hours they work or become a stay-at-home parent due to childcare reasons Not to mention the year of mat leave taken at 55% income.


No, it's not difficult to keep separate accounts. You simply go down and apply for one.
I don't see what difference the hours make.
You have a house account and you have a separate account...as does your partner.
I don't care if you can only put 5.00 a week in it.
You should write a book...excuses 'r us.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 12 (view)
 
How to Know If Your Partner Is Financially ‘Cheating’ in Your Relationship
Posted: 12/4/2018 11:04:05 AM

That's pretty much the standard practice nowadays when going into marriage/relationship number 2 and beyond.
But that's a catch 22 situation. Everyone says the key to having a successful marriage/relationship is trust. But keeping finances and assets separate indicates a lack of trust. I don't know how successful a marriage could be if there's a lack of trust.


I don't think keeping finances and assets separate indicates a lack of trust, if your partner knows about them.
I would never hide money or keep secret accounts, but even when I was married we had a household account and our separate
accounts. Assets could be kept separate if it was some sort of family thing that wouldn't be inherited. I had a friend that had a family trust that included only himself and his sister and who they specifically designated at beneficiaries. Their spouses were not included or named in the trust.

Again, I don't believe in keeping secrets and secret accounts, but I do think it's okei to keep them separate.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 258 (view)
 
when in doubt, pull (it) out.
Posted: 12/4/2018 8:32:15 AM

Companion is right in a sense. I am advocating a social/political agenda. Notice that I only attack old people, religion and what bad people call common decency. I am anti age and pro youth, anti faith and pro science, anti family and pro social engineering. I feel strongly that it takes an old guy sticking a finger into the eye of other old people to encourage youth to overthrow their tyranny. Though I rejoice in my own family, we are all old. We are also agreed that society, as it is, has to go. It's about a better world. This fake modesty nonsense is part of the old, bad way that is holding people down.


You are so full of shit. You are not sticking your finger in anyone's eye encouraging the overthrow of tyranny. Being a decent person
is part of being part of society. Society does not need to go..it needs to improve. Encouraging masturbation and public urination is not
an improvement. Suggesting children in kindergarten should be introduced to such a thing is disgusting....and I repeat that is what you are.

Not everyone that is old is an asshat such as yourself. Some are capable of passing on wisdom and encouraging young people to grow
and improve the norm while keeping their bits to themselves. The good news is people such as yourself are sitting at their mom's house typing on their computer like an armchair warrior and are totally impotent when it comes to real change or improvement. I do not knowwhat you think being a prude is but I think you should look it up. A prude by definition objects to that which is generally accepted by society as the norm.

Yeah, lets all envision naked old people running around wacking off and peeing everywhere....the hell with fake modesty holding you down.

I think you should take that finger and stick it somewhere and then take it for a spin.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 252 (view)
 
when in doubt, pull (it) out.
Posted: 12/3/2018 1:35:41 PM

I'm totally serious


What you are is disgusting.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Transgendered Woman Appearing in Search Results
Posted: 12/3/2018 11:35:19 AM
I think they should extend the filters.
So we can filter out misogynists, misandrists,
racists, bigots, transphobics, and homophobics as well.
Lord knows I don't want to have to click past profiles I'm
not interested in without first being totally disgusted.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 249 (view)
 
when in doubt, pull (it) out.
Posted: 12/3/2018 11:25:36 AM

Don't stop at breastfeeding or even public urination. Make them watch public masturbation too. Things will get better when little Sally comes home from kindergarten and asks, "Mommy, why doesn't daddy let strangers put their wee wee in his bum like I saw in school today?" The trick is to start with the children.


I guess you think you're funny.
Or witty.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Mom,maid or mat?
Posted: 11/30/2018 6:32:56 AM
^^^^So what's the problem?
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 24 (view)
 
Looking to date thin petite cute sweet women in Kamloops
Posted: 11/28/2018 7:02:32 AM
Well, unless you're living under a rock, people pretty much
dare to say anything in public. It's on the news everyday.
Common courtesy and manners are no longer the norm.

With that said, to come on a forum and advertise for a woman
like some pet store notification of available puppies,
is pretty much walking naked into a room with a target on your
forehead...what the heck did anyone expect to happen?

Don't apologize for me.
I can do my own apologizing if necessary.
I don't hate anyone in here...I don't even know them.
And I'm certainly not bitter, because I'm awesome, thank you
very much, honey honey.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What responsibilities should teens have and expected to do.
Posted: 11/27/2018 9:05:09 AM

It seems like teens now are home into their mid 20s still and most have everything provided by parents.
I know for a fact when I was 16 we all were working, had our own car and insurance , and if we didn't get chores
done or help around the house we were grounded.


I know I'm old and things are different, but you said it here.
Your daughter has had everything provided to her, without really working for anything.
You've expected her to do the basics, which from what you wrote...she did.
Now you want to change the rules she grew up with.

She sounds like a really good kid. She isn't causing you stress or problems beyond not doing
extra stuff around the house. She does well in school, goes to church, participates in pageants.

If you wanted her to be working and going to school almost full time at 14, you should have told
her that then. If you expected her to work around the house without payment, you shouldn't have
given her a 150.00 a week for her fun money. (gads) Maybe you should have had her give back some
of that money to help pay for her truck, gas (??!) and insurance.

Everyone is different. Not everyone is lucky to have a child that does well, and not everyone is lucky
enough to be able to provide the lifestyle you've been able to give your daughter.

Hopefully, when she goes to college she'll be more on her own and less dependent on you.

As a side note...and I'm sure I'll get flack for this...but I don't care. It's been my experience that children
that grow up in a household that is rigid and controlled often times use their emancipation as a time to
flaunt their freedom. Often they become the "wild child". I would honestly ease up on her (and yourself)
and worry less about the chores and focus more on what is good and right about your daughter.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 439 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/27/2018 8:14:06 AM

as for the missionary...there's a reason it was illegal to do what he did. he was self centered to think he was somehow going to be different. its hard to save people from themselves. and that's my missionary position.


(I see what you did there! )

His friends say he knew it was illegal but that he thought it was his mission to bring religion to the tribe.
I'm not sure he'd think it was a mistake even dead, I think he really believed he was doing the right thing and that
somehow he'd be protected. I'm at once amazed, envious and repulsed at that sort of thinking.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 435 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/27/2018 6:27:08 AM
Geez....talking about taking chances, etc.
There was an article online about a guy that went hang gliding
for the first time and the pilot neglected to attach him to the
glider. They took off and he had to hang on by his hands for
over 2 minutes until the pilot could land sort of safely.

I get super flutterbyes in my stomach so not sure I could hang
glide...pretty sure I won't try that.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Looking to date thin petite cute sweet women in Kamloops
Posted: 11/26/2018 10:52:37 AM
I think Kamploops is where that new House of Dolls is.
Escort service, but all the dolls are silicon and not real.
Only 350.00 a night. I'm pretty sure they'll be cute and
petite, not sure about sweet though.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 422 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/26/2018 10:48:17 AM
I don't find anything admirable about anyone that's never made
a mistake because they never tried or reached for something they
wanted. People make mistakes then move on and try again. At least
most people do. Making it to 62 without making a mistake is hardly
something to be proud of. It's like saying you've never been out of
your zipcode.

Sounds like a great epitaph "Yeah, I'm alone, but at least I never made
a bad decision".

Blah.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 388 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/21/2018 10:38:32 AM

Disagree. That would make matters worse. There is nothing more tedious or unlikable than a woman that goes around respecting herself.


Jaysus...don't let any of that respecting oneself rub off on you.
Pontificating ole poot.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 240 (view)
 
Dick pics... question for guys and ladies...
Posted: 11/20/2018 7:11:19 AM
So nursing in public is the same as whipping out your penis?

I feel the same about penis pics that I assume men feel about
boob pics. Depends on who is wearing the penis or boobs.
Sometimes there just isn't enough eye bleach to rid yourself
of the vision.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 204 (view)
 
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 11/19/2018 7:25:19 AM
I just got an apartment in my area, and it was 2100.00 for a
two bedroom. Heat is included...which is a good thing around
here. It's all been redone...new stainless steel appliances,
so it's pretty nice. Also, has the bedrooms upstairs which I
really like. I have to pay electric and internet or whatever. I'm locked
in to that amount for a year, but I expect upon renewal it will go
up at least another 100.00.

My daughter just moved from San Antonio! She had a small
1 bedroom and I think she paid 750.00 for it. Appliances weren't
great, but worked (except for the dryer)...but she made it cute and
cozy.

Rents around here tend to be on the high side...but I think the wages
could be higher as well. Our min wage is 11.00 here...might go up to
12.00 in January.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 361 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/19/2018 7:18:42 AM
^^^^You can say what you want about pseudo psychiatrists and people not knowing
what they're talking about, but people learn through their experiences. Many people
have been through what you're going through and have made it to the other side.
They are trying to tell you how they did it. For the most part, outside help was part
of it...ie...talking to someone, going to therapy... cleaning out their closet before they
filled it with new stuff.

You seem to know what you're doing wrong, but you're unable to do anything but
talk about it and make excuses about why things can't change now. It's all about
small steps..and taking the first one which is sometimes a giant step. I think you
enjoy your time in here...and I get that.

But, if you're going to come here and share your problems and then disregard
the insight and expertise of the woman who came before you, aren't you just
wasting time? And if you're just wasting time...wouldn't it be better spent doing
something else?

PS...people that react with rage and anger to certain posts, have notoriously been shown
to have issues within their own lives. I can't be bothered to respond to them...hopefully
they'll pull themselves out of their own mother issues or whatever and get help and find
some sort of peace someday.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Photos of ladies
Posted: 11/15/2018 12:55:47 PM
^^^^^^^






In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.
Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Photos of ladies
Posted: 11/15/2018 10:50:05 AM

I have, I’ve quit dating sites, they’re nothing more than a waste of time and money, most are scams


Oh, so your question was rhetorical?
Thanks for playing.
Bye
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Photos of ladies
Posted: 11/15/2018 8:14:03 AM
People can put whatever they want on their profiles...including
pictures of pets and other members of their family.

If that annoys you...simply move on.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 179 (view)
 
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 11/13/2018 10:26:32 AM
^^^^Most of the technical schools that were operating when I
was in school, are no longer there...not supported by the community. Employers no longer
hire out of school without experience...and the old "how can I get
experience if you won't hire me" ensues.

Things have changed and not necessarily for the better regarding
obtaining a first job.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 176 (view)
 
Do you care what a person does for work?
Posted: 11/13/2018 9:18:13 AM
^^^It used to be you could get your HS education or a trade school
education and get a good job right out of HS. HS had business courses
or college courses and you could choose your route. With a business
course it was possible to land jobs in insurance companies, banks,
pretty much any 9-5 office and stay there until retirement. Trade schools
set you up for apprenticeship in the trades, construction, plumbing, etc.
Many of the people that graduated from the trade school were able to
start their own business right out of HS.

Sadly, many of the jobs available then, are no longer available without
a college degree. It's tough being young nowadays. I see my kids on their
paths...wildly different from the paths myself and my friends took. I
didn't even go to college until years out of HS and many of my friends
never went or had to.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 19 (view)
 
What would you expect from a partner?
Posted: 11/13/2018 9:07:45 AM
^^^who didn't like the 70's?




In order to maintain the highest quality forums you are restricted to having no more then 2 of the last 10 posts on a thread.
Since 2 of the last 10 posts are yours you can not post to this thread
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 17 (view)
 
What would you expect from a partner?
Posted: 11/13/2018 8:50:25 AM
I just want to point out that the traditional roles of men and women
don't work anymore because the days of most families being able
to survive on one income are long gone.

Woman started HAVING to work...then started enjoying working...
and then figured they deserved the same rights as men regarding
equal pay for an equal job done. Working outside of the home didn't
change the dynamics of working inside the home though. Most women
were expected to do their housewifey things AND work...it's no wonder
many got pissed off.

I think woman are able to do jobs
men traditionally do, but of course there are limits on their physical
strengths. I reject the possibility that woman are not as smart as men...
any book on historical landmarks reached by women is a testament to
that.

Everything changes...if it didn't, we'd still be in caves and men would
be hunting and dragging women around by their hair. We need to change
with it and somehow make it work. Nothing wrong with feminism. On
the other hand, radical views either way are often used to invalidate
it's importance.

I reject radical feminism just as I reject MGTOW.
We do need each other.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 16 (view)
 
What would you expect from a partner?
Posted: 11/13/2018 8:34:20 AM


Geez...OMG I know!
I only have a 3rd grade education, so I think I do pretty okei.

Also, I'm old.
I don't have to worry about the draft anymore. I don't have to worry
I'll never have a LTR or kids...and I don't have to impress anyone to
attract anyone.

So yeah, I'm still going with the pot roast IQ.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What would you expect from a partner?
Posted: 11/13/2018 6:53:13 AM

"The west used to have women, that ticked all these boxes and it used to be easy for a man to find a decent woman, but now they are very rare"


I feel your pain.
Do you have any idea how difficult it is to find a man these days who's IQ is higher than a
pot roast and who's mind isn't closed off by ideas from the 70's?

I guess those would be two things on my list...if I could be bothered to make one.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 60 (view)
 
I just lost my soulmate.
Posted: 11/13/2018 6:49:48 AM
^^^^^I think it's something about broccoli and pigeons.
And maybe jehovah's witnesses going door to door.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 261 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/12/2018 9:09:06 AM
^^^Are there any groups that get together around you?
ie...library or bookstore book club...craft groups, karaoke,
trivia nights, local sports teams. Are your kids involved in
anything outside of the house that involve adult participation?
Any theaters that accept volunteer ushers, ticket takers, etc.

People are everywhere (at least around here) and they tend
to gravitate towards groups. Do you not work with any females
you can meet outside of work?

The sex thing and FWB only works if you don't fall in love with
them...so not sure what you can do about that.

I know you want a relationship, but with everything else going
on, it seems you should put that off for now and concentrate on
just pulling yourself up and out. Have you looked into the possiblity
of getting an apartment with another female and sharing expenses?
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 40 (view)
 
I just lost my soulmate.
Posted: 11/9/2018 8:46:35 AM
What if your soul mate lives in another country
or a bog and you never meet them?

Best to meet someone you like (who likes you)
and hope they turn into someone you'd eventually
refer to as your "soul mate".
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 144 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 11/9/2018 8:44:16 AM
I would never ask anyone their number.
I would never answer anyone who asked my number.
I would expect that we would both be tested and have
papers before we began a relationship.

With that said, I'm also not opposed to SAFE nsa
sex.

There are so many other important things to know about
someone...their sexual prowess other than with me, isn't
something I'm interested in.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 316 (view)
 
A man and his car...
Posted: 11/9/2018 8:39:25 AM
I don't have an exciting car.
I can eat spaghetti without a bib and discuss Einstein intelligently
and coherently.
I'm frisky walking down the street.
But I look like shyte in a bikini.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 130 (view)
 
How many partners is too much?
Posted: 11/8/2018 12:25:16 PM
^^^^^ at you guys.

Some people like to call women certain names if they bragged about
that...apparently it's okei for men.

If you're to be believed of course.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 7 (view)
 
How to remove large hickey?
Posted: 11/7/2018 8:04:58 AM
Geez, do people still do hickeys out of high school?
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 238 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/7/2018 8:03:56 AM
FWB by definition should be a workable relationship.
Changing the rules, especially without notifying the
other person, is usually when problems arise.

And yeah, stop with the shy and reserved.
Your posts suggest otherwise, Ms. July.
Also you know you're not "average" in looks.
But continue to use that as an excuse...as
well as your weight.

Raise your standards and your opinion of
yourself. If you consider yourself average,
why would anyone else consider you special?
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Science Says Finding Your Soul Mate Is Basically Impossible
Posted: 11/7/2018 7:57:39 AM
Well, even if you do believe in soul mates or a "lid for every pot",
what if your mate or pot lives in another country...how will you
ever find them?

I think it's mostly luck.
That and the quality of your snacks.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 203 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/5/2018 8:42:52 AM
I can't image going through my life with my eyes closed this
much. If one isn't aware of what a FWB or a FB is, why not
ask or be sure you're aware of the rules BEFORE engaging?
Having sex with someone you know without a commitment
is not a FWB.

Gads Ms. July.
Seriously, step back and regroup.
I still think you need a woman friend more than you need a
man.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Unfriended, then re-friended woman who rejected me. What did this tell her?
Posted: 11/2/2018 11:50:57 AM
*Writes out a note: Do you want to be my friend?
Please check [] yes [] no*

Crinkles up note and passes it to her from Brian.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 139 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/1/2018 8:12:41 AM
^^^You're a good person.
And you do over analyze things.
It sounds trite, but work on the
things you can fix and stop fixating on the
things you can't right now.

I think you need a good friend...someone to
talk with and just go out and have lunch, etc.
Slow down.
Hopefully, when you get your child tax benefits,
etc., things will get better.

As for sex, maybe find a FWB and stop looking
for a relationship.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 137 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 11/1/2018 7:28:04 AM
I'm an old lady and I do realize things are different now.
The cost of living has gone way up..and not in line with wages.
You can't get a decent job without a college education which
leaves you with and starts you out on your journey with debt.
It takes years of savings to be able to afford a house, while paying
outrageous amounts for rent.

But babies.
You can choose not to have babies. One baby...sure. Two babies...
maybe...but three...that's not an accident or a surprise.

I feel badly for Ms. July. She's looking for something that she'll
not find until she realizes HER worth and stops basing her decisions
on fantasies, fairy tales and men who are nice to her for a short while.

People in here can only share their personal experiences, and from
the experiences of many, Ms. July is a train wreck barreling down the
track prepping for the next crash.

I'm pretty sure there isn't an abundance of professional therapists here...which Ms.
July should surely avail herself of. But, as long as she posts in these forums,
she opens herself up to the good, the bad and the ugly.

Such is life in the real world.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 118 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 10/30/2018 5:50:23 PM
I don't consider it planning for the end. I think everyone should always have their own money. I don't see anything wrong with it. I had a joint account when I was married and I kept my account from before. He had one as well. Would you close out your accounts in favor of joint accounts when you got into a relationship? Not me..and he'd know that.

I would never tell someone I'm not into a relationdhip and they couldn't expect my best self.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 1/17/2018
Msg: 109 (view)
 
A man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship survives or fails
Posted: 10/30/2018 1:48:17 PM
^^^^Just make sure to tell that to the person you might like to be with.
It's important to know upfront what someone's intentions are.
Not everyone will appreciate your frankness about the importance of
relationship participation.
 
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